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Post by teach4u on Dec 23, 2019 18:55:49 GMT
Just seeing if I'm a miserable host or these requests seem demanding.
1. Couple bringing 2 month old baby. Want a sanitized room no one else can go in and people to keep a 5-10 radius. 30 people will be here. 2. Other couple wants to leave at 7 on on the dot due to kids schedule but we can't eat until 530 because.... 3. Other couples going to church at 4 so we can't eat until 5:30
Basically I'm hosting and providing everything other than salad and pasta sides.
Does this seem normal? People want to squeeze Christmas Eve in between 2-7. We all live less than an hour from one another.
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Post by ntsf on Dec 23, 2019 18:58:13 GMT
I would suggest the couple with the baby stay home or deal.. you can't do this. I would say.. I am serving dinner at 5:30 if you can make it great.. if you have to leave early.. merry christmas. don't go over too much due to other's expectations.
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Post by lisacharlotte on Dec 23, 2019 18:58:34 GMT
Ideally, you would have provided the times for the meal ahead of time and this would have been worked out long ago. Like, they would make other plans to eat if they couldn’t make your time. The baby, yeah, OTT. If it’s that precious, that baby needs to be home with no visitors.
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Post by femalebusiness on Dec 23, 2019 18:59:53 GMT
Just laugh and tell them riiight, that's going to happen. Not! Ignore unreasonable people. If it pisses them off and they stay home, even better.
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Post by chaosisapony on Dec 23, 2019 19:00:18 GMT
The baby thing is over the top. Everything else I'd pretty much expect. In my family we just say "Dinner is at 6" or whenever when we invited people over. If they'd like to eat dinner great. If that doesn't work for them for whatever reason we will just enjoy visiting with them.
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Post by freecharlie on Dec 23, 2019 19:01:19 GMT
Dinner in table at 530. Or earlier if you prefer. You are hosting. You set the time.
Next year, if you host YOU let them know when everything can happen and they can work around you.
Baby and room? Tell them to come and sanitize it themselves. Ain't nobody got time for that
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Post by wellway on Dec 23, 2019 19:05:08 GMT
First request, first baby, yes? so ridiculous and more than a tad diva like. Put them straight, if they don't like it don't come, who was so much room in their home that people can give a ten foot berth to a baby at all times. Warn them people will be all up in the baby's face, cooing, holding and generally loving the baby.
I'd decide on a time that works for the majority and provide a takeaway box or plate for the others..
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Post by teach4u on Dec 23, 2019 19:06:50 GMT
I can't serve earlier because tomorrow is a work day for some guests.
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Post by teach4u on Dec 23, 2019 19:07:11 GMT
Not first baby.
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Dec 23, 2019 19:11:03 GMT
That's no reasonable.
Do not bend to their demands.
"Dinner will be at (your chosen time), Guest. I hope you can join us."
" Unfortunately, i cannot guarantee a sterile environment for your infant. I look forward to seeing you & the baby when he/she is able to mingle. "
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Post by Deleted on Dec 23, 2019 19:33:04 GMT
*Here's what time I'm serving Christmas dinner. If you have special dietary or medical needs, please feel free to bring whatever you need to satisfy those. Hope you can come. If not, I understand.*
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Post by SockMonkey on Dec 23, 2019 19:36:55 GMT
Dinner in table at 530. Or earlier if you prefer. You are hosting. You set the time. Next year, if you host YOU let them know when everything can happen and they can work around you. Baby and room? Tell them to come and sanitize it themselves. Ain't nobody got time for that Right? I fully understand being concerned about a baby and germs (don't pass the baby around, don't let folks touch the baby), but a sanitized room is outside of normal expectations. If they're that concerned, they should not come. Totally agree that 5:30 is dinner time and then if you gotta leave at 7, then go. Maybe you don't get dessert. Sorry. (Also, if a kid can't adjust schedule by 30-60 minutes on a single day, for whatever reason, you have created a real situation for yourself). |
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Post by FurryP on Dec 23, 2019 19:47:00 GMT
What is the name of your hotel? I might want a sanitized room too the next time I am in the area!
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Post by Deleted on Dec 23, 2019 20:01:56 GMT
I'd send a text or email to all...
Seasons greetings,
We look forward to seeing everyone tommorrow. We are so happy to open our home to y'all at 2pm to enjoy the holidays.
Dinner will be served at 5:30, we will have a huge holiday meal, desserts and drinks to enjoy throught the evening.
As we will have close to 30 family and friends sharing in the holiday joy, we ask that you be prepared to share in the holiday spirit with all.
Our home will be filled with so much holiday joy because of you, we look forward to seeing everyone ,celebrating the love and holiday spirit with all.
If anyone emails back any special request I'd politely say I apologize but due to the close to 30 family and friends joining us we cannot make special accommodations or requests.
We'd hope you still join us and have a wonderful time.
Happy Holidays.
Do not debate or argue, send the SAME response to anyone that asks for special accommodations. This way no one can say well they said this and they said that. Same for all.
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Post by mustlovecats on Dec 23, 2019 20:04:30 GMT
Just seeing if I'm a miserable host or these requests seem demanding.
1. Couple bringing 2 month old baby. Want a sanitized room no one else can go in and people to keep a 5-10 radius. 30 people will be here. 2. Other couple wants to leave at 7 on on the dot due to kids schedule but we can't eat until 530 because.... 3. Other couples going to church at 4 so we can't eat until 5:30
Basically I'm hosting and providing everything other than salad and pasta sides.
Does this seem normal? People want to squeeze Christmas Eve in between 2-7. We all live less than an hour from one another.
Does the baby have a health concern such as prematurity or lung disease? The only time I’ve ever heard such a thing was when they had a medical concern about respiratory illness. |
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Post by kkrenn on Dec 23, 2019 20:05:49 GMT
I love everyone's responses and I would tell snowflakes mom and daddy you have some bubble wrap they can borrow!
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Post by Deleted on Dec 23, 2019 20:09:55 GMT
For the couple with the baby, that's on them. Unless the baby has a compromised immune system, I would say that you can't meet their request because the house is only so big especially with 30 people milling around. The other couple that has to leave by 7PM is testing your hospitality if they expect you to cater to their schedule. Perhaps they aren't making a request to serve early, but just politely informing you that they won't be able to stay later? The one that won't be able to arrive until 5:30 wouldn't bother me because that's the time my guests are due to arrive; however, it depends on the time you stated on your invitation and whether you were intending to serve lunch or dinner.
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Post by Skellinton on Dec 23, 2019 20:12:54 GMT
Just seeing if I'm a miserable host or these requests seem demanding.
1. Couple bringing 2 month old baby. Want a sanitized room no one else can go in and people to keep a 5-10 radius. 30 people will be here. 2. Other couple wants to leave at 7 on on the dot due to kids schedule but we can't eat until 530 because.... 3. Other couples going to church at 4 so we can't eat until 5:30
Basically I'm hosting and providing everything other than salad and pasta sides.
Does this seem normal? People want to squeeze Christmas Eve in between 2-7. We all live less than an hour from one another.
Does the baby have a health concern such as prematurity or lung disease? The only time I’ve ever heard such a thing was when they had a medical concern about respiratory illness. And if the baby does have such severe health concerns that they need a sterilized room and a 5-10 foot personal bubble they shouldn’t be going to a party with 30 other people. I agree with the others about dinner time. You are the host. You set the time for dinner. Even with the guests contributing food you should be just fine if not everyone can come for your set dinner time. |
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Post by freecharlie on Dec 23, 2019 20:13:50 GMT
Baby has health issues? If you are sure there are no issues, yea, not happening. if the baby has that bad of health issues, I'd either stay home or want to sterilize myself so I knew it was done correctly |
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Post by mustlovecats on Dec 23, 2019 20:16:03 GMT
Does the baby have a health concern such as prematurity or lung disease? The only time I’ve ever heard such a thing was when they had a medical concern about respiratory illness. And if the baby does have such severe health concerns that they need a sterilized room and a 5-10 foot personal bubble they shouldn’t be going to a party with 30 other people. I agree with the others about dinner time. You are the host. You set the time for dinner. Even with the guests contributing food you should be just fine if not everyone can come for your set dinner time. We have a cousin who was very premature and has some lung issues as a result, they feel well loved when people try to make space for them to attend family events as they feel left out a lot. If mom and dad can go to the family Christmas party it means a lot to them, it’s okay to try to make an effort. A sterile room with a 10ft buffer seems a little extreme but it’s a gesture of love to try to do what's possible. |
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Post by freecharlie on Dec 23, 2019 20:19:20 GMT
And if the baby does have such severe health concerns that they need a sterilized room and a 5-10 foot personal bubble they shouldn’t be going to a party with 30 other people. I agree with the others about dinner time. You are the host. You set the time for dinner. Even with the guests contributing food you should be just fine if not everyone can come for your set dinner time. We have a cousin who was very premature and has some lung issues as a result, they feel well loved when people try to make space for them to attend family events as they feel left out a lot. If mom and dad can go to the family Christmas party it means a lot to them, it’s okay to try to make an effort. A sterile room with a 10ft buffer seems a little extreme but it’s a gesture of love to try to do what's possible. I'd be leery if I were the parents with that many people and germs all inside with no where really to escape? Flu, strep, and a nasty stomach bugs were all traveling the schools in this area for the last month. No way would I expose a baby with significant health problems to that many people's germs |
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Post by bethany102399 on Dec 23, 2019 20:27:50 GMT
Baby has health issues? If you are sure there are no issues, yea, not happening. I was thinking that too, but then I'd really want to say if I was mom, I'm sorry we're very concerned for baby's health issues so we're going to stay home. Or as host, I'm sorry I can't accommodate and I wouldn't want to expose baby to something due to the fact that I can't accommodate. (not meant snarky, if baby has immunity issues no way do I want to feel responsible for making sure my house is sanitized) |
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Post by Skellinton on Dec 23, 2019 20:30:28 GMT
And if the baby does have such severe health concerns that they need a sterilized room and a 5-10 foot personal bubble they shouldn’t be going to a party with 30 other people. I agree with the others about dinner time. You are the host. You set the time for dinner. Even with the guests contributing food you should be just fine if not everyone can come for your set dinner time. We have a cousin who was very premature and has some lung issues as a result, they feel well loved when people try to make space for them to attend family events as they feel left out a lot. If mom and dad can go to the family Christmas party it means a lot to them, it’s okay to try to make an effort. A sterile room with a 10ft buffer seems a little extreme but it’s a gesture of love to try to do what's possible. I understand the parents feeling left out, but you need to weigh the risk vs. the reward. 30 people is a lot. I assume some are children and not likely to be as careful as adults with hygiene. I am not saying the parents should be shunned, but there are likely smaller gatherings they could attend or they could have a small event at their own house. |
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Post by pjynx on Dec 23, 2019 20:33:12 GMT
I would suggest the couple with the baby stay home or deal.. you can't do this. I would say.. I am serving dinner at 5:30 if you can make it great.. if you have to leave early.. merry christmas. don't go over too much due to other's expectations. ^^That Pam |
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Post by johnnysmom on Dec 23, 2019 20:34:44 GMT
Tis the season for people to be snowflakes. I'd keep dinner at 5:30 and those who have to leave at 7 will just have to leave at 7, they may miss dessert or whatever  As for the baby, first of all, germs only survive on surfaces for a few hours (maybe a day) so sanitizing a whole room seems crazy. I'd tell the parents that you have a spare room (if you do) where they can setup a pack n play (which they can bring) and/or suggest to them that they use a baby carrier/sling to hold the baby the rest of the time so they can be in complete control of who is near them/baby. |
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Post by GiantsFan on Dec 23, 2019 20:38:22 GMT
To the people with the baby "Sorry, but I can't guarantee that a room will be sterile. There will be about 30 people here at any given time, and I'm not sure that we have enough room for your baby space. Please do come over and give it a try, though. I promise not to be offended if gets to much for baby and you need to leave early"
To the people going to church at 4, "Hey dinner is at 5:30. I hope you guys can make it in time, but if not you can always make a plate and pop it in the microwave."
To the people leaving at 7. "Dinner is at 5:30. I'm sorry your family has to leave at 7, if we don't have dessert by the time you need to go I can put some slices of pie on a plate for you to take home."
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Post by snyder on Dec 23, 2019 20:55:44 GMT
I a bit confused. Can't serve dinner earlier because people work, so 5:30 sounds good, so what does the 4 and 7 times have to do with it? Sounds both of them can make it at 5:30. The baby thing, they need to stay home.
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Post by julie5 on Dec 23, 2019 21:09:16 GMT
In a word, no. No to it all.
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Post by camcas on Dec 23, 2019 21:12:30 GMT
What is the name of your hotel? I might want a sanitized room too the next time I am in the area! I spat tea at my screen......hahahahahahahahahaha🤪😂🤪😂🤪😂 |
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Post by shevy on Dec 23, 2019 21:21:45 GMT
Baby and 30 guests? If you are that concerned about the baby's health (and I can see some situations where I might be) then staying home for this year may be the best idea. RSV is no joke.
The other couples? Dinner is at 5:30 and you'd like if they ate with you, but if they can't, you understand.
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