TankTop
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Post by TankTop on Dec 24, 2019 14:45:46 GMT
Than they treat us?
For instance... the sil who tried to seduce my husband (his brother’s wife), why when a mutual acquaintance asked me how she was I didn’t say a skanky, whore of a bitch?
I just said fine and smiled.
She on the other hand has been telling half the town I’m being ridiculous and blowing things out of proportion.
Why do we treat others better than they treat us?
I have noticed this a lot lately with myself and others. Why do we protect other people from their natural consequences?
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rickmer
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Post by rickmer on Dec 24, 2019 15:14:47 GMT
i would take the higher road there... who wants to be dragged into the mud with the pig??
eventually, people like your SIL continue to do what they do and people learn who they are. i don't believe it's *my* job to yell from the rooftops. those dumbasses will do themselves in, eventually.
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Post by Rhondito on Dec 24, 2019 15:34:00 GMT
For instance... the sil who tried to seduce my husband (his brother’s wife), why when a mutual acquaintance asked me how she was I didn’t say a skanky, whore of a bitch? I just said fine and smiled In this case, I wouldn't want to get into drama with the whole town. Did this person know what happened? It makes me wonder if they were wanting to be nosy and get in on some gossip. I side with you but for a different reason. You're saving your sanity - not her reputation.
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Post by librarylady on Dec 24, 2019 15:43:12 GMT
As mentioned above--often we don't want to let the world know the ugly things in the family.
Often it eventually comes out and then the guilty one gets their due.
Keep taking the high road, although I know it is hard.
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Post by busy on Dec 24, 2019 15:47:10 GMT
Because we’re making choices about how we want to live our lives and you’re choosing not to let your life and attitude be determined by someone else, especially not someone of poor character.
We can’t control what other people do but we can control our reactions. That’s power.
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Post by elaine on Dec 24, 2019 15:47:47 GMT
What an awful situation, especially since it sounds like the whole town now knows her side of it. I’m sorry. You are the better person, even though it is hard. (((Hugs)))
If you justifiably bad mouth her, there is a high likelihood that she will use that to play the victim for some - “Poor me! see what a b*tch, SIL TankTop is to me?” No point in giving her anything to fuel the drama with.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 24, 2019 15:51:06 GMT
Class? It’s what separates you from trash.
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ddly
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Post by ddly on Dec 24, 2019 15:53:29 GMT
I like to think it's because we chose to take the high road.
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Post by SockMonkey on Dec 24, 2019 15:54:39 GMT
Than they treat us? For instance... the sil who tried to seduce my husband (his brother’s wife), why when a mutual acquaintance asked me how she was I didn’t say a skanky, whore of a bitch? I just said fine and smiled. She on the other hand has been telling half the town I’m being ridiculous and blowing things out of proportion. Why do we treat others better than they treat us? I have noticed this a lot lately with myself and others. Why do we protect other people from their natural consequences? Do you have to spend time with this skanky whore of a bitch over Christmas? She sounds like a real piece of work. I wonder what her husband's take on all this was. So sorry you have to deal with this. I hope she gets a RAGING yeast infection and a massive hemorrhoid at the same time. Merry Christmas to her hemorrhoid.
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Post by idahopea on Dec 24, 2019 15:56:54 GMT
Because you are the better person! You took the high road and people will admire you for not getting into mud slinging. The person who asked you may even know about what has gone on in your family so you may have saved both of you from a long, embarrassing encounter.
I'm so very sorry you are having to deal with your SIL at holidays and other family events. It must be awkward for you, your DH, and your BIL especially, but for everyone else too.
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Post by flute4peace on Dec 24, 2019 16:04:36 GMT
Than they treat us? For instance... the sil who tried to seduce my husband (his brother’s wife), why when a mutual acquaintance asked me how she was I didn’t say a skanky, whore of a bitch? I just said fine and smiled. She on the other hand has been telling half the town I’m being ridiculous and blowing things out of proportion. Why do we treat others better than they treat us? I have noticed this a lot lately with myself and others. Why do we protect other people from their natural consequences? Do you have to spend time with this skanky whore of a bitch over Christmas? She sounds like a real piece of work. I wonder what her husband's take on all this was. So sorry you have to deal with this. I hope she gets a RAGING yeast infection and a massive hemorrhoid at the same time. Merry Christmas to her hemorrhoid.OMIGOSH!!! Quote of the year right here! Tank Top, I'm so sorry you had to deal with such an awful situation. I definitely agree with the others that the high road is the way to go.
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Post by pierkiss on Dec 24, 2019 16:11:09 GMT
Because we make a conscious decision to rise above the pettiness? That’s all I got.
I would be furious if I were you, and I don’t know that I would be able to keep my mouth shut in this situation. Esp with her badmouthing you all over town on top of trying to steal your husband.
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Post by Prenticekid on Dec 24, 2019 16:22:29 GMT
Because we aren't skanky drama queens? It isn't in our nature to be nasty or mean. We aren't treating them "better," per se. We are simply treating them the way that we always treat others.
I've had this same sort of question about "that person" who bitches to high heaven until some retail employee is stressed out and the store manager gives her a pair of Sunglass Hut sunglasses for free (she was not entitled to a free pair, she damaged them herself0. After much introspection and speculation, I realized that I don't want to be that "that person." Yea, she might have gotten those sunglasses for free when she was not entitled to them, but she effed up that retail employee's day and stressed out the store manager. I don't want to be that person who would do that. I'
BTW, people know you aren't blowing anything out of proportion, people know who she is when she opens her skank mouth.
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Post by brandy327 on Dec 24, 2019 16:23:14 GMT
I have to agree with these ladies... it's because you take the high road. It's difficult though especially since she's talking smack. And she'll get what's coming to her eventually. People like that tend to dig their own graves and people usually see them for what they are.
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Post by GiantsFan on Dec 24, 2019 16:29:04 GMT
Because you have class and she doesn't.
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Post by femalebusiness on Dec 24, 2019 16:37:52 GMT
Because women are programed from a very early age to be nice, stay in your place and above all else do not offend anyone no matter how horrible a person they are. While there are times it is better to take the high road most times it leaves one feeling frustrated and less than.
I have found looking back over my life, in the times before I found my voice, when I sucked it up and took the so called high road are the times that I regret the most. I should have let it fly. There have been times when I have mouthed off and maybe shouldn't have but I don't regret those times nor do I think about it. I do remember the times that I should have been stood up for myself, been brutally frank and said what I wanted to and didn't. Those times still bother me at times.
Don't ever hold back calling a jerk a jerk. It will haunt you that you didn't speak up. In most cases the high road is highly overrated. Call a skanky, whore of a bitch a skanky, whore of a bitch....in public. It is so liberating! And fuck anyone who takes offense. Those people are not your friends.
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Post by tincin on Dec 24, 2019 16:54:22 GMT
Than they treat us? For instance... the sil who tried to seduce my husband (his brother’s wife), why when a mutual acquaintance asked me how she was I didn’t say a skanky, whore of a bitch? I just said fine and smiled. She on the other hand has been telling half the town I’m being ridiculous and blowing things out of proportion. Why do we treat others better than they treat us? I have noticed this a lot lately with myself and others. Why do we protect other people from their natural consequences? I think it’s because we have good manners. I do the same when people ask about my XH, he’s fine and change the subject.
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Post by tincin on Dec 24, 2019 16:58:26 GMT
Because women are programed from a very early age to be nice, stay in your place and above all else do not offend anyone no matter how horrible a person they are. While there are times it is better to take the high road most times it leaves one feeling frustrated and less than. I have found looking back over my life, in the times before I found my voice, when I sucked it up and took the so called high road are the times that I regret the most. I should have let it fly. There have been times when I have mouthed off and maybe shouldn't have but I don't regret those times nor do I think about it. I do remember the times that I should have been stood up for myself, been brutally frank and said what I wanted to and didn't. Those times still bother me at times. Don't ever hold back calling a jerk a jerk. It will haunt you that you didn't speak up. In most cases the high road is highly overrated. Call a skanky, whore of a bitch a skanky, whore of a bitch....in public. It is so liberating! And fuck anyone who takes offense. Those people are not your friends. To me there is a difference between not fueling the drama and replying in kind. If someone confronts me, you best believe they’re going to get what they give but I’m certainly not going around bad mouthing people and looking for trouble. Why drag other people into my business?
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Post by scrapmaven on Dec 24, 2019 17:18:16 GMT
She's a horrible person. I just hope that she doesn't cause a huge rift between brothers. Maybe your bil will see what his wife is and leave her.
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Post by revirdsuba99 on Dec 24, 2019 17:27:27 GMT
I do the same when people ask about my XH, he’s fine and change the subject. This made me smile. As of a few months ago I can say truthfully, 'He is dead!'
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Post by femalebusiness on Dec 24, 2019 17:30:31 GMT
Because women are programed from a very early age to be nice, stay in your place and above all else do not offend anyone no matter how horrible a person they are. While there are times it is better to take the high road most times it leaves one feeling frustrated and less than. I have found looking back over my life, in the times before I found my voice, when I sucked it up and took the so called high road are the times that I regret the most. I should have let it fly. There have been times when I have mouthed off and maybe shouldn't have but I don't regret those times nor do I think about it. I do remember the times that I should have been stood up for myself, been brutally frank and said what I wanted to and didn't. Those times still bother me at times. Don't ever hold back calling a jerk a jerk. It will haunt you that you didn't speak up. In most cases the high road is highly overrated. Call a skanky, whore of a bitch a skanky, whore of a bitch....in public. It is so liberating! And fuck anyone who takes offense. Those people are not your friends. To me there is a difference between not fueling the drama and replying in kind. If someone confronts me, you best believe they’re going to get what they give but I’m certainly not going around bad mouthing people and looking for trouble. Why drag other people into my business? Yes, I am speaking more of dealing with the person directly or the family who knows what is going on, not with someone who innocently asks about the jerk.
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Dec 24, 2019 17:55:32 GMT
Why do we treat others better than they treat us? My priority is to be true to who I know myself to be. I refuse to be baited into mudslinging and name-calling. As I taught my sons over and over, "Never let someone else's behavior determine your own." That said, I do have a way with words and a well-placed facial expression or two. I can tell someone exactly what I think of a person like your SIL without ever stepping off my high road. As we southern women say, "Bless her heart."
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Post by papersilly on Dec 24, 2019 17:58:20 GMT
because i let Karma do my bidding.
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TankTop
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Post by TankTop on Dec 24, 2019 18:34:07 GMT
Than they treat us? For instance... the sil who tried to seduce my husband (his brother’s wife), why when a mutual acquaintance asked me how she was I didn’t say a skanky, whore of a bitch? I just said fine and smiled. She on the other hand has been telling half the town I’m being ridiculous and blowing things out of proportion. Why do we treat others better than they treat us? I have noticed this a lot lately with myself and others. Why do we protect other people from their natural consequences? Do you have to spend time with this skanky whore of a bitch over Christmas? She sounds like a real piece of work. I wonder what her husband's take on all this was. So sorry you have to deal with this. I hope she gets a RAGING yeast infection and a massive hemorrhoid at the same time. Merry Christmas to her hemorrhoid. We have been un-invited because it makes her uncomfortable to be around me.
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TankTop
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Post by TankTop on Dec 24, 2019 18:35:48 GMT
I do feel somewhat like an ass for buying her 18 month old nothing but noisy toys.
I choose to take the high road, but it is really irritating. Thank you for validating me.
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Post by SockMonkey on Dec 24, 2019 18:47:03 GMT
Do you have to spend time with this skanky whore of a bitch over Christmas? She sounds like a real piece of work. I wonder what her husband's take on all this was. So sorry you have to deal with this. I hope she gets a RAGING yeast infection and a massive hemorrhoid at the same time. Merry Christmas to her hemorrhoid. We have been un-invited because it makes her uncomfortable to be around me. Merry Christmas to her hemorrhoid AND her yeast infection. I hope she gets a bout of diarrhea to boot. Ho ho ho (literally)!
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Post by mikklynn on Dec 24, 2019 19:19:56 GMT
TankTop Enjoy a wonderful holiday, drama free in your own home. I'll add my wishes for the skank's yeast infection, hemmerroids, and diarrhea.
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Post by Lexica on Dec 28, 2019 3:16:26 GMT
Than they treat us? For instance... the sil who tried to seduce my husband (his brother’s wife), why when a mutual acquaintance asked me how she was I didn’t say a skanky, whore of a bitch? I just said fine and smiled. She on the other hand has been telling half the town I’m being ridiculous and blowing things out of proportion. Why do we treat others better than they treat us? I have noticed this a lot lately with myself and others. Why do we protect other people from their natural consequences? Because you obviously have much more class and integrity. In my many years of observation of people, I’ve noticed that those who must tell everyone their business typically feel guilty about the situation and are hoping that the best defense is a detailed offense spread all over town, true or not. She is trying to sell her side in the hopes they buy it. Speaking for myself, when someone tries to oversell a story like this, I don’t buy a word of it. In fact, it makes me think less of them. I bet there are many people who feel the same way that I do and her blabbering is just making her look bad.
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Post by papercrafteradvocate on Dec 28, 2019 4:05:47 GMT
Do you have to spend time with this skanky whore of a bitch over Christmas? She sounds like a real piece of work. I wonder what her husband's take on all this was. So sorry you have to deal with this. I hope she gets a RAGING yeast infection and a massive hemorrhoid at the same time. Merry Christmas to her hemorrhoid. We have been un-invited because it makes her uncomfortable to be around me. Because she knows she fucked ip. I’d do something else fantastic since I was uninvited. Fuck them. Those who are siding with her will gave to answer someday for their actions. If they’re rewarding the offender, then they are just as bad.
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Post by used2scrap on Dec 28, 2019 4:18:06 GMT
Because you are a better person.
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