Is it "acceptable" to give yourself a baby shower?

I believe EVERY baby should be celebrated in some way. <3 I also think it is sad if she doesn't have a close group of friends or family who would like to do that for her (or at least she feels like she doesn't). I'm pretty sure the peas opinion is that hosting your own things feels like a gift grab.

In my social network, this would not be acceptable. We have done showers for friends that had the oops baby, but someone else hosted. It's just really uncommon for anyone to host their own shower in my neck of the woods.

I’d do it, but I wouldn’t call it a shower. Not for the gifts, but for the acknowledgment that a baby is to be celebrated.

With DH’s job, I’ve moved around a lot. Luckily, I’ve always had friends to throw a shower, but for DD, they weren’t super close friends. But there have certainly been times when I would have been begging for a friend to throw a shower for the baby.

I’d have it after the baby is born and call it a lunch, a celebration of life, a sprinkle.. Every baby deserves to be celebrated.

I think a lot of people would frown on this. I know so many girls who were sooo involved in their baby shower planning (also bridal shower planning) that it really makes no difference. It just comes down to the RSVP name on the invite. I say go ahead and admit to throwing your own shower and send those invites !

also, aren't baby showers mostly for the first baby, or am i old fashioned?

No.

I honestly do not care who hosts any kind of shower. If I am invited to your shower, and I like you, I am coming and I will bring you a gift from your registry.

I work in events. Baby showers are my BIGGEST market. I would say more than 50% are people planning their own with mom, sister or friend on the invitation as host.

My knee-jerk reaction is it’s tacky. But this is one of those weird social constructs if you think about it. Why is it tacky? Literally nothing changes if a friend’s name says they’re hosting vs the mother. She’ll likely still register either way.

She's asking people she knows to buy her baby stuff. It's really rude. This is about getting stuff, not celebrating w/loved ones. If she can't afford to buy baby stuff she can go to thrift stores or look on Nextdoor.com for help.

I'm in the Who cares? camp. If you love her and are excited for her surprise baby, go to the shower. If you are not a fan, then don't go.

NO. Gift grab. I'm borderline on baby showers at all. LOL A simple one for first time parents is OK - as long as the registry doesn't only list gifts that start at a couple hundred bucks. Yep - I've been invited to one of those. Lowest price gift on the registry was around $100.

I think if you have already had a kid and it's a few years down the road - you should be able to handle getting ready for the next one on your own.

I feel for my daughters. They are at the age when friends are getting married and having babies, and they are invited to SO many showers! But what gets me is that the bride/mom/parents are having multiple showers. One shower is more than enough!

I have only been to showers for first babies, but with my friends, I always buy a small gift for each child when I visit them after the child is born.  My youngest is 16, so I miss buying cute baby toys!