marimoose
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Post by marimoose on Feb 12, 2020 22:14:33 GMT
I copied what gar shared with the intention of sharing it with my brother as I thought it would be helpful but I never got the chance. As life would have it, my Mom passed away peacefully on Sunday, exactly one week before her 92nd birthday. Her brain had just days before forgotten to tell her how to drink and swallow. My brother was having to use a sponge or cloth to get fluids into her body. She had barely the strength to sit up even with assistance to use the bathroom. My brother kissed her forehead as he said goodbye before he left for work that early morning and he said she mouthed the same though her last couple days were mostly incoherent except for a small rally on saturday night. She was gone by the time he got home and feels guilt that she was alone. She was not alone, her dog was in bed with her keeping her company and tried biting people as they came to remove her. I like to think she waited until she was alone to lessen the tears. She is at peace, no longer in pain physically or mentally and lived a long life. My brother is the one who is truly left suffering as he was her caregiver for several years and has a huge emptiness now. My heart goes out to all the caregivers. Dementia is cruel. You lose your loved one twice.
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Post by tentoes on Feb 12, 2020 22:19:54 GMT
So sorry for your family's loss.
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Post by MZF on Feb 12, 2020 22:20:27 GMT
I’m so sorry for your loss (hug)
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Post by gillyp on Feb 12, 2020 22:27:53 GMT
It's so sad. My condolences to you all.
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Post by roundtwo on Feb 12, 2020 22:29:41 GMT
Dementia is cruel. You lose your loved one twice. So very true. Sorry for the loss of your mom. |
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Peal
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Post by Peal on Feb 12, 2020 23:06:47 GMT
I'm so sorry for your loss. We are just starting this journey with my mom. Se is so healthy physically we expect her to live a long time with her dementia.
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Post by GamGam on Feb 12, 2020 23:09:07 GMT
May you and your brother be comforted by the love you have shared with your Mom. And may the angels escort her into paradise.
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Sue
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Post by Sue on Feb 12, 2020 23:09:22 GMT
I'm so sorry that you and your brother have lost your mom. My sincere condolences to you both.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Feb 12, 2020 23:20:52 GMT
I’m so sorry for your family’s loss. May her memory be a blessing. Hugs to you all, even the dog.  |
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scrapngranny
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Post by scrapngranny on Feb 12, 2020 23:20:58 GMT
I’m so sorry for your loss.
I lost my dad to dementia also. At least the end was very peaceful and he just drifted away. That was a blessing after all he through.
I hope you find comfort knowing your mother is no longer suffering.
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Post by mnmloveli on Feb 12, 2020 23:27:49 GMT
So sorry for your loss. ((HUGS)) to you and your brother.
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Post by gar on Feb 12, 2020 23:29:23 GMT
Oh I’m so very sorry. Truly 😢 I hope your brother doesn’t beat himself up too much.
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Post by teddyw on Feb 12, 2020 23:30:59 GMT
So sorry for your loss.
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Post by used2scrap on Feb 13, 2020 0:14:25 GMT
I’m sorry.
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Feb 13, 2020 0:18:13 GMT
I'm so sorry for your loss.
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Post by marmargirl on Feb 13, 2020 0:22:28 GMT
I’m so sorry for your loss.
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Post by AussieMeg on Feb 13, 2020 0:25:05 GMT
I'm so sorry to hear about your mum. (((Hugs))) to you and your brother.
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Post by psoccer on Feb 13, 2020 1:14:12 GMT
I am so sorry for your loss. Even though our mind knows that it is time for our loved one to leave us, our heart doesn't feel the same way.
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Gravity
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Post by Gravity on Feb 13, 2020 1:31:38 GMT
I am so sorry for the loss of your mom.
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Post by snyder on Feb 13, 2020 1:43:23 GMT
Sorry for the loss of your mother. Even though we know the time is near, we are never prepared to loose a loved one. Prayers for you and your family and especially for your brother to find the strength to get over this mountain and eventually find peace. {{{hugs}}}
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Post by cakediva on Feb 13, 2020 2:07:09 GMT
I’m so sorry for your loss. Hugs to you and your family.
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Post by mom on Feb 13, 2020 2:15:42 GMT
I am so sorry for the loss of your mom.
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Post by katlaw on Feb 13, 2020 2:21:09 GMT
I am sorry. It sounds like she had a real angel in your brother. Prayers for you and your family
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Post by revirdsuba99 on Feb 13, 2020 2:33:27 GMT
Sorry for the loss of your mom. May you, your brother and family find peace and comfort during the days ahead.
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muggins
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Post by muggins on Feb 13, 2020 2:58:08 GMT
I’m sorry for your loss.
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Post by GiantsFan on Feb 13, 2020 3:06:31 GMT
I'm sorry for your loss.
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Post by kate on Feb 13, 2020 3:20:48 GMT
I'm so very sorry for the loss of your mother. What a comfort to know she was loved and cared for even in her decine. God bless your brother and you and all who are mourning her loss.
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Post by scrapmaven on Feb 13, 2020 3:22:20 GMT
I'm so sorry for your loss. May your mother's memory be for a blessing to all who knew her.
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Post by alexa11 on Feb 13, 2020 3:36:50 GMT
I'm so sorry! I think my 88 yr old mom is in the early stages.
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Post by gmcwife1 on Feb 13, 2020 6:59:14 GMT
I’m very sorry for your loss  |
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