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Post by papersilly on Mar 25, 2020 6:02:25 GMT
YES! I have a lifelong friend like this. I have to admit, I see her much differently now.
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Post by katlady on Mar 25, 2020 6:05:58 GMT
I have noticed that the people who are disregarding the "distance rule" the most, seem to be... The needy, co-dependent, or never go anywhere alone...without a posse(friend or two or three+) types. They seem to be struggling to function without other people's interaction. The selfish and narcissistic, they only care about themselves. This is exactly someone I know! She is very needy and always needs people around. Last week, she was still finding a few people here and there to do something with. I know because she posted about it. This week, her posts are all about doing things alone. I think someone must have talked to her. And she is married, but the SO is still working so she still has a void to fill during those hours he is at work. It is irritating to see on her social media, but also sad that she can’t function by herself.
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Post by dewryce on Mar 25, 2020 6:08:26 GMT
It would color my perception of a friend as well and based on the degree of their actions I can see myself letting the friendship go. Because even if they are absolutely convinced it’s not that big a deal? Unless they are an epidemiologist, they are willing to literally risk other people’s lives based on the assumption that they know more than the experts. The utter arrogance and disregard for other people shown would make me lose all respect for them. I’m not friends with people I don’t respect.
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Post by LiLi on Mar 25, 2020 6:13:25 GMT
Is anyone looking at their friends list and having some feelings about people who refuse to stay home that you think will change your relationship with them even after all this is over? I’m probably not wording this very well. I’m upset right now. I just can’t get over how ridiculous and irresponsible my best friend is being. We are under a shelter in place order. She has gone out every single day since the push for social distancing began. At first, she was shopping all kinds of places. Now, restrictions are in place and grocery stores are just about the only thing open, so she goes to a different one every day. Not because she actually needs anything, but because she’s bored and doesn’t like staying at home. She tried to come over to my house one day under the guise of needing to pick up something I had borrowed and was aghast when I left it wrapped up on the back porch for her instead of letting her come in and visit. I just can’t anymore. I’ve had it with people who are too selfish to stay home and I’m angry at her for being one of them. I don’t think I can go back to just hanging out with her when all this is over. This sucks. You're really blunt (sometimes a bit mean) Just tell 'em like you do people, here.
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Post by SunnySmile on Mar 25, 2020 7:14:57 GMT
You should have all your friends and family who are not being cautious read Michael Bane's story on facebook. He details what he has gone through with the virus and it is brutal. Maybe reading someone's experience would make them think twice. Michael Bane's story
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Post by pilcas on Mar 25, 2020 9:13:01 GMT
It would certainly change my opinion of them. I do think it shows arrogance in that they think they know better than the rest, including the experts. Also the rules apply to others not me attitude. Once I lose respect for someone it is never the same.
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Post by gar on Mar 25, 2020 9:22:46 GMT
And a childhood friend is going about her life as normal because she "gave it to God" and has faith that whatever happens to her is his will. She clearly didn't get the memo that's it's not just about her
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Post by Dallie on Mar 25, 2020 9:56:39 GMT
Sometimes we get a glimpse of a truth previously hidden. That truth may make be a deal breaker and make us turn away. I
I recently, pre-pandemic, broke with a lifelong friend over her regularly espoused belief that health care is a privilege only for the "worthy" and that no one deserves help in hard times. I miss the person I thought she was, but not the person she revealed herself to be.
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Post by christine58 on Mar 25, 2020 10:49:10 GMT
And a high school friend who is a restaurant server browbeating and shaming people into buying takeout and delivery food because it's their "duty" to financially support local businesses and restaurant workers. I live in a small town in western NY. We have probably 6 restaurants and none are browbeating anyone. They are posting how thankful they are for the business and support.
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Post by kibblesandbits on Mar 25, 2020 11:51:13 GMT
I try never to make big decisions about relationships under stressful circumstances. I'd let this pass, and see how things shake out in a year.
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Post by peabay on Mar 25, 2020 12:11:07 GMT
And a high school friend who is a restaurant server browbeating and shaming people into buying takeout and delivery food because it's their "duty" to financially support local businesses and restaurant workers. I live in a small town in western NY. We have probably 6 restaurants and none are browbeating anyone. They are posting how thankful they are for the business and support. I had a small market in our town give me a free roll of toilet paper, on which they wrote "thanks for shopping with us today!", when I ordered some fresh produce via curbside delivery.
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Post by jenjie on Mar 25, 2020 12:35:47 GMT
And a childhood friend is going about her life as normal because she "gave it to God" and has faith that whatever happens to her is his will. She clearly didn't get the memo that's it's not just about her Yes! I’ve seen it put something like this: YES, trust God *AND* STAYING HOME (if you can) is the best way to love others right now.
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Post by epeanymous on Mar 25, 2020 12:39:40 GMT
I have let people go over the years because of the extent to which they prioritize their own short-term happiness over the well-being of other people. I am guessing that it’s becoming glaringly obvious who some of those people are (I really only have one extended family member like this—I have’t told him off, because why bother, but I have talked to him once in twenty years).
I think it’s complicated for people who have jobs or businesses that aren’t essential who are trying to keep a paycheck/keep the business going. I don’t think it’s complicated for people who just “don’t want to let the virus change my life” or whatever. Think of everything people are sacrificing for the collective good right now.
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Post by pierkiss on Mar 25, 2020 12:49:15 GMT
I’m seriously pissed at some of my friends. Some refuse to stay home. A couple families have packed up to go to FL. They are claiming they “need” to quarantine at the beach in order to keep their kids from hopping in their cars to visit their friends. Like, aren’t you people the grownups? Take their keys and make them sit their asses at home like everyone else!
I have several friends who have taken to posting OLD political fuckery (singular quotes taken way out of context and saying they are directly related to what’s happening in Washington right now). And then there are my friends who believe every nonsense pseudoscience claim or snake oil claim or woo-woo magical cure.
I just can’t with these assholes anymore. I’ve gone on a hiding people rampage.
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Post by SweetieBsMom on Mar 25, 2020 12:52:41 GMT
If there are people doing that in my social/online circle, they're smart enough not to tell me about it. This. Because in the beginning I was calling people out left and right. MA is under at stay at home order. One of my friends was going to Target because she was bored (Target is open because it's a grocery store I guess). I lit into her. So I may have one less friend when this is all over.
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Post by christine58 on Mar 25, 2020 13:05:24 GMT
I’m seriously pissed at some of my friends. Some refuse to stay home. A couple families have packed up to go to FL. They are claiming they “need” to quarantine at the beach in order to keep their kids from hopping in their cars to visit their friends. Like, aren’t you people the grownups? Take their keys and make them sit their asses at home like everyone else! I have several friends who have taken to posting OLD political fuckery (singular quotes taken way out of context and saying they are directly related to what’s happening in Washington right now). And then there are my friends who believe every nonsense pseudoscience claim or snake oil claim or woo-woo magical cure. I just can’t with these assholes anymore. I’ve gone on a hiding people rampage. Wait till they get to Florida!! Governor is PISSED (finally) about people going there that it won't surprise me if there are fines and arrests. Beaches are closed. Those are the friends I'd be calling out right now!
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Post by Merge on Mar 25, 2020 13:25:31 GMT
I’m seriously pissed at some of my friends. Some refuse to stay home. A couple families have packed up to go to FL. They are claiming they “need” to quarantine at the beach in order to keep their kids from hopping in their cars to visit their friends. Like, aren’t you people the grownups? Take their keys and make them sit their asses at home like everyone else! I have several friends who have taken to posting OLD political fuckery (singular quotes taken way out of context and saying they are directly related to what’s happening in Washington right now). And then there are my friends who believe every nonsense pseudoscience claim or snake oil claim or woo-woo magical cure. I just can’t with these assholes anymore. I’ve gone on a hiding people rampage. I just posted this on my FB: We need to come off the sidelines here and get those kids inside, not take them to the beach ourselves. SMDH.
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Post by Julie W on Mar 25, 2020 13:33:15 GMT
I have a friend who has a cough. Not corona virus related, but she should be staying home as her health isn't the best. She took her DD to Target the other day to get airpods. Ugh.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 25, 2020 13:47:35 GMT
airfare is SO cheap right now. I will say that I think it is irresponsible of the airlines to be advertising all the cheap airfares all the time. Because I have been traveling so much for my mom's chemo appts and trying to get decent airfare for them, I had signed up for all the alerts. They have only increased. I get 5-10 alerts daily from airfarewatchdog, etc...about "Only 50 dollars round trip! Go now!" and it is kind of annoying. I don't want to take myself off, as I will want to be back on them when it is okay to travel again... Yeah, I have a friend like that too. She is trying to get me to go to the dog park with her, to other places with her, she gets takeout constantly, etc...
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Post by QueenoftheSloths on Mar 25, 2020 13:54:28 GMT
DH has a FB friend with 2 high risk kids. Yesterday she posted a pic of grandpa visiting. And yet her other posts are all "stay at home". Guess the staying at home is for the rest of us.
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Post by refugeepea on Mar 25, 2020 14:02:42 GMT
I haven't came across this, but a friend who I don't think truly gets it. She posted a graphic that was accurate about social isolation. Then the next day she goes to a nearby farm with her daughter and the neighbor's kids.
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Post by Bridget in MD on Mar 25, 2020 14:09:28 GMT
Yes. We have a neighbor who is a NICU nurse. She thinks this is all no big deal and everyone is overreacting. Her family isn't social distancing, nor did they stock up so they could avoid trips to the store. I shudder to think of what would happen if she brought the virus into the NICU. DD is good friends with her daughter. Since we aren't leaving the house, they aren't hanging out. DD was quite upset to hear her friend's flippant attitude towards the situation. I have a friend who is head of hospital PR team here in So. MD. Set up the first drive thru testing site here. She's been working 10-12 hrs a day, but her husband has been going into the office too (not sure why, the base is encouraging people to telework as much as possible). She has an only child, a son the same age as my DS, and mentioned this week he reconnected with another friend in the neighborhood, to the point they were spending the night at each other's homes. I was like WTF??? She's basically encouraging everyone to social distance, but not practicing in her own home?? AND she's in the field we are desperately trying to protect/not overwhelm?
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Post by bbkeef on Mar 25, 2020 14:17:20 GMT
I have a high risk friend (diabetic, auto immune stuff) that took her dog to the groomer Monday and went to Verizon yesterday to get a new phone. You know, before they close everything down.
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Post by epeanymous on Mar 25, 2020 14:53:41 GMT
I’m seriously pissed at some of my friends. Some refuse to stay home. A couple families have packed up to go to FL. They are claiming they “need” to quarantine at the beach in order to keep their kids from hopping in their cars to visit their friends. Like, aren’t you people the grownups? Take their keys and make them sit their asses at home like everyone else! I have several friends who have taken to posting OLD political fuckery (singular quotes taken way out of context and saying they are directly related to what’s happening in Washington right now). And then there are my friends who believe every nonsense pseudoscience claim or snake oil claim or woo-woo magical cure. I just can’t with these assholes anymore. I’ve gone on a hiding people rampage. I posted about this in another thread, but I think Florida is likely to end up *the* hot spot nationally because of so much travel, so many elderly people, and so little effort to social distance. The fallout from the spring breakers is coming. I think anyone purposely aiming themselves towards that state right now is nuts.
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Post by pierkiss on Mar 25, 2020 14:55:00 GMT
I’m seriously pissed at some of my friends. Some refuse to stay home. A couple families have packed up to go to FL. They are claiming they “need” to quarantine at the beach in order to keep their kids from hopping in their cars to visit their friends. Like, aren’t you people the grownups? Take their keys and make them sit their asses at home like everyone else! I have several friends who have taken to posting OLD political fuckery (singular quotes taken way out of context and saying they are directly related to what’s happening in Washington right now). And then there are my friends who believe every nonsense pseudoscience claim or snake oil claim or woo-woo magical cure. I just can’t with these assholes anymore. I’ve gone on a hiding people rampage. Wait till they get to Florida!! Governor is PISSED (finally) about people going there that it won't surprise me if there are fines and arrests. Beaches are closed. Those are the friends I'd be calling out right now! What if the condo is on a private beach? Can they still go to the beach? I’m not sure how it works. I don’t even know if we can still go to our beach here in MI with the shelter in place. 😂
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Post by peano on Mar 25, 2020 15:30:23 GMT
Yes! My oldest friend from childhood, who lives in Arkansas, from whom I've been somewhat estranged from anyway, due to the collision of her increasingly evangelical Christian beliefs and mine. A photo of her, her 20-something daughter, and four of her daughter's friends appeared on my Facebook feed this past Saturday, margarita glasses raised at a Mexican restaurant. I can sort of understand how the "God will take care of me" evangelical point of view would affect her own behavior, but I CANNOT understand how she would do anything to risk her daughter's health.
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Post by scrapcat on Mar 25, 2020 16:02:36 GMT
These posts always make me thankful I'm not on any kind of social media with people I know IRL. That said, my brother started in thru text about stuff with the virus and I replied asking him where he received his doctorate in infectious disease from? It's amazing how many people became doctors and experts overnight!
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Post by tracyarts on Mar 25, 2020 16:07:45 GMT
The people I know who are taking a family trip to visit relatives are flying to Florida. I really hope they don't make it onto the flight. But they're of the mind set that it's just the flu, and even if they catch it, they're fit and healthy so they'll brush it off quickly. Yeah Florida does seem like a potential hotspot. I’m seriously pissed at some of my friends. Some refuse to stay home. A couple families have packed up to go to FL. They are claiming they “need” to quarantine at the beach in order to keep their kids from hopping in their cars to visit their friends. Like, aren’t you people the grownups? Take their keys and make them sit their asses at home like everyone else! I have several friends who have taken to posting OLD political fuckery (singular quotes taken way out of context and saying they are directly related to what’s happening in Washington right now). And then there are my friends who believe every nonsense pseudoscience claim or snake oil claim or woo-woo magical cure. I just can’t with these assholes anymore. I’ve gone on a hiding people rampage. I posted about this in another thread, but I think Florida is likely to end up *the* hot spot nationally because of so much travel, so many elderly people, and so little effort to social distance. The fallout from the spring breakers is coming. I think anyone purposely aiming themselves towards that state right now is nuts.
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Post by refugeepea on Mar 25, 2020 16:21:11 GMT
took her dog to the groomer Monday and went to Verizon yesterday to get a new phone. You know, before they close everything down. Yes, a truck driver that went to a crowded beach in Florida one last time before it closed; an essential worker.
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Post by LuvAgoodPaddle on Mar 25, 2020 18:02:22 GMT
Big sigh of relief from me this morning. My husband had to go to Target to pick up a prescription. So we made a game plan to just grab a few things we have been looking for and pay for those few things with his prescription to avoid the big lines. We haven't been to Target for weeks or even out in the community for the past almost 2 weeks to know what it's really like out there.
#1 - he was able to grab a bottle of Nyquil and milk. No Tylenol though. He said milk and the food aisles he did walk down were very stocked. This was at about 10:30 this morning. So I'm happy stores are catching up on stocking shelves.
#2 - he said he walked past maybe 2 other shoppers, no one was lined up at registers and the parking lot was empty!!! This makes me SO HAPPY because I really hope that means our local community here in Eastern WA is taking this serious and staying home!! Our little area of town and neighborhood has a lot of elderly folks so I'm just crossing my fingers this is true.
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