Refusal to stay at home changing the way I feel about friend

Yes. I have an uncle doing basically the same thing because he is bored. He is one of those stupid ones in the high risk group. Just doesn't get it. I also have an educated cousin in lab research that thinks the social distancing is for the birds. Her mother (my aunt) has MS. You would think she'd be mindful as to not carry this to any one.😡😤

It would totally change my opinion of a friend.

If there are people doing that in my social/online circle, they're smart enough not to tell me about it.

Ditto.

I hear you.

I go out to dinner once a month with a group of neighborhood ladies. We were scheduled to go out this past Thursday. I let everyone know that I was not going and thought it should be cancelled. Other ladies agreed except for neighbor #1 who suggested that we all meet at her house and get take out (only option around here now). She is a physical therapist who does home health with elderly patients. WTF?

Neighbor #2 said her DS was home from college and going to the batting cages every day with 10-12 friends from high school and select baseball because they were bored.

Neighbor #3's DH just had surgery for oral cancer and is still hospitalized. She found out last night that as of 0700 today, she would no longer be able to visit him in the hospital. She was upset and all of the neighbors who can't keep their butts at home were telling her to demand to visit or to tell his doctor to write a note saying she can visit. Hospital administrators would just laugh at her.

And don't even get me started on the stupid, stupid parents of the babies I care for as a NICU RN. Mom and Dad are the only visitors currently allowed. Many of the parents act like this is just a vacation from work. They come to visit and brag about getting together with large extended family and/or friends to barbeque, party, or have a baby shower. When you try to explain the shelter in place orders that are currently in effect and the reason for such orders, they will tell you it's okay because they aren't going to work.

I totally get it. I have family that I love very much and we have always been close. They have always been more conservative than I but it was not extreme. Over time they have become more conservative and extreme to the point that they have become trump fanatics and believe his bs as well as all the bs about Obama.
It absolutely breaks my heart both because I have lost respect for them and that their children are becoming mini thems. I just pray some of the kids see reason when they get older.
I do not believe in interfering in their parenting but I’m here for the kids when they get older if the wish to talk. (If there was abuse or neglect I would interfere)
I know that the parents have good intentions but have been sucked into the bs. I have tried to discuss it with them but it did not go well. So... no further political discussions.

I’ll be the odd man out, here. I can’t imagine considering dropping my best friend over this.

Do I agree with what your friend is doing? No. And I think it’s perfectly acceptable for you to limit in-person interactions with her. But, end the friendship? I don’t think I would.

Can you suggest a FaceTime/ virtual meetup with her? Maybe she’s just missing the interaction and would like to talk.

short answer, yes. Longer, my parents are making me nuts, to the point that I am not calling them to check in on them until after this is over. My mom got her nails done today and my dad took her so she did not have to drive (she doesn't like to) and so he could have something to do. My coworkers (I am essential, law enforcement) are all out and about doing things too. I am here, trying not to die. I may not have any friends left after this actually.

I think my husband is secretly hoping I get it. He rants and rants at Trump and says how bad all this is. We are a state that is a shelter in place. I have an autoimmune disease. My husband is trying to get a haircut, go to Menards, wants to visit my son in another state, go to the grocery store even though we have plenty of food........

Same here.

One of my acquaintances, who I used to really like, and her husband have decided to fly their family out of state to visit relatives because airfare is SO cheap right now.

And a childhood friend is going about her life as normal because she "gave it to God" and has faith that whatever happens to her is his will.

And a high school friend who is a restaurant server browbeating and shaming people into buying takeout and delivery food because it's their "duty" to financially support local businesses and restaurant workers.

My fil cannot stay home, but I knew he wouldn't. I just hope he doesn't infect my MIL because she is awesome, but is 71 and diabetic

This is so hard!

Some people just cannot stand to stay home. Running here and there, this store, that store, to the gym every day until our Governor shut them down. Even now, after the shut down going to stores, not to buy things but just shopping. Why? Do they have a death wish? We have about 2000 KNOWN cases. There could be many times that unknown.

My friend took a flight this past Saturday to her parents’ in PA and is planning to come back to Chicago in 2 weeks. She also went out and partied on St. Pat’s. I told her (via text) that she was being an idiot.