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Post by freecharlie on Apr 2, 2020 4:28:48 GMT
Coming in late, but I would be PISSED AS HELL.
He increased your family's chance of being exposed for no reason.
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Post by cindytred on Apr 2, 2020 4:38:34 GMT
Your husband doesn't get it. You are not overreacting.
Cindy
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Post by flanz on Apr 2, 2020 5:54:42 GMT
I would be pissed as well. He is completely disregarding all common sense and protocols while endangering you and your kids. I am very sorry, and 100% validate you. @skellinton nailed it! This! I validate you! Your DH is being a selfish, reckless jerk.
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Post by flanz on Apr 2, 2020 5:55:48 GMT
Consider yourself VALIDATED....I am an OR RN in a community hospital North of Boston....I just told DH about my experience at the pharmacy today....I wore a mask and wiped down my ID, and everything that the tech touched....and the keypad I touched...Not only to protect myself against him...but to protect him against me!! If your DH could see our ICU and surgical floor that is FULL Of vented patients with Covid...He would know this is SERIOUS Shit.....people are DYING from this...and not just the elderly....37 YO's We are out of ventilators at our Hospital...they are now taking anesthesia machines from endoscopy and the Day surgery units He needs a wake up call...he is putting everyone at Risk...I vote for the sofa in the garage for him!!! Sorry for the RANT...can you'll I am passionate??!! THANK YOU A MILLION TIMES OVER FOR YOUR SERVICE!!! I pray for your safety and that of your colleagues. (((HUGS)))
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Post by monicad on Apr 2, 2020 6:00:31 GMT
I respect your comment, but your job (and those of nurses, doctors, etc.) requires close contact - it’s an essential part of your job. Going to lunch together is far from essential and is 100% a voluntary choice that he made and could have avoided. I also have no way of knowing if this is the first time (I doubt it). I do not and will not criticize how medical staff and those that have no choice regarding social distancing on the job handle their situations at home. We are all so grateful for the work you and others are doing, but part of that appreciation means that those of us who can distance ourselves SHOULD. I hope that makes sense. Thanks, I agree with you that they should not have all gone to pick up lunch. This is a really stressful time right now for everyone and we probably should all extend a little grace to one another. Sorry if my post came across as rude, I didn’t mean it to be. I hope tomorrow is a better day for us all. Not at all. I also hope tomorrow is a better day, and that you and everyone out there stay safe and healthy.
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Post by anniefb on Apr 2, 2020 7:37:05 GMT
Consider yourself validated.
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Post by joelise on Apr 2, 2020 7:58:21 GMT
I’m with you in this. So many people aren’t taking this seriously. Hope you find a solution.
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Post by Legacy Girl on Apr 2, 2020 8:16:51 GMT
Validated. Has his office heard of Door Dash? UberEats? GrubHub? That would be ONE person delivering food for many, rather than many people putting themselves at risk at once. And the cost, when divided amongst themselves would be minimal. Many other options than the one they chose. I'm sorry.
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Post by lesserknownpea on Apr 2, 2020 9:03:53 GMT
"I'm going to live my life and not be paranoid. I'm not talking about this anymore." bolded is part that particularly bother me. If it was endangering just his life that's one thing, but he's not. Yours, your family and anyone else he comes in contact with for that matter, could be in danger. Pissed, validated. Not on the same page as you, not good. So sorry. This. I’ve heard too many people say they’ll take their chances, like they are braver than I. Thanks not the point. The brave ones are those who know they are endangering themselves providing medical and other essential care, but still do every possible thing not to spread the virus. Those so called“ brave” ones doing things like your DH did are the reason for community spread.
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Post by SunnySmile on Apr 2, 2020 9:10:26 GMT
I would say he earned himself his very own quarantine on the couch, at least until the stupid wears off.
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Post by nlwilkins on Apr 2, 2020 9:26:01 GMT
"I'm going to live my life and not be paranoid. I'm not talking about this anymore." bolded is part that particularly bother me. If it was endangering just his life that's one thing, but he's not. Yours, your family and anyone else he comes in contact with for that matter, could be in danger. Pissed, validated. Not on the same page as you, not good. So sorry.
This, he is being self centered and foolish about this like a little kid.
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Post by TankTop on Apr 2, 2020 9:39:19 GMT
You are 100% validated.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 2, 2020 9:54:37 GMT
I totally validate you. Such an irresponsible thing to do.
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Post by RedSquirrelUK on Apr 2, 2020 10:38:45 GMT
I think he and his sleeping bag need to move into the sedan with his co-workers, and stop endangering you and the rest of his family.
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Post by mikklynn on Apr 2, 2020 13:06:55 GMT
You are validated. It was incredibly poor judgement.
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Post by theshyone on Apr 2, 2020 19:01:23 GMT
I validate you, lunch was a choice, not essential.
My husband is considered an essential worker (that’s a whole nother story), but he sits in the cab of a pickup the entire day with a co-worker.not able to distance at all. Then to make matters worse, due to layoffs, he has been paired with three different co-workers over the last week. It’s just not great, if we could avoid it, the exposure, we would. Me and the kids are considered high risk and haven’t been out since the 13th.
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Post by zella on Apr 2, 2020 21:36:51 GMT
IMO you are not reacting at all. This is the kind of stupid shit that leads to large outbreaks and multiple deaths. Your husband is being a total twatbucket. Don't know what I'd do in your place. Kick him out until it's over? I was mad that my dh was fighting me on some of the restrictions, but he gave in pretty easily. What your husband did is SO far beyond stupid and selfish, it's unbelievable. He's acting like he's a child.
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Post by zella on Apr 2, 2020 21:42:43 GMT
Well, I will be the lone dissenter and say I think you are overreacting. I think what he and his coworkers did was stupid, but I think you are overreacting. I work as a respiratory therapist. Do you think I should move into a hotel and not see my family for the next 2-3 months? You do realize that health care workers take care of patients and go home to their families? I hope I don’t get completely blasted for this, but health care people are dealing with enough. I hate the thought that everyone thinks we should be locked away when we are not at work. I go to work and I come home. I’m careful not to go around others except for my family. Give your husband a break. He made a mistake. Actually, some health care workers are doing exactly this. It's what I'd do if I weren't at such high risk that I can't work anyway, if I could still work as an RN. I don't think her husband deserves a break. At all. How can you even suggest that when people of all ages are hospitalized and dying from Covid?
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Post by Lexica on Apr 2, 2020 22:22:45 GMT
I would be beyond livid. This is life and death here. And over picking up lunch? This is showing total disregard for you and his children. I would honestly tell him to get a hotel room or move in with a coworker until this is over. His behavior is exactly the type of thinking that has caused the community spread of this! He is not invincible. None of us are.
If people continue to behave as if common sense rules don’t apply to them, we are ALL going to be stuck inside for many more months as they continue to pass the virus around. Seriously, he would not be staying in my home unless he totally changes his ways and spends 2 weeks in the garage or hotel to be sure he didn’t already contract something. His attitude is ignorant!
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Post by Dallie on Apr 2, 2020 22:24:30 GMT
Well, I will be the lone dissenter and say I think you are overreacting. I think what he and his coworkers did was stupid, but I think you are overreacting. I work as a respiratory therapist. Do you think I should move into a hotel and not see my family for the next 2-3 months? You do realize that health care workers take care of patients and go home to their families? I hope I don’t get completely blasted for this, but health care people are dealing with enough. I hate the thought that everyone thinks we should be locked away when we are not at work. I go to work and I come home. I’m careful not to go around others except for my family. Give your husband a break. He made a mistake. Actually, some health care workers are doing exactly this. It's what I'd do if I weren't at such high risk that I can't work anyway, if I could still work as an RN. I don't think her husband deserves a break. At all. How can you even suggest that when people of all ages are hospitalized and dying from Covid? I have been reading accounts of !medical workers living in their garage and seen several places where the hospital has requested free hotel rooms. Also have seen multip!e ads from kindhearted RVers who are setting them up on their property so medical workers have a bed and so on.
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Post by scrapmaven on Apr 2, 2020 23:44:54 GMT
If every single person cooperated w/the rules then we'd get our normal lives back sooner. Your dh and his co-workers showed a lack of common sense. I hope that you will have a peaceful home very quickly. It's tough to be quarantined, but add anger on top of it and yowza!
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Post by prapea on Apr 3, 2020 0:58:06 GMT
My neighbor’s dad died due to the virus. My neighbor and her siblings had to say their final good bye via speaker phone. They cannot go and console their mom. I do not wish that on anyone. She posted something yesterday that hopefully will get your husband to see it is not about him living his life the way he wants.
“ My final update. It is with a very heavy heart that we need to let you know that my Dad passed away this afternoon. We want to thank each and everyone of you for all the love and support that you have given my family. There are not enough words to express how grateful we are. My Dad was an amazing man and obviously touched so many. We are so thankful for Stephanie, the nurse that sat and held his hand and allowed us to be on the phone during his last minutes. She was the only human contact he had. She was his “family”. I hope that our story will continue to stay with you and remind you to stay home. Remind you to be smart and only hang out with your housemates. Do not hang out with anyone that doesn’t live in your house. Please follow all the protocols and recommendations that the specialists advise. My Dad lost his life doing what so many are still doing. Going to Costco, running to Target, getting gas. We do not want these past 9 days to be experienced by anyone of you or your family. Please know that we will be planning some form of celebration of life in the future once it’s safe to do so.This man deserves to be celebrated. “
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Post by jenjie on Apr 3, 2020 1:10:19 GMT
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Post by crazy4scraps on Apr 3, 2020 1:19:33 GMT
Yup, validated.
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Post by sassyangel on Apr 3, 2020 1:42:57 GMT
Validated. It was irresponsible and very thoughtless.
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Post by Bobomommy on Apr 3, 2020 2:27:57 GMT
Validated. He knew it was wrong or he wouldn’t have gotten angry when confronted.
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Post by PrettyInPeank on Apr 3, 2020 2:41:38 GMT
I’d be pea-livid. I think I’d be more pissed at his cavalier attitude than anything.
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Post by smasonnc on Apr 3, 2020 5:03:35 GMT
Are you $h*tting me? Validated. Make up the sofa.
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Post by manda on Apr 3, 2020 7:05:59 GMT
Combination of both.
But you both need to talk about this and figure out what you're going to do as a team. What if one of you gets sick? Then what? There are some serious things to discuss here.
I live with fiance who is LEO in the Los Angeles area. We are not separating ourselves so if he gets sick, I will likely get sick too. I never leave the house but am prone to picking up illnesses. Hell. Maybe we should separate.
I don't know. This all f'ing sucks.
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Post by Mary Kay Lady on Apr 3, 2020 7:24:51 GMT
I agree with you. I don't consider what he's doing to be "social distancing."
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