Update: Cranky at my neighbor- talk me down

I have a neighbor who I like very very much. She has a young baby and her husband just had emergency eye surgery. On the day that happened, a little over a week ago, I dropped everything and offered up everything (driving, watching baby, dog, etc) in spite of COVID 19.  I had a board meeting on zoom that night and I still made them dinner and it’s a little complicated since she’s a vegetarian and he is not and I am not.

 In any case, she hasn’t been doing very well because the baby doesn’t sleep much and she’s a new parent who doesn’t want the baby to cry. Her husband can’t hold the baby after the surgery and can’t do anything. I’ve been walking her dog and walking with her (6ft apart!) and told her I’d make her dinner tonight. So I stopped work early and made a more complicated dinner, again since she’s a vegetarian.

 I sent her a text at 5 PM and said I’d be over at 6:15ish with dinner. It’s her response that makes me so cranky. She wrote: oh another neighbor said this morning they were bringing dinner over tonight, but would love your dish anytime.

I wrote back and said I wish you had told me that earlier. And she said that she would just eat my dish tomorrow. She did say thank you so much.

Is it because I’ve had a difficult week that I’m this cranky? I don’t enjoy cooking to begin with, but I thought I was helping her out.  I mean I even took her dish so that I could use her own dish to do the cooking. 

As I’m writing this I feel ungracious. I want to be helpful, but my dish was made to be eaten immediately.  I guess I just need to get over myself. 

Update: Thanks all. Nothing like something bad happening to put everything in perspective.

I was standing at my sink and the carpet was super wet. I thought to myself that I must have been super sloppy cleaning up afterwards, then I looked under the sink. UGH. The pipe to the disposal had come apart and water was pouring out. So, since I cannot go out (health compromised DD), I will order what I need and hope I can fix it well enough so that it holds for at least one month until I can call a plumber. 

I do not know who is doing all this fun stuff on their quarantine, because I feel like I am working more hours and busier than ever on the weekends!!

Thanks to all who wrote with kind words. My neighbor is a very nice person. She didn't forget I was bringing food because we talk a lot and she gave me her ONLY dish (really!) to cook the food in. I am not sure what she was thinking but it is true that a 5-mo-old baby, coupled with a 37yo baby is a lot to handle. I was just frustrated because I wanted to be helpful and it took time out of my busy-ness when it didn't really have to. 

And for the person who said vegetarian isn't difficult - I know that is true! I eat much vegetarian, but I have cooked for her a lot and I wanted to do something that wasn't plain and simple because that is easy enough for her to do herself. I wanted something a bit healthier and more interesting. In any case, I am fine today and am going to get to work on figuring out what I need to order to repair my disposal.

Thanks for listening!!