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Post by TankTop on Jun 22, 2020 0:16:28 GMT
Have you done it?
My good friend d just did it and holy smokes she looks like a rockstar! It was a divorce present to herself. She said she needed to be Demi fed that she is a beautiful and sexy woman.
For her, it was such a positive and empowering thing she did for herself at time when she was feeling old and disposed.
So, have you done it or considered it?
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Post by librarylady on Jun 22, 2020 0:24:56 GMT
Around here they are called Glamour photos--or were. At one time the studios were in every mall and everyone was doing it.
I admit to wanting to see how I would look but never had the money. Now, I think someone on Medicare would look like a foolish old lady for having the photos done.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 22, 2020 0:30:15 GMT
A friend of mine did it when she was 18? They used to have a chain of places called glamour shots.
She got the photographer to shoot her looking like she was naked and then she got the glamour shots. I still have the ones she gave... not the nude ones.
It did boost her esteem, until her boyfriend passed out the nudies to his bunk mates.( a marine)
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Post by cindyupnorth on Jun 22, 2020 0:34:36 GMT
ahhhh. you guys are SOOO not thinking of the right kind of photos!! LOL.
There are very tasteful, classy photo's of women in lingerie. It's not like all glammed up, hair, makeup. I think you can be as dressed or as naked as you want.
I would never have the guts to do it when I was young, and now I'm too old!
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Post by cindyupnorth on Jun 22, 2020 0:37:12 GMT
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Post by cindyupnorth on Jun 22, 2020 0:38:31 GMT
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Post by greendragonlady on Jun 22, 2020 0:42:55 GMT
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Post by artbabe on Jun 22, 2020 0:46:32 GMT
I never had boudoir photos but there are nude photos of me that exist, taken by photography students. There are a set from when I was 19 and a set when I was late 20s. I looked fabulous and I'm glad I have them.
I do not want photos of my 54 year old body, nude or in lingerie. No one wants to see that.
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Post by TankTop on Jun 22, 2020 0:51:06 GMT
Definitely not glamour shots. She had very tasteful lingerie. Think... back to camera and silk robe falling down her back.
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Post by bdawnb on Jun 22, 2020 0:51:29 GMT
I did them for my husband for his birthday several years ago - but honestly it was probably more of a gift to myself in the end. I was so far out of my comfort zone when we started but the photographer was amazing. I was in tears when I saw then end result - it was the first time I felt l saw myself the way my husband sees me. He loved them as well.
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Post by freebird on Jun 22, 2020 0:52:21 GMT
Lots of confusion here...
Boudoir and glamour, so very much not the same thing.
Glamour (not like glamour shots anymore). You go into the studio of a photographer that specializes in shooting women. The goal is to make them feel beautiful and confident. They MIGHT have lesser clothes on, but all their bits are covered. Nothing over the top. Maybe sexy. Maybe confident... always making the woman look her best. Men sometimes do it too.
Boudoir - Taken with intention of being sexy. Maybe for a partner to see, maybe for yourself. You might see your nakie parts. Maybe dramatic lighting. Maybe scant clothing. Maybe nothing. Depends on you.
I do both.
Frankly, it's easier to sell a woman around here to take off her clothes than it is to have her come in and just make her look beautiful so she can hang that on her wall, or her husband's desk, or whatever. People just don't get it. It's really sad.
If you ever think about it, you want to find a photographer that will make you look your best. "I need to lose 15 lbs first" is offensive to a photographer. You saying I'm going to purposely take photos of your gut? No. I'm going to take photos of you that accentuate your positives.
and yes, I did boudoir for my husband when I was heavier. I felt "ok" about it. I might do it again someday. The photographer was good, but she shot me like I was a skinny girl.
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Post by mom on Jun 22, 2020 1:03:25 GMT
I wouldn't be opposed to doing it, but what do you do with the photos later on? Stick them in a drawer? My sure my boys don't want to see my naked bits in photos when they go through my drawers.
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Post by littlemama on Jun 22, 2020 1:04:48 GMT
My coworker had sone done in the spring and they are amazing! She is not some young twig, she is in her 50s and overweight, but those pictures helped her see her beauty.
I was planning on having sone done for my bday in September, but then Covid happened and I took a break from planning things.
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Post by freebird on Jun 22, 2020 1:15:25 GMT
I wouldn't be opposed to doing it, but what do you do with the photos later on? Stick them in a drawer? My sure my boys don't want to see my naked bits in photos when they go through my drawers.
Most women around here make an album for their husband - or themselves. I try to do public, tame and naughty/naked in a session (by the end, everyone is usually naked and cool with it. Most women feel super comfortable and have lots of fun in their session).
I did it for a friend of mine. She took a couple very public/tame portraits and gave them to her sons. (her in a beautiful dress in a field). She took the a couple of the sexier ones and put them in her own bedroom, then she made an album for her husband.
Just so everyone knows, it's perfectly acceptable to hang a portrait of yourself in your home. You don't HAVE to have children or a husband in it. You know you're a human being in the world too, that people love and want to see a beautiful photo of. Stop using your kids as an excuse not to do it.
#soapbox
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Jun 22, 2020 1:20:51 GMT
I had a "fabulous at 50" photo shoot done to celebrate turning 50, getting divorced, getting remarried, and mostly just deciding to live my life as un-apologetically me for the remainder of it.
Two good friends arranged it for me. One owned a boutique and she offered her place after hours along with access to all the clothes and accessories. The other one did the photography. We drank a lot of wine, sang along to really loud music, and frankly had one of the best times I've ever had.
I did "suggestive" shots, but no nudity. Giving in to playing out various scenes and personas was a hoot. The photos are my EHD and really just stay there. I revisit them every now and then for the memories... and the laughs. I have shared them with my husband. He loves them and the story of why I did them, but it was really more for the experience of it than for photos to use.
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Post by malibou on Jun 22, 2020 1:24:20 GMT
I am so not photogenic. I have an old drivers license photo and 2 passport photos that I think I look quite pretty in. That's a pretty sad collection. I cannot convince myself that a photographer could possibly get pretty pictures of me.
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Post by chaosisapony on Jun 22, 2020 1:27:47 GMT
Just so everyone knows, it's perfectly acceptable to hang a portrait of yourself in your home. You don't HAVE to have children or a husband in it. You know you're a human being in the world too, that people love and want to see a beautiful photo of. Stop using your kids as an excuse not to do it.
#soapbox
Thank you for saying this, I needed to hear it.
I'm single, no kids and never been married. I live by myself. I have photos up of my family and friends but also a couple that are just me and my horse. The photos are very special to me but I always feel weird having photos of myself up in my own house. It seems like other people would think it's weird. Not sure why I care what someone might think but it just feels like something other people with "real" families wouldn't have up.
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Post by cindyupnorth on Jun 22, 2020 1:41:15 GMT
I saw I think on tik tok, where they hung the pic's of the wife in their personal master bathroom. That's something I think is very do-able. They both loved them, and they were tasteful. They were black and white and looked really cool in the bathroom.
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Post by Anita on Jun 22, 2020 1:43:17 GMT
I did boudoir photos when I was in my early 20s. Turned out with my favorite picture of myself ever that is still on our bedroom wall. I have some nudes from that shot that are in a book for my husband, but the other one is for me.  |
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Post by peano on Jun 22, 2020 1:53:44 GMT
I have never done it. I'm 61 now, but it wouldn't have been "me" at 41 either.
What I have been thinking about doing is having my "death" photo done-the one that's on an easel at your memorial. Just because I don't have any portraits of myself at all. But really instead of calling it a death photo, how I'm thinking about it more like an "I've come into my own" photo. I'm the most comfortable in my skin and self-assured and in possession of my power as a woman than I've ever been and I want this moment, wrinkles, flaws and all to be captured.
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Post by TankTop on Jun 22, 2020 2:05:47 GMT
I did them for my husband for his birthday several years ago - but honestly it was probably more of a gift to myself in the end. I was so far out of my comfort zone when we started but the photographer was amazing. I was in tears when I saw then end result - it was the first time I felt l saw myself the way my husband sees me. He loved them as well. I love this! I think we could all use a dose of feeling beautiful. |
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Post by jenjie on Jun 22, 2020 2:47:50 GMT
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Post by gryroagain on Jun 22, 2020 2:51:14 GMT
I just did it a few weeks ago, my photos should be ready soon! It was a divorce present to myself, and also no time like the present as I’m certainly not going to get any better looking than right now 😂
I had shots taken with my dog at a fortress first, then the plan was come back to the apartment and boudoir photos. I almost chickened out but my daughter was with me and wouldn’t let me thank god. I was afraid I’d feel ridiculous and have to “be sexy” and I have no idea how to do that. But my photographer is amazing, he told me exactly how to pose in great detail. It was a little weird being in a thong with a man I’d just met but once the photos started it really wasn’t.
I’ll post some when I get them (I was in a bra and underwear, not too risqué). I wish I’d done it 20 years ago but hey it’s all downhill from here so at least I did it!
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Post by Linda on Jun 22, 2020 2:53:42 GMT
Now, I think someone on Medicare would look like a foolish old lady for having the photos done I don't think so at all - I think you deserve photographs where you look beautiful -and are confident in that beauty. I know my MIL, her sister, and her mum did Glamour Shots ...MIL and AuntIL were in their 60s and GMIL would have been in her 80s - they all looked fabulous and they loved those photos. |
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Post by jenjie on Jun 22, 2020 2:54:54 GMT
Years ago some online friends and I were talking about it and I considered doing boudoir photos for dh. Instead for his bday I got this ridiculous outfit that included fishnets and heels I couldn’t stand in and handed him the camera.
I felt like a dang fool but he absolutely loved it. Inevitably some of the photos were more X rated. I think I found and deleted/shredded them all. I hope so.
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Post by freebird on Jun 22, 2020 3:11:38 GMT
I have never done it. I'm 61 now, but it wouldn't have been "me" at 41 either. What I have been thinking about doing is having my "death" photo done-the one that's on an easel at your memorial. Just because I don't have any portraits of myself at all. But really instead of calling it a death photo, how I'm thinking about it more like an "I've come into my own" photo. I'm the most comfortable in my skin and self-assured and in possession of my power as a woman than I've ever been and I want this moment, wrinkles, flaws and all to be captured. My grandma went and had portraits done of herself at 65 and gave everyone one. I remember thinking it was super weird at the time but now, it's my favorite photo of her. I very much appreciate it now, and it WAS used at her funeral if I remember correctly. She died at 96! |
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Post by freebird on Jun 22, 2020 3:15:47 GMT
Just so everyone knows, it's perfectly acceptable to hang a portrait of yourself in your home. You don't HAVE to have children or a husband in it. You know you're a human being in the world too, that people love and want to see a beautiful photo of. Stop using your kids as an excuse not to do it.
#soapbox
Thank you for saying this, I needed to hear it.
I'm single, no kids and never been married. I live by myself. I have photos up of my family and friends but also a couple that are just me and my horse. The photos are very special to me but I always feel weird having photos of myself up in my own house. It seems like other people would think it's weird. Not sure why I care what someone might think but it just feels like something other people with "real" families wouldn't have up.
This makes me happy. I thought I'd catch hell for that. I shot a wedding in a home of an older woman (her granddaughter got married there). Grandma didn't make it to the wedding day sadly, but something I noticed was there were multiple photos of her around the home. Childhood, graduation, one probably in her 40's. It did not feel weird at all. How did we get to the point that it became "weird"? Because we let other ppl (females mostly) tell us we're vain if we want to look good. (But then shame you for not looking good. sigh.) If you were married, you might have a photo of your husband hanging. If you had children, you'd probably have photos of your kids around. Why not you? What makes you less "valuable" as a human than the rest of your family (I mean the "collective you"). Damn. You're beautiful. It's ok to think that, it's ok to SAY THAT if you want to. |
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Post by myshelly on Jun 22, 2020 3:32:32 GMT
Around here they are called Glamour photos--or were. At one time the studios were in every mall and everyone was doing it. I admit to wanting to see how I would look but never had the money. Now, I think someone on Medicare would look like a foolish old lady for having the photos done. No, that’s not the same thing at all. Boudoir as in bedroom. Sexy lingerie or nude. Nothing that would be done at a mall. And certainly nothing like the old school Glamor Shots. Here, photogs rent a hotel room with a pretty bed, have a MUA/hair person on set, and take artsy nude and next to nude shots. |
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Post by Deleted on Jun 22, 2020 3:39:52 GMT
I am so not photogenic. I have an old drivers license photo and 2 passport photos that I think I look quite pretty in. That's a pretty sad collection. I cannot convince myself that a photographer could possibly get pretty pictures of me. I am sitting on that bench with you, but I think I am going to shove you OFF. If you find theriggt person to take photos of you , you will be amazed at how you look. |
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Post by muggins on Jun 22, 2020 3:47:34 GMT
A friend of mine got married at 45. Her bachelorette party included boudoir photos for her bridesmaids.
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