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Post by tara on Aug 3, 2020 20:52:07 GMT
I’m so sorry.
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Post by janniepea on Aug 3, 2020 20:59:33 GMT
I am so sorry, what a devastating loss. 😔
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moodyblue
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Post by moodyblue on Aug 3, 2020 21:09:04 GMT
I am so very very sorry.
Be there, let him talk or not talk, understand that he has to decide things that he may or may not be capable of doing alone. Or he may be able to make the big decisions but have no idea what he wants to eat or even if he’s hungry at all. This is traumatic, forever life-changing, and the grief will be with him forever, even when he learns to move forward with it.
I was told that grief counseling, or a grief group, isn’t always helpful too soon, as there is that brain fog that makes it difficult to take in too much information. And it can be very hard to do things that were part of his normal life; attention span tends to be very short and there are grief triggers everywhere.
When he’s ready, I’ll again recommend the book It’s OK That You're Not OK, by Megan Devine. She lost her partner suddenly and it was an "out of order death" as is the loss of your daughter-in-law. You might find the parts about supporting someone through grief helpful even if he is not ready to read it now.
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Mystie
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Post by Mystie on Aug 3, 2020 21:16:49 GMT
I am so, so very sorry. I'm sending you and your dear son and all your family my deepest sympathy and prayers for comfort.
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mimima
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Post by mimima on Aug 3, 2020 21:29:03 GMT
I'm so sorry. May her Memory be Eternal.
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ellen
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Post by ellen on Aug 3, 2020 21:37:23 GMT
Oh my, this is so sad. I'm sorry.
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Post by kristi521 on Aug 3, 2020 21:53:54 GMT
I am so very sorry about your loss. Big hugs to your son and all of those that loved your DIL
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Post by librarylady on Aug 3, 2020 22:01:43 GMT
Hug and a prayer of comfort. It is one of those things no one can fix. I am sad for your family.
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Post by chedanemi on Aug 3, 2020 22:04:04 GMT
I'm so very sorry for your family.
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J u l e e
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Post by J u l e e on Aug 3, 2020 22:14:24 GMT
I am very sorry for your family's loss - that's so devastating!
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AllieC
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Post by AllieC on Aug 3, 2020 23:43:09 GMT
I am so so sorry for your loss, especially for your son. I think the only thing you can do is be there for him, speak about her and comfort him.
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Post by andreasmom on Aug 3, 2020 23:49:55 GMT
I am so sorry. Sending you love and light.
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inkedup
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Post by inkedup on Aug 3, 2020 23:52:39 GMT
My heart goes out to you all. I am so sorry. I know your heart is broken for your son and for the loss you are all feeling.
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Post by wezee on Aug 4, 2020 0:15:52 GMT
No words of advise. But I didn't want to read and run without telling you how sorry I am for your family ((hugs))
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Post by bothmykidsrbrats on Aug 4, 2020 0:41:35 GMT
I am so very sorry for your loss. Your DS still has a lot of processing to do, before he can start to grieve. All you can do is be there when he needs you and understand when he needs to be alone. {Hugs} to you all.
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Post by KikiPea on Aug 4, 2020 0:45:01 GMT
Wow, I am so sorry! Saying lots of prayers for strength, peace and healing.
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Post by SockMonkey on Aug 4, 2020 1:03:01 GMT
I'm so sorry. How awful. My thoughts are with you and your family.
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Post by krcrafts on Aug 4, 2020 1:07:06 GMT
I’m so sorry.
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samantha25
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Post by samantha25 on Aug 4, 2020 1:15:35 GMT
I'm sorry. I shed tears after reading. Hugs and healing to your family.
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Post by lesserknownpea on Aug 4, 2020 1:26:05 GMT
I would be devastated if we lost my daughter in law. I’m so sorry.
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kate
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Post by kate on Aug 4, 2020 1:41:19 GMT
I'm so very sorry for all of you. Your DS is blessed to have you near by.
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Post by PLurker on Aug 4, 2020 1:49:46 GMT
I'm so very sorry.
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Post by kikitwo on Aug 4, 2020 1:54:01 GMT
I am so sorry for your son, your family, and your daughter-in-law’s family. My thoughts are with you at this sad time.
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Post by alexa11 on Aug 4, 2020 1:54:53 GMT
I am so sorry!!!
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Post by AussieMeg on Aug 4, 2020 2:25:52 GMT
I am so sorry to hear about your daughter-in-law. What an awfully sad situation for your son, and both families.
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Jili
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Post by Jili on Aug 4, 2020 2:44:35 GMT
What a terrible tragedy. I am so sorry for your loss. May your son find some peace over time.
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Post by sweetpeasmom on Aug 4, 2020 2:48:11 GMT
My beautiful, sweet and loving daughter in law died Friday night. She was only 38 years old. We are devastated. She was the perfect match to my son. I don't know how he is going to get through this. I don't know what to do for him. She had a tumor go to her lungs. She could not breath. He just keeps talking about how scared she was. He keeps playing everything over and over again in his mind. They had so many plans for their lives. They were moving and their house is filled with boxes. Some stuff packed and lots more to pack. I'm just rambling on now. If your child has lost the love of their life. What can you do to help them?? I don’t have any advice. I just wanted to send hugs and prayers!!
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sassyangel
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Post by sassyangel on Aug 4, 2020 3:07:56 GMT
Oh I am so very very sorry. For your son especially, but for you too, I’m sure you loved her very much too.
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Post by lucyg on Aug 4, 2020 3:12:01 GMT
I’m so very sorry. Know it will take a long time, possibly years, for your son to feel “normal” again. Be understanding (I know you will). Do they have children? If yes, the kids will need extra attention. My heart goes out to you and your family.
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Post by edie3 on Aug 4, 2020 3:24:57 GMT
I am so sorry.
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