My FIL passed yesterday afternoon 😢
Jan 28, 2021 4:11:04 GMT
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Post by jlynnbarth on Jan 28, 2021 4:11:04 GMT
Feeling sad. My FIL passed away from Covid yesterday.
We moved to WA in March 01’ to take care of my FIL, as he had epilepsy and couldn’t live alone any longer. We found a Dr. that found the right medication for him and his seizures only happened once in a while instead of weekly. He lived with us for 15 years before we had to move him into assisted living. He unfortunately got dementia and with us both needing to work, he couldn’t be home alone. He was falling and it just wasn’t safe anymore.
The past 5 years he’s been in a home just a few blocks from our house, so we could see him whenever we wanted/could.
The home did an excellent job of keeping Covid out of the facility for 10 months. They had not one case of Covid. It was one of the only homes that could say that.
The home called us and asked us if we wanted Dad to get the vaccine as they would begin giving them Jan 19. We of course said yes.
Unfortunately on Dec 31 someone contracted the virus and brought it into the facility.
We got a call 2 weeks ago saying that Dad complained of a sore throat (he never in almost 20 years, ever had a sore throat, cold, flu etc... great immune system I guess lol) and so they tested him and he tested positive. They moved him out of his regular room and into the Covid unit they had set up. They called 9 days ago to say he was having issues breathing, so they were sending him to the hospital. They gave him all the Covid protocol meds and had him on a high rate of oxygen. The Dr and nurses were awesome. They called everyday with updates. One day the dr called to tell me that Dad was very upset and panicked. (He would forget where he was and would pull off his oxygen, which of course would cause him to not be able to breathe). The Dr. said he asked him “Do you know where you are?” and Dad said “I’m in mayhem!” Lol he wasn’t wrong lol Then the Dr asked him what year it was and he said 2008. Then he asked who was the President and Dad said “the black man, I can’t remember his name”, right President for that year. Lol
Yesterday I got a call that things had gotten worse overnight and they had to put an oxygen mask on him rather than just the nasal kind, and Dad was having none of it. They had to restrain him. He said Dad more than likely had a blood clot in his lungs, because his ditimer reading was really high, but they couldn’t do the test to see if there was because they’d have to take him off the oxygen, which of course would kill him. The Dr said that he unfortunately did not see him ever fully recovering from this and that we should consider quality of life etc.... My dh called his Aunt and his sister and they decided to spare Dad anymore panic and fear by withdrawing care, that 8 days was long enough for him to be upset and scared.
My dh’s aunt (Dads older sister) went to the hospital to say her goodbyes (thinking we would have at least another day) and she was able to hold his hand and talk to him as he passed. She called me at work to tell me he was gone. I was shocked it happened so quickly. I jumped in my car to meet my dh at home (he left work early so he could go to the hospital, thinking we had time) and I had to tell him the news. 😢
It’s hard to believe that after all Dad’s issues with his health, that this is the thing that took him out. We didn’t think he’d make it 5 years when we moved here. He had kidney failure and was on dialysis back in 1989, his epilepsy (seizure syndrome from alcoholism), a heart issue caused by a bad seizure, 2 falls leading to a broken hip, clogged arteries due to calcium build up from smoking, which lead to gangrene and the loss of 2 toes and a bypass surgery and Dementia to top it off. But he never had a cold, flu, sore throat. The man had 9 lives.
We blame no one. Everyone truly did their best for a very long time. The caregivers at the home were/are incredible people. The Dr. and nurses at the hospital were wonderful with him and with us. We thank them all for the loving kindness they bestowed on us all.
We moved to WA in March 01’ to take care of my FIL, as he had epilepsy and couldn’t live alone any longer. We found a Dr. that found the right medication for him and his seizures only happened once in a while instead of weekly. He lived with us for 15 years before we had to move him into assisted living. He unfortunately got dementia and with us both needing to work, he couldn’t be home alone. He was falling and it just wasn’t safe anymore.
The past 5 years he’s been in a home just a few blocks from our house, so we could see him whenever we wanted/could.
The home did an excellent job of keeping Covid out of the facility for 10 months. They had not one case of Covid. It was one of the only homes that could say that.
The home called us and asked us if we wanted Dad to get the vaccine as they would begin giving them Jan 19. We of course said yes.
Unfortunately on Dec 31 someone contracted the virus and brought it into the facility.
We got a call 2 weeks ago saying that Dad complained of a sore throat (he never in almost 20 years, ever had a sore throat, cold, flu etc... great immune system I guess lol) and so they tested him and he tested positive. They moved him out of his regular room and into the Covid unit they had set up. They called 9 days ago to say he was having issues breathing, so they were sending him to the hospital. They gave him all the Covid protocol meds and had him on a high rate of oxygen. The Dr and nurses were awesome. They called everyday with updates. One day the dr called to tell me that Dad was very upset and panicked. (He would forget where he was and would pull off his oxygen, which of course would cause him to not be able to breathe). The Dr. said he asked him “Do you know where you are?” and Dad said “I’m in mayhem!” Lol he wasn’t wrong lol Then the Dr asked him what year it was and he said 2008. Then he asked who was the President and Dad said “the black man, I can’t remember his name”, right President for that year. Lol
Yesterday I got a call that things had gotten worse overnight and they had to put an oxygen mask on him rather than just the nasal kind, and Dad was having none of it. They had to restrain him. He said Dad more than likely had a blood clot in his lungs, because his ditimer reading was really high, but they couldn’t do the test to see if there was because they’d have to take him off the oxygen, which of course would kill him. The Dr said that he unfortunately did not see him ever fully recovering from this and that we should consider quality of life etc.... My dh called his Aunt and his sister and they decided to spare Dad anymore panic and fear by withdrawing care, that 8 days was long enough for him to be upset and scared.
My dh’s aunt (Dads older sister) went to the hospital to say her goodbyes (thinking we would have at least another day) and she was able to hold his hand and talk to him as he passed. She called me at work to tell me he was gone. I was shocked it happened so quickly. I jumped in my car to meet my dh at home (he left work early so he could go to the hospital, thinking we had time) and I had to tell him the news. 😢
It’s hard to believe that after all Dad’s issues with his health, that this is the thing that took him out. We didn’t think he’d make it 5 years when we moved here. He had kidney failure and was on dialysis back in 1989, his epilepsy (seizure syndrome from alcoholism), a heart issue caused by a bad seizure, 2 falls leading to a broken hip, clogged arteries due to calcium build up from smoking, which lead to gangrene and the loss of 2 toes and a bypass surgery and Dementia to top it off. But he never had a cold, flu, sore throat. The man had 9 lives.
We blame no one. Everyone truly did their best for a very long time. The caregivers at the home were/are incredible people. The Dr. and nurses at the hospital were wonderful with him and with us. We thank them all for the loving kindness they bestowed on us all.
