pinklady
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Post by pinklady on May 21, 2021 20:45:12 GMT
They said in the tweet that they had the families’ permission, I hope the girls were included in the decision. Only 2 pictures have been released, correct? IDk I saw more than two, then I felt uncomfortable and closed out the article. IDK I think the parents might regret this decision. And who's to say the girls felt okay then but now..cringey? I'd say they let their outrage run away with them. Just my opinion but I think people need to calm tf down. It was stupid to do that yes, they need to revise the policy, don't do it again. Now let's sign year books and move on is my attitude. No No No No Just NO! There is NOTHING the girls should feel uncomfortable with in this situation. YOU are sending the absolute wrong message and frankly I find it very disturbing! I'm guessing they were hoping all the parents would be like you.
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oh yvonne
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Post by oh yvonne on May 21, 2021 20:54:59 GMT
IDk I saw more than two, then I felt uncomfortable and closed out the article. IDK I think the parents might regret this decision. And who's to say the girls felt okay then but now..cringey? I'd say they let their outrage run away with them. Just my opinion but I think people need to calm tf down. It was stupid to do that yes, they need to revise the policy, don't do it again. Now let's sign year books and move on is my attitude. No No No No Just NO! There is NOTHING the girls should feel uncomfortable with in this situation. YOU are sending the absolute wrong message and frankly I find it very disturbing! I'm guessing they were hoping all the parents would be like you. My DD would die of embarassment. Sorry, not everyone thinks like you. I'd definitely take it up with the school, but I wouldn't want a viral campagin. Hell no.
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Post by crimsoncat05 on May 21, 2021 21:27:12 GMT
This is ridiculous! Some females find beards on guys very attractive. So do they photoshop out beards on male students because they don't want to "distract" the females? Or if a boy has gorgeous eyes, do they photoshop them to make them less "attractive"? I bet they didn't photoshop any boys. No, they did NOT photoshop any boys' portraits. The story says that, I think. And THAT fact says a LOT about the decision maker. Sexist, sexist, sexist. I agree- it's 1955. ETA: It very clearly DOES say that the girls whose photos are included in the story were asked, and said it was OKAY with them that they were shared. ETA2: there are three girls' photos shown, both before and after the alterations.
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Post by busy on May 21, 2021 21:35:23 GMT
They said in the tweet that they had the families’ permission, I hope the girls were included in the decision. Only 2 pictures have been released, correct? IDk I saw more than two, then I felt uncomfortable and closed out the article. IDK I think the parents might regret this decision. And who's to say the girls felt okay then but now..cringey? I'd say they let their outrage run away with them. Just my opinion but I think people need to calm tf down. It was stupid to do that yes, they need to revise the policy, don't do it again. Now let's sign year books and move on is my attitude. Keeping shit quiet is why it keeps happening.
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Post by freecharlie on May 21, 2021 21:42:23 GMT
Perhaps the three girls are strong young women who wanted to stand up to this type of crap. Kudos to them
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Post by epeanymous on May 21, 2021 21:58:04 GMT
I rage-wrote an academic article several years ago about school dress codes. One of the things that really struck me, in reading I don't know how many interviews with girls (always girls, except for a teeny-tiny handful of boys with long hair in southern schools) was how incredibly uncomfortable and unsafe it made them feel when adults -- particularly male adults, but adults in general -- made them feel like they were scrutinizing their bodies, and how violated it made them feel.
I'd be hopping mad.
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Post by lisacharlotte on May 21, 2021 22:08:28 GMT
Breaking News! High school girls have boobs. TIL...
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johnnysmom
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Post by johnnysmom on May 21, 2021 22:35:51 GMT
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sassyangel
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Post by sassyangel on May 21, 2021 22:59:08 GMT
Ack, I thought the cute purple shirt was a horrible hack job, but that flannel shirt one is atrocious. Just did a crazy cut and paste with no attempt to hide they did it. SMH, may as well have just given them shrouds or veils. Deserved pushback. Sends a horrible message.
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Post by crazy4scraps on May 22, 2021 1:06:42 GMT
Holy crap. My 10 year old can do a better job of photoshopping than that! I would absolutely demand that the yearbooks be reprinted with the unaltered photos because those photos look horrible. Those poor girls! I’d be livid if I was one of the kids or the parents who paid good money for that trash.
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used2scrap
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Post by used2scrap on May 22, 2021 4:55:06 GMT
My beautiful daughter has been body shamed multiple times in 3 short years of her high school life. It’s not ok, it’s done her incredible harm, and this deserves all the negative attention it garners.
FFS our school still requires Sr girls to take their sr yearbook photo in the draped gown and pearls. The draped gown which violates the dress code yet is mandated for the yearbook. Stop policing women’s bodies.
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my3freaks
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Post by my3freaks on May 23, 2021 3:31:14 GMT
I generally didn't get outraged with policy things like dress code or other "it's not fair because they're never enforced across the board" complaints when my kids were in high school. I usually just told them "life's not fair, might as well get used to it now", because they were never big issues. THIS would be a big issue. HUGE. There was nothing inappropriate or even mildly suggestive about the way those girls were dressed. I wouldn't have given it a second thought for my daughter to have worn a tank with a flannel or a hoodie or something over it at that age. It's a good thing that they didn't take full length pictures when I was in high school in the late 80's & early 90's. That "teacher" would have a stroke adding covering to all the denim mini skirts going on. We were showing knees and probably a little more thigh than necessary.
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Post by elaine on May 23, 2021 3:51:05 GMT
I realized when thinking about this thread today that I am hearing the mother from Stephen King’s “Carrie” in my head shrieking “Dirty Pillows! dirty pillows!” when shaming Carrie about her breasts in high school.
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Post by Deleted on May 23, 2021 4:00:20 GMT
I'm the biggest prude I know. I never ever intentionally reveal any cleavage at all.
These photos (the unaltered ones) would never register as inappropriate to me.
The school was way out of line. I think they need to reprint and redistribute the entire year book unedited, at their expense.
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sweetpeasmom
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Post by sweetpeasmom on May 23, 2021 11:53:55 GMT
When are we going to stop getting so concerned about possibly offending someone or shaming others because they don’t say or do things you think they should?
Dress codes are hypocritical. I am all for making sure no one has their ass hanging out or their boobs could pop out with the wrong move. Rules for shorts/skirt lengths have been in place for forever. But now with the popularity of basketball style shorts or sagging pants, not much is said about that. There was absolutely nothing wrong with any of those shirts those young girls were wearing.
I found out last night the reason the Sr quotes were not in the yearbook this year is because the advisor, who is brand new to the school this year, said they might offend someone. If someone used a bible verse or something. I get not allowing with vulgar language or something horrific, but seriously?
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Post by femalebusiness on May 23, 2021 15:51:20 GMT
Something like this happened in the disabled community not long ago. Someone decided to edit out wheelchairs and equipment and even went so far as to edit a child’s eye so that it wasn’t deviated. They even went so far as to say they wanted the kids to look normal in the pictures. It did not go over well. As far as these young ladies are concerned there is nothing wrong with the pictures, nothing. That is one of the most horrible stories that I have ever heard. What the hell is wrong with people?
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Post by wholarmor on May 23, 2021 16:26:21 GMT
No No No No Just NO! There is NOTHING the girls should feel uncomfortable with in this situation. YOU are sending the absolute wrong message and frankly I find it very disturbing! I'm guessing they were hoping all the parents would be like you. My DD would die of embarassment. Sorry, not everyone thinks like you. I'd definitely take it up with the school, but I wouldn't want a viral campagin. Hell no. The girls have already been embarrassed by the school and kids on social media mocking these girls like they had something to do with it. What a terrible situation the school put these girls in. My daughter would have wanted it spread far and wide that this is not okay. If the girls didn't want to be on the news about it, they didn't have to be.
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Post by wholarmor on May 23, 2021 16:34:33 GMT
My beautiful daughter has been body shamed multiple times in 3 short years of her high school life. It’s not ok, it’s done her incredible harm, and this deserves all the negative attention it garners. FFS our school still requires Sr girls to take their sr yearbook photo in the draped gown and pearls. The draped gown which violates the dress code yet is mandated for the yearbook. Stop policing women’s bodies. Ugh TPTB in that school want tradition to live on forever. I'm glad that our seniors can just do whatever Senior picture they want. They aren't allowed Senior quotes, though. There was a high school not far away from us that said"no props" in Senior photos, and some girl took it to the news that she needed a pity party because they wouldn't accept the picture of her wrapped in the flag 🙄
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my3freaks
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Post by my3freaks on May 23, 2021 18:54:38 GMT
I found out last night the reason the Sr quotes were not in the yearbook this year is because the advisor, who is brand new to the school this year, said they might offend someone. If someone used a bible verse or something. I get not allowing with vulgar language or something horrific, but seriously? This drives me NUTS. How about people stop being offended by everything? Can't they be quietly outraged about it if they must, and not make it everyone else's problem? We have such an entitled culture, so many have been taught if they don't like something/disagree with it, they shouldn't have to hear it at all. Who cares if other people like it? It's apparently all about them. Vulgarity or racism having no place in a yearbook, that should go without saying I hope. Give them 10 years or so and they'll probably be embarrassed by their quote anyway. Something like this happened in the disabled community not long ago. Someone decided to edit out wheelchairs and equipment and even went so far as to edit a child’s eye so that it wasn’t deviated. They even went so far as to say they wanted the kids to look normal in the pictures. It did not go over well. Absolutely appalling. My mouth fell open when I read this, I can't believe it even occurred to someone to do that.
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Post by femalebusiness on May 23, 2021 19:12:08 GMT
I found out last night the reason the Sr quotes were not in the yearbook this year is because the advisor, who is brand new to the school this year, said they might offend someone. If someone used a bible verse or something. I get not allowing with vulgar language or something horrific, but seriously? This drives me NUTS. How about people stop being offended by everything? Can't they be quietly outraged about it if they must, and not make it everyone else's problem? We have such an entitled culture, so many have been taught if they don't like something/disagree with it, they shouldn't have to hear it at all. Who cares if other people like it? It's apparently all about them. Vulgarity or racism having no place in a yearbook, that should go without saying I hope. Give them 10 years or so and they'll probably be embarrassed by their quote anyway. Something like this happened in the disabled community not long ago. Someone decided to edit out wheelchairs and equipment and even went so far as to edit a child’s eye so that it wasn’t deviated. They even went so far as to say they wanted the kids to look normal in the pictures. It did not go over well. Absolutely appalling. My mouth fell open when I read this, I can't believe it even occurred to someone to do that. Quotes are messed up. That is not my quote. I responded to that quote.
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my3freaks
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Post by my3freaks on May 23, 2021 20:45:37 GMT
Quotes are messed up. That is not my quote. I responded to that quote. Sorry. I didn't mean to imply anything. Multi-quotes always get messed up for me.
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Post by kelly8875 on May 23, 2021 21:26:39 GMT
They can wear these clothes to school, but not be photographed?! So dumb. And there’s no wrong with the way they are dressed.
I just saw this on my local news FB page. It’s starting to get around.
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Post by alexa11 on May 24, 2021 2:37:14 GMT
This is wrong on so many levels. I would be one pissed off parent if that were my child.
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Post by librarylady on May 24, 2021 12:52:24 GMT
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Post by Deleted on May 24, 2021 13:49:55 GMT
"But one mother of a tenth-grade daughter at the school said she's in favor of the dress code and the edits.
"If parents aren't teaching at home how daughters should dress and dress decently, then the school has to parent," said Rachel D'aquin."
Oh, I see. But when "Parents aren't teaching their DAUGHTERS (and sons)" sex ed, or evolution, or racism, etc, and the school "has to parent", then it's "MUH RIGHTS!! They're infringing on MUH RIGHTS to idiotify my kids!!!"
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Post by Really Red on May 24, 2021 14:04:16 GMT
I hope there's a class action suit to force the school to pay for a corrected reprinting for every student who purchased a yearbook. And I hope the person who made that decision is removed from teaching. Because if they made such an incredibly poor decision for over 60 (!!!!) young women, what other things are they going to do. I agree that there should be some sort of dress code (no foul language on t-shirts kind of thing), but this is just insane.
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Post by elaine on May 24, 2021 15:52:38 GMT
Again, the money is the least of the issues, IMO. And, of course, the offended students now have to choose between not having a yearbook at all or having one with the grotesque edited pictures. So, the school really isn’t going to get many of them back, nor have to issue many refunds. They should have Ann Irwin issue a public apology. And should also reprint the yearbook for the student body with the unedited photos, so that everyone has a yearbook with the photos as they should have been in the first place. The school’s response is woefully inadequate.
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Post by crimsoncat05 on May 24, 2021 16:08:13 GMT
according to the dress code (which they showed in a related video, referenced in that article), GIRLS are the ONLY ones who can't wear anything DISTRACTING. That line wasn't listed under the boys' section. That right there shows the sexism of it. They can't mean anything by 'distracting' other than 'sexy-distracting' if it's only in the girls' section! I mean, if someone was wearing a fluorescent orange tee-shirt to class, that would be distracting (and headache inducing) to me, but if it was a boy, according to the dress code, that would be A-OK, according to that dress code. Oh, and girls, make sure not to wear too much makeup (lest you be thought to be a tramp)! I swear, it IS 1955 again.
And since it's Florida, I'm guessing that they might allow shorts- but girls are the only ones who get their skirts measured. Nothing about measuring the height of shorts or that boys shorts must be longer than 4" below their knees.
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Post by Skellinton on May 24, 2021 16:14:04 GMT
They talked about this on the Today show and had one of the girls on explaining how it made her feel ashamed of her body and pointed out the boys are not held to the same standards. The young lady was very articulate and it made me thankful that girls today are so wiling to speak out about sexism. She clearly is not embarrassed (nor should she be) or worried about calling this to people’s attention and having her image used.
ETA Craig was pretty worked up about this, well, at least as worked up as he gets. He is usually pretty neutral on the stories they do but he was not having this kind of nonsense.
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Post by OntarioScrapper on May 24, 2021 18:33:50 GMT
This is ridiculous! Some females find beards on guys very attractive. So do they photoshop out beards on male students because they don't want to "distract" the females? Or if a boy has gorgeous eyes, do they photoshop them to make them less "attractive"? I bet they didn't photoshop any boys. They didn't photoshop ANY of the male sports team photos. I'm sure they were showing lots of skin in those.
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