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Post by littlemama on Dec 1, 2021 1:35:05 GMT
Stay out of it. My mil cant stay out of the issues between her sons and she makes everything worse.
Siblings are not always going to get along and they arent necessarily going to be friends.
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Post by Eddie-n-Harley on Dec 1, 2021 1:45:55 GMT
stay out of it unless you have to call 9-1-1. short of that, don't get involved. I told you when you were 8-- unless someone's bleeding or has a bone sticking out, work it out yourselves. Generally, I would say stay out of it. I won't say it would never be successful, but I think there are very few arguments, and very few families, where a sibling dispute will be improved with outside intervention, particularly from the parents.
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Post by melanell on Dec 1, 2021 1:49:50 GMT
They are adults. I would stay out of it. To the one who thinks you should intervene, would they want you to intervene between them and their spouse? Between them and their boss? And so forth? I highly doubt it. It's up to them to take care of their own relationships.
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muggins
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Post by muggins on Dec 1, 2021 1:56:08 GMT
I’m in the stay out of it camp. I only wish my own mother would do the same.
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Post by sweetshabbyroses on Dec 1, 2021 2:00:50 GMT
Actually, the son that wants us (husband and I) to intervene is in our opinion, the most in the wrong (not that both of them don't need to do some soul searching). But the one that wants us to intervene, I think, realizes he has goofed and wants to be rescued.
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Post by Darcy Collins on Dec 1, 2021 2:10:32 GMT
Actually, the son that wants us (husband and I) to intervene is in our opinion, the most in the wrong (not that both of them don't need to do some soul searching). But the one that wants us to intervene, I think, realizes he has goofed and wants to be rescued. This is why you stay out of it. He's an adult and realizes he/his wife are in the wrong and instead of stepping up and dealing with the issue like a grownup with his sibling - he wants an "out" by having mommy and daddy intervene so he can save face. STAY OUT OF IT!
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Post by mom on Dec 1, 2021 2:51:27 GMT
Actually, the son that wants us (husband and I) to intervene is in our opinion, the most in the wrong (not that both of them don't need to do some soul searching). But the one that wants us to intervene, I think, realizes he has goofed and wants to be rescued. Even more the reason to stay out of it. You won’t be around forever - he needs to learn to deal with these things on his own. You’d be really giving your son a disservice if you intervene.
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Post by voltagain on Dec 1, 2021 3:04:40 GMT
issues. Two of my children are at war over things each of their wives did respectively. One of the siblings wants to forget it and just be left alone by the other sibling. The other sibling states that since we are "patriarch and matriarch of the family, it is up to us to intervene". I fall on the side kept the he** out of it. What do you say? Keep out of it. My sister and I never let on to our parents when we have an issue. If my kids have issues between each other they do the same to me. But my kids learned very young that if intervention was needed then both would be punished in some way. It takes two to have an argument. The one who started the mess but the other would end up being punished to a degree for not taking the high road.
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Post by voltagain on Dec 1, 2021 3:08:31 GMT
Actually, the son that wants us (husband and I) to intervene is in our opinion, the most in the wrong (not that both of them don't need to do some soul searching). But the one that wants us to intervene, I think, realizes he has goofed and wants to be rescued. Ok, in this case "intervene" tell him straight out he needs to stop trying to save face, apologize to his sibling and do what ever it takes to make things right between them without complaining about it. There, you intervened as requested.
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Post by scrapmaven on Dec 1, 2021 4:12:20 GMT
Sure. I'll get involved. I'll send you both to your rooms for acting like 6 year olds. Work it out and leave me out of it. For goodness sake!
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bethany102399
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Post by bethany102399 on Dec 1, 2021 14:21:28 GMT
Oh my—if there ever was an argument to stay out of things, this is it! Yikes! I've made it a point to be active in my cousin's lives (both Uncle's kids). If the brother's wont talk to each other, fine but I'm not going to alienate my cousins over some BS I don't even know about. We're not close but at least communicate with each other.
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Post by workingclassdog on Dec 1, 2021 15:22:42 GMT
Stay out of it... (I have grown kids, no fights so far however).. I learned from my mom.. She can be a sounding board and a very good one and will offer help if asked otherwise she would let us (my sister and I battle it out.. we have never done that though..) Our spouses were different from night and day.... they basically didn't interact much with each other since they had nothing in common. We (my sister and I) were smart enough not to let them mingle. lol... So I will practice what my mom did for us.
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Post by peabrain on Dec 1, 2021 16:38:25 GMT
My mother stays out of it. But it would be really nice if she told my sister she's wrong. LOL!
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Post by CarolinaGirl71 on Dec 1, 2021 16:50:41 GMT
I agree, stay out of it! There is no way possible you could get involved and come out unscathed! Truth! Stay out of it!
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twinsrule
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Post by twinsrule on Dec 1, 2021 19:03:34 GMT
Definitely agree to stay out of it!
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Post by brynn on Dec 2, 2021 6:08:22 GMT
Oh my—if there ever was an argument to stay out of things, this is it! Yikes! I've made it a point to be active in my cousin's lives (both Uncle's kids). If the brother's wont talk to each other, fine but I'm not going to alienate my cousins over some BS I don't even know about. We're not close but at least communicate with each other. This is my situation exactly.
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anniebygaslight
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Post by anniebygaslight on Dec 2, 2021 16:37:13 GMT
Absolutely not.
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Post by lesserknownpea on Dec 3, 2021 9:55:18 GMT
I have tons of experience with this. I stay completely out of it.
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