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Post by quietgirl on May 11, 2022 16:26:05 GMT
I'm sorry, I don't have any real advice (other then keep trying finding a therapist). I just wanted to say I'm so sorry for how you were treated. That was terrible, and they are all complicit. I also wanted to say, I very often feel like I went back to 5, for different reasons, but I truly understand that. I feel for you.
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Post by Jili on May 11, 2022 16:37:56 GMT
This is a heartbreaking situation and I'm so sorry. I hope some therapy can help you process all of it, and if there are legal avenues, I hope they are successful. I cannot even imagine how your sister responded to you when you asked her "do I not exist?" when her actions speak otherwise.
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Post by Susie_Homemaker on May 11, 2022 16:59:26 GMT
Again, it truly isn’t or ever was, about the money. It’s the exclusion. You want 'someone' to validate that you were and are a family member/sibling/child to these people. I'm so sorry that they've treated you like this. What horrible, horrible people. I wish I could give 5yo you a big hug!
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Post by Nanner on May 12, 2022 0:54:21 GMT
Based on something a friend of mine experienced some years ago, I think you should visit a lawyer and file a claim for your portion of the estate. Long story short, your so-called siblings could be prevailed upon to offer you a settlement to make you go away. You are a legal heir, you DO exist, and you are entitled to an inheritance as well. I doubt you would get into a long, drawn-out fight.. the Law's the Law. Good luck. Remember, WE care about you and WE are extended family to you and we will be rooting for you Layce Not even an heir is “entitled to an inheritance”. True, but if there was no Will, she's entitled to the same share as the other children.
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Post by Nanner on May 12, 2022 1:08:25 GMT
I'm so sorry you've been treated so poorly. What a group of horrible people you grew up with. You're a beautiful person - I hope you find peace.
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Post by TankTop on May 12, 2022 1:17:43 GMT
I am terribly sorry.
One of my favorite quotes is… Childhood is what you spend the rest of your life trying to get over.
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Post by kate on May 12, 2022 2:01:11 GMT
You have done incredibly hard work - breaking the cycle of (for want of a better term) generational awfulness is lonely and grueling, and you are doing that for your own child(ren?). What a gift you're giving.
No child should be treated the way you have been. God bless you for your perseverance and for being a good person in the face of all that mistreatment.
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Post by Deleted on May 12, 2022 2:13:17 GMT
quinlove : I'm so sorry. I can't imagine the hurt you must feel at just the notion of being left out of family things, etc. It's terrible. Hope you can get to the bottom of it. Hugs to you.
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Post by quinlove on May 12, 2022 2:22:08 GMT
I’m usually on the other side of threads like this. A hurt pea needs comforting. I quite often post - I hope you can feel all the love we are sending you. And - yes - you can ! I truly feel your support. Thank you. It really really helps. ❤️
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Post by Lexica on May 12, 2022 2:34:31 GMT
I am so happy that you can feel the love and compassion coming from the peas. You deserve it all! I have thought of your situation several times last night and today. Each time, I feel such anger well up inside me and I want to shake your siblings until some sense drops down into the correct part of their brain. Something about a funeral seems to bring out the greed in people though. I wish they had the compassion and common sense to have given you your portion too instead of just letting greed dictate their actions. Maybe someday they will see what horrible people they have become. Although they were raised by the very people that told you at age 5 (!!!) that you needed to be out of their home by age 18. No doubt they picked up these pathetic attitudes from them.
I would have to be done with these people. They don't deserve you.
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Post by elaine on May 12, 2022 9:39:37 GMT
I just wanted to pop in and give you another big (((hug))) before work.
You don’t deserve to be treated like this. I’m so sorry for the pain they have caused you.
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Post by scrapcat on May 12, 2022 17:09:59 GMT
So sorry you have gone through this, but I have to say your interpretation seems very emotionally intelligent. Unlike the actions of your "siblings", they must be sad people on the inside. You should def be proud of your strength and making your own way.
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