pinklady
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Post by pinklady on Aug 21, 2022 18:45:03 GMT
What do the peas say? I say the kid is spot on and I hope they don’t back down. Frankly, I blame the mother. She brought an asshole into the household.
I do have more questions about maintenance and property taxes but I do not think the kid is the asshole.
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Post by chaosisapony on Aug 21, 2022 19:00:33 GMT
Oh that's awesome, I love that kid for turning the conversation back on the step-asshole.
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Dalai Mama
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Post by Dalai Mama on Aug 21, 2022 19:03:48 GMT
I don't even have to read past the title - NTA.
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Post by revirdsuba99 on Aug 21, 2022 19:03:57 GMT
Kid is right, however there are maintenance expenses that he should pay toward, taxes, food etc..
Owning property entails responsibilities and expenses!
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pantsonfire
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Post by pantsonfire on Aug 21, 2022 19:06:24 GMT
Kid is NTA.
However, who is currently paying bills on said house? Who is covering repairs?
Unless the kid has a savings and can cover that themselves, they need to back off.
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iluvpink
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Post by iluvpink on Aug 21, 2022 19:06:31 GMT
I need more information. Maybe the kid did need to grow up and learn some responsibility. However in that case I think her mother should have been the one to say/do something. Not the step father who clearly didn't talk to the mother about it first or he would have known that the house belonged to the daughter!
However maybe he's the asshole. And I can't imagine marrying someone, having them move into the house and not telling them that the house isn't in your name, but your child's. That seems odd and like there are possibly other issues.
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Post by iamkristinl16 on Aug 21, 2022 19:07:35 GMT
I think the kid IS doing it out of spite, but also think it is a clever response, particularly the irony regarding independence and becoming an adult. However, the main issue here is that the mom wasn't honest with the stepdad about the ownership of the home. They need to all discuss what the plans are once the child is 18 and legally owns the home. It seems like the kid is pretty sassy and likely a jerk, but stepdad may be as well.
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Post by wellway on Aug 21, 2022 19:30:34 GMT
Imagine getting married and living in a house for five years without asking any questions about ownership, mortgage, rent etc. Wonder why the mother never said anything.
I doubt the child would have mentioned rent going forward if the stepfather hadn't been such an arse.
But to protect the asset the child needs some legal advice going forward. Especially if they plan to move for college or work. Some sort of legal, written down agreement should be in place when they become legally an adult.
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Post by tamiq on Aug 21, 2022 19:30:51 GMT
Kid is NTA. However, who is currently paying bills on said house? Who is covering repairs? Unless the kid has a savings and can cover that themselves, they need to back off. I don't think the "kid" should back off at all! She can afford those expenses with their rent!
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Post by freecharlie on Aug 21, 2022 19:37:37 GMT
If he is in the US, the kid does not own the property as he cannot own it as a minor. My guess is it is held in a trust somehow.
I think the kid is in the right on charging rent. If he moves out, he is going to have to pay rent elsewhere. Or the parents could move to their own place and leave the 18 year old in the house. If they are all living there and the parents are paying all the other bills then the kid sshould probably back off.
I would have charged my 18 year old rent if he was working full time and not going to school, but all the money would have gone into a savings account for him when he did finally move out
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Post by femalebusiness on Aug 21, 2022 20:05:41 GMT
Step dad is an ass. Charge him rent and make it double what they'd charge anyone else.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 21, 2022 20:19:14 GMT
Kid is definitely NOT the a$$hole. In fact, kid has been generous as he lost out on rent income for all the years the house was in his name.
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Post by stingfan on Aug 21, 2022 20:19:49 GMT
That may be the best AITA I've ever read. Sounds like the stepfather didn't talk to the mother before announcing the need for rent to the child. That's not his place to decide. Then the mother is trying to make peace without really taking a side, it seems. I doubt that anyone's going to pay anyone rent in the end. Assuming the marriage stays together...
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Post by iamkristinl16 on Aug 21, 2022 20:23:07 GMT
Kid is definitely NOT the a$$hole. In fact, kid has been generous as he lost out on rent income for all the years the house was in his name. Except that the parent has presumably been paying for the upkeep, cleaning, etc and the child has also been living there. It sounded like once the child is 18 the stipulations regarding the house will change, per the will and/or law.
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Post by busy on Aug 21, 2022 20:40:26 GMT
The stepfather is an asshole.
No stepparent should be making financial demands of their stepchild without the full agreement of the biological parent.
I’m sure a man who does shit like this has been a shitty stepparent in plenty of other ways. He deserves what the kid dished out and probably a lot more.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 21, 2022 20:44:45 GMT
Kid is definitely NOT the a$$hole. In fact, kid has been generous as he lost out on rent income for all the years the house was in his name. Except that the parent has presumably been paying for the upkeep, cleaning, etc and the child has also been living there. It sounded like once the child is 18 the stipulations regarding the house will change, per the will and/or law. That may apply to the mother, but I don’t think that applies to the stepfather who has lived there rent free for five years.
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Post by busy on Aug 21, 2022 20:54:10 GMT
Kid is definitely NOT the a$$hole. In fact, kid has been generous as he lost out on rent income for all the years the house was in his name. Except that the parent has presumably been paying for the upkeep, cleaning, etc and the child has also been living there. It sounded like once the child is 18 the stipulations regarding the house will change, per the will and/or law. And? That’s just part of being a parent and providing for your child(ren). I highly doubt the mom was keeping track of expenses she incurred for the house with the intent to force the kid to pay her back some day. For that useless, selfish, out of line stepfather to make demands of the kid without the mother’s knowledge and agreement is so far out of line. This kid lost their father as a child and that was tragic enough. I feel horrible for them that their mom chose this dick to be their stepfather. Adding insult to injury.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Aug 21, 2022 22:21:01 GMT
IMO the kid is NTA and is fully within his/her rights to ask anyone else living in the house to contribute financially in order to continue to live there. Even if the kid has inherited the home debt free, there will still be taxes, insurance, utilities, and maintenance to pay for going forward. If the mom paid for those things before, she did get to live in the house too and could have possibly received insurance money or social security survivor benefits from the dad on the kid’s behalf when he passed away to use to help support the kid. It costs money to live anywhere, so they should expect to have to contribute something if they want to continue to live in the house or find another place to live since the kid is now the homeowner.
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Post by SockMonkey on Aug 21, 2022 22:27:56 GMT
I don't think this is real, TBH, because as freecharlie said, he's a minor and probably has to be 18. The house may be in a trust to be given to him, though, so he may be interpreting it as "owning" once he turns 18. Anyway, the stepdad is a class A jerk and mom doesn't have a spine. If I was him I'd sell it immediately upon turning 18. They can buy him out if they want. Otherwise, they should split expenses (including paying rent) appropriately.
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Post by SockMonkey on Aug 21, 2022 22:29:28 GMT
Kid is definitely NOT the a$$hole. In fact, kid has been generous as he lost out on rent income for all the years the house was in his name. Except that the parent has presumably been paying for the upkeep, cleaning, etc and the child has also been living there. It sounded like once the child is 18 the stipulations regarding the house will change, per the will and/or law. Children do not ask to be brought into this world, and should feel no guilt about the upkeep, cleaning, or mortgage payments required to keep them housed. Once they're adults, that's a different story, but children do not "owe" parents anything.
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Post by iamkristinl16 on Aug 22, 2022 0:46:21 GMT
Except that the parent has presumably been paying for the upkeep, cleaning, etc and the child has also been living there. It sounded like once the child is 18 the stipulations regarding the house will change, per the will and/or law. Children do not ask to be brought into this world, and should feel no guilt about the upkeep, cleaning, or mortgage payments required to keep them housed. Once they're adults, that's a different story, but children do not "owe" parents anything. Who said that they do? I was referring to the idea that the child could have been renting the house out for years prior to being 18.
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Post by mamapeaah on Aug 22, 2022 0:53:54 GMT
The kid may be an asshole but he is the homeowner and his proposal is fare.
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Post by sabrinae on Aug 22, 2022 1:10:01 GMT
Children do not ask to be brought into this world, and should feel no guilt about the upkeep, cleaning, or mortgage payments required to keep them housed. Once they're adults, that's a different story, but children do not "owe" parents anything. Who said that they do? I was referring to the idea that the child could have been renting the house out for years prior to being 18. But Mom has a responsibility to house the kid period and it seems like she’s been living rent free in a house she never owned — parents weren’t married. The house could have (and perhaps should have) been rented out to provide additional support for the child including a college fund. Seems like Mom and stepdad have been taking advantage of the kid’s inheritance.
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Post by kate on Aug 22, 2022 2:13:29 GMT
If they are all living there and the parents are paying all the other bills then the kid sshould probably back off. This. If the kid is honestly planning to take over the responsibility for all the maintenance, taxes, utilities, etc. for the house on his/her 18th birthday, sure - go ahead and charge rent. Somehow, I doubt this is the case.
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Post by papersilly on Aug 22, 2022 2:48:02 GMT
Not the a-hole
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Post by jennoconnell on Aug 22, 2022 4:54:21 GMT
The stepfather is an asshole. No stepparent should be making financial demands of their stepchild without the full agreement of the biological parent. Came here to say this. 100%. I also think the mother is at fault, as well. Blended families can be extremely difficult and complex to navigate, especially if the children are older when the new adult enters the picture. In this case, the writer was 13 when the stepfather moved in. I'm pretty shocked that the atmosphere in the home was such that the stepfather felt that he could make a major financial decision affecting the child without even discussing it with the mother.
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Post by hop2 on Aug 22, 2022 11:06:36 GMT
Imagine getting married and living in a house for five years without asking any questions about ownership, mortgage, rent etc. Wonder why the mother never said anything. I doubt the child would have mentioned rent going forward if the stepfather hadn't been such an arse. But to protect the asset the child needs some legal advice going forward. Especially if they plan to move for college or work. Some sort of legal, written down agreement should be in place when they become legally an adult. hmmm, your right, I was leaning towards the kid was being spiteful BUT you do make an excellent point - without legal Documentation the parents could ( especially the ass of a stepfather ) could try to claim some sort of squatters rights. Yes that youth needs legal documentation now that they are 18 wether the rent is high or just a token to form the legal necessity is the question.
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Post by mikklynn on Aug 22, 2022 12:48:19 GMT
The stepfather is an asshole. No stepparent should be making financial demands of their stepchild without the full agreement of the biological parent. I’m sure a man who does shit like this has been a shitty stepparent in plenty of other ways. He deserves what the kid dished out and probably a lot more.
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Post by Really Red on Aug 22, 2022 13:54:36 GMT
The stepfather is an asshole. No stepparent should be making financial demands of their stepchild without the full agreement of the biological parent. I’m sure a man who does shit like this has been a shitty stepparent in plenty of other ways. He deserves what the kid dished out and probably a lot more. Okay - I agree with all this, but I believe the mom is the asshole. This is the kind of person she brought into her son's life. Someone who does that? Seriously, she needs to rethink things. Son is NTA for sure, but definitely needs to think about how he'll pay mortgage (if any) and take care of repairs and pay for utilities. My gosh. Every time I think about it, I think the Mom is a POS.
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Post by iamkristinl16 on Aug 22, 2022 13:55:06 GMT
Who said that they do? I was referring to the idea that the child could have been renting the house out for years prior to being 18. But Mom has a responsibility to house the kid period and it seems like she’s been living rent free in a house she never owned — parents weren’t married. The house could have (and perhaps should have) been rented out to provide additional support for the child including a college fund. Seems like Mom and stepdad have been taking advantage of the kid’s inheritance. We don’t know what the original will said and how the house was to be handled prior to child turning 18. Maybe the house was dads way of taking care of the kid even after he was gone. Also, renting a house out isn’t always easy. Would mom be responsible for being landlord until the child was old enough? That seems like a huge burden to mom if she is supposed to do that without any compensation. There are a lot of things we don’t know about the situation, but from what we do know, mom wasn’t clear with stepdad about the house. There need to be conversations about what happens when child does turn 18.
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