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Post by Deleted on Jan 22, 2023 15:21:53 GMT
My sister spoke with the doctor last night who stated that she was very sick.
The woman that tried to manipulate several people into staying with her and taking care of her at home is in ICU.
This is completely fucking with my emotions.
My sister and her DH headed to OK. Not only to visit but to look at rehab facilities and long term care options. My sister the only one that matters anyway so that’s good
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Post by PenandInk on Jan 22, 2023 15:45:56 GMT
I’m so sorry you’re going though this. I saw your other thread, and I understand the place you’re in. Your mom is where she is because of choices SHE has made. She did not make these choices because of you or in spite of you. If your sister is the golden child, then the next moves are best made by her anyway. You need to decide what’s best for you, and then be at peace with the path you take. At the end of the day, you should take care of you first.
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Post by malibou on Jan 22, 2023 15:52:52 GMT
Damn, I bet this is messing with you. I'm so sorry.
Though easier said than done, I'd let your sister handle it and keep back.
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Post by scrappyesq on Jan 22, 2023 16:59:51 GMT
I am sorry that you're going through this.
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Post by cakediva on Jan 22, 2023 17:32:17 GMT
Hugs….
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Post by femalebusiness on Jan 22, 2023 17:36:19 GMT
I wish you peace.
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Post by elaine on Jan 22, 2023 17:37:43 GMT
Damn, I bet this is messing with you. I'm so sorry. Though easier said than done, I'd let your sister handle it and keep back. This. (((Hugs))) |
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Post by anniefb on Jan 22, 2023 17:43:28 GMT
Sending hugs @gajenny.
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Post by peabay on Jan 22, 2023 17:46:17 GMT
Sending you a lot of love. I'm sure you have a lot of complicated feelings about this - totally understandable. We've got your back.
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Post by tinydogmafia on Jan 22, 2023 17:46:53 GMT
I read your other post, and I can only imagine what a wild ride of emotions you must be having.
It's best that your sister handles this, it protects you on an emotional level. As hard as it is, your mom has made it clear how she feels through her behavior/actions toward you. This way she cannot manipulate or hurt you directly.
Be gentle with yourself. Snuggle your doggo, that always helps. Hugs.
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Post by stormsts on Jan 22, 2023 17:59:27 GMT
I am sorry that you are having to go through this. Sending you virtual hugs
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Post by freecharlie on Jan 22, 2023 18:24:37 GMT
I'm sorry. It's a tough situation to be in.
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Post by FurryP on Jan 22, 2023 18:30:46 GMT
I'm sorry that this complicated dilemma is messing with your emotions.  |
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Post by teddyw on Jan 22, 2023 18:33:18 GMT
I’m sorry this is so difficult for you.
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Post by snoopy on Jan 22, 2023 18:35:04 GMT
I’m so sorry you are going through this.
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Post by lucyg on Jan 22, 2023 18:54:45 GMT
I’m sorry. Families can be so complicated. |
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Post by epeanymous on Jan 22, 2023 18:58:45 GMT
I am so sorry for all of this.
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Post by originalvanillabean on Jan 22, 2023 19:14:58 GMT
(((Hugs)))
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Post by mellyw on Jan 22, 2023 19:16:00 GMT
I’m so sorry. What a complicated situation for you. I encourage you to do what’s best for you
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Post by purplebee on Jan 22, 2023 19:38:48 GMT
This has got to be so hard! But the situation is entirely your Mom’s fault, you never asked for this. Let your sister handle it, you need to put yourself first. Hugs….
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Post by Basket1lady on Jan 22, 2023 19:49:23 GMT
What a difficult situation. There are so many emotions that go into bad parents, but at the core I think we always mourn the relationship that never was. Let your sister deal with the details and give her support--for her own sake, not your mom's.
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Post by inkedup on Jan 22, 2023 19:57:38 GMT
Please be gentle with yourself and just let yourself feel how you feel. If you feel nothing, or deep sorrow, or great anger, or all the feelings or none of the feelings...
It's normal. It's okay.
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Post by peace on Jan 22, 2023 20:13:25 GMT
I'm so sorry. Take care of you-
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Post by paulao on Jan 22, 2023 21:05:55 GMT
Families suck. My older brother Steven hated me all his life. In fits of alcoholic rage he‘d get in my face and scream “fuck you Paula.” In front of my parents. Well, guess who ended up in ICU on a vent with multiple organ failure. And guess who ended up making the decision to take him off life support. Take a deep breath, step back, and say a prayer of thankfulness that you don’t have to deal with her.
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Post by RedSquirrelUK on Jan 22, 2023 22:09:54 GMT
Just hugs from me. I don't know what was in the other thread, but it sounds as if all this is very hard.
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Jan 23, 2023 0:11:31 GMT
Let your sister deal with the details and give her support--for her own sake, not your mom's. Take a deep breath, step back, and say a prayer of thankfulness that you don’t have to deal with her. I agree with where both these posts are headed. Your sister is the better person to deal with her under the circumstances. But do make it clear to your sister that she has your support. Don't second guess her decisions. Just be there for her as she handles it. |
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Post by quinlove on Jan 23, 2023 0:24:37 GMT
Sending love to you. Please be gentle with yourself. And, remember, we are all surrounding you with love and support. ❤️
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Post by mollycoddle on Jan 23, 2023 0:39:56 GMT
Damn, I bet this is messing with you. I'm so sorry. Though easier said than done, I'd let your sister handle it and keep back. This. ^^^ I’m very sorry. |
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Post by Bridget in MD on Jan 23, 2023 0:42:39 GMT
This has got to be so hard! But the situation is entirely your Mom’s fault, you never asked for this. Let your sister handle it, you need to put yourself first. Hugs…. 10000000000000000000000% |
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Post by Deleted on Jan 23, 2023 0:47:09 GMT
Thank you for your kind words. My mother has the people surrounding her that she wants. This does not include me. Yes, her choices brought her to exactly where she is. My head hurts. I spent the cold, damp and dark day hunkered at home and made dog treatos. Pretty sure I was the favorite today.  I feel sorry for my sister. I’m afraid she thinks I’m being petty and I’m sure her DH doesn’t think too kindly of me right now. He’s never walked in my shoes so he can pound sand. I’m afraid to admit that I’m feeling a little resentful of her as well. I hate feeling like that. I know this isn’t her fault or her choice |
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