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Post by freecharlie on Feb 19, 2023 0:54:53 GMT
After xh left I was smiling. Then my cousin, who came to hang out today after the gf showed up, asked if I wanted to go get dinner...yup, sure did.
And now, I'm relaxing in my tub feeling calm, peaceful...and happy.
I'm still working on buying the house. Both kids want to move back k in. But for now, it is peaceful and full of bliss
If you would have told me at the beginning (and some of you did) or even this time last year when I was doing better, but not great, that I would be here I would have rolled my eyes.
Yet here I am!
Thank you all for your support, words of encouragement, advice, kicks in the butt and generally just being here.
I love this place.
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Post by hop2 on Feb 19, 2023 0:57:13 GMT
Great
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Post by seaexplore on Feb 19, 2023 1:02:54 GMT
I love love love this update! You deserve peace and rest and happiness.
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Post by Merge on Feb 19, 2023 1:06:11 GMT
So happy for you. You deserve all the peace in the world.
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Post by cakediva on Feb 19, 2023 1:06:16 GMT
Hugs - I’m so glad to hear that and happy for you!
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Post by stormsts on Feb 19, 2023 1:11:18 GMT
What a wonderful update!
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anaterra
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Post by anaterra on Feb 19, 2023 1:13:38 GMT
((((Big hug))))
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Post by flanz on Feb 19, 2023 1:14:16 GMT
Such a joy to read your post. I'm very happy for you!!!
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Post by bandjmom on Feb 19, 2023 1:16:23 GMT
So happy for you! Your perseverance has paid off.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Feb 19, 2023 1:16:58 GMT
Good for you! I hope that you have nothing but smooth sailing from here on out.
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Post by Bridget in MD on Feb 19, 2023 1:18:39 GMT
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Post by craftedbys on Feb 19, 2023 1:23:09 GMT
You even "sound" much happier!
Glad you are doing so well.
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Post by librarylady on Feb 19, 2023 1:40:11 GMT
(applause)
If your adult children move back in, can you charge them at least a small amount to pay for the increased grocery bills? Perhaps split the utility bill between the adults? You can't act like they are age 10 and you pay for everything.
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Post by auntkelly on Feb 19, 2023 1:43:01 GMT
I’m glad you are feeling so positive! It must be such a relief to have your X’s stuff out of the house.
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Post by mom on Feb 19, 2023 1:47:07 GMT
I absolutely love reading your update. We all knew you could do this --- and end up better than before -- and you've done it.
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Post by Darcy Collins on Feb 19, 2023 1:47:59 GMT
I'm so glad the day ended positively - please take this for as it's intended. While the kids may want to move back into the house, make sure you're making the decision for what makes financial sense to you - so so SO many women end up hamstringed after a divorce as they feel like they need to keep the big house for the children when they really can't afford it. Don't jump into anything until you've really thought through what works for you long term - you're luck that your kids are grown, I think it's even harder when they're young and selling the house means changing schools, moving away from friends etc.
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Post by MaryMary on Feb 19, 2023 1:54:36 GMT
I am so happy for you. I remember being told that certain aspects of divorce would get easier and I absolutely did not believe it. They do. I’m glad you’re in a better place with things, as well.
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Post by 950nancy on Feb 19, 2023 1:55:25 GMT
As Colorado sisters, I have always taken quite an interest in your story (and really your mental health and safety). I am so glad to hear you feel more at peace. I haven't gone through a divorce, but I think time can really help people see that the person they once loved and promised to love forever just is no longer the person they know. They have done unforgivable things that change your perception of them. I am so glad you called the cops. Threaten someone... there's a consequence. I love that his living situation sounds like crap. He screwed up his relationship for what? He'll figure that out soon enough. One day soon, he's going to really regret losing his kids over this chick. He may stay with her, but the loss of your kids (especially kids who still love their momma) will be a hard pill to swallow once the newness of his new relationship sours. I also hope he ends up paying for as long as possible. She's reallllly got to be pissed about that.
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Post by freecharlie on Feb 19, 2023 2:24:00 GMT
(applause) If your adult children move back in, can you charge them at least a small amount to pay for the increased grocery bills? Perhaps split the utility bill between the adults? You can't act like they are age 10 and you pay for everything. the older one and his gf, yes. It will save them some money and help me out. I told them they'd have to commit for at least a year. The younger one, I figure he can pay maybe $100 / month over the summer. I will not charge him during the school year For both, any that I don't NEED to pay bills will go into an Ally bucket to give back to them. |
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Post by freecharlie on Feb 19, 2023 2:26:11 GMT
I'm so glad the day ended positively - please take this for as it's intended. While the kids may want to move back into the house, make sure you're making the decision for what makes financial sense to you - so so SO many women end up hamstringed after a divorce as they feel like they need to keep the big house for the children when they really can't afford it. Don't jump into anything until you've really thought through what works for you long term - you're luck that your kids are grown, I think it's even harder when they're young and selling the house means changing schools, moving away from friends etc. I go back and forth. If I had to rent, I'd be paying close to what I'll have to pay if I buy the house. Then I can decide if I want to sell it later. Still need to work out some of the logistics,so we will see. |
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Post by quietgirl on Feb 19, 2023 2:28:27 GMT
That's great. I did read your post and your update and I think you were awesome today. I'm so glad you are feeling good.
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Post by cadoodlebug on Feb 19, 2023 2:37:34 GMT
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Post by AussieMeg on Feb 19, 2023 2:45:24 GMT
If you would have told me at the beginning (and some of you did) or even this time last year when I was doing better, but not great, that I would be here I would have rolled my eyes. Yes we did tell you that! And I told the exact same thing to an acquaintance who recently discovered her husband was having an affair. She can't imagine it yet, but she'll get there, just like you did. I am so happy for you, that you're in a good place.  |
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Post by ScrapbookMyLife on Feb 19, 2023 3:29:08 GMT
I am glad that things are better for you, and that you are happy. Onward to the next chapter of your life!  |
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Post by ModChick on Feb 19, 2023 3:30:25 GMT
Wonderful update!
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Post by revirdsuba99 on Feb 19, 2023 3:41:22 GMT
So glad things went well today. You sound so happy tonight!! Enjoy your peace and quiet!!
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tanya2
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Post by tanya2 on Feb 19, 2023 4:28:09 GMT
I'm happy things are going so well! You deserve to be happy
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TXMary
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Post by TXMary on Feb 19, 2023 5:05:47 GMT
I love everything about this update. Enjoy your calm, peaceful and happy night.
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Post by destined2bmom on Feb 19, 2023 5:32:47 GMT
I am so happy for you! You have a lot to look forward to in the upcoming years!
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Post by peasapie on Feb 19, 2023 6:09:48 GMT
That is so much more than expected at this point.wonderful!
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