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Post by Jockscrap on Apr 21, 2023 23:44:40 GMT
I’m so sorry
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RosieKat
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Post by RosieKat on Apr 22, 2023 0:00:25 GMT
I can't "like" your update, but thanks for checking in. Many of us have been there and understand to varying degrees what you are dealing with, and all the raging, terrifying emotions in your heart. Positive thoughts for healing and strength for all your family and for all those working with your truly dear daughter. Love to you all.
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Post by lurker on Apr 22, 2023 0:06:21 GMT
I am so sorry to read this. Keeping your family in my thoughts.
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Post by mom on Apr 22, 2023 0:27:19 GMT
Thanks for all the good thoughts. Still in the ER waiting for her to be transferred to an inpatient facility. She’s not doing very well, unfortunately. DH has been gone on a business trip all week - he was supposed to be gone until next Wednesday, but he’s coming home tonight. I’m glad. Dealing with this on my own has been pretty hard. I do appreciate everyone’s messages. I am sorry you are going through this. DS1 (who had a suicide attempt back in late July) had an episode last week that left him inpatient for 6 days (he did not attempt suicide but threatened it). Like your daughter, he quit taking his meds. UGH. I hope your daughter is able to get the help she needs + is receptive to those who want her to thrive. I will be keeping you in my thoughts as you navigate this. We are here if you need to talk.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 22, 2023 0:51:59 GMT
No advice but I am so sorry she’s going through this and you’re going through it.
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Post by littlemama on Apr 22, 2023 1:01:02 GMT
Im just now seeing this and I am so sorry that your dd is struggling so much. I hope she is able to get the help she needs and is willing to stay on her medication. So many hugs going to you as well.
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Post by Merge on Apr 22, 2023 1:40:10 GMT
DH and I are both battling our anger with her. She lied to us over and over about being on her meds, for months. Looked us in our faces and lied. And then she was so rude and hurtful with me today. When she is feeling bad, I am her favorite target and boy did she let fly. They gave her haldol this morning, and she would sleep a few hours and then then wake up and ask all the same questions she asked the last time she was awake, and would become combative over the answers again. Exhausting. The psych ER staff was totally over her by about 1 PM.
I came home this evening and DH just went up there. He’s pretty mad so I’m not sure how long he will stay. I ended up coming home because I asked her to stop speaking to me in such a hurtful way, and she lashed out and told me to get the fuck out, so I did.
We know that she will be transferred sometime tonight and they will call me when that happens. I wish the process wasn’t so excruciatingly slow. Today has been like the ninth circle of hell.
While she was sleeping I just sat there and cried. I kept seeing her as a little girl, so peaceful and sweet. She was such a loving child. This disease robs you of the child you knew and puts a monster in her place. It’s awful.
Thanks for giving me a place to vent all of this.
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Post by Scrapper100 on Apr 22, 2023 1:52:28 GMT
I am so sorry you are going through this. This is a good place to vent.
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Post by refugeepea on Apr 22, 2023 1:58:39 GMT
I'm so sorry. I've been there many times. ((hugs)).
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Post by 5peanutsnana on Apr 22, 2023 2:05:28 GMT
Prayers that tomorrow will be a much better day for your daughter, and for you and your DH, too. May she come to the realization that how necessary it is to stay on her meds.
Someone very dear to me experienced the same thing with their daughter. It was a long, painful road but she is doing very well now. I hope this will be the case with your DD.
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Post by kenziekeeper on Apr 22, 2023 2:07:47 GMT
I missed this thread earlier today. So sorry to see it and your updates. I’ll be keeping you in my thoughts.
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Post by Merge on Apr 22, 2023 2:14:39 GMT
Hospital just called and she’s been transferred, and thank goodness she was cooperative with that. Now we wait to hear from her in a day or two hopefully.
Thanks again all for the kind words and thoughts. The peas always come though in a crisis!
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Post by 2peafaithful on Apr 22, 2023 2:30:03 GMT
I am so very sorry. My heart hurts for you both.
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Post by PenandInk on Apr 22, 2023 2:33:39 GMT
Thank you for the updates. I keep checking in and sending prayers. Your family is very much on my mind. Hopefully she’ll stay in treatment and take her recovery seriously. Merge, don’t listen to her attacks, you know it’s the disease speaking and not you. Easy for me to say, I know, and so hard to do. It does wear you down. Use this time to recover your own peace of mind, if you can.
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Post by quietgirl on Apr 22, 2023 2:44:10 GMT
I am really very sorry about all you are going through. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
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Post by callmenutz on Apr 22, 2023 2:45:34 GMT
I’m so sorry, my heart goes out to you and your daughter. My niece is bipolar and I know every detail of what my sister and BIL go through. I’ll be praying for you and your family. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
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Post by jovifan on Apr 22, 2023 3:23:59 GMT
Gosh, I’m teary reading your updates. You will get through this. You are strong. We are here for you
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Post by Texas Scrap on Apr 22, 2023 3:47:23 GMT
Just getting on and getting caught up, but was on the phone with my struggling college student tonight. No one tells you the challenges of parenting a young adult in 2023, particularly with mental health struggles. It is hard and heartbreaking and yet you are still the parent and feel the responsibility to keep it together while your child struggles. I'm so sorry. Hopefully you can get the rest you need tonight and I am praying you can find ways big and small to take care of yourself as you navigate the situation. And for your daughter to find her way.
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Gennifer
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Post by Gennifer on Apr 22, 2023 4:09:26 GMT
I’m just seeing this, Merge. I, like too many others, have been there, and it’s an awful, awful time. I’m glad she’s been admitted, and I hope you all can feel some peace knowing she’s somewhere to get help after the chaos and upheaval of the last day. 💕
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Post by leeny on Apr 22, 2023 4:22:01 GMT
I am so sorry you are going through this. As a Mom who has been through it with my own daughter, I want to say that while she is in the in-patient program, be sure to take care of yourself. Get sleep, eat and take advantage of any family programs available. This is a hard road to travel.
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Post by ntsf on Apr 22, 2023 4:44:07 GMT
yes, along with ignoring the hateful talk.. hard to do I know.. please get some support for you and your dh.. like therapy, or spiritual help or whatever. support groups.
none of us have the manual on how to do this parenting..
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Post by Marina on Apr 22, 2023 4:57:41 GMT
Merge I'm so sorry for the pain you and your DD are going through. I feel for you and pray she will be open to treatment. I send hugs to you.
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Post by Basket1lady on Apr 22, 2023 5:20:10 GMT
I'm so sorry that your family and your DD are dealing with this. I can't help but think that she's angry with you because it's safe--she knows that you love her. Sending healing thoughts your way that things improve and that your DD accepts the help that she's being offered.
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Post by smcast on Apr 22, 2023 6:31:22 GMT
My heart goes out to you. So very difficult! Try to sleep and stay strong. You are doing what you can.
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Post by gar on Apr 22, 2023 7:08:03 GMT
My heart breaks for you 😢 Your sweet little girl is still in there…I hope you get a calm call with her soon ((hugs))
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Post by RedSquirrelUK on Apr 22, 2023 8:12:43 GMT
Damn this is hard. Isn't it excruciating to have to wait until they get her meds right? But they will, and you'll get your lovely daughter back again. We'll be with you and praying for you all while you wait. Hugs
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Post by SAHM wannabe on Apr 22, 2023 9:21:05 GMT
I am so sorry your daughter is going through this. My heart aches knowing you’re in pain. Please take care of yourself and feel the love coming your way.
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Post by putabuttononit on Apr 22, 2023 9:26:57 GMT
You’re such a good mom. You’re there for her, and she probably doesn’t realize how lucky she is to have you at this moment but someday she will. I’m sure your mama heart is grieving! I’m so sorry. I have no words of wisdom but I’m praying for her and all of you. Be gentle with yourself and let friends or family help support you if you’re able.
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Post by dewryce on Apr 22, 2023 9:28:34 GMT
Thank you for the updates. I keep checking in and sending prayers. Your family is very much on my mind. Hopefully she’ll stay in treatment and take her recovery seriously. Merge, don’t listen to her attacks, you know it’s the disease speaking and not you. Easy for me to say, I know, and so hard to do. It does wear you down. Use this time to recover your own peace of mind, if you can. I agree. And I’ll add that when I get like this (it’s been a long time) I know I’m being hurtful, I know I don’t mean the hate spewing out of my mouth and I hate myself for it but I literally can not stop. My self talk is completely worthless, and I bite my tongue/cheek/lips until they bleed trying to stop myself. DH deals with it by just repeating “she’s bipolar” in his head over and over to be able to handle me and not take things personally. He recognizes it’s the disease and not me and is really good about separating the two. I don’t know how he deals with it all, but I’m so thankful every day that he does. He’s the strongest person I know, and I’m sure that’s the case for all of you who have a loved one with this disease. And I hope you know that for your loved one, your love and support makes a world of difference. Even if they can’t/don’t always recognize it or tell you. (((Hugs)))
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Post by peasapie on Apr 22, 2023 10:47:05 GMT
I’m so sorry to read this, Merge, and grateful your daughter is alive.
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