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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Apr 22, 2023 11:05:15 GMT
I’m checking in with my morning coffee and glad to hear that her transfer to inpatient therapy went smoothly. Hopefully she’ll get what she needs there to stabilize and then thrive. I’ll be keeping you in my thoughts.
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Post by Patter on Apr 22, 2023 11:08:59 GMT
Oh no, I can't imagine how scary. I pray that this morning sheds some answers and effective treatment plan. Hugs!
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Post by aj2hall on Apr 22, 2023 12:27:38 GMT
I’m so sorry. I hope she can get help and I hope she is able to finish her degree.
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Post by worrywart on Apr 22, 2023 12:57:10 GMT
I am so sorry. Hoping that she can get the help she needs to heal moving forward. Keeping you all in my thoughts.
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twinsmomfla99
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Post by twinsmomfla99 on Apr 22, 2023 12:58:03 GMT
I'm so sorry...this is heartbreaking. For what it is worth, I'm a college professor and this is a really tough time for students getting ready to graduate. Even the most stable ones. One of my dearest students...perfectionist but vulnerable, and also bipolar, had a crisis a few weeks ago. I was very scared for her when I could not reach her. She was hospitalized, but just for 4 days or so. If she needs to be somewhere safe to get things sorted out, please reach out/get her to reach out to her advisor. You shouldn't have to share details. I know it's not great timing. But we can work with things like this to preserve her ability to finish. So you both can concentrate on getting her better. There's a lot of fear and uncertainty around finishing the degree, what comes next, pressure to succeed. Maybe this doesn't apply here but it is a common these. Sending love to you both. 100% this! I’m a college advisor and have had students in similar situations. It’s heartbreaking, and of course the immediate response must be focused on their mental and physical well-being. That’s what you are doing now, and I am sending positive thoughts and hugs your way. But let the advisor know that something is going on—as much as you are comfortable sharing. They will start the process of supporting her academically, and when this crisis has passed, she won’t be facing bad news about school.
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Post by gramasue on Apr 22, 2023 12:58:07 GMT
@merge, I am so sorry that you, your family and your DD are going through this. Sending prayers and many positive thoughts that she gets the treatment she needs. Take care of yourself, too, and try not to be hurt by the hateful things she has said to you. It's not her, it's the disease. Trust me, your little girl still loves you.
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Post by iluvpink on Apr 22, 2023 13:05:38 GMT
I'm so sorry. Lots of (((HUGS))) to you and your family. I hope they can get her stable and back on meds and feeling better.
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Post by cannmom on Apr 22, 2023 13:21:55 GMT
I’m so sorry. Having dealt with family members with mental health issues I know the problems with keeping them on the medication. When they are taking it they feel good and decide they don’t need it. When they don’t take it and are in crisis it’s so hard to get through to them to make them understand that they need the medication. It’s a vicious cycle. I hope today is a better day for your daughter and you.
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Post by seaexplore on Apr 22, 2023 14:05:58 GMT
Sending you and your family love and healing. Please remember to take care of you and DH so you guys can be there for your DD. Your little girl is still in there needing your love.
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Post by mikklynn on Apr 22, 2023 14:09:33 GMT
I'm so sorry, @merge. Giant hugs to you and your family.
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Post by YooHoot on Apr 22, 2023 14:29:42 GMT
You got this mama. She’s in good hands. Take some time for yourself.
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Post by gigito7 on Apr 22, 2023 14:55:53 GMT
I’m so sorry for you, your daughter and family. It’s so hard, I know unfortunately. Take care of you so you can be there for her.
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Post by Merge on Apr 22, 2023 15:11:40 GMT
I'm so sorry...this is heartbreaking. For what it is worth, I'm a college professor and this is a really tough time for students getting ready to graduate. Even the most stable ones. One of my dearest students...perfectionist but vulnerable, and also bipolar, had a crisis a few weeks ago. I was very scared for her when I could not reach her. She was hospitalized, but just for 4 days or so. If she needs to be somewhere safe to get things sorted out, please reach out/get her to reach out to her advisor. You shouldn't have to share details. I know it's not great timing. But we can work with things like this to preserve her ability to finish. So you both can concentrate on getting her better. There's a lot of fear and uncertainty around finishing the degree, what comes next, pressure to succeed. Maybe this doesn't apply here but it is a common these. Sending love to you both. 100% this! I’m a college advisor and have had students in similar situations. It’s heartbreaking, and of course the immediate response must be focused on their mental and physical well-being. That’s what you are doing now, and I am sending positive thoughts and hugs your way. But let the advisor know that something is going on—as much as you are comfortable sharing. They will start the process of supporting her academically, and when this crisis has passed, she won’t be facing bad news about school. Thank you. I've already sent an email to her advisor. I used to be an advisor at the same university, so I know there's a process for students who have to be hospitalized. We'll get going on that. I'm hopeful that she can take incompletes, walk with her class at graduation, and then finish up any remaining work to get her actual diploma.
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Post by elaine on Apr 22, 2023 15:13:08 GMT
(((Hugs)))
I was sad to read your thread this morning. There are few things more heartbreaking than that long wait in the ER and then moving one of your children to an inpatient facility. I am relieved that they were able to find a bed for her relatively quickly and that the transition went smoothly. (It took us 3 days of my son being strapped to a bed in the ER waiting for them to find a bed in the state of VA).
Please be sure to take care of yourself. Get sleep and force yourself to eat enough, even if you aren’t hungry.
If you ever want to talk or just for support, feel free to PM me. I’m not on as much as I used to because of teaching, but I try to check daily.
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Post by edie3 on Apr 22, 2023 15:27:23 GMT
I am so sorry.
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Post by femalebusiness on Apr 22, 2023 15:32:32 GMT
Merge I thought of you first thing this morning. Sending positive vibes that it will all get better soon
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Post by peabay on Apr 22, 2023 15:48:35 GMT
Continuing to send my love and good thoughts. Hoping this is the rock bottom and it's all better from here.
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Post by Blind Squirrel on Apr 22, 2023 15:49:17 GMT
I'm so sorry for what you and your family are going through. I hope the coming days become easier and easier.
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rodeomom
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Post by rodeomom on Apr 22, 2023 15:53:28 GMT
Oh I'm heartbroken for you 💔 I wish I had some advice or words to make it better. (((HUGS)))
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Post by scrappinghappy on Apr 22, 2023 16:04:45 GMT
Hugs. I just saw this and sending prayers and strength. Lots of great advice on this thread. I really, really hope she gets to walk with her class. I wasn't able to and it is one of my biggest regrets as I am not on the list of graduates with the rest of my class.
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Post by lesserknownpea on Apr 22, 2023 18:09:56 GMT
I’ve been away and just saw your thread. My heart goes out to you.
This is so hard. So very hard. I spent my DD’s entire adolescence and most of her 20’s expecting one of her suicide attempts to eventually succeed. Her most recent serious one was 4 years ago.
But she’ll turn 40 this summer. And she is in a stable relationship with a good person, and has a good job. I’m so very grateful to get this far. And she and I have a close, honest relationship. She can tell me what she thinks, and know I won’t overreact. And I support her decisions about her life, even when they are not what I would do.
It wasn’t easy to get to here, and there has been enormous anguish along the way.
The biggest factor in making this a success for me has been working on myself. Strengthening myself. Knowing that while I could be a source of comfort and stability to my daughter, I could not live her life for her, and ultimately, I had to be strong enough for any outcome. When I got to that point, something changed in me. It’s not that I was no longer terrified, but there was also a calm place inside me.
I believe this change in me, in addition to helping my mental health, improved my relations with DD.
Right now, though, I send my most heartfelt thoughts for your shock and worry.
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Post by birukitty on Apr 22, 2023 19:34:48 GMT
Merge I just saw your thread and I am so very sorry you and your family are going through this. I'm sending all of my prayers and hugs to you.
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Post by scrappinmama on Apr 22, 2023 20:06:53 GMT
I'm just seeing all of this. I'm so sorry, Merge! It sounds like she is getting the care that she needs. I'll be thinking of your family as you cope with all of this!
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Post by originalvanillabean on Apr 22, 2023 20:08:48 GMT
So sorry. ((Hugs))
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Post by marie on Apr 22, 2023 20:56:58 GMT
I'm so sorry your family is going through this. Glad to hear though that her transfer to inpatient went smoothly. Sending hugs.
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Post by kokomo37 on Apr 22, 2023 21:19:11 GMT
Thinking of you and your family again today and wishing each day gets a little easier
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Post by Merge on Apr 22, 2023 23:35:03 GMT
Well shit. Now on top of everything else, I have Covid. Started symptoms yesterday and tested today, and it popped positive immediately. So who knows who I exposed yesterday in the ER (though we were required to wear a mask in any public area). Just lovely.
Thank you again to everyone for your support. She’s a very unhappy kid right now, but we were at least able to drop off some clothes and toiletries for her so she’ll be a little more comfortable.
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Post by tamiq on Apr 22, 2023 23:51:15 GMT
Well shit. Now on top of everything else, I have Covid. Started symptoms yesterday and tested today, and it popped positive immediately. So who knows who I exposed yesterday in the ER (though we were required to wear a mask in any public area). Just lovely. Thank you again to everyone for your support. She’s a very unhappy kid right now, but we were at least able to drop off some clothes and toiletries for her so she’ll be a little more comfortable. Oh wow, you really have it tough right now. I am keeping you and your daughter and family in my prayers.
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Post by supersoda on Apr 22, 2023 23:57:53 GMT
Well shit. Now on top of everything else, I have Covid. Started symptoms yesterday and tested today, and it popped positive immediately. So who knows who I exposed yesterday in the ER (though we were required to wear a mask in any public area). Just lovely. Thank you again to everyone for your support. She’s a very unhappy kid right now, but we were at least able to drop off some clothes and toiletries for her so she’ll be a little more comfortable. OMG, that sucks. Talk about a pile on. I hope your symptoms are mild and that you have the support you need to deal with it all.
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Post by lisae on Apr 22, 2023 23:58:19 GMT
I just saw this thread. I'm so sorry. Take care of yourself. I hope she gets the help she needs and is willing to receive it.
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