The Great Carpezio
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Post by The Great Carpezio on May 2, 2023 19:41:05 GMT
Ok...best answer. I know they are not perfect options.
If you do wear it all or most of the time...or whenever, do you love it? Did you have it remade at some point in time? (if you have been married for awhile)
Does it mean a lot to you?
I have been married 27 years, so I chose my ring over 28 years ago. It is not my style anymore. I am not sure I even loved it back then, but I had friends sway me (I was like 22 and had an "in" with someone). I wore it all the time but bedtime for probably the first five years of marriage...I gained weight and didn't resize (and it was too big for a while too), but I have been able to wear it for at least 15 of those years and have worn it off and on but mostly off the last ten years. I have recently started wearing a memorial ring again, and I took out my wedding ring.....still not feeling it (it is dated looking/baguettes and all and is raised and snags)....but the gold is worn down and I noticed it is also kinda bent--if it wasn't it probably would be too big again. So, it is also uncomfortable too.
I know a lot of people married as long as I am have had new rings or remade their rings. Part of me would like to do it, but I would rather spend the money on a trip or something. So, just curious about your ring wearing.
My grandmas always wore their rings, even to bed. My mom (widow) has three rings (one she thought was stolen for a long time---one of those weird ring stories). She wears two all the time when she is out in public; her really big anniversary ring she does not wear most of the time. If I asked, she would let me wear it, but it is flashy for me (and obviously her). My DH doesn't really care and doesn't wear his ring.
ETA: LOL, I just realized you can see my ring in the avatar (now I am wearing the platinum Celtic memorial ring made for those little feet---SIXTEEN years ago--crazy for those who remember)
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craftymom101
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Post by craftymom101 on May 2, 2023 19:46:34 GMT
I am engaged, not married, but I will not have a wedding band. My engagement ring features a large oval sapphire center stone with three diamonds on either side. We have decided not to add a wedding band when we get married in December. I might add one later, but for now, I will only wear my engagement ring. I do not take it off ever unless I'm cooking with something messy, then my fiancé will "wear" the ring on his pinky-finger until my hands are clean again.
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Post by Deleted on May 2, 2023 19:47:30 GMT
I don't wear my original wedding band/engagement ring. The engagement ring doesn't fit comfortably anymore and the band was bought to fit around it. It looks weird to wear just the band with the curve in it. I have a thin diamond anniversary band now and wear that pretty much all of the time except in bed or shower.
I also tend to either leave it at home or put it in a pocket when we're out hiking/walking.
I don't like jewelry so I have a bunch of necklaces, rings, and earrings that sit in a box, waiting for I don't know what.
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Post by Fidget on May 2, 2023 19:53:09 GMT
The main diamond fell out of my wedding ring in 1992. I still have the setting in my jewelry box. It would not fit on my finger any longer if I did have it intact. I'm a widow and would definitely wear it if it were complete.
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Post by bianca42 on May 2, 2023 19:53:50 GMT
I chose I always wear it. These days I very occasionally take it off (like rolling meatballs).
I did a 3 year stint of Karate that ended with the Covid shutdowns. I had to take them off for karate, so I ended up buying a silicone ring to replace the regular ones with. My finger was never naked, although I often forgot to switch back to my real ones and would find myself at work with my karate ring on.
There was also a 3 year period about 15 years ago where I didn't wear my engagement ring because the setting was loose and needed to be replaced. We didn't have a lot of extra money in our budget at that point, so I put it off for a long time. When I finally took it to get setting replaced at a small local jeweler, it ended up costing under $30. I was so mad at myself for assuming it would cost a ton without actually getting a quote.
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Post by Gem Girl on May 2, 2023 19:54:23 GMT
DH & I both keep our rings on unless they're being cleaned or we're working in the metal shop.
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The Birdhouse Lady
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Post by The Birdhouse Lady on May 2, 2023 19:55:06 GMT
Today is my 37th wedding anniversary.
I wear my ring every day and hardly ever take it off.
Is it my style....not really.
I can't imagine changing it though.
He did give me a beautiful ring for our 25th wedding anniversary, that is more my style now.
I love them both because of what it stands for and for who I married.
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The Great Carpezio
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Post by The Great Carpezio on May 2, 2023 19:55:32 GMT
I honestly can't imagine leaving any jewelry on. I know a lot of people do though. I take it off as soon as I am in the door...all jewelry.
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Post by aprilfay21 on May 2, 2023 19:57:39 GMT
I only wear it when leaving the house, or if we have guests over for an event. I rarely/never wear it at home.
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Post by sean&marysmommy on May 2, 2023 19:58:34 GMT
I chose "rarely wear it but sometimes pop it on." I don't know, I've never liked having any kind of jewelry on for long periods of time, and watches/bracelets and rings are the worst. I never stop being aware of them on my skin.
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huskergal
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Post by huskergal on May 2, 2023 19:59:02 GMT
My original ring is a cheap gold band that I got when we eloped.
My wedding ring was an engagement ring with a band. I lost my original ring with my diamond. Did not replace it.
When my dh and I went to Latvia in 2016, we bought Latvian bands and had my dad renew our vows. That is the band I wear now. I wear it all the time except to the gym or if I am doing something else where the ring might get caught or I damage it.
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pilcas
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Post by pilcas on May 2, 2023 19:59:57 GMT
Not the actual wedding band, it no longer fits. I I have another simple gold ring that I wear on that finger in its place. It’s very comfortable so I never take it off.
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Post by myshelly on May 2, 2023 20:00:24 GMT
I wear my rings when I am dressed. Putting them on is my last step of getting ready before I leave the house. Taking them off is one of the first things I do when I get undressed. We get undressed as soon as we are home for the day. I don’t wear them when I am in my at home clothes.
I do not shower in them or sleep in them. I don’t cook, swim, or put makeup on while wearing them.
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leeny
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Post by leeny on May 2, 2023 20:00:59 GMT
We will be married 44 years next month. My finger "grew out of" my original wedding set so we purchased new rings for both of us for our 35th. I have only taken my rings off for hospital visits. That is now the only piece of jewelry that I wear anymore.
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Post by gar on May 2, 2023 20:04:13 GMT
I’m not sure I can get it off now, it’s a title tight on my slightly arthritic knuckle. But I wouldn’t take it off anyway.
It’s a slim plain platinum band so there is no ‘style’ to go off.
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Post by Bridget in MD on May 2, 2023 20:06:58 GMT
I wore my rings daily but as soon as I got home, I took them off. I am extremely hard on my hands, and felt like I was constantly cleaning or doing stuff around the house, so I was worried about having the rings exposed to chemicals or abuse. I also cannot stand the feeling of water under the rings - so I never showered with them either. Now that I work from home full time, I rarely wear them. Only special occassions.
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Post by roundtwo on May 2, 2023 20:14:04 GMT
Today is my 37th wedding anniversary. Happy Anniversary! I wear mine every day all day since I cannot get them off. I have a crater, for lack of a better word, on that finger and while my rings spin around freely, I cannot get them over the bump below my knuckle. The nurse or doctor or whomever does that part of things, was able to get them off without cutting them when I was in for surgery both times in the past two years and I was able to get them back on with no trouble so it is very odd. But luckily I really like my rings so it is no biggie. |
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Post by GamGam on May 2, 2023 20:16:04 GMT
I have worn my wedding band (a plain white gold band) for all of the 61 years we have been married, except for the few hours of cataract surgery.
My engagement ring, however is now on the third edition. I upgraded to a larger diamond 20 years ago, and had the original diamond made into a wedding ring for DH. He loves it, and wears it except for when he goes to bed.
For our 60th wedding anniversary, (the Diamond Anniversary ) I upgraded again to a 3 stone ring. It makes my heart sing. Am I shallow? No doubt. But it reflects our love and the 3 children of our marriage and our commitment to one another and the beauty of a long, loving marriage. I am honored to wear it.
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The Great Carpezio
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Post by The Great Carpezio on May 2, 2023 20:24:35 GMT
I’m not sure I can get it off now, it’s a title tight on my slightly arthritic knuckle. But I wouldn’t take it off anyway. It’s a slim plain platinum band so there is no ‘style’ to go off. My memorial band is pretty much like that. Platinum band with subtle design...can't really go out of style. |
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Post by librarylady on May 2, 2023 20:26:50 GMT
My wedding ring was designed and made by a friend. When he showed us the ring he cautioned me, "This is not to be worn doing chores or gardening," consequently I wear it when going out/shopping etc, but take it off the minute I get home.
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pantsonfire
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Post by pantsonfire on May 2, 2023 20:28:15 GMT
Only time I take my ring off is for medical needs (MRI, surgery, allergic reaction, eczema on finger).
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Post by danalz on May 2, 2023 20:34:19 GMT
I do not wear my original wedding ring (married 20 years this summer) because we upgraded my ring 15 years ago. My original ring was white and blue sapphires.
I wear the new ring often but not every day. If I'm just working from home all day I don't put it on.
My mom passed away about 6 weeks ago and I inherited her diamond solitaire. That ring couldn't be resized to fit me so I've had that diamond put into my current ring. Now I have a very sentimental ring that I will absolute wear more often. She wore that ring every day and now I can wear it and remember her.
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Post by maryland on May 2, 2023 20:36:48 GMT
I love my wedding and engagement ring and never take them off unless we are going to the beach or I am painting.
Well, the fall of 2021 I was painting so took them off. They were always loose and spun around my finger. I never put them back on because my dog had a neurological disease and could no longer use her back legs and she was incontinent. So I had to lift her with a special harness every time she needed to go out, in her wheelchair and to move around the house. I was so busy taking care of her I di din't bother to put the rings back on. So finally I wanted to wear them again. They no longer fit. I can't take my other rings off either. Whatever I did using the special harness for 10 months, my hands completely changed.
I really miss my rings!
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anniebeth24
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Post by anniebeth24 on May 2, 2023 20:38:18 GMT
My engagement ring and wedding band are soldered together. I never remove them except to clean them.
If I were to get engaged today, I likely wouldn't choose this style, but they hold a great deal of sentiment, so I can't see ever replacing them.
We named our first dog after the jeweler who custom made the set!
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styxgirl
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Post by styxgirl on May 2, 2023 20:47:13 GMT
I'm "OTHER" have to explain. LOL!
I only wear my actual wedding ring and my other fancy rings on special, dress up occasions.
Otherwise, I wear a silicone wedding band all the time. It works best with my job and it's super-comfy!
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Post by wellway on May 2, 2023 20:53:03 GMT
Married three decades and the amount of jewellery I wear is a big fat zero. I find no matter what it is or what it's made from, I really dislike the feeling, whether it is rings, earrings, necklaces, braclets or watches.
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The Great Carpezio
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Post by The Great Carpezio on May 2, 2023 20:53:14 GMT
I do not wear my original wedding ring (married 20 years this summer) because we upgraded my ring 15 years ago. My original ring was white and blue sapphires. I wear the new ring often but not every day. If I'm just working from home all day I don't put it on. My mom passed away about 6 weeks ago and I inherited her diamond solitaire. That ring couldn't be resized to fit me so I've had that diamond put into my current ring. Now I have a very sentimental ring that I will absolute wear more often. She wore that ring every day and now I can wear it and remember her. I am sorry for your recent loss. |
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Post by chedanemi on May 2, 2023 20:55:12 GMT
I only wear mine when I leave the house. I don't want meat/poultry gunk on them, and I don't want bread dough, etc., embedded in them. I never wear any jewelry in the house. If I do go out, it all comes off and goes back in the jewelry box as soon as I get home.
My wedding set is curved, so traditional anniversary bands didn't sit against it correctly. For our 25th anniversary, I had a band custom made to nestle against the set. I do love the engagement, wedding and anniversary bands all soldered together nicely.
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Post by bethany102399 on May 2, 2023 20:57:40 GMT
For our 60th wedding anniversary, (the Diamond Anniversary ) I upgraded again to a 3 stone ring. It makes my heart sing. Am I shallow? No doubt. But it reflects our love and the 3 children of our marriage and our commitment to one another and the beauty of a long, loving marriage. I am honored to wear it. I don't think that makes you shallow, it makes you happy and has meaning to you. that's what matters. I've never wanted to upgrade my engagement/ wedding rings, I'm not a jewelry person so what I got then is what I'v got now. Do what works for you. My mom lost her engagement ring in a snowball fight before my parents got married. They didn't replace it until about a year before my dad died, 40+ years after they got married. It wasn't important to my mom and lack of funds meant she wore her wedding band for that time. She had started taking it off in the months before she died as she had lost a great deal of weight in a short time and I think was afraid she was going to loose it. I took it and dads ring when we cleaned out her house- they live in my jewelry box and will be passed on to my own kids. I asked for and helped pay for a ruby engagement ring, my birthstone. We had jeweler after jeweler try to talk us into a diamond as it was cheaper, but I wanted a ruby. It was also suggested I could upgrade later. Nope. I told that person they could pry it off my cold dead hand. I don't wear any other jewelry but a watch and even then it's a smart watch that I didn't know I needed until I got it. I take it off for medical procedures, and when we vacation - often at the beach and I'm terrified I'm going to loose it. I wear a silicone ring then. |
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Post by whipea on May 2, 2023 21:05:13 GMT
No, I never wanted one, never had one and feel they are a silly tradition.
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