Say something or let it go?

You don’t have proof that they did it and saying something to the parents will definitely end that close relationship you say you have with them.  Let it go.

I would let it go. I'm sure the parents are already mortified and hopefully they and their boys have learned a lesson. There's nothing helpful that can come out of having a conversation with them about it; an apology won't change what happened.

Not without proof. Their parents would have a conniption.

Let it go. Sounds like the parents don't have control over their kids and it's possible that their kids can do no wrong. That makes you the villain. I'd be furious if they were responsible.  Since you have no proof, what good will it do to say anything? You can't turn back time and the parents aren't going to suddenly set boundaries w/their kids. It's a shame they had to come. Sounds like the wedding was beautiful and fun despite their probable antics.

No. Nothing good can come of it now. It happened, it’s over. Dwell on the positive and not the negative.

The wedding is still at the forefront of your minds being so recent but it won’t be like that for very long. But if you say something that may not blow over, those problem could last much longer.

Your memories will soften the irritation/anger you feel so I’d let it go.

Congratulations on a successful wedding despite the inclement weather. Weddings can be so stressful on their own and I’m sure the rain just added to that stress. I’m very happy to read that it all worked out with no one getting rained on.

As to the boys, I think your suspicions are probably correct, but without solid proof there is really no advantage to confronting the parents. I would say that this does give you an excuse to avoid having these two boys at any future event without feeling too badly about not including them. Their father doesn’t know whether or not anyone actually witnessed his boys in the act and told you about it. Hence the deer in headlights look. Hopefully his embarrassment will be an unspoken but understood reason for the boys not being included from here on out. And if he is at all a decent man, he will come to you with apologies.

If for any reason you are required to include these kids in the future, I would pay a teen to keep watch over them since the parents are obviously negligent. Not necessarily making the supervision obvious, but making sure they understand they are to quietly keep an eye on the boys from a bit of a distance so that any future event is not damaged by their actions.

With all the available cell phones these days, I would probably have them just keep an eye on the boys, but hit record on their phone if she/he sees something getting out of hand before they stop them. The video would be a good thing to have to prove to the parents that whatever it was actually happened because it sounds like these parents will deny, deny, deny without it.

Hopefully this event was enough to shake the parents into realizing that they need to actually parent these boys. If they don’t, and the boys are allowed to continue running wild, I fear what else they will get into as they get older. I know my son wouldn’t have even noticed a fire alarm at that age or even considered for one second on pulling it.

I am curious though, aren’t most fire alarms behind glass with a sign “break glass in case of emergency” type of thing? Or at least high enough so that small children couldn’t reach the alarm? Are the boys tall for their age? Or could they have dragged a chair over to climb on? I am just wondering how they knew what the alarm was actually for. Also, would the fire department will be able to say how they learned of a possible fire? Did they get a phone call or are these alarms linked to the firehouse so that they would be able to tell you that an alarm was definitely manually activated? I have no idea how these things actually work.

Again, congratulations on a successful wedding!

Let it go. Sounds like the dad at least suspected it was their kids, and they probably dealt with it in private. No need to bring it up again.

Without proof, don't say anything.

No one should ever feel obligated to invite "known to be unruly and run wild" children to any event.
It is completely acceptable, to not include or issue an invite to children like that.

Let it go. You have no proof and nothing good will come from bringing it up.

It's fresh now but it probably will become a funny story someday. When my nephew was born, my SIL's mother snuck a cigarette in the bathroom at the hospital and set off the fire alarm. He's 36 years old now and believe me, we laugh about it. He loves that story.

I am sorry the alarm added to the stress level, but I have a suggestion:  would you be willing to share a couple of wedding photos with us?  Perhaps that would help you feel better.  And, for sure, we Peas would love ❤️ to see them.😄

let it go.  

There is absolutely nothing to be gained by telling the parents you think their kids pulled the alarm. You have no proof, the kids will lie and your relationship will never be the same.

Let it go and one day, it won’t seem such a big deal. Focus on the good and move forward.