peabay
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Post by peabay on Jun 29, 2023 20:23:15 GMT
Every once in awhile - we start out in the same bed but if either one of us has trouble getting back to sleep, we move to one of the other two empty bedrooms.
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Post by AussieMeg on Jun 29, 2023 22:24:14 GMT
I'm so surprised how many people said they sleep apart when one of them is sick. I've never even considered that! For me I want to be right next to the person in case they need anything (water, help to the bathroom, etc) and I want the same back if I'm sick. I just don't think I would sleep very well if I knew my husband was sick and I was in a different room, I would worry too much. Eh, he's a big boy, he doesn't need me to hold his hand when he's sick. I'm not talking about him being sick with a terminal illness. I'm talking about things like COVID or a cold, or gastro etc. I slept in the spare room when DSO had COVID, because I did NOT want to get it. He was well able to look after himself for the 5 or 7 days he was in iso. And recently I had a really bad cold, bad enough that I even took a day off work. I slept in the spare room again because DSO obviously didn't want to catch it. If he doesn't work, he doesn't get paid! And I didn't want him anywhere near me when I had gastro with explosive...... you get the idea.
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Post by belgravia on Jun 29, 2023 22:31:35 GMT
I'm so surprised how many people said they sleep apart when one of them is sick. I've never even considered that! For me I want to be right next to the person in case they need anything (water, help to the bathroom, etc) and I want the same back if I'm sick. I just don't think I would sleep very well if I knew my husband was sick and I was in a different room, I would worry too much. Really? We sleep apart when we are sick because neither of us wants to infect the other! Plus, I don’t sleep well when I’m sick and if I toss and turn or I’m awake reading or watching something I don’t want to wake my husband. I definitely don’t need him holding my hair back if I’m puking either.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Jun 29, 2023 23:58:43 GMT
I'm so surprised how many people said they sleep apart when one of them is sick. I've never even considered that! For me I want to be right next to the person in case they need anything (water, help to the bathroom, etc) and I want the same back if I'm sick. I just don't think I would sleep very well if I knew my husband was sick and I was in a different room, I would worry too much. Eh, he's a big boy, he doesn't need me to hold his hand when he's sick. I'm not talking about him being sick with a terminal illness. I'm talking about things like COVID or a cold, or gastro etc. I slept in the spare room when DSO had COVID, because I did NOT want to get it. He was well able to look after himself for the 5 or 7 days he was in iso. And recently I had a really bad cold, bad enough that I even took a day off work. I slept in the spare room again because DSO obviously didn't want to catch it. If he doesn't work, he doesn't get paid! And I didn't want him anywhere near me when I had gastro with explosive...... you get the idea. You make another good point about not working= not getting paid. We’re in the same boat, if DH is sick and can’t work we have to cancel appointments which means no money coming in. It’s in all of our best interests to keep him healthy at least. I work for him, from home so it’s less critical if I get sick because I can carry on from here in a more limited capacity without it affecting our livelihood.
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Post by shanniebananie on Jun 30, 2023 0:12:40 GMT
Our home has two master bedrooms and we do sleep apart. I take the dogs. We both snore and we each sleep much better alone. We still arrange "visits" but all sleeping is done alone. We will sleep together on vacations when it is not possible to separate, but much prefer to have our own bedrooms.
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scrappinwithoutpeas
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Post by scrappinwithoutpeas on Jun 30, 2023 0:14:05 GMT
I only sleep apart from DH when one of us is sick.
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Post by littlemama on Jun 30, 2023 0:51:34 GMT
I'm so surprised how many people said they sleep apart when one of them is sick. I've never even considered that! For me I want to be right next to the person in case they need anything (water, help to the bathroom, etc) and I want the same back if I'm sick. I just don't think I would sleep very well if I knew my husband was sick and I was in a different room, I would worry too much. You can still take care of someone and check on them without them breathing their germs directly into your face.
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Post by stittsygirl on Jun 30, 2023 4:26:06 GMT
We sleep apart, but that’s because I’m a night shifter and he works days. We still share a room, and since I don’t like messing up my sleep schedule I’m still up at nights when I’m off work and everyone else is asleep. It works better for us that way.
If I did sleep at night though we’d have to have separate rooms. I’m a light sleeper and any noise or movement will wake me.
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Post by dewryce on Jun 30, 2023 9:10:53 GMT
I'm so surprised how many people said they sleep apart when one of them is sick. I've never even considered that! For me I want to be right next to the person in case they need anything (water, help to the bathroom, etc) and I want the same back if I'm sick. I just don't think I would sleep very well if I knew my husband was sick and I was in a different room, I would worry too much. Really? We sleep apart when we are sick because neither of us wants to infect the other! Plus, I don’t sleep well when I’m sick and if I toss and turn or I’m awake reading or watching something I don’t want to wake my husband. I definitely don’t need him holding my hair back if I’m puking either. For us, if one of us is sick we’ve likely already passed it along to the other sharing drinks, eating off each other’s silverware or sharing food, kissing, snuggling, hanging out right next to each other, etc. Plus, it works for us to take care of each other, but I understand not everyone likes that and just wants to be left alone. Even when he’s not sick many nights I’m passing him my glass of water when he’s coughing (allergies). I’m a night owl with insomnia so I’m often awake. But it was a different story before he got his CPAP and when he kept hitting snooze on his alarm clock. Wanted to smother him, but we didn’t have an extra bed at the time.
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Jun 30, 2023 13:32:52 GMT
No and we also sleep in a full-sized bed. We may get a queen for our next mattress, but when we have slept in a king at a hotel, we end up only sleeping in about 2/3 of the bed. When dh had covid (before I also got it), he slept on an air mattress in the living room and neither of us slept well We have a queen even though our bedroom is easily big enough for a king. We generally sleep with some bit of our bodies touching though. I told him he could get a king but I’m still scooching over to sleep next to him so it’s really a waste of space! And I can only remember once or twice when we opted to sleep separately under the same roof and it was due to contagious illness. And that’s been years ago in the early years of our marriage. Now we just figure we share all our germs anyway so we sleep together even when sick.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Jun 30, 2023 13:55:36 GMT
Isn't the CPAP more annoying than the snoring? Not even close. You'd have to be right on top of the machine on my side of the bed to even hear it. Jeremy is such a light sleeper. If I fall asleep without it, he has a terrible time sleeping. The CPAP is so quiet, he has a small fan on his side of the bed and can't even hear the machine. Snoring is way worse. We sleep together every night. When he complained about my snoring, I went and had the sleep study done so I could get a CPAP and we could continue enjoying sleeping together.
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Post by wholarmor on Jun 30, 2023 22:19:37 GMT
I'm so surprised how many people said they sleep apart when one of them is sick. I've never even considered that! For me I want to be right next to the person in case they need anything (water, help to the bathroom, etc) and I want the same back if I'm sick. I just don't think I would sleep very well if I knew my husband was sick and I was in a different room, I would worry too much. Eh, he's a big boy, he doesn't need me to hold his hand when he's sick. I'm not talking about him being sick with a terminal illness. I'm talking about things like COVID or a cold, or gastro etc. I slept in the spare room when DSO had COVID, because I did NOT want to get it. He was well able to look after himself for the 5 or 7 days he was in iso. And recently I had a really bad cold, bad enough that I even took a day off work. I slept in the spare room again because DSO obviously didn't want to catch it. If he doesn't work, he doesn't get paid! And I didn't want him anywhere near me when I had gastro with explosive...... you get the idea. Yeah, I have no desire to sleep near anyone when I'm sick or they're sick.
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Post by refugeepea on Jun 30, 2023 23:19:51 GMT
Yes! Initially, it was so I could be near my son's bedroom. Now that I can hear my husband snoring directly above me some nights, I'd rather sleep on the couch. I do miss that bed.
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Post by janeinbama on Jul 2, 2023 12:41:11 GMT
There was a time I would have seriously considered it due to DH's snoring but he did the sleep study and now he has a CPAP. He’s welcome in the bedroom again. That's funny, because we were talking the other day, and I wondered whether I had mild sleep apnea, and that I should go get a sleep study done. DSO said "If you have to get a CPAP machine, that's it, you're OUT!" Isn't the CPAP more annoying than the snoring? CPAP is like white noise. Much better and healthier than snoring. Says CPAP user of 24 years. We sleep in same bed king size.
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Post by nine on Jul 2, 2023 18:58:50 GMT
We have for a while. We are both happy with it. He goes to bed early. I like to watch tv in bed. He gets up early, I sleep in. And we both snore.
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