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Post by wholarmor on Jun 29, 2023 1:15:39 GMT
I saw this asked on Facebook, and was curious as to what the Peas say. We used to sleep in the same room, and sometimes we still do, but I think we found that we sleep better apart. I like to fall asleep with the TV and we both tend to move around a lot at night. We both snore. I used to think people who didn't share a bed would have a bad relationship, but I don't think it's true at all now.
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Post by fiddlesticks on Jun 29, 2023 1:37:48 GMT
We started sleeping apart when DH had back surgery and we both slept so much better that it just stuck!
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Post by auntiepeas on Jun 29, 2023 1:41:31 GMT
Occasionally. For instance, I had surgery earlier this month and slept in the guest room for the first two weeks of my recovery at home.
And when dh broke his leg (not sprained his ankle like we first thought 😬) last year he slept in the guest room until after his final cast was removed.
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Post by cadoodlebug on Jun 29, 2023 1:44:26 GMT
If one of us is sick, then I'll sleep in a guest bedroom. Otherwise we have a king-sized bed. We don't do well in a queen or double.
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Post by katlady on Jun 29, 2023 1:46:57 GMT
Only if one of us is sick.
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Post by Zee on Jun 29, 2023 2:00:04 GMT
Never when we're both home, but he travels a lot and I work nights so that means we do sleep separately a lot of the time.
I don't like sleeping alone so I generally have a cat or two and the dog with me. I like someone touching my leg!
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Post by scrapmaven on Jun 29, 2023 2:03:19 GMT
We sleep together, but we have a split king and we probably each have our own zip codes.
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Post by lisae on Jun 29, 2023 2:07:25 GMT
We have a split king which is 2 twins. They are adjustable and it has helped our sleep as well as been a real lifesaver when DH has had surgery to be able to elevate the head of the bed to get in and out easier.
I sleep in the guest room if one of us is sick that is typically only a couple of days a year.
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Post by cmpeter on Jun 29, 2023 2:22:24 GMT
No. The only time we have (besides travel) was when he had Covid and had to quarantine.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 29, 2023 2:24:35 GMT
We don't although there are nights I thought about going to the guest room.
My parents started sleeping in separate rooms about 20 years ago. Dad snores something awful and would never do a sleep study so they slept in separate rooms. Probably saved their marriage.
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Post by AussieMeg on Jun 29, 2023 2:28:14 GMT
I said "No" but once in a blue moon we do, if one of us is sick. If you asked either of us, we would both say that we'd prefer to sleep in separate rooms  but we're not prepared to make that leap just yet. Mind you, neither of us would be willing to move to a room without an en suite, so we'll probably have to share a room and bed forever.  We have a King bed, and over Easter we went away with DSO's family. We got the room with the double bed, so two sizes smaller than our bed. DSO ended up sleeping on a blow up mattress rather than us trying to sleep in a double! I have a few friends who sleep separately, mainly due to snoring. |
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Post by momto4kiddos on Jun 29, 2023 2:42:53 GMT
I sleep a million times better alone...well the dog sleeps with me, but he's easier to sleep with than dh. dh snores horribly, like I can hear him several rooms away. He says I snore too, but doesn't seem as bothered by me as I am him.
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Post by jemali on Jun 29, 2023 2:44:18 GMT
We slept in separate beds when I had Covid and I hated it. Even though he snores sometimes. He claims I do too sometimes, but…
For a lot of our marriage he worked 3rd shift so we had to sleep apart.
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Post by Gennifer on Jun 29, 2023 2:44:22 GMT
While there is a possibility we might sleep better if we were separate, I value the time together in bed just before we go to sleep and right after we wake up too much to give it up.
My husband was sick last week, and I slept with a mask on rather than go somewhere else.
ETA: I’d never say never, because who knows what might happen down the road. Right now we don’t have any empty bedrooms, though, so it’s moot. Neither of us would sleep better on the couch. 😜
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Post by mymindseyedpea on Jun 29, 2023 2:45:57 GMT
I’m not with them anymore but we still live together for the time being and we sleep in separate rooms, and we did so even before we broke up for a while.
They sleep with the fan on, I can’t.
They go to bed much earlier than I do too.
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Post by mom on Jun 29, 2023 2:47:59 GMT
Never. We have a king sized bed and never touch unless we want to. I wear an eye mask because he likes the tv on and I hate it.
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Post by Sarah*H on Jun 29, 2023 2:54:33 GMT
We both have intermittent insomnia and if it's bad enough, whoever is struggling to sleep will go downstairs to the couch. And that's only when our kids are away at school; when they are home, it's pretty normal for our son to crash on the couch after playing video games. When the kids are home, we swap directions we're sleeping on the bed.
I use ear plugs to block out his snoring and we have a Woozoo fan that works really well to both keep the room cool and create white noise which improves our sleeping. We also have a king size bed that helps.
We do sleep separately when he's sick because he's a germaphobe so much that he can't bear the thought of exposing me to his germs. I haven't been sick since at least a year before Covid so I haven't kicked him out for that reason in a very long time, lol!
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Post by luckyjune on Jun 29, 2023 3:13:06 GMT
We are tonight because DH just tested positive for Covid for the first time. He made it all that time, only to get it at the same conference where I picked it up last year. Not counting myself out, as last year, I felt crappy and tested four times before I got a positive test.
Normally, we do not sleep in separate beds.
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Post by sueg on Jun 29, 2023 3:23:28 GMT
We sleep in the same bed when we are both in the same place. DH travels a lot for work and I am just returning from a solo journey to visit family, so obviously we sleep apart then, but it’s not through choice.
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Post by ScrapbookMyLife on Jun 29, 2023 3:44:23 GMT
I don't have significant other, but if I did....I want my own room for sleeping. I am a very light sleeper. I need to have it quiet, dark, fan on, room cold, weighted blanket. Absolutely NO!! >> snoring, snortling, nose whistling, gurgling, flip-flopping, groaning, moving around, sleep talking, getting up and down, farting, etc...allowed.     Edited to add: I know this from experience >> The quieter someone is trying to be in the morning to not wake the other person, the louder they are. |
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Post by TXMary on Jun 29, 2023 4:00:44 GMT
There was a time I would have seriously considered it due to DH's snoring but he did the sleep study and now he has a CPAP. He’s welcome in the bedroom again.  We have a Sleep Number adjustable split king and we love that bed. Neither one of us would ever willingly give it up. |
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Post by psoccer on Jun 29, 2023 4:08:53 GMT
I haven't slept in the same room as my husband in years. It started that I like to stay up later, and he is in bed by 7:30 due to his work schedule. Which also meant that he would get up around 3:30 and it was lights on and shower on. The clincher was his snoring. I would get a few hours of sleep, we just slept in the same bed the other night for a family event, and I was exhausted. He has a cpap machine, but won't use it. So I sleep in one of the other rooms, it is dark and quiet.
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Post by flanz on Jun 29, 2023 4:18:57 GMT
Only if one of us is sick. this |
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Post by femalebusiness on Jun 29, 2023 4:31:59 GMT
Oh hell no! I married him so that I could sleep with him every night for the rest of my life.
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Post by AussieMeg on Jun 29, 2023 4:42:33 GMT
There was a time I would have seriously considered it due to DH's snoring but he did the sleep study and now he has a CPAP. He’s welcome in the bedroom again. That's funny, because we were talking the other day, and I wondered whether I had mild sleep apnea, and that I should go get a sleep study done. DSO said "If you have to get a CPAP machine, that's it, you're OUT!"  Isn't the CPAP more annoying than the snoring? |
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Post by padresfan619 on Jun 29, 2023 5:01:35 GMT
Sometimes I think my paternal grandparents had the right idea by having separate beds in the same room. I sleep so much better when I’m alone in bed but I miss him too much when he’s not home.
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Post by kluski on Jun 29, 2023 5:19:15 GMT
I wish.
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Post by wholarmor on Jun 29, 2023 7:00:26 GMT
Never when we're both home, but he travels a lot and I work nights so that means we do sleep separately a lot of the time. I don't like sleeping alone so I generally have a cat or two and the dog with me. I like someone touching my leg! I loved when my dog would snuggle in bed with me. Now it's too high for her, but she did jump up the other night for the first time in a very long time. |
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Post by wholarmor on Jun 29, 2023 7:08:18 GMT
We are tonight because DH just tested positive for Covid for the first time. He made it all that time, only to get it at the same conference where I picked it up last year. Not counting myself out, as last year, I felt crappy and tested four times before I got a positive test. Normally, we do not sleep in separate beds. Hope he gets well quickly. I did the whole testing 4 times before finally testing positive back before Thanksgiving. That was my first time getting it - even after DH and I were in the same bed together before we found out he had Covid(the first time) |
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Post by gar on Jun 29, 2023 8:29:10 GMT
No, always the same bed unless his snoring gets too much occasionally and I de-camp.
I can see the appeal of a bed to myself in some ways (like separate bathrooms) but I like his presence next to me too much really.
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but we're not prepared to make that leap just yet. Mind you, neither of us would be willing to move to a room without an en suite, so we'll probably have to share a room and bed forever. 
