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Post by Zee on Jul 14, 2023 19:10:24 GMT
Is there time to get a camera set up watching a place where the cat goes often, so they can watch him remotely? Maybe that would help with the anxiety.
When I leave my cats when I go out of town, I have a lady that comes by once a day and I also turn on a camera on the stairs so I can see them come and go through the day if I want to.
I'm not afraid the cats miss me particularly, but I do like to look occasionally and make sure they're all ok.
And certainly a cat can go without milk for a few days. Mine don't touch the stuff. Actually DH and I were just laughing about that today, how in old cartoons/movies people always gave cats a saucer of milk and made them catch their own mouse dinner. Then put them outside at night to prowl on fences and caterwaul and grumpy people threw shoes at them. We had some leftover milk in the jug today and tried to get them to drink it and not one of the five would touch it. They probably saw where that would head 😀
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Post by MichyM on Jul 14, 2023 19:18:19 GMT
I am glad things are sorted out, and I hope everyone has an absolutely lovely weekend! tracylynn , I had medical POA for both my parents (WA state), and my ex had it for his mother. My son holds it for me for no reason other than the fact that I am 62 and want him making decisions for me if the need should arise. My understanding is that until the person with the POA in place actually activates it, and/or becomes medically unable to make their own decisions, the person designated may not bypass the person with the POA and contact their medical providers themselves. It's been 11 years since my mother died, so things may have changed since then, I dunno.
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Post by dewryce on Jul 14, 2023 19:22:28 GMT
Is there time to get a camera set up watching a place where the cat goes often, so they can watch him remotely? Maybe that would help with the anxiety. When I leave my cats when I go out of town, I have a lady that comes by once a day and I also turn on a camera on the stairs so I can see them come and go through the day if I want to. I'm not afraid the cats miss me particularly, but I do like to look occasionally and make sure they're all ok. That’s a great idea! Also, when her granddaughter visits she can take pics and send them, especially of the cats snuggling up to her. We used to call our answering machine and talk to them. I know they loved it because DH did it one time he didn’t realize I was home, and they ran up to it and starting rubbing their cheeks across the machine. I know most people no longer have them, but I think it’s more likely in the elderly. Now that I think about it, maybe their granddaughter can have the cats FaceTime them. For future trips, they make a video camera/treat dispenser that uses remote access. I’ll see if I can find it, if I do I’ll post it here. Here is an article that reviews interactive pet cameras available this year. www.goodhousekeeping.com/life/pets/g34620165/best-pet-cameras/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=arb_ga_ghk_d_bm_comm_org_us_g34620165&gclid=CjwKCAjw5MOlBhBTEiwAAJ8e1tzOM_Q6xp2DlmniG2_YdJzRfEp7cKMNrJ0GjK47NlciQTLPW9CRWxoC9A8QAvD_BwE
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Post by Deleted on Jul 14, 2023 22:51:07 GMT
If it's really about the cat, is it too late to have him boarded? The cat will survive not getting his morning milk.
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Post by cycworker on Jul 15, 2023 2:28:49 GMT
miyooper2b Great to see your update. FWIW, I think you'd have been right to call the PCP. I know that we sometimes think if we had made a few different decisions about calling doctors - and once or twice challenging them - my Nana would've had a longer life, or at least a better quality of life in her last 6 months. MichyM That is good info re: the power of attorney. I know that I have it for my parents, and it is getting to the point where I need to have some frank conversations with my own mom. I would like to find out first how it all works. It may or may not be different here because I'm in British Columbia.
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Post by cycworker on Jul 15, 2023 2:37:21 GMT
I generally agree with everyone else. I guess the question that comes up for me is why didn't they have the wedding in the town where his grandparents live, if it was important to him to have them there? Certainly would've made it a lot easier. You can't force them to go. They just have to decide what they will regret more - going to the wedding or staying home. The major players in the wedding live 6 hours away. It would be ridiculous to consider moving the wedding for the 2 grandparents to attend. It is obvious that you have never planned a wedding. The grandparents can view the wedding via Zoom and everyone will have a good time. I did miss that. Having said that, it some circles it's not uncommon to have a wedding in a different city from where you live if there is a reason why it would support a family member who you really want to attend. One of the places my brother & sister in law first wondered about holding their wedding was one they ruled out immediately when they realized the logistics of me attending with my wheelchair was going to make it near impossible. And one couple I know had two ceremonies... the legal one was local so grandparents could easily attend, just immediate family & a family meal. The other was a more traditional wedding outdoors in a place that was not suitable for two elderly folks, one of whom is in a wheelchair.
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Post by peace on Jul 15, 2023 15:08:42 GMT
I AM NOT A CAT PERSON SO STUPID QUESTION AHEAD
To clarify, I love cats. Just never owned one since I've had partners with cat issues. ANYWAY- are cats supposed to have milk? I remember as a kid finding a kitten and giving it milk but this was back in like 1970. Then I remember reading many years later that that you should give them water and not milk. I'm just curious. I suppose I could google but we all know the peas are smarter than that darn google.
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Post by 950nancy on Jul 15, 2023 15:14:22 GMT
Your update made me crack up a bit. I wrote a post that sometimes it just is about the cat, but I thought that seemed pretty insensitive thinking that it really could be something bigger with your parents. I know the only part I don't like about traveling is leaving my pups. I only leave them with one friend who says she'd rather lose one of my kids than one of my dogs. I do travel whenever possible, but it makes me feel good to get daily pictures of my pups enjoying their temporary home.
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Post by lisae on Jul 15, 2023 15:49:16 GMT
I'm glad they are going to the wedding. Everyone, including the cat, will have a nice weekend, I'm sure. You are a diligent daughter and I'm sure your parents appreciate your concern for them. Enjoy the trip!
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Post by Darcy Collins on Jul 15, 2023 18:08:02 GMT
Glad to hear the update. Love the idea of a video camera as well- you can pick one up pretty inexpensively at Best Buy. Hope all goes smoothly from here and they can enjoy the wedding!
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Post by MichyM on Jul 15, 2023 18:16:27 GMT
I AM NOT A CAT PERSON SO STUPID QUESTION AHEAD To clarify, I love cats. Just never owned one since I've had partners with cat issues. ANYWAY- are cats supposed to have milk? I remember as a kid finding a kitten and giving it milk but this was back in like 1970. Then I remember reading many years later that that you should give them water and not milk. I'm just curious. I suppose I could google but we all know the peas are smarter than that darn google. Most cats become lactose intolerant as they leave kittenhood. So no, it is definitely not recommended to give your cat any type of milk. It appears that this cat is one of the ones who can tolerate it. By this time, the cat "pawrents" would know if the cat could not. FTR, my girls get canned cat food only, EXCEPT they love cooked prawns (so do I) so if they're downstairs when I eat some, they come running. And yes, I'll break up one prawn in teeny bits and they each get half. Yes, they have me trained well.
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Post by tracylynn on Jul 15, 2023 22:24:56 GMT
I think the update is a good outcome on this. The only comment I have on the quote I made here is that the OP stated that her brother had medical POA over her parents. That's in place for a reason. People telling her not to call their DR are a bit out of line in my opinion.  Her and her siblings know when something is out of the ordinary. If this is that far out of the ordinary it's always worth a call. It doesn't hurt to be sure. And it sounds like, after her update, there are valid reasons for the medical POA and call to the Dr. How are we to know about previous issues? Her post came off like she wanted to make her doctor or a counselor tell them to go. I said what I said and do not regret it. Now that we all know there was a previous concern with odd behavior, it's different but again post came off like she was trying to force then to go by any means I wasn't picking on you in particular, it was just the one I picked to quote. Also, her original post did say her brother has POA. It didn't give reasons, but she did include that piece first.
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Post by teddyw on Jul 15, 2023 22:32:55 GMT
@miyoooer2b never feel bad about being concerned about your parents. People can be pissed about their loved ones contacting their physician but typically people wait a while before calling their doctor themself and people don’t always tell their doctor everything. My parents’ doctors were always thankful when we gave them a heads up to issues.
I’m glad you got to the bottom of it.
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