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Post by Lexica on Aug 7, 2023 19:05:20 GMT
Chatting some neighbors yesterday someone brought up the topic about the number of romantic partners we have had in our lifetime She knew her number immediately and the other two women as well as myself said we would have to think about it for a couple of minutes. It isn’t that the numbers are so high, just that I’ve never sat and totaled them up. For me, I’ve been single for many years. Someone married most of their life would, I assume, be able to give a faster response. She was very surprised that none of us could answer immediately.
If you were asked this question, would you know the answer immediately or would you have to think for a minute?
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pantsonfire
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Post by pantsonfire on Aug 7, 2023 19:10:40 GMT
Depends on their definition of romantic. If by kissing, cuddling, holding hands, that would be 3, including dh.
If by sexual romantic partner, that would be 1 (dh).
Had zero desire to be sexual with the other 2 (one was in high school).
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Post by The Birdhouse Lady on Aug 7, 2023 19:11:47 GMT
I would have to think about it for a minute...and my number would not be very high!  |
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Post by peabay on Aug 7, 2023 19:13:03 GMT
It's not something I think about all the time, so I would have to stop and think for a few seconds.
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Post by garcia5050 on Aug 7, 2023 19:15:48 GMT
Yeah - it's an 'it depends' answer. I had a lot of fun in high school and my first year out of high school. Apparently, my numbers are kind of high for the average person, so I usually don't even share the numbers. But I do know the numbers (i.e., # makeout only v. the whole shebang). People get judgy.
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Post by Crack-a-lackin on Aug 7, 2023 19:16:04 GMT
I do not know that without some thought.
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Post by Basket1lady on Aug 7, 2023 19:17:54 GMT
I would know immediately DH and I have been together since we were 17, so like you said, it's easy for me.
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Post by snyder on Aug 7, 2023 19:19:48 GMT
I am writing my bio, and have recenlty reviewed this topic by noting such relationships in an outline, so I would be able to answer, but I had to write them down and review them to make sure I had all that were influential to my life. I don't include those that were maybe a few dates.
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Post by SweetieBsMom on Aug 7, 2023 19:19:51 GMT
I would know immediately DH and I have been together since we were 17, so like you said, it's easy for me. Same with my DH. |
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Post by littlemama on Aug 7, 2023 19:24:35 GMT
The number is 1, so I wouldnt have to think about it.
For the record, I dont care if someone else's number is 0 or 200 or anything in between, nor would I judge of someone didnt know or had to think about it. (Felt the need to add that in case someone assumed that someone with a number of 1 would be judgy)
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Post by anaterra on Aug 7, 2023 19:26:08 GMT
I would not be able to answer that question.. even if I thought about it for a while... my ex was my 1st and only for 8 years... then we split.. I was in my mid 20s and chat rooms had just been invented... lol... I belonged to an aol chatroom and had "friends" I also went out A LOT with my sister or friends.. and sometimes did not go home alone... I was young wild and free.. I wasnt particularly safe... dumb dumb dumb... but when we know better..
but yeah I was a hoe for several years... and soooo nope.. have no clue what my number is.. but i will say not a lot of it was "ROMANTIC"... lol it was just having a good time!!
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Post by disneypal on Aug 7, 2023 19:33:36 GMT
If you were asked this question, would you know the answer immediately or would you have to think for a minute? I would know immediately |
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Post by Lexica on Aug 7, 2023 19:36:08 GMT
In this case, she was referring to sexual partners, not dates. I am so glad to see that for those of us who have had more than one, we would have to think for a little bit. It isn’t like I walk around knowing my number. And as I said, it isn’t that many, but I just don’t think about them when the relationship is over. And I will say that this subject created an argument with my ex fiancé. He wanted a number AND names. I refused. I told him if it was that important to him, I would think on it and give him the number, but not the names. None of them were in my life anymore so their name wouldn’t matter. I had no interest in his number or their names..
I wonder if it is different for men. Would they know their number immediately?
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Post by dewryce on Aug 7, 2023 19:40:48 GMT
I’ve always been a serial monogamist and met DH when I was 20 so I could answer immediately. Unless we’re talking “boyfriends” in middle school in which case I’d have to think for a minute or two  |
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Post by workingclassdog on Aug 7, 2023 19:54:32 GMT
It would take a few seconds/a minute.. not that it is a high number at all.
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Post by hopechest on Aug 7, 2023 19:58:08 GMT
During different parts of my life while single I was a ho-bag, so I do not know off the top of my head.
My DH and I have never told the other our "number". I told him early on that it is no secret we had lives before each other. We met when he was in his 40s and me late 30s. I won't lie if he asks, but don't ask unless you are prepared to hear the truth. LOL. It has served us well.
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Post by workingclassdog on Aug 7, 2023 19:59:27 GMT
This brings up something my niece apparently was talking about.. My sister shared with me.. I was shocked but I guess it is a thing between friends about your 'number'. Maybe it's always been a thing.. but my niece asked my sister (her mom) what her 'number' was. Niece apparently told my sister what her 'number' was.. I don't need to know what my kids numbers are AT ALL.. lol
Sister said NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS.. lol.. my sister's number is much more than mine. Granted she is single now for some few years, had her fair share of boyfriends before she was married.. way more than I did. Damn, she's a ho. (HAHA.. we joke about it.)
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Post by jenb72 on Aug 7, 2023 20:03:02 GMT
I'm 51. Sometimes I can't remember what I had for breakfast  . The number is low (less than 5), but I would still have to think about it for a sec, lol. Jen |
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Post by papersilly on Aug 7, 2023 20:06:29 GMT
i would know.
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Post by aprilfay21 on Aug 7, 2023 20:07:53 GMT
I would never be able to tell you. I was quite promiscuous in my youth.
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Post by paget on Aug 7, 2023 20:08:41 GMT
Immediate answer.
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Post by Tearisci on Aug 7, 2023 20:23:26 GMT
It's low but with 2 marriages that were 10 years and almost 20 years in length, there were a few in-between but not much. I've been married most of my adult life and am happily single now.
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Post by don on Aug 7, 2023 20:24:48 GMT
I wonder if it is different for men. Would they know their number immediately? Nope, but then I don't know how many grandkids I have. |
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Post by Zee on Aug 7, 2023 20:54:56 GMT
I thought only teenagers would ask each other how many people they've slept with.
It would never occur to me to bring this up at this age. Or care.
If I was dating a man who wanted to know, that would be the last date. Red flags.
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Post by Lexica on Aug 7, 2023 21:06:32 GMT
I thought only teenagers would ask each other how many people they've slept with. It would never occur to me to bring this up at this age. Or care. If I was dating a man who wanted to know, that would be the last date. Red flags. She wasn’t asking us to tell the actual number, she was asking if we knew what it was or if we would need to think on it. Three of us would need to think on it, she knew immediately. But then, it was her question as to whether or not we knew so obviously she had put some time into computing her number before. The rest of us had a varying number and length of marriages with relationships scattered in. That makes it require some thought, I think. workingclassdog , I would never want to know my son’s number or give him mine. And he would feel the same. Maybe it is different with a daughter? |
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Post by RedSquirrelUK on Aug 7, 2023 21:38:02 GMT
I've been with DH for nearly 30 years, and I haven't even thought of other relationships for ages, so I'd have to think too. But then I'm 54, menopausal and could forget my head if it wasn't screwed on.
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Post by femalebusiness on Aug 7, 2023 21:47:36 GMT
Not only do I not know/keep track of how many, I doubt I could even remember all of the names. I had a whole lot of fun before I met my husband. I wouldn't trade my single life for anything. I started early and thoroughly enjoyed myself.
Then I met my husband 💕💕and never thought about anyone but him ever since.
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Post by Sharon on Aug 7, 2023 21:50:11 GMT
I would know immediately - only one.
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Post by KikiPea on Aug 7, 2023 22:10:04 GMT
I knew immediately. 1st lasted 3 yrs in HS, 1 lasted 6 mo right out of HS, then my now DH- we dated for 3 yrs and have been married almost 27.
There were a few one off dates here and there, but maybe only 2-3, between HS and DH. DH has been my only sexual partner.
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Post by iluvpink on Aug 7, 2023 22:32:35 GMT
I know immediately but that's because I met dh at 17 and married him at 20. So even my tired brain can remember that!  Obviously for those that marry later or never or have long periods of time being single are going to have more. |
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. The number is low (less than 5), but I would still have to think about it for a sec, lol.
