Being a mom can be so hard!

13-16 is just rough with kids I think. Knowing others have dealt with the same stuff might not help, but it does get better.
I am sorry. It hurts I know.

This sounds flippant but i do NOT mean it that way…
If a 13 year old thinks you’re parenting right, you probably aren’t. (Of course a broad generalization!)

I’m sorry you’re having a rough time. You definitely are not alone.

I will echo everyone above and say that your child can hurt you like no one else in your life can. Try to remember back to when you were young and said something mean to your parents. You know you didn’t really mean it and you certainly didn’t feel that way for long. I can remember telling my mom that I hated her when I was not allowed to go to the beach for a grunion run like most of my friends were doing. I was mad for that one night, but I’m sure my mom felt hurt for quite a while. That was the only time that I used the hate word. I was mostly upset because a boy that I had a crush on was going.

When I had my own son and he said he hated me over something, I hugged him and said that I knew he didn’t really hate me, he just hated that I had the power to make some decisions that he disagreed with. That is all this is really.

I am sorry that you’re on the middle of this rough patch with your daughter. Try and not take it personally (though that’s hard!). Just know you aren’t alone and most - if not all of us - have been there and done that, lol. You aren’t alone.

13 year olds are jerks.

For me it was my DS. I will say it gets better. He’s now 21 and we have a great relationship. He actually wrote me a letter for Mothers Day 2 years ago telling me he regrets some of the things he said and did. He thanked me for always standing beside him even when he was pushing me away. Hang in there mama!! Keep being the amazing mother you are!! She’ll come around.

I hear ya...my youngest is 15 and every single day (it seems) I'm wrong about something. Something I said, did or just being here. I have two adult children and we have a great relationship so hoping once we get out of this stage we will also be close(r). Hang in there mamma!

So very true!  My mom used to tease that God made babies so cute and cuddly so that we would continue the species.  She said if they came into our lives as cranky teenagers, most people would stop at one child if they bothered to have any at all.  She had three of them and by the time we were cranky teens, she was pretty attached to us. 😉

... and they are so smart, be sure to tell them how well they are doing.

Is counselling possible? When someone crosses the line I will say “I need you to hear me”. If the topic comes up again I would talk about the positives in your lives right now.

Welcome to being the mom of a teenager. I never realized how stupid I was until I had teenagers. Suddenly, I was smart when they were older. Middle school is the hardest, because they are developing some independence, but are still too young to know what to do w/it.

There was a book called, Get Out of My Life, but First Could You Drop Me and Cheryl Off at the Mall. That says it all.

You are blessed w/cute, adorable babies, so that you won't clean their clocks when they're teenagers.

You know, there is a different way to look at this (and yes, I have been there too with then 15 year old DS), at least she feels safe and secure enough of you and your love for her that she is not afraid to do this.

I was telling someone earlier today that - for me - 14 was the worst parenting age. Terrible twos? Hahaha!

I feel your pain

Mine is almost 17 now and we are like best friends now.  

When she used to tell me that she hated me over some decision i made.  I used to tell her Good I know I am doing a good job then!!