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Post by chaosisapony on Jan 19, 2024 5:43:45 GMT
Why do I always feel guilty applying for jobs??? I'm not upset when others leave for better opportunities, I'm happy for them! But I just can't help but feel so guilty for even considering leaving. It's only myself and one other person that do what I do in the office and she is retiring in a few months. If I actually do get this new position (it's a long shot) that would leave my office high and dry and likely that person will feel too bad and delay her retirement. At the same time it's an amazing opportunity for me and a massive increase is salary. There are two positions available and it's not a job that is open to the general public so I'm feeling like I might just stand a chance. Please keep your fingers crossed for me peas! Update: I got an email that I am qualified for the position and was invited to take the test next week. The top 5 scoring candidates from testing will get interviews. Thanks for all of the encouragement and please keep your fingers crossed for me! Update #2: The test was done on Tuesday of this week and I had mixed feelings when I left. Overall I felt like I did well but I was the first person to leave with an hour to spare on the clock. Today I got an email saying I ranked #1 on testing! I have never ranked #1 on anything in my whole life.  That means I am guaranted an interview. So exciting! Final update in last post. Thank you all for your encouragement! |
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Post by mom on Jan 19, 2024 5:50:12 GMT
Good luck! I'll keep my fingers crossed for you!
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Post by Legacy Girl on Jan 19, 2024 5:51:36 GMT
You have my best wishes for every success in this exciting new opportunity!
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Post by busy on Jan 19, 2024 5:55:27 GMT
Do. Not. Feel. Guilty.
If they are so dependent upon any one person that it’s a big problem if they leave, that’s the company’s failing to properly plan for business continuity. That is NOT your responsibility.
Apply for opportunities you’re excited about because it’s in your best interests. You don’t owe the company anything besides doing your best work while you work there. Good luck!
ETA: Your coworker is retiring - she doesn't feel guilty about leaving. The company knows she's retiring and they haven't made a plan. Don't make decisions based on the needs of people/companies who don't make decisions based on you.
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Post by kristi521 on Jan 19, 2024 13:48:15 GMT
Do not feel guilty at all. I learned the hard way not to be a loyal to a company. It's business, companies do what they need to do to stay viable all the time. You need to do the same! Look at all the mass layoffs happening left and right.
I wish you the best of luck pursuing this new opportunity!
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Post by hop2 on Jan 19, 2024 13:55:25 GMT
Good luck. You gotta take care of you, no guilt needed
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Post by workingclassdog on Jan 19, 2024 14:06:12 GMT
I totally understand. I stayed at a job for 20 years and I should have tried to move upwards, and I didn't. I made decent money. Had a little retirement. Lots of time off. But when my boss retired, I was out. No severance or anything and it was near the end of that recession (around 2014 ish I think) I had to use my retirement to keep my house. Basically, had to start over late in life.
You need to look out for yourself!! Don't pass up an opportunity! Good luck to you!!
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Post by quietgirl on Jan 19, 2024 14:25:05 GMT
I know everyone has said it, but don't feel guilty. You do have to look out for yourself. Good luck with it and I wish you the best.
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Post by FuzzyMutt on Jan 19, 2024 14:34:29 GMT
Don’t feel guilty! The last job I left, I left for reasons other than salary. But I easily found another role that was a great fit and nearly a 30% increase in pay. I felt terribly guilty leaving my mentee (it had been 2 years) but my guy asked me the following: if your current company offered you xxxxxxx.xx (same as new company) would you be willing to give a third of it to mentee? Do you like him THAT much? Nope.. jumped ship- best decision ever! Btw- brought mentee to new company 6 months later  |
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Post by KelleeM on Jan 19, 2024 14:39:41 GMT
I really hope it works out for you!
Poor planning on their part isn’t your problem.
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Post by ~summer~ on Jan 19, 2024 14:53:02 GMT
Absolutely do not feel guilty.
I used to have a motto every 2 years: up or out baby! (I don’t have that mojo anymore haha)
Good luck - hope you get it keep us posted!
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Post by iowgirl on Jan 19, 2024 15:02:42 GMT
Good luck! It sounds like an opportunity that you can't miss.
That guilt you are feeling means you are a good person, but that doesn't mean you have to stay at your current job.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Jan 19, 2024 16:33:20 GMT
Good luck! And definitely don’t feel guilty about seeking out opportunities that might benefit you personally. No one is going to look out for you better than you can yourself! Fingers crossed that you get it.
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Post by femalebusiness on Jan 19, 2024 16:40:36 GMT
I get why you would feel a little guilty quitting your job at this particular time with your coworker about to retire. However, most companies wouldn't hesitate to lay you off if they didn't want you there anymore. They wouldn't care if you had bills that needed paying so try not to about them having to hustle to fill your spot on their payroll.
Hope you get the job.
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Post by Tearisci on Jan 19, 2024 16:50:26 GMT
Good luck and don't feel guilty at all!
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Post by mollycoddle on Jan 19, 2024 17:48:01 GMT
Best of luck! 🤞🏻🤞🏻
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Post by canadianlinda on Jan 19, 2024 18:42:25 GMT
Good luck!
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Post by lisae on Jan 19, 2024 20:21:34 GMT
I hope it works out for you. You have to do what is best for you.
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Post by disneypal on Jan 19, 2024 20:48:03 GMT
Why do I always feel guilty applying for jobs??? Because you are a loyal person...but don't feel guilty...that is how life is and you should seize the opportunity. I hope you get the job - best of luck and keep us updated if you can. |
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Post by 950nancy on Jan 19, 2024 20:58:26 GMT
Years ago I read/heard that the average person has 7 different careers/jobs as an adult. There is usually a reason for that. Do what benefits you.
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Post by chaosisapony on Jan 20, 2024 2:05:50 GMT
Thanks everyone, I really needed to hear these responses!
It's hard to reconcile feeling loyal to the job because of my awesome coworkers when management has shown me time and time again that I will always be stepped on whenever something goes down. They're really good at saying they appreciate me and the work I do but they are NOT good at actually showing it. Bottom line, this is just an opportunity I can't pass up.
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Post by chaosisapony on Jan 31, 2024 4:08:03 GMT
Small update in OP!
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Post by lucyg on Jan 31, 2024 4:10:28 GMT
Congrats on your update. You can do this!
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Post by bethany102399 on Jan 31, 2024 5:12:55 GMT
That's wonderful! I too got a call back today for a second interview so fingers crossed for both of us.
I will say this, I was laid off in September from my job of almost 20 years. The way I was treated after the layoff was announced (they asked me to stay to wrap up projects) told me it didn't matter how long I had been there, I was totally disposable. The position I have the second interview for is more money and what I pushed for years to be able to do at my previous company, yet was patted on the head and told you don't have the skills. Well my skills and I spent the day working on the "test project" the potential employer asked me for and I'm pretty proud of it if I do say so myself.
So there's my long winded answer for you. Sometimes you just have to go for it and see what happens.
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Post by chaosisapony on Jan 31, 2024 5:37:19 GMT
That's wonderful! I too got a call back today for a second interview so fingers crossed for both of us. I will say this, I was laid off in September from my job of almost 20 years. The way I was treated after the layoff was announced (they asked me to stay to wrap up projects) told me it didn't matter how long I had been there, I was totally disposable. The position I have the second interview for is more money and what I pushed for years to be able to do at my previous company, yet was patted on the head and told you don't have the skills. Well my skills and I spent the day working on the "test project" the potential employer asked me for and I'm pretty proud of it if I do say so myself. So there's my long winded answer for you. Sometimes you just have to go for it and see what happens. Good luck on your second interview! It can be so frustrating to know what you are capable of but not have your employer have any confidence in you. Here's to bigger and better things on the horizon for you! |
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Post by airforcemomof1 on Jan 31, 2024 17:50:54 GMT
Good luck!!
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Post by lurker on Jan 31, 2024 18:41:44 GMT
Best of luck to both of you!
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Post by auntkelly on Jan 31, 2024 19:06:32 GMT
Congrats!I hope you get the job!
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Post by crazy4scraps on Jan 31, 2024 19:30:17 GMT
Go you! I hope you score well and get the call back!  |
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Post by MZF on Jan 31, 2024 20:54:01 GMT
Good luck!!
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That means I am guaranted an interview. So exciting!
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