Who decorates your home?

We both pick things out and decide together. That being said, we rarely change decor and it mainly consists of paint the walls, hang some stuff on them, we arent fancy and dont want to spend a ton on changing it.

My ex-husband didn't care what I did. Not that this is shocking because he pretty much wasn't engaged with anything. 🙄

But Jeremy doesn't ever seem to mind decor items. Like curtains or knick knacks or paintings. But he cares deeply about the color on the walls. At first I found this annoying. Like he was standing in the way of me getting to have the house the way I wanted it. The last room we painted was the living room and I got pissy with him and I told him I was irritated that I had to do all the legwork on decorating and then felt like he demanded veto power. He carefully explained to me that just like my mood is impacted by my surroundings, his is too. And that he was not intentionally making me do all the legwork, he was just trying to give me as much power to decide as he could, weighing in only when something was really not to his liking.

I have thought differently about his perspective since the living room. We are remodeling our camper now and he has been involved since the picking of fabric. It was harder and yes, I've still had to do the majority of the legwork. But I brought him into everything. Fabric, countertops, paint color, flooring. I feel like when we are done, it's going to be a place that both of us enjoy. And that makes me feel good despite the fact that it is a lot more "work" for me to include him in decision making.

I live alone…so me. Although I hate making decision and really have no preferences for most house related things.

My “decorating” basically involves displaying the things that I have and love.  I also buy or acquire furniture that works for what I want or feels right when using.   That leads to very eclectic decorating but to a home that I enjoy living in also.

ETA - after reading Merge’s post I realized I am similar to her husband in that I never give a thought to the ‘soft’ items for the most part.  I have no curtains or drapes and very few decorative pillows or such. Rugs are about the only thing I would force myself to agonize over to pick.

Interesting thread, thanks for posting.

I do, but DS gets control over the things in "his" room (tv room) like the furniture's fabric and style. He couldn't tell you the colors of things in "my" room (living room) but I think he is color impaired in general. We always joke about how he has only 5 crayons in his box.

We/I am in the process of redecorating a few rooms. Just this morning he acted like we hadn’t talked at all about painting our bedroom. I have had paint samples up for weeks (and before that the same samples up about a year ago). I asked him what he prefers for pictures on the wall (a pic of the kids or a wildflower photo) and he said “what are you painting? What colors?” Then “whatever you want” in a slightly negative tone. I’m not sure what to make of that. We have most definitely talked about the painting because we are having someone else do it. But now he is going to act like he knows nothing?

I do all the decor in our home. Hubby says he trusts what I do and pick. When we moved to Texas I tried to include him in decisions and all he asked was to get rid of the awful wallpaper in the kitchen and bathroom. I took it from there.

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DH has a good eye and definitely has opinions about decor. He has always been this way. I always said if we could survive setting up our wedding registry then we were good for life.

When his small company moved offices and then expanded later he was the one to step up and take on the task of working with the designer to figure out how they wanted to tweek her design. He is an engineer so being fussy about things is in his nature.

this is my DH as well, so we will do some things together ie pick out paint colors or flooring, i basically let him make the final decision.

For the most part, me. But DH does show me things he likes.

When we moved into this house, he wanted to make the decisions on furniture and other items for the downstairs family room, and so he did.

My husband and I started building our house days after we got married. We picked out everything together. When the finish carpenter didn’t create a fireplace surround that we liked it was Vince who sketched out a plan for him. When we were having custom drapery done for the giant living room window, it was Vince who had the most input into the design.

Before he was into computers he had a photography/darkroom business and he had a great eye for balance and proportion. Color mattered to him as much as it does to me. We had super similar taste and liked almost all the same things. The large print photographs hanging on the walls are all his work that we had reprinted and framed.

When we moved in I took the lead on Christmas decorating as I don’t think it was something he’d thought much about before. He didn’t get what I envisioned - but very quickly jumped on board and became more actively involved after that year. He thought the house looked at its best when decorated for the holidays.

Now that he’s gone, I’ve had to make all the decisions by myself. Those first things, like tile for the shower surround and new countertop and flooring, were super hard, both in evaluating the options/finalizing a choice and emotionally in changing things that we had originally chosen together. I did seek input from people I trusted on big changes, like the flooring, because I wanted - needed - someone else's thoughts.

I will say it is getting easier to do some things on my own, like picking out a new chair and ottoman for the bedroom, and styling the whole reading nook in a way I like. But it’s not so much that I’m “making it my own” as some people say, as the house was very much “ours” because we both liked pretty much the same thing and my taste hasn’t really changed. The choices I’ve made would probably be very much the same if I were still able to collaborate with Vince.

I hate to say it but my DH taste in decor is bad! He looks at function more than form. For example, we need a narrow shelf or display type thing for indoor plants. He showed me a standing shoe rack he said would work. Not even an attractive shoe rack at that. A very basic utilitarian shoe rack.

He does however have excellent taste in women!

We do it together, and, luckily, we have pretty similar tastes.

We decide on big things together - wall color, flooring, furniture, etc. Little things, like decorative items, I mainly pick those out, but SO has picked out some too. There a couple of items in the house I don’t like, and I am sure there are some things he doesn’t like, but we compromise.

I have the vision and he helps me execute it by building and painting things. He does have ideas sometimes that I like to incorporate so the house feels like it has some of his personality in it, we are currently fixated on finding the perfect vintage globe, it was his idea. His office is fully is domain and it’s where he displays most of his automotive related things.