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Post by workingclassdog on Mar 7, 2024 16:28:29 GMT
Eh go to the dinner/concert.. I'm over 'having' to be at certain places I don't want to.
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Post by rodeomom on Mar 7, 2024 16:36:15 GMT
I would go to the family event. I'll be 64 this year and I'm losing more and more family members every year.
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Post by stormsts on Mar 7, 2024 16:41:11 GMT
I'm really torn. DH and I normally don't do anything to celebrate our anniversary. But if I had made special plans I would probably stick with them. On the other hand, if there was going to be family at the graduation party that I wanted to see, I would be tempted to go to that. Like some other have said, the older I get the more I want to see family.
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Post by epeanymous on Mar 7, 2024 16:53:04 GMT
This would be easy for me because every family event on my side ends in screaming and every one on dh’s side is stressful because of his parents, but if either one of us had a moderately functional family, I would probably do the family event and celebrate the anniversary another day.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Mar 7, 2024 16:59:37 GMT
I'll be 64 this year and I'm losing more and more family members every year. Yes, and I think sometimes that losing someone very close to you (Esther) makes you really take stock of everyone else in your life and how limited their time might actually be. So yes, this is playing with my heart in that way too.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Mar 7, 2024 17:00:59 GMT
but if either one of us had a moderately functional family, I'm sorry this is your reality. My family is not perfect, but I do know if I go, I will enjoy myself. Jeremy might not have a great time but he is a good sport and will put on his best face because he's just that kind of guy.
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Post by mich5481 on Mar 7, 2024 17:10:34 GMT
Is there anything special near the graduation party that you could tie in while you are there? For example, if the party is on Saturday, is there anything on Friday night there or on the way that you could do to celebrate your anniversary? Maybe there is a concert over there you could enjoy.
I'd vote for the party, mainly to see your older relatives. Make sure to get lots of pictures with them and of them!!
Is Chloe going to attend?
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Post by jeremysgirl on Mar 7, 2024 17:28:03 GMT
Is there anything special near the graduation party that you could tie in while you are there? For example, if the party is on Saturday, is there anything on Friday night there or on the way that you could do to celebrate your anniversary? Maybe there is a concert over there you could enjoy. The only problem with this plan (and it's a very good suggestion) is then we've added on the cost of the activity + another night in a hotel + another night of dog boarding. The cost factor is where I'm hung up on this idea. Is Chloe going to attend? Chloe works every other weekend. I have not discussed it with her, but if she's off, she may want to go tag along with us. I had planned to ask her once I had decided what I was doing.
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Post by cabinlivin on Mar 7, 2024 18:03:01 GMT
For me, family party every time. After losing family members and having regrets about missing some of the times with them we decided that we would do whatever we could to make it to all the big family events. A couple weeks ago we found out my niece's graduation & party is the same weekend that we had bought (non-refundable/transferable) comedian tickets to. Niece's graduation is a 7 hour drive for us and we can't make both work. We decided that we'll take the hit on the tickets and go spend the time with family. DH has also recently had some pretty scary health scares that have made us re-evaluate some of our time/money priorities. But I can understand the dilemma!
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Post by busy on Mar 7, 2024 18:24:40 GMT
I'd choose what I *wanted* to do. Family is important, but so is nurturing yourself and your relationship. At a big party, you're probably not going to get much time with each of the family members you want to see anyway, and if health is an issue, they likely won't stay out late at an evening party. So, how much time will you realistically get to spend with them?
A peaceful weekend with my spouse, a concert of my choosing and a nice dinner out to celebrate a milestone anniversary together is what I'd choose, given these two options.
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Post by 3boysnme on Mar 7, 2024 18:44:46 GMT
Send a nice gift for the graduate and enjoy the concert and dinner with your DH.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Mar 7, 2024 18:51:13 GMT
You guys, this poll wasn't supposed to be this close! There was supposed to be consensus here. LOL!
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Post by 3boysnme on Mar 7, 2024 18:53:15 GMT
You guys, this poll wasn't supposed to be this close! There was supposed to be consensus here. LOL! Those of us that chose the concert/dinner with hubby protest this vote! We will never concede!
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Post by mom on Mar 7, 2024 18:58:41 GMT
I say after the few years you and Jeremy have had, I think you should celebrate your anniversary doing something nice together and reconnect.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Mar 7, 2024 18:59:24 GMT
You guys, this poll wasn't supposed to be this close! There was supposed to be consensus here. LOL! Those of us that chose the concert/dinner with hubby protest this vote! We will never concede! 😂🤣😂
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Post by jeremysgirl on Mar 7, 2024 19:00:16 GMT
I say after the few years you and Jeremy have had, I think you should celebrate your anniversary doing something nice together and reconnect. This is a very thoughtful way to look at it.
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Post by 3boysnme on Mar 7, 2024 19:00:22 GMT
I say after the few years you and Jeremy have had, I think you should celebrate your anniversary doing something nice together and reconnect. Yes! This absolutely!!
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Post by compeateropeator on Mar 7, 2024 19:05:38 GMT
Is there a campground close by the party? Maybe then you could take the dog and camp. If the party got to much for Jermey he could stay for a while and then go check on the dog and hang and then go pick you up when you are ready.
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Post by anaterra on Mar 7, 2024 19:06:14 GMT
If its on a lake have Jeremy bring his fishing gear... he wil be a happy man... at least mine would...
Maybe someone will have a guitar and put on a concert by the firepit... Can yall take ur travel trailer???
I vote for the family thing... i would have fomo of all the things going on and all the people I miss... I would enjoy a family reunion...
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Post by FuzzyMutt on Mar 7, 2024 19:09:27 GMT
If it were me, it would be a family party without question.
But I left home at 17 and I’ve never lived within 10 hours of my family. So every opportunity to see family, especially if extended family will be there, but I don’t often see, winds out every time.
I go to a ton of concerts and dinners though. And the only concert I’ve ever missed that I was sad to was Tom Petty. I recently had tickets to see John Fogerty, finally able to perform his songs. Then, last minute, the opportunity to take my nephew, and his girlfriend, sightseeing and out for a very nice lunch came up. Picked my nephew up at 11.
Got lucky the concert was rained out and rescheduled for the next day, John Fogerty was amazing.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Mar 7, 2024 19:16:08 GMT
Is there a campground close by the party? Maybe then you could take the dog and camp. Well this might be the best idea yet. So much cheaper than a hotel and more cozy too. And we totally could bring the dog. Let me look into this idea. Because I think it's really a good one. Doesn't allow for us to go to the concert, but would save us some money.
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Post by don on Mar 7, 2024 19:16:43 GMT
Family is important, take the dog with. If the family can bring their obnoxious kids, surely you can bring your well behaved pet. Jer will struggle thru it, and you'll have a topic of conversation all the way home. It's called marriage and that's how it goes A $92.00 concert will cost $200 by the time you get home, the seats will be uncomfortable, the crowd will be noisy, and you won't really hear the music, and the Star will be on a big screen. Buy the DVD. I am also a firm believer your Anniversaries are none of my business. It is entirely the couple's opportunity to celebrate (or not) their state of matrimony. I truly enjoyed ours, even though we had to go to Outback Steakhouse instead of McDonalds.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Mar 7, 2024 19:22:21 GMT
I just ran the camper idea by him and he said, call your cousin and ask if there's a campground nearby. Then ask when her parents and brothers will be in town. If they will be in on Friday, we can book two nights, make a weekend out of it and have longer to visit with the people I am closer to. Ta da!
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Post by TXMary on Mar 7, 2024 19:30:59 GMT
At 62 and having lost a lot of family members, including all of my DH's immediate family (both parents and his only sibling) we would choose family. But I love the idea of taking your camper and making a weekend of it! I hope you can work that out because that would be perfect!
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Post by jeremysgirl on Mar 7, 2024 19:31:06 GMT
take the dog with. If the family can bring their obnoxious kids, surely you can bring your well behaved pet. I truly enjoyed ours, even though we had to go to Outback Steakhouse instead of McDonalds. Seriously you have a real way with words. Making me giggle. And you're definitely right, we'd have a lot to talk about on the way home, my family tends to be a very lively bunch.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Mar 7, 2024 19:33:33 GMT
But I love the idea of taking your camper and making a weekend of it! I hope you can work that out because that would be perfect! Honestly we just love spending time together in our camper. So this would be a much better way for us actually feel like we were celebrating our anniversary too with just a side visit to family. He said he would enjoy that more.
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Post by leannec on Mar 7, 2024 19:36:06 GMT
Graduation just isn’t the same big deal in the UK so easy answer for me but even so, I think I’d say go to the concert 😊 Same here in Canada ... and I'm glad! I would totally rather go to the concert!
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Post by disneypal on Mar 7, 2024 19:38:56 GMT
I would do the graduation party so you can see your family that you don’t get to see often, skip the concert but go to dinner on Friday or Sunday to celebrate your anniversary.
You might even get a hotel room for the night in a nearby town, you could use the concert money for the room.
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Post by Zee on Mar 7, 2024 19:41:28 GMT
I don't get to see all of my large extended family in one place very often anymore. And I don't enjoy concerts or eating out for entertainment.
So that would be an easy answer for me, family party.
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Post by caangel on Mar 7, 2024 19:42:32 GMT
Given the fact that it's a mini-family reunion of sorts and these are people you haven't seen in years, I'd choose the graduation party and celebrate the anniversary another time. Happy anniversary, by the way. This is my stance. Most of my extended family is 6-14hr plane flight away. There aren't many opportunities to visit in general and even fewer when everyone is in one place making it easier for us to visit. Is there something you can do the next morning as an anniversary activity for the two of you? Our anniversary is the day after the 4th of July. So either we are exhausted from the day before or already on a family vacation. We rarely celebrate the actual day And frequently find another point in the month or even the year to celebrate.
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