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Post by littlemama on Mar 7, 2024 20:08:23 GMT
I dont think a high school graduation is worth an 8 hour round trip, plus hotel, food, and boarding for the pets.
But, you have to decide how much you want to see these relatives- if you even will. Most grad parties are open houses and you dont know what time they will be there or if they will be there.
I think Id do the concert and dinner for your anniversary and then maybe another time travel to where the family is.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Mar 7, 2024 20:42:44 GMT
I dont think a high school graduation is worth an 8 hour round trip, plus hotel, food, and boarding for the pets. But, you have to decide how much you want to see these relatives- if you even will. Most grad parties are open houses and you dont know what time they will be there or if they will be there. I think Id do the concert and dinner for your anniversary and then maybe another time travel to where the family is. My family doesn't do the weird Midwestern open houses where people just come and go over a period of 4 hours never staying more than 30 minutes. That's one odd thing my Chicagoan parents never understood. And that's not how our family parties operate.
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Post by snyder on Mar 7, 2024 21:00:41 GMT
That's a tough choice.
Could you attend the graduation party during the day, then that evening find something for the two of you to do that is special to celebrate your 10 year anniversary? Does the place the party will be at have any really cool hotels and/or restaurants? Candle lit dinner over looking a city or something unique to that area?
I know you would miss the concert, but, and I'm not trying to be snarky here, but for $46 tickets, it can't be a chart topping group, so it would be fairly easy for me to let that one go, and go be with family you don't get to see often.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Mar 7, 2024 21:11:56 GMT
That's a tough choice.
Could you attend the graduation party during the day, then that evening find something for the two of you to do that is special to celebrate your 10 year anniversary? Does the place the party will be at have any really cool hotels and/or restaurants? Candle lit dinner over looking a city or something unique to that area?
I know you would miss the concert, but, and I'm not trying to be snarky here, but for $46 tickets, it can't be a chart topping group, so it would be fairly easy for me to let that one go, and go be with family you don't get to see often.
Yes, you were snarky. 😂😉 No not a chart topping artist. But someone I very much enjoy. And I was just kidding on the snarky comment. ❤️
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Post by pantsonfire on Mar 7, 2024 21:37:45 GMT
I say go with the one you think will fill your cup more. Don't make it about missing the concert person or missing family.
Honestly look at which one you believe will fill your cup and make you feel glad you chose it.
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Post by AussieMeg on Mar 7, 2024 22:56:18 GMT
I can see that you've already updated to say that you are going to the graduation party, but you know the Peas...... we still need to wade in with our two cents worth hahaha! Graduation parties aren't a thing here, thank goodness. So for me it's easy - I would be going to the concert and anniversary dinner. Especially if I didn't even really know the kid. And then I would fib and say that I had already bought the concert ticket before I knew about the graduation party, so nobody could guilt trip me. (Why are graduation parties even a thing? Surely we don't have to fork out money for every single life event, big and small? Or am I just a grumpy old woman? Don't answer that! )
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Post by quinlove on Mar 7, 2024 23:08:57 GMT
Is there a campground close by the party? Maybe then you could take the dog and camp. If the party got to much for Jermey he could stay for a while and then go check on the dog and hang and then go pick you up when you are ready. Way to go coming up with the perfect solution ! 😊😊😊
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Post by seaexplore on Mar 7, 2024 23:32:35 GMT
Love your update!
I read but didn’t give a suggestion to start because it’s such a tough choice. I think you are doing the best of both things and a concert later sounds perfect.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Mar 8, 2024 1:21:29 GMT
I can see that you've already updated to say that you are going to the graduation party, but you know the Peas...... we still need to wade in with our two cents worth hahaha! Graduation parties aren't a thing here, thank goodness. So for me it's easy - I would be going to the concert and anniversary dinner. Especially if I didn't even really know the kid. And then I would fib and say that I had already bought the concert ticket before I knew about the graduation party, so nobody could guilt trip me. (Why are graduation parties even a thing? Surely we don't have to fork out money for every single life event, big and small? Or am I just a grumpy old woman? Don't answer that! ) First of all you are a grumpy old woman. Poke poke. 🤣😂 But second, really when I consider it there are really very few events in a person's lifetime that are big things where a group gathers to celebrate. I don't know when the next time will be and I'll hate it if it is another funeral. My family is nice, wonderful, fun. I can make it to celebrate every once in a while I feel. I thought about it all day. And I feel like this is right thing to do.
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Post by cakediva on Mar 8, 2024 2:11:29 GMT
I will say I voted and then read your post 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️
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Post by hannahruth on Mar 8, 2024 14:59:22 GMT
I would prioritize the weekend with my partner, and do that. This ^^^^
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Post by River on Mar 8, 2024 15:53:14 GMT
Love your update! Perfect solution and I'm really happy the pup can go along with you.
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Post by smartypants71 on Mar 8, 2024 17:27:23 GMT
Love your update! That is a great compromise. For concert updates, you can always use the BandsInTown app. You can choose the artists you want to follow and it will provide you notifications of when those bands and similar artist will be near you.
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Post by Bridget in MD on Mar 8, 2024 19:47:17 GMT
I love your update!
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Post by craftymom101 on Mar 8, 2024 21:42:15 GMT
jeremysgirl I didn't see the thread before you posted your update, but I think you found the perfect solution!
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Post by flanz on Mar 8, 2024 23:34:18 GMT
just reading the question as asked without reading your post - solid vote for dinner/concert!
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Post by Zee on Mar 9, 2024 0:10:03 GMT
I can see that you've already updated to say that you are going to the graduation party, but you know the Peas...... we still need to wade in with our two cents worth hahaha! Graduation parties aren't a thing here, thank goodness. So for me it's easy - I would be going to the concert and anniversary dinner. Especially if I didn't even really know the kid. And then I would fib and say that I had already bought the concert ticket before I knew about the graduation party, so nobody could guilt trip me. (Why are graduation parties even a thing? Surely we don't have to fork out money for every single life event, big and small? Or am I just a grumpy old woman? Don't answer that! ) What's wrong with a graduation party? Asking sincerely. We had one for our daughter and it was really fun. Her friends, our friends, family. Some were there all day, some only a short time. We had food and drinks and music and just enjoyed the day. Yes, usually the guests bring gifts/money for the grad, but it's certainly not a condition of attending. Only here have I ever seen such dislike of parties/showers and it's honestly odd to me. 🤷♀️
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Post by Zee on Mar 9, 2024 0:13:19 GMT
I dont think a high school graduation is worth an 8 hour round trip, plus hotel, food, and boarding for the pets. But, you have to decide how much you want to see these relatives- if you even will. Most grad parties are open houses and you dont know what time they will be there or if they will be there. I think Id do the concert and dinner for your anniversary and then maybe another time travel to where the family is. My family doesn't do the weird Midwestern open houses where people just come and go over a period of 4 hours never staying more than 30 minutes. That's one odd thing my Chicagoan parents never understood. And that's not how our family parties operate. What's weird about it? No one has to feel obligated to stay but they're welcome to. I like it. I didn't realize that was a "Midwestern" thing. I am definitely Midwestern! But it seems like it's a thing here in the south too, at least among my friends here. ETA my mom's side of the family is Chicagoan but we still do it, so IDK...
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Post by teddyw on Mar 9, 2024 0:23:42 GMT
I love your update. I hope you get a makeup concert.
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Post by rickmer on Mar 9, 2024 13:29:58 GMT
Graduation just isn’t the same big deal in the UK so easy answer for me but even so, I think I’d say go to the concert 😊 agree with this, we don't have big graduation parties here either. and if my cousin invited a big group of family to their kid's hs graduation, i would probably decline even if no conflict.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Mar 9, 2024 14:34:11 GMT
I can see that you've already updated to say that you are going to the graduation party, but you know the Peas...... we still need to wade in with our two cents worth hahaha! Graduation parties aren't a thing here, thank goodness. So for me it's easy - I would be going to the concert and anniversary dinner. Especially if I didn't even really know the kid. And then I would fib and say that I had already bought the concert ticket before I knew about the graduation party, so nobody could guilt trip me. (Why are graduation parties even a thing? Surely we don't have to fork out money for every single life event, big and small? Or am I just a grumpy old woman? Don't answer that! ) In my experience, graduation parties are more for the kid and their friends than for extended family which is why they tend to be an open house style party so the kids can come and go to each other’s parties. Most of the kids I personally know that have graduated in recent years didn’t even have one. Neither of DH’s sister’s kids had one, my last couple nephews on my side didn’t, another friend’s grandkid didn’t. Honestly, I wasn’t too sad to not have to attend, so I guess that makes me a grumpy old lady too!
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Post by scrapmaven on Mar 9, 2024 21:18:08 GMT
Ok, take this w/a grain of salt, because I cut off my entire extended family. I wouldn't go near them. The last time I saw some of these people I completely ignored them. I felt fine doing so, but it really sucked that I was there, in the first place. My sister is the exception, because I just adore her. Dh's family is great fun and so healthy. This decision needs to be made based upon what Jeremy and you truly want together. Your anniversary is a big deal and you can celebrate as planned or go to the party and celebrate w/something fun another weekend. I know you chose to go the party and that's fine. Just letting you know that either choice would have been right. don, I wouldn't have wanted dinner from Outback, either. I've been there twice and both times it was bad.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Mar 9, 2024 21:24:35 GMT
Ok, take this w/a grain of salt, because I cut off my entire extended family. I wouldn't go near them. The last time I saw some of these people I completely ignored them. I felt fine doing so, but it really sucked that I was there, in the first place. My sister is the exception, because I just adore her. Dh's family is great fun and so healthy. This decision needs to be made based upon what Jeremy and you truly want together. Your anniversary is a big deal and you can celebrate as planned or go to the party and celebrate w/something fun another weekend. I know you chose to go the party and that's fine. Just letting you know that either choice would have been right. don, I wouldn't have wanted dinner from Outback, either. I've been there twice and both times it was bad. Seriously he was so pleased with the decision to turn it into a camping weekend. He also liked the pea suggestion that if it got overwhelming for him he could leave and go back to the campsite and pick me up later. And then today he bought me a new sewing machine. He said that I deserved a new one because my cheapass 25 year old machine is really garbage. But he was like it's an early birthday gift and you turned something I was dreading into a fun weekend and he said I know you are kind of disappointed about concert season looking so grim. so we worked it out.
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Post by scrapmaven on Mar 9, 2024 21:32:15 GMT
You really chose a very good man. Now you're gonna have the best of both worlds. Fun camping and an enjoyable party w/your family. Most of all, your quilts will be made w/a new sewing machine. Win-win!!!!
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