Do you know what FHRITP stands for? Have you heard of this?

Bros (aka dude bros): incredibly insecure men. Key symptoms: overly jealous of their girlfriends, macho behaviours and laughably homophobic. Currently, there is no cure for being a dude bro.

Dear Bros,

Is “Fuck her right in the pussy!” merely an instructional tip for your pals?

I know. It isn’t about that, is it, bros? Targeting mostly female reporters, often in sports and yelling “Fuck her right in the pussy!” is harassment, a rape threat, a symptom of rape culture, immature, disgusting and, for the reporter trying to do her job in front of her colleagues, other normals and sometimes children, humiliating.




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Oh, what’s that bros? #FHRITP is just a harmless joke?

One of you Twitter bros, @tbuxbaum (account now defunct), summed up your side of the matter:

“@citynews don’t turn a prank into something it’s not. AKA harassment.”

Well, Tim Buxbaum: a prank is something harmless, done among friends. Like, you know, when you and your high school besties would fall asleep at house parties and draw dicks on each other’s faces. Now, just imagine you ran around the city drawing dicks on your colleagues’ faces. That would qualify as harassment.

Prank: a practical joke or mischievous act.

Harassment: A form of discrimination. It involves any unwanted physical or verbal behaviour that offends or humiliates you.

And then there’s sexual harassment, bros. You know about it. That thing women should probably just learn to deal with because you think it’s funny. Shouting out “Fuck her right in the pussy” to a TV reporter’s audience is the actual definition of sexual harassment.

Sexual harassment: harassment (typically of a woman) in a workplace, or other professional or social situation, involving the making of unwanted sexual advances or obscene remarks.

Many of you bros are claiming that this is a violation of your freedom of speech. @curtiscunning, a hockey-playing bro whose Twitter feed is full of misogynist gems such as “grabbing your girl’s ass in public to claim your territory,” had this to say: “I’m glad that living in a country with Freedom of Speech, that I have to watch what I say. #FHRITP.”

Well, Curtis Cunning, freedom of speech doesn’t cover rape threats.

But, bros, here’s food for thought for your pea brains: You’re the only class of society that hasn’t been socialized to fear for their safety or brace themselves for regular bouts of discrimination. You feel entitled to your fun, and fuck anyone’s pussy who gets in your way. Your level of entitlement has overshadowed your human decency. Shame on your mothers and fathers. Shame on your teachers. Shame on our culture for catering to your bro needs.

Historically, men, mostly white, killed, stole and raped their way to power. They made all the rules. This kind of engrained supremacy takes generations to diffuse.

You, bro, are the last remnant of that species, desperately clinging onto an era of superiority. You live in the present day, so, officially men and women are equal. But you also live in present day 2015, so you see lots of examples of lingering misogyny. You get to watch shows like Mad Men and listen to your dad and the older bro generation, and you long for the good old days when you just had to exist. You’re coming to the realization that in 2015, you might not get by in life just for being a bro.

But how do you take back that power? By making other people feel smaller than you. By disguising a threat in a joke, and reminding us that you and your bros could very well rape us if you wanted to. It’s our fault for stepping on your bro-dominated sports turf, after all.

Empathy: the capacity to understand what another person is experiencing from within the other person's frame of reference.

Did you know that some jokes are only funny for you because you’ve never had to be scared?

Your “jokes” remind us of all the times people made “jokes” but were actually trying to legit rape us. And before you start bros, it’s not our fault for walking home alone at night or going to a packed concert or going to the bar with our friends or driving alone on a quiet country road. It’s not our fault for being around you, bros.

You bros who think we should be cool with you yelling about our pussies are the same ones who claim not to be homophobic, you just hate it when guys hit on you. First of all, bros, you’ve probably never been hit on by a gay person (in your dreams). But if you’re saying that unwanted sexual attention makes you uncomfortable, then… Eureka! You might have a chance at this empathy thing.