Post by Dori~Mama~Bear on Jul 7, 2015 19:48:00 GMT
brab74,
I do support my daughter. This thread was a VENT! I was not upset that she was going. I was upset that I didn't have more time to prepare. She was the one that told me to make the beach trip happen in September because she would be back by then, So I guess because of that I am the bad guy for being upset that she didn't talk to us about it before the Shit hit the fan with her grandmother screaming at me over the phone.
As far as the dog goes. He is not a bad dog. He is actually pretty good while out on his walks with daughter. which they go every day when the weather is good. He has a harness never had a collar. The main reason he is not around people in our home is because he is very territorial and he doesn't like people coming into his space. My 3 pound dog doesn't like children. and I don't walk them in hotel lobbies. they are always in the stroller when I have to go through the lobby. We have never had a problem when we have been on vacation with them. The problem is when he is in our house and people come here. I would never trust some one to watch him in our house.
He has been to the vet many many times and to trainers many many times. He is a healthy happy dog. as for the gate being left open. Well He is not outside unless I am out side. and some one would have to go through the front gate and walk all the way to the back yard and open the back gate to leave it open. Highly unlikely to happen. When we first got him he got out a few times. each time he ran and then when called he came back. Didn't get but a short distance into the field behind our trailer. after that he learned not to go out the front door. and when the door bell rings we don't let any of our dogs just run tot he door. we pick up the little one. and stop Skip. usually Pearl stays on the couch. she is the easiest one. tell her to stay and she stays. If we know someone is coming over we always put them in the bathroom. no big deal. He has a very strong bond with daughter. he had that bond with her before my mom died and she saw it and said she wanted daughter to have him because they bonded and they love each other. There are some people that come over that we let them out of the bath room. I have a close friend that comes over that after about 30 minutes the dogs come out. She has learned how to be around skip and skip totally ignores her now. but it took her 3 year of coming over before that could happen with any success. but I would never trust that relationship to be safe if I wasn't here. If Pearl is in the car don't even think about putting your hand in the car. she will go after you in on breath. She is very protective of her car. but any other time she is the happiest friendliest dog. Just because I don't have perfect dogs doesn't mean they don't have good lives and that they are not capable of traveling and enjoying life. I made the choice of bringing him to our home when we were told my mom had 3 months to live. Yes they had a special bond and yes he did go mental after but we have worked hard with him for the past 7 years. I do everything in my power to keep him with as low of a stress level as possible. that is way we do what we do with him. and that is why we don't kennel him and that is why he isn't going to get a new dog sitter in his life. And no I WILL NOT KILL HIM JUST BECAUSE YOU TELL ME TO! Now if his vet that has been his vet for all of his life tells me that he needs to be put down because of this then I might think about it. but The vet is the one that has been working with him, daughter and I to help him have a happy health life.
And just so everybody knows. Daughter is going to Hawaii she left yesterday to go to Portland and she flies out tomorrow. She does not have a return ticket but she talked to her dad and they both agreed to set a date and buy the ticket when she gets over there. She is going to finish school here. she is going to be over there for fall term. then she is coming back. While she is over there she is going to think about what she wants to do and where she wants to live. Then she is going to come back and either stay living here, move to her own place here until she graduates this next spring and then she will decide if she wants to actually move to Hawaii. It wasn't about me controlling her. it was all about me not having the time to wrap it around my brain and heart. I have been through a lot of stress with surgery, the move, and then that was thrown in. Yes I wish I had more time to have fun with her before she left. I mean crap she worked every day unpacking and getting her stuff out of the garage and into her room. YEs she had to do that because this house isn't big enough to have boxes of her stuff stacked in the garage for months while she is gone. As for the half a storage unit of her stuff. The stuff she has is all hers. She didn't inherit anything but her bedroom set that is nicely placed in her room the way she wanted it. all the stuff in the totes that is in storage is stuff she has collected through out her life. stuff that she has saved for when she moves out. Stuff that she has bought or made. I mean this girl is crafty just like her mom is and she has collected many boxes of craft stuff. She knits ans she has way too much yarn. Totes that she has full of yarn that she put in storage so that when she wants it she can go get it and knit. she has clothes that she puts in storage seasonally. she has way too many totes full of books. She would have to have a room for just the books. She has 5 totes full of book relating to her major in college that she has collected through out the years to use when she works with kids. from story books for kids to read to craft books, to informational books. So yes she has half of a 10 X 10 storage unit full of HER STUFF! and she has her Halloween decorations that she has collected through out the years. SHe loves Halloween and a few years ago I was getting rid of a bunch of Halloween decorations She asked if she could have them. I said if that is what you want. She decorates every year for Halloween. She goes out to the pumpkin patch and gets pumpkins every year. not because we make her but because she wants them. She doesn't bring on home she brings so many that she fills the back of my Cruiser with pumpkins. Pumpkins of all sizes and shapes. She has grown up with all these decorations and she wanted them for when she moves out so that she can decorate her own place.
I do support my daughter. This thread was a VENT! I was not upset that she was going. I was upset that I didn't have more time to prepare. She was the one that told me to make the beach trip happen in September because she would be back by then, So I guess because of that I am the bad guy for being upset that she didn't talk to us about it before the Shit hit the fan with her grandmother screaming at me over the phone.
As far as the dog goes. He is not a bad dog. He is actually pretty good while out on his walks with daughter. which they go every day when the weather is good. He has a harness never had a collar. The main reason he is not around people in our home is because he is very territorial and he doesn't like people coming into his space. My 3 pound dog doesn't like children. and I don't walk them in hotel lobbies. they are always in the stroller when I have to go through the lobby. We have never had a problem when we have been on vacation with them. The problem is when he is in our house and people come here. I would never trust some one to watch him in our house.
He has been to the vet many many times and to trainers many many times. He is a healthy happy dog. as for the gate being left open. Well He is not outside unless I am out side. and some one would have to go through the front gate and walk all the way to the back yard and open the back gate to leave it open. Highly unlikely to happen. When we first got him he got out a few times. each time he ran and then when called he came back. Didn't get but a short distance into the field behind our trailer. after that he learned not to go out the front door. and when the door bell rings we don't let any of our dogs just run tot he door. we pick up the little one. and stop Skip. usually Pearl stays on the couch. she is the easiest one. tell her to stay and she stays. If we know someone is coming over we always put them in the bathroom. no big deal. He has a very strong bond with daughter. he had that bond with her before my mom died and she saw it and said she wanted daughter to have him because they bonded and they love each other. There are some people that come over that we let them out of the bath room. I have a close friend that comes over that after about 30 minutes the dogs come out. She has learned how to be around skip and skip totally ignores her now. but it took her 3 year of coming over before that could happen with any success. but I would never trust that relationship to be safe if I wasn't here. If Pearl is in the car don't even think about putting your hand in the car. she will go after you in on breath. She is very protective of her car. but any other time she is the happiest friendliest dog. Just because I don't have perfect dogs doesn't mean they don't have good lives and that they are not capable of traveling and enjoying life. I made the choice of bringing him to our home when we were told my mom had 3 months to live. Yes they had a special bond and yes he did go mental after but we have worked hard with him for the past 7 years. I do everything in my power to keep him with as low of a stress level as possible. that is way we do what we do with him. and that is why we don't kennel him and that is why he isn't going to get a new dog sitter in his life. And no I WILL NOT KILL HIM JUST BECAUSE YOU TELL ME TO! Now if his vet that has been his vet for all of his life tells me that he needs to be put down because of this then I might think about it. but The vet is the one that has been working with him, daughter and I to help him have a happy health life.
And just so everybody knows. Daughter is going to Hawaii she left yesterday to go to Portland and she flies out tomorrow. She does not have a return ticket but she talked to her dad and they both agreed to set a date and buy the ticket when she gets over there. She is going to finish school here. she is going to be over there for fall term. then she is coming back. While she is over there she is going to think about what she wants to do and where she wants to live. Then she is going to come back and either stay living here, move to her own place here until she graduates this next spring and then she will decide if she wants to actually move to Hawaii. It wasn't about me controlling her. it was all about me not having the time to wrap it around my brain and heart. I have been through a lot of stress with surgery, the move, and then that was thrown in. Yes I wish I had more time to have fun with her before she left. I mean crap she worked every day unpacking and getting her stuff out of the garage and into her room. YEs she had to do that because this house isn't big enough to have boxes of her stuff stacked in the garage for months while she is gone. As for the half a storage unit of her stuff. The stuff she has is all hers. She didn't inherit anything but her bedroom set that is nicely placed in her room the way she wanted it. all the stuff in the totes that is in storage is stuff she has collected through out her life. stuff that she has saved for when she moves out. Stuff that she has bought or made. I mean this girl is crafty just like her mom is and she has collected many boxes of craft stuff. She knits ans she has way too much yarn. Totes that she has full of yarn that she put in storage so that when she wants it she can go get it and knit. she has clothes that she puts in storage seasonally. she has way too many totes full of books. She would have to have a room for just the books. She has 5 totes full of book relating to her major in college that she has collected through out the years to use when she works with kids. from story books for kids to read to craft books, to informational books. So yes she has half of a 10 X 10 storage unit full of HER STUFF! and she has her Halloween decorations that she has collected through out the years. SHe loves Halloween and a few years ago I was getting rid of a bunch of Halloween decorations She asked if she could have them. I said if that is what you want. She decorates every year for Halloween. She goes out to the pumpkin patch and gets pumpkins every year. not because we make her but because she wants them. She doesn't bring on home she brings so many that she fills the back of my Cruiser with pumpkins. Pumpkins of all sizes and shapes. She has grown up with all these decorations and she wanted them for when she moves out so that she can decorate her own place.