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Post by elaine on Aug 7, 2015 0:46:28 GMT
It will be great when school starts because next time we visit the lawyer to deal with setting up special needs trusts for our boys, we won't have to take them, like we did today. There is nothing like spending a couple of hundred bucks an hour and having to spend time keeping kids busy and It will be great when school starts because my husband won't need to take time home from work to stay home with the boys so I can visit the Opthamologist - like he will on Monday - so I can go and work out the schedule for my upcoming surgeries without trying to entertain two autistic children. I am going to have to record the appointment because I have to go without my husband. I can't wait until September 8th so that I can schedule a hair appointment and get my hair cut. Husband can't take time off for that, needless to say. Please feel free to post and add your own.  |
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Post by lucyg on Aug 7, 2015 0:57:39 GMT
Yes. Just yes. I don't have to deal with autistic kids, just one easily-entertained 6yo, but on the other hand, I'm the grandma. I'm too old for this sh*t. Really.  p.s. I have already cancelled my hair appt and having my teeth cleaned, and rescheduled for September. |
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Post by bluepoprocks on Aug 7, 2015 1:02:00 GMT
My days off of work during the week will belong to me again.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Aug 7, 2015 1:03:18 GMT
Yes because I have such a huge backlog of stuff to do and I can do things so much faster when I'm not being interrupted eleventy billion times a day!
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Post by johnnysmom on Aug 7, 2015 1:03:54 GMT
Mine is rather first world in comparison to yours but.......I can't wait for school to start because I won't have to stop working every 10 minutes to refill milk or snacks. I won't have to stop for the day when my 4yo starts putting the bubble mailers in a pile as a make-shift ball pit  And, omg, I'll be able to go to the store without a stop in toy section to look at every.single.transformer.....with follow-up whines about why we aren't buying another one today. |
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Post by 950nancy on Aug 7, 2015 1:05:03 GMT
I saw a post on FB about parents realizing how underpaid teachers are on the first day of summer break. It made me chuckle.
I can't wait until the first day of school because it will be my first day of retirement! My teacher friends are sadly counting the days till the beginning.
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Post by elaine on Aug 7, 2015 1:08:09 GMT
Mine is rather first world in comparison to yours but.......I can't wait for school to start because I won't have to stop working every 10 minutes to refill milk or snacks. I won't have to stop for the day when my 4yo starts putting the bubble mailers in a pile as a make-shift ball pit And, omg, I'll be able to go to the store without a stop in toy section to look at every.single.transformer.....with follow-up whines about why we aren't buying another one today.Yes! Yes! Yes! It isn't about Transformers, but whatever the toy-of-the-day is. My 14 yo operates at the cognitive level of a 5-6 y.o. and is still enamored with toys... |
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Post by peano on Aug 7, 2015 1:09:17 GMT
I will no longer have a witness to the extent of my bon-bon eating and dilly-dallying.
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Post by johnnysmom on Aug 7, 2015 1:11:35 GMT
Mine is rather first world in comparison to yours but.......I can't wait for school to start because I won't have to stop working every 10 minutes to refill milk or snacks. I won't have to stop for the day when my 4yo starts putting the bubble mailers in a pile as a make-shift ball pit And, omg, I'll be able to go to the store without a stop in toy section to look at every.single.transformer.....with follow-up whines about why we aren't buying another one today.Yes! Yes! Yes! It isn't about Transformers, but whatever the toy-of-the-day is. My 14 yo operates at the cognitive level of a 5-6 y.o. and is still enamored with toys... I already sympathized with you, but you just bumped it up a level. I have a 14yo in addition to my almost 5yo, I cannot imagine the little one's mind in the body of the big one. At least at 5 you can still pick them up and throw them in the cart while ignoring the whining......not so much when they outweigh you  Only a month to go.......I hope you have enough wine to make it through  |
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Post by elaine on Aug 7, 2015 1:12:54 GMT
Yes. Just yes. I don't have to deal with autistic kids, just one easily-entertained 6yo, but on the other hand, I'm the grandma. I'm too old for this sh*t. Really. p.s. I have already cancelled my hair appt and having my teeth cleaned, and rescheduled for September. Yeah, I hear you! I rescheduled my teeth cleaning appointment too. I'm too old for this sh$t too. And there is no break in the apparent future, as was made clear in our discussion with the lawyer today. |
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Post by lorieann13 on Aug 7, 2015 1:24:18 GMT
I already listed my reasons in the other thread. Wonder if that sparked this one? Yea, as a mom to 2 autistic special need medically fragile kids, I look forward to school. My kids are with their friends, my aspie can work on her social skills. They both get their OT and SLP. They have a rigid schedule. Hey are learning and gaining new skills and surpassing what so many said wouldnt happen. And I can do normal day to day things without having to make sure the store isnt busy or loud. I can do as much as I want. Two or thre stores? Sure! Plus errands? Why not. I get time to relax and destress. Hang with my moms group. Have lunch with dh at work. So what if I am excited for that. I shouod be. My kids have defied odds and are in school. They are alive and growing. They are kids. Eh, whatever. Hi, my name is Lorie. I am a crazy mom happy for school to start. |
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Post by lorieann13 on Aug 7, 2015 1:26:00 GMT
Oh yea and I also rescheduled a dental cleaning and hair apt for when they are in school!
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Post by anxiousmom on Aug 7, 2015 1:25:45 GMT
Oh, but y'all? My boys are now old and the lines between summer and school year aren't so much a thing anymore. But when they were little? I was the mother in the staples commercial singing 'it's the most wonderful time of the year..." I love my kids. I really do. But I had one that couldn't deal with the loosey goosey summer schedule. He was one who thrived on knowing exactly what was going to happen at what time and would turn into a puddle of whining cranky boy poo. He was much happier (as was the rest of the house) when he had the consistent schedule of school. (Oddly, or maybe not) he is the kid who is currently thriving in boot camp-can't get much more scheduled than that.  |
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Post by elaine on Aug 7, 2015 1:38:32 GMT
Yes! Yes! Yes! It isn't about Transformers, but whatever the toy-of-the-day is. My 14 yo operates at the cognitive level of a 5-6 y.o. and is still enamored with toys... I already sympathized with you, but you just bumped it up a level. I have a 14yo in addition to my almost 5yo, I cannot imagine the little one's mind in the body of the big one. At least at 5 you can still pick them up and throw them in the cart while ignoring the whining......not so much when they outweigh you Only a month to go....... I hope you have enough wine to make it throughBetter living through cocktails after they go to sleep is my motto for the summer! My 14 yo just went through a growth spurt as is already 5'6" and seems to be growing daily. Thank heavens I'm 5'8", but he outweighs me and is getting more and more aggressive with puberty. |
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Post by elaine on Aug 7, 2015 1:42:09 GMT
I already listed my reasons in the other thread. Wonder if that sparked this one? Yea, as a mom to 2 autistic special need medically fragile kids, I look forward to school. My kids are with their friends, my aspie can work on her social skills. They both get their OT and SLP. They have a rigid schedule. Hey are learning and gaining new skills and surpassing what so many said wouldnt happen. And I can do normal day to day things without having to make sure the store isnt busy or loud. I can do as much as I want. Two or thre stores? Sure! Plus errands? Why not. I get time to relax and destress. Hang with my moms group. Have lunch with dh at work. So what if I am excited for that. I shouod be. My kids have defied odds and are in school. They are alive and growing. They are kids. Eh, whatever. Hi, my name is Lorie. I am a crazy mom happy for school to start. That, and that I'm sick of those threads every year which are peppered with snotty posts about how moms who love it when school starts again are deficient in some way by moms who have no clue whatsoever what it takes to be a mom of special needs kids and who crumble into sobby sniveling messes if confronted with what we face every single day. |
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Post by Deleted on Aug 7, 2015 1:59:46 GMT
In October, my son will be in school ALL DAY! I'll do awesome things like figure out how to pay for his ABA therapy, clean without interruption, go grocery shopping, and maybe even get my hair cut 2 TIMES IN ONE YEAR! I can take a nap when my son has been up almost all night. He functions just fine on 4 hours of sleep; not me. I might even take up exercising. I can take a bath or shower every day. I won't have to follow him to every room to be sure he doesn't climb cupboards and throw items in light fixtures. Or stop him from literally trying to swing from the chandelier in the living room! I won't listen to the same sounds over and over again on his ipad. I can go outside and enjoy nature. Unlike this summer, when I stayed inside for 4 weeks because he broke his humerus bone in an inflatable pool.  A few days later I injured my back. I can let fresh air in the house because I won't have to lock the sliding glass door to my house. I won't have to fight my dd to get up early because her new school doesn't start until 11:00. She's the opposite of my son. She needs LOTS of sleep. I can have everything off in the house and experience this beautiful thing called silence! I can read things and watch shows without being interrupted with a 5 minute 1 sided conversation where my daughter does not take a breath. I won't have to deal with my other son's moodiness 24/7. Apparently he's a joy at school. |
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Post by Deleted on Aug 7, 2015 2:00:24 GMT
Oh, and elaine, I'd love more info on how you got the special needs trust set up. Does it vary by state? |
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Post by elaine on Aug 7, 2015 2:02:41 GMT
In October, my son will be in school ALL DAY! I'll do awesome things like figure out how to pay for his ABA therapy, clean without interruption, go grocery shopping, and maybe even get my hair cut 2 TIMES IN ONE YEAR! I can take a nap when my son has been up almost all night. He functions just fine on 4 hours of sleep; not me. I might even take up exercising. I can take a bath or shower every day. I won't have to follow him to every room to be sure he doesn't climb cupboards and throw items in light fixtures. Or stop him from literally trying to swing from the chandelier in the living room! I won't listen to the same sounds over and over again on his ipad. I can go outside and enjoy nature. Unlike this summer, when I stayed inside for 4 weeks because he broke his humerus bone in an inflatable pool. A few days later I injured my back. I can let fresh air in the house because I won't have to lock the sliding glass door to my house. I won't have to fight my dd to get up early because her new school doesn't start until 11:00. She's the opposite of my son. She needs LOTS of sleep. I can have everything off in the house and experience this beautiful thing called silence! I can read things and watch shows without being interrupted with a 5 minute 1 sided conversation where my daughter does not take a breath. I won't have to deal with my other son's moodiness 24/7. Apparently he's a joy at school. (((Hugs)))). I have a hard time with my life and it is nowhere as hard as yours. I long for silence again too. |
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Post by Deleted on Aug 7, 2015 2:03:56 GMT
I saw a post on FB about parents realizing how underpaid teachers are on the first day of summer break. It made me chuckle. I can't wait until the first day of school because it will be my first day of retirement! My teacher friends are sadly counting the days till the beginning. When my dd was in 2nd grade, I gave her teacher a thank you note at the end of the year. It said I'm really really really going to miss you this summer. |
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Post by elaine on Aug 7, 2015 2:07:29 GMT
Oh, and elaine, I'd love more info on how you got the special needs trust set up. Does it vary by state? I'm not sure, but I think it does. We are starting with individual special needs trusts for each boy that relatives can contribute to - I have an older relative that wants to name my boys as beneficiaries for his estate - but may end up switching over to a pooled trust managed by the ARC once he actually funds their trusts. It is a couple of thousand to set it up, but is an investment since we know that ds2 will never live independently or be able to manage his money. |
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Post by elaine on Aug 7, 2015 2:10:02 GMT
I saw a post on FB about parents realizing how underpaid teachers are on the first day of summer break. It made me chuckle. I can't wait until the first day of school because it will be my first day of retirement! My teacher friends are sadly counting the days till the beginning. When my dd was in 2nd grade, I gave her teacher a thank you note at the end of the year. It said I'm really really really going to miss you this summer. We give large gift cards at Christmas and the end of the year for teachers, aids, speech pathologists, bus drivers and bus attendants along with thank you cards. I also gave my teacher a new microwave for her classroom last year when hers broke. This year I will provide a laminator, as my son likes to laminate pictures as a reward. |
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Post by sunraynnc on Aug 7, 2015 2:15:54 GMT
...it's my daughter's Senior year!
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Post by Deleted on Aug 7, 2015 2:17:29 GMT
Oh, and elaine, I'd love more info on how you got the special needs trust set up. Does it vary by state? I'm not sure, but I think it does. We are starting with individual special needs trusts for each boy that relatives can contribute to - I have an older relative that wants to name my boys as beneficiaries for his estate - but may end up switching over to a pooled trust managed by the ARC once he actually funds their trusts. It is a couple of thousand to set it up, but is an investment since we know that ds2 will never live independently or be able to manage his money. Thanks. I went to a class offered by a parent group and asked my brother as well (financial adviser) but he said it would be best to have someone who specializes in this specific type of trust. He thought it would be 3-4 thousand. Our problem right now is not having any money to start one or put money into until my son is older. elaine, I'm not sure I have it harder. It's just different.  |
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Post by elaine on Aug 7, 2015 2:24:00 GMT
I'm not sure, but I think it does. We are starting with individual special needs trusts for each boy that relatives can contribute to - I have an older relative that wants to name my boys as beneficiaries for his estate - but may end up switching over to a pooled trust managed by the ARC once he actually funds their trusts. It is a couple of thousand to set it up, but is an investment since we know that ds2 will never live independently or be able to manage his money. Thanks. I went to a class offered by a parent group and asked my brother as well (financial adviser) but he said it would be best to have someone who specializes in this specific type of trust. He thought it would be 3-4 thousand. Our problem right now is not having any money to start one or put money into until my son is older. We aren't funding the trusts yet - just setting them up. They will be funded when my relative dies, or my husband and I do, and funds them. They need to be set up ahead of time, if you are doing them privately, not a pooled trust like with the ARC or with a bank as the trustee, like SunTrust, so seeing a lawyer who specializes in this type of law is helpful. Let's say that you and your husband were killed in a freak accident leaving one or more of your kids alive, the trust would need to be in place to set up disbursement of funds, etc. You also need to set up guardianship, etc. It sucks to think about, but is necessary. |
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Post by ntsf on Aug 7, 2015 3:38:19 GMT
we just did the wills, the trusts, and the special needs trust ..but our kids are over 18. it was $3500..and a bargain at that. now I am working getting my child qualifed for state help for the disabled..and it will cost at least $5-10,000..but it will be worth it for a lifetime of benefits and maybe getting this child out of the house (needs supportive housing)..
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Post by lucyg on Aug 7, 2015 3:46:30 GMT
I already listed my reasons in the other thread. Wonder if that sparked this one? Yea, as a mom to 2 autistic special need medically fragile kids, I look forward to school. My kids are with their friends, my aspie can work on her social skills. They both get their OT and SLP. They have a rigid schedule. Hey are learning and gaining new skills and surpassing what so many said wouldnt happen. And I can do normal day to day things without having to make sure the store isnt busy or loud. I can do as much as I want. Two or thre stores? Sure! Plus errands? Why not. I get time to relax and destress. Hang with my moms group. Have lunch with dh at work. So what if I am excited for that. I shouod be. My kids have defied odds and are in school. They are alive and growing. They are kids. Eh, whatever. Hi, my name is Lorie. I am a crazy mom happy for school to start. That, and that I'm sick of those threads every year which are peppered with snotty posts about how moms who love it when school starts again are deficient in some way by moms who have no clue whatsoever what it takes to be a mom of special needs kids and who crumble into sobby sniveling messes if confronted with what we face every single day. I solve that problem by refusing to open those threads.  |
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Post by destined2bmom on Aug 7, 2015 3:53:52 GMT
Hugs Elaine and Lori! God bless you for being such great moms and working so hard to help your kids!
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Post by gmcwife1 on Aug 7, 2015 5:16:02 GMT
I enjoy having a routine back and that my teen dd tells me about her day.
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Post by PEArfect on Aug 7, 2015 6:49:31 GMT
I have a love/hate relationship with summer break.
Love sleeping in/hate that my daughters stay up so late.
Love spending time with my daughters/hate not having any time for myself.
Love not having to schedule around school and sports/hate not having some sort of schedule.
I will not miss all of the added cleaning, messes, buying extra groceries, running the dishwasher daily, fighting and bickering, and the overuse of paper products and soap. My daughters go back to school Wednesday. I'll be deep cleaning the house, no doubt.
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Post by shevy on Aug 7, 2015 14:33:50 GMT
I can't wait for school to start again, because I love seeing the school supplies in the stores, I love the smiling happy elementary kids faces when they pick them out, and I love seeing the kiddos all excited at the bus stops. (I have no kids of my own...)
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And, omg, I'll be able to go to the store without a stop in toy section to look at every.single.transformer.....with follow-up whines about why we aren't buying another one today.
Only a month to go.......I hope you have enough wine to make it through 
A few days later I injured my back. I can let fresh air in the house because I won't have to lock the sliding glass door to my house.
