Sharl
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Nov 4, 2015 2:41:39 GMT
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Post by Sharl on Nov 24, 2015 7:57:15 GMT
Thank you all so much. Your words of sympathy mean so much to me even when I don't know you personally. The one thing that struck me was not one of you told me to be strong and I was glad NOT to see those words. I've had a lot of people say that and I'm wondering why do I have to stay strong?? Not that I've gone nuts or anything, but still. I suppose people don't know what to say but boy I dislike that phrase "Be strong". And when people tell me what a wonderful daughter I've been to come out here, having to take time off from work and take care of her and do everything I did, I feel uncomfortable because I don't see it that way, I see it as I did what I had to do and there were times I got impatient with her (and that makes me feel bad) and really didn't want to do the things I had to do. Not just because I didn't like doing them but also the indignity SHE had to suffer while I did them.
Anyway, thank you for for your kind words and the words you didn't say.
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You think you are prepared for a parent dying, especially when they have pancreatic cancer and you see them wasting away to nothing, not eating, drinking, throwing up so much dark grainy stuff, just laying in bed, eventually sleeping all the time until they don't wake or move at all but still breathing, until you go into check on them for the millionth time to find them not breathing anymore. And that was last night with my mom.
It is so hard for me to comprehend that I am never going to see her again, get nagging texts from her about me not texting her, watching HGTV's Property Brothers together and saying if we had a house for them to do we would come up with all kinds of things for them to do so we could keep them there, flying her out to Virginia for Christmas with us every year, bringing my grandkids out here every summer to see her and go swimming and taking them to See's Candy, seeing her on Facebook.
I do know though I am glad she is out of pain and not feeling sick anymore, and is in Heaven.
But man I miss her already. Even her nagging texts.
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valincal
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Southern Alberta
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Jun 27, 2014 2:21:22 GMT
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Post by valincal on Nov 24, 2015 7:57:56 GMT
I'm so sorry for your loss. Take care.
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Post by gar on Nov 24, 2015 8:02:54 GMT
I'm so sorry. Nothing can prepare you for the reality. I hope you can at least take a little comfort in having had time to say anything you might have wanted to say before she died. ((hugs))
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anaterra
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Jun 29, 2014 3:04:02 GMT
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Post by anaterra on Nov 24, 2015 8:06:41 GMT
I agree with @gar we are never fully prepared until it happens.... i am so very sorry for your loss... huge hugs!!
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Post by katiejane on Nov 24, 2015 8:09:12 GMT
Sorry for your loss x
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bkt61
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Jun 26, 2014 0:40:16 GMT
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Post by bkt61 on Nov 24, 2015 8:12:00 GMT
So sorry for your loss!! Hugs!
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Post by miominmio on Nov 24, 2015 8:18:11 GMT
I'm so sorry for your loss.
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Judy26
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Jun 25, 2014 23:50:38 GMT
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Post by Judy26 on Nov 24, 2015 8:24:11 GMT
I am so sorry! No matter how long we have our parents the loss is all encompassing when they die. The world seems a bit off kilter not knowing that they are just a phone call away. Prayers to you and your family.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 24, 2015 8:39:03 GMT
I'm so sorry.
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joelise
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Jul 1, 2014 6:33:14 GMT
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Post by joelise on Nov 24, 2015 8:42:02 GMT
I am so sorry for your loss.
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Post by claire on Nov 24, 2015 8:50:54 GMT
I am so sorry for your loss!
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Post by scrappysurfer on Nov 24, 2015 9:26:40 GMT
I'm very sorry for your loss.
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Post by Judie in Oz on Nov 24, 2015 9:27:34 GMT
I'm so sorry. I think it's one of those losses that you can never really prepare for.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 24, 2015 9:34:01 GMT
I'm so sorry:(
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Post by Deleted on Nov 24, 2015 9:46:52 GMT
I'm so very sorry for your loss. It's never easy however much one is expecting it. ((hugs)).
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Post by KelleeM on Nov 24, 2015 9:53:19 GMT
I'm so sorry for your loss.
You are never prepared for the death of a parent; I learned that when my Mom passed three years ago.
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Post by AussieMeg on Nov 24, 2015 9:54:51 GMT
Oh Sharl, I'm sorry to hear about the loss of your mum. Take care. xx
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dald222
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Jun 27, 2014 0:50:15 GMT
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Post by dald222 on Nov 24, 2015 9:57:20 GMT
I am so sorry for your loss of your wonderful mother you have my deepest sympathies I hope it finds you comfort in that her no longer suffering. she will always be in your heart each day for the rest of your life. I lost my dad to pancraetic cancer too in 94. He had some stomach pain for a couple months....had tests...nothing....he got worse so he went to the ER..they said he had it. he would be gone in 6 mos....the next day they said 6 weeks.. the next day they said 6 days. he was gone in a week. I was so thankful. I loved him so much but could not watch him go into that much pain so it was easy to make the decision. I could not watch him suffer.. she wouldn't want to suffer either or have you watch her suffer more than you had.
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Post by mollycoddle on Nov 24, 2015 10:06:59 GMT
I'm very sorry for your loss. ((Hugs))
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akathy
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Jun 25, 2014 22:56:55 GMT
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Post by akathy on Nov 24, 2015 10:10:25 GMT
OH no, I'm so sorry Hugs!
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Nink
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Location: North Idaho
Jul 1, 2014 23:30:44 GMT
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Post by Nink on Nov 24, 2015 10:15:52 GMT
So sorry for your loss. Hugs.
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Post by salem on Nov 24, 2015 10:30:08 GMT
I'm so sorry.
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Post by bluepoprocks on Nov 24, 2015 10:31:54 GMT
I'm so sorry for your loss.
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Post by ktdoesntscrap on Nov 24, 2015 10:35:57 GMT
Oh I am so sorry. I will keep her and you in my thoughts.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 24, 2015 10:36:38 GMT
I'm so very sorry for your loss.
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Trixie Bender
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Jun 26, 2014 11:31:57 GMT
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Post by Trixie Bender on Nov 24, 2015 10:37:33 GMT
I am so sorry for your loss.
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RedSquirrelUK
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Aug 2, 2014 13:03:45 GMT
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Post by RedSquirrelUK on Nov 24, 2015 10:47:04 GMT
I'm sorry Shari. Hugs to you.
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Post by magentapea on Nov 24, 2015 10:52:29 GMT
I am so sorry for your loss.
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Post by Really Red on Nov 24, 2015 10:55:19 GMT
I am sorry. My mom passed away from pancreatic cancer, too. It sucks. I am very sorry for your great loss.
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Nov 24, 2015 11:04:20 GMT
I am so sorry for your loss.
(((hugs)))
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