scrappyesq
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Post by scrappyesq on Apr 13, 2016 18:15:22 GMT
I know that there are a bunch of us on here. Readers, that is. I was just wondering, do you have bookish friends? I don't. My friends like to watch YouTube videos about women setting their crotches on fire to win a dance contest (true story).
Its actually kinda lonely and frustrating, because I read everything from literary fiction to romance to Harry Potter and NOBODY else does. Should I even care?
ETA: If you have bookish friends did you always know them as readers or did you meet someone new who is also a reader? How? |
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Post by LeaP on Apr 13, 2016 18:27:35 GMT
I have a few "bookish" friends. Generally, you can tell when you walk into a house and see a shelf full of books. That said, we all have very different taste in books so we don't actually discuss specific books.
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Post by The Birdhouse Lady on Apr 13, 2016 18:30:38 GMT
I have several hobbies that none of my friends give a hoot about.
I don't let it get me down.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Apr 13, 2016 18:35:02 GMT
We usually hang out in a group of 5...3 guys and 2 girls. Myself and my best girlfriend are readers. We have exchanged books with each other and do discuss what we are reading. The guys, not so much...lol. We still hang out with them.  My sister is also a reader and we are very close. We do talk books sometimes too. I do like getting recommendations from my friends who I know enjoy the same types of books as I do so I can see wanting to have this connection with your friends. You may want to try to supplement things by finding a book club in your area. This might help satisfy your wanting to have people to discuss and share with. |
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Post by deshacrafts on Apr 13, 2016 18:37:10 GMT
I don't have bookish friends either. I also don't have friends that are into crafts either (well I have one friend that does rubber stamping sporatically and another that is a seamstress, I'm a craft sewer). So mostly I don't know what I have in common with my friends....LOLOL!
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Post by auntkelly on Apr 13, 2016 18:38:42 GMT
I do have some friends who love to read and I love to discuss books with them. I have other friends who don't ever read.
If you want to find some bookish friends, you should think about joining a book club. A lot of libraries organize book clubs that anyone can join.
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Post by gottapeanow on Apr 13, 2016 18:40:12 GMT
I have some bookish friends. My sister and cousin especially. I love chatting with people on Goodreads.
I have often thought of joining a book club but no time right now. Maybe I will later, when my kids are grown and gone in a couple of years.
Lisa
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Post by crimsoncat05 on Apr 13, 2016 18:41:47 GMT
I've been a voracious reader from early on, but the only other person I know now who is a voracious reader, like myself, is a co-worker. I saw her in the breakroom reading while eating her lunch, and I knew we were 'kindred spirits' as it were, lol!! We sometimes eat our lunch at the same time and talk books / reading, but we're just work friends / acquaintances, not what I would call 'friends' as in a close friend.
I'm an introvert so I don't have many close friends in general-- and to me, reading has always been my own, solitary activity so it doesn't bother me that I don't have friends who read. My boyfriend does not like to read, which kind of bothered me early on, but I've come to realize it's just not his thing, just like playing the bass guitar isn't my thing. Sometimes I just can't fathom WHY people wouldn't like to read (in general) since books can be such fun to me, but it doesn't really bother me.
ETA: like someone else wrote-- I have plenty of interests and hobbies that no one else I know does, so reading is just another one of those things. I've thought briefly about joining a book club myself, but honestly I think I'd rather just talk about the book(s) I'm reading, not read a particular book to discuss as a group.
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scrappyesq
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Post by scrappyesq on Apr 13, 2016 18:43:05 GMT
I'm in a romance book club that is SO. MUCH. FUN.
I'm ok to not have bookish friends, I guess I was trying to figure out if that's pretty typical. After bestie texted me the link to the YouTube video I wondered if it was typical to have such completely divergent interests.
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Post by crimsoncat05 on Apr 13, 2016 18:48:50 GMT
well, Youtube videos about setting your crotch on fire? that's kinda far away from literary reading, true... (of course, it depends on what kind of book you're reading-- you could probably find some books that talk about 'setting a fire in her loins' for example...  ) But truthfully, on occasion I see myself and my BF as being that divergent in our interests, too, lol, so having other friends with varied interests would be the norm for me... I think sometimes that I'm interested in some pretty obscure things compared to most other people my age. |
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Post by jeremysgirl on Apr 13, 2016 18:50:13 GMT
scrappyesq, sometimes it's more fun when you don't have things in common.  Makes for more interesting conversation. My current group of friends got together about five years ago, when we were all going through contentious divorces. It was like the tie that binds us all that we all have struggles with our exes and we are all trying to single parent our children.
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Post by bc2ca on Apr 13, 2016 19:08:14 GMT
I just spent a week with 3 of my oldest friends. Three of us came with books and one with a stack of magazines. The friend with the magazines also spent a lot of her reading time on her iPad. I rarely talk books with one of my friends, but the other one and I are always recommending books to each other and can talk about the books all afternoon. We only see each other a couple of times a year and I really look forward to talking books.
She is in a book club and always reads the club picks, but really wonders how or why most of those picks are made because she doesn't enjoy them. I've been invited to join book clubs in the past when someone finds out I'm a reader but I have reached a point where I don't finish a book I'm not enjoying and don't want to get caught in a situation where I feel I have to read something.
I have met many readers over the years, but not connected with anyone else at this level. Our local library sponsors a few genre based book clubs where you might be able to connect with other readers.
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Post by scrapmaven on Apr 13, 2016 19:47:20 GMT
Some of my friends are avid readers and others are not. I love discussing a myriad of things. So, it's all good.
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Post by ntsf on Apr 13, 2016 19:53:12 GMT
I have a good friend who loves books like me..but is not a fast reader. we were in a book club together, til I was kicked out and she went with me. we are trying to read occasionally the same book so we can discuss it. I could read the books in one or two days but it takes her a month. but that is ok. my child is a voracious reader..and my dh and son are readers..just different tastes in books than me.
my child and I read big 19th century novels..fun for discussion
I share books and some discussion on non-fiction, historical or biographical books with my auto mechanic. he always has some good suggestions.
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Post by lisa on Apr 13, 2016 19:53:18 GMT
No bookish friends, but my daughters are readers, so I can always talk to them about books. Lol
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Post by anniefb on Apr 13, 2016 19:57:22 GMT
Some of my friends are avid readers and others are not. I love discussing a myriad of things. So, it's all good. That ^^ |
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Post by melissa on Apr 13, 2016 20:06:02 GMT
I can't think of a single friend or close acquaintance that doesn't read. Some are more avid readers than others. I have been less avid lately, but I go in spurts. I don't have many crafty friends, just a very few. I have one other local friend that sews, but she is currently homeschooling, so it is harder to get together for that purpose. We do lunch now and then. She is also a reader. I think it was easier to identify readers and strike up a conversation before ebooks existed. You can't really tell who is reading or playing a game on their phone or tablet today! Do you have children? One place I met others who like to read is the where ever I had to wait for dd, whether it was outside the preschool classroom, the waiting room at the dance studio or gym, etc. |
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Post by janeliz on Apr 13, 2016 20:06:19 GMT
I have one friend that I share book recs with, and that's about it. My MIL is a big reader, but we don't often enjoy the same genres.
I have a longtime friend who doesn't read and doesn't watch much tv. She's recovering from foot surgery right now and I have so many book recs and Netflix recs that I would love to share with her, but she's not interested.
I'm not sure what she's doing all day, lol.
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Post by tuesdaysgone on Apr 13, 2016 20:28:52 GMT
My dearest friend was a big reader and even better we enjoyed the same type of books. So many things about our friendship were a blessing, but talking great books was among the best. She passed away from ovarian cancer 3 years ago and even to today, I can't read an excellent book without thinking of her.
I have a few other reader friends but none that match my passion for reading.
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Post by refugeepea on Apr 13, 2016 20:34:10 GMT
I know lots of people who love to read but like to stick with safe literature. No offensive language, no sex scenes.... I don't care for a lot of that kind of stuff in a book, but if I even recommend something and say there's some of this or that, they won't read the book! I think I'm kind of bookish. I do LOVE to read and I try to challenge myself to read different genres.  I just started reading Harry Potter (the first one!) and finished The Hunger Games trilogy about a year ago. So, I'm not on top of the latest and greatest books. I try to read award winning books and not just fluff. I also take my time reading. I'm constantly highlighting words or people in my Kindle and looking them up online! I'm always reading but my number of books read at the end of the year on goodreads doesn't look that way. I tried a book club with a couple of my friends for a few months but kid stuff got in the way. We took turns each month picking a book and the rule was no complaining! Read it and discuss. |
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Post by tincin on Apr 13, 2016 20:41:02 GMT
I have a couple of friends who read the same sorts of things I do and until e-books came along we often exchanged books with each other. We still swap magazines.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 13, 2016 20:41:44 GMT
I have friends who read, but we don't talk books that often. I have a bookclub, but we haven't met in quite a while because of conflicting schedules. My sisters and I are huge readers and talk about books and exchange titles all the time. We get that from our Dad, who took us to the library every Tuesday night for my entire childhood. I don't have any crafty friends anymore, but I've recently joined a monthly crop so I'm getting my social scrapboooking. |
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Post by Dori~Mama~Bear on Apr 13, 2016 20:53:07 GMT
I am a reader but haven't been lately.
How ever my daughter is the biggest reader I know. She reads many books. I lost count at how many books she has read in the past month. but she always has a book with her every where she goes. She reminds me of Rory Gilmore with books in every purse every time she goes some where.
right now I am reading a book of poems It is called "The Day Before" by Lisa Schroeder.
I have met a couple people since We have moved up here that are avid readers. We have gotten into many conversations about books and authors. but it seems like nobody reads the same kinds of books. It is weird. how many different people like different kinds of books.
We went to the library the other day and daughter had the librarian help her find some books. That is where I found the book I am reading.
I don't like youtube videos just to watch them. I usually always have a need for how to videos and watch them but I will not be watching the woman burning their crotches anytime soon.
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Post by kckckc on Apr 13, 2016 21:38:25 GMT
I do have bookish friends, but none of them read as much as I do. I read 2-3 books a week, while my bookish friends read more like 2-3 books a month. Lots of my friends ask me for book recommendations.
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Post by Linda on Apr 13, 2016 22:53:33 GMT
no book-ish friends but I'm raising my own - DS (24) and DD (15) are both voracious readers and we share books and thoughts and have great discussions about everything from classics to YA
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Post by Deleted on Apr 13, 2016 23:01:33 GMT
Most of my friends are readers, but not necessarily the same kind of books that I like to read. I have a couple online friends and my sister-in-law who I share reading interests with, though.
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Post by lesley on Apr 13, 2016 23:30:32 GMT
 I have a good friend who loves books like me..but is not a fast reader. we were in a book club together, til I was kicked out and she went with me. we are trying to read occasionally the same book so we can discuss it. I could read the books in one or two days but it takes her a month. but that is ok. my child is a voracious reader..and my dh and son are readers..just different tastes in books than me. my child and I read big 19th century novels..fun for discussion I share books and some discussion on non-fiction, historical or biographical books with my auto mechanic. he always has some good suggestions. Let's just back up a little here! You have to tell us what you did to get kicked out of a book club. |
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Post by birukitty on Apr 14, 2016 0:33:13 GMT
My best friend is a reader like me but lives in Boston, while I live in Maryland. For friends to discuss books with I have my sister (who is my best friend locally) and my Dad. They both live 15 minutes from my house. My husband and mother are also readers but they prefer non-fiction books. I read both fiction and non-fiction.
My favorite times include my sister, father and I standing in my parent's kitchen discussing a novel we've all 3 read (after passing it around).
For date night DH and I like to go to Whole Foods for dinner and then to Barnes and Noble to hang out for about 3 hours in the cafe after gathering a stack of books to look through while having coffee.
I plan to join a book club as soon as I get over the current sinus infection I've been fighting since November 2nd.
Debbie in MD.
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Post by The Great Carpezio on Apr 14, 2016 0:36:48 GMT
I'm a high school English teacher---so yes, I hang with readers. In my outside work friends, it's about half and half but most don't read as much as I do. I read between 50-100 books a year. I'd say most my friends read one or two a month max.
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Post by gottapeanow on Apr 14, 2016 0:41:20 GMT
I, too, want to know how ntsf got kicked out of a book club.  Must be some kind of story! Do tell. Lisa |
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My sister is also a reader and we are very close. We do talk books sometimes too. I do like getting recommendations from my friends who I know enjoy the same types of books as I do so I can see wanting to have this connection with your friends. You may want to try to supplement things by finding a book club in your area. This might help satisfy your wanting to have people to discuss and share with. 
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Makes for more interesting conversation. My current group of friends got together about five years ago, when we were all going through contentious divorces. It was like the tie that binds us all that we all have struggles with our exes and we are all trying to single parent our children. 
I just started reading Harry Potter (the first one!) and finished The Hunger Games trilogy about a year ago. So, I'm not on top of the latest and greatest books. I try to read award winning books and not just fluff. I also take my time reading. I'm constantly highlighting words or people in my Kindle and looking them up online! I'm always reading but my number of books read at the end of the year on goodreads doesn't look that way.
