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Post by ~summer~ on Apr 14, 2016 0:59:03 GMT
Most of my friends read. And I have two book groups
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Post by SabrinaP on Apr 14, 2016 1:39:18 GMT
Yep, I'm in a book club and my two closest friends read and love to discuss books. I still read more than them, but if I love a book I candu ally get them to read it too.
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Post by chaosisapony on Apr 14, 2016 3:08:49 GMT
I have a couple of friends that are readers but only one that reads the same type of books I like to read. We have a two person book club and take turns choosing the books. It's fun to have someone to talk books with!
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Post by Mystie on Apr 14, 2016 3:25:56 GMT
I have a few friends who read, but none who really like the same books as me. I get all my good recommendations in the threads here.
My mom is my book club partner--she lives in Ohio and I live in Virginia, and we have long phone conversations about what we're reading. We both really enjoy non-fiction (history) so we're always recommending stuff to each other. We had a funny thing happen in January where I called her up to recommend a book I'd just read--and she was reading the exact same book! Great minds!
My brother and I also like to talk books, also non-fiction, but we don't chat as often as my mom and I do.
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Post by AussieMeg on Apr 14, 2016 4:01:00 GMT
I don't know whether my friends read much to be honest. It's not an interesting enough topic of conversation for us I guess!! My MIL and FIL read a ton though, and I always discuss the latest books we've read with my FIL, we love the same books. My MIL reads crappy (IMO) romance novels so I never discuss books with her.
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Post by caangel on Apr 14, 2016 4:43:25 GMT
I'm in a book club that my neighbor started. She isn't in it any more thought. I only know the ladies through the club but it is nice to chat with them. Some of my mom friends have started talking about reading books but most don't actually do it. They say it is too hard to find the time and it does seem to take them a long time to read a book that will take me a couple of days. By time they finish a book I've read 3 or 4 others.
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Post by pjaye on Apr 14, 2016 4:55:45 GMT
I have friends who read, but we don't talk books that often. This is me too. I'm not sure why it is, I guess to some degree people see reading a solitary activity. they read alone and then they finish it and move on. They don't feel the need to talk about it more because it's been read and it's 'over'. I know my friends read, but unless I actually ask "what are you reading?" the topic hardly ever comes up. Then their discussion is limited to "I enjoyed it" or "I didn't like it". I really like talking about the books and what worked and what didn't and what specifically people liked...but I'm in the minority I think. Even on Goodreads sometimes a discussion on a book will start and someone will shut it down with "we all like different things" (I hate that line!) While it's true, that doesn't mean we can't talk about what we like and don't like and why. When there has been a good discussion I like that in some cases other people have made me look at something differently or helped me to understand something better. I also think many people take book opinions too personally. If someone hates a book I loved...I'm all for talking about that more and finding out why and giving my thoughts...but I don't fell slighted or offended that they didn't like the same book. However I have encountered that people get all bent out of shape because you didn't like the same book. I've been mulling over joining a book club, but then I get put off because there's often posts here about people's book clubs where they admit they don't talk about the books much and just drink wine and talk about other things. That would drive me nuts if 90% of the conversation at a book club wasn't about books!
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Post by Skypea on Apr 14, 2016 5:18:13 GMT
growing up I'd read 4-5 books a week. after married and when kids were young I still read about a book a week - between cooking, laundry, kids, sewing, ironing (I did a lot of that back then) etc.
in more recent yrs I don't read as many books. I do have several here waiting for me. a few are such that I can take with me to the doctor's office and get reading done while waiting. At home now I mostly read the Bible or related material. the books I take to read while waiting are Bible related too. I have a stack of those I've been wanting to read. I tend to fall asleep reading these days. I wouldn't let others not reading stop me from reading.
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Post by lesserknownpea on Apr 14, 2016 6:43:59 GMT
I have many bookish friends. I also have bookish grown children. One of my favorite things is sharing and discussing books with all of them.
While led I do have friends that are not that big of readers, frankly, not many. We don't have much in common.
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Post by lesley on Apr 14, 2016 9:04:27 GMT
I used to be a voracious reader, and my BFF and I regularly talked about what we were reading. We had similar taste in books, and often found we were reading the same book at the same time. We had another close friend who read only crappy books ( in our opinion!) and she could never understand how we could get so passionate about the books we read! My BFF and I are no longer in touch, and I miss that aspect of our relationship.
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Post by anxiousmom on Apr 14, 2016 13:48:12 GMT
I have some bookish friends. My sister and cousin especially. I love chatting with people on Goodreads. I have often thought of joining a book club but no time right now. Maybe I will later, when my kids are grown and gone in a couple of years. Lisa.) I've been in a book club for about 13 years with essentially the same group of women. One or two have left and their spots were filled but for the most part the same group. When we started, most of our kids were pretty young-my youngest was in kindergarten (and is a senior now.) A couple of have had children since we started. When we first started, we decided to go with the school year, so we take the summer off, and we have been known to change meeting dates to accommodate times like spring break. Anyway, I just wanted to say that you don't have to wait until your kids are grown, find a group that is flexible and do it for yourself. Make it part of something you do for you. . She is in a book club and always reads the club picks, but really wonders how or why most of those picks are made because she doesn't enjoy them. I've been invited to join book clubs in the past when someone finds out I'm a reader but I have reached a point where I don't finish a book I'm not enjoying and don't want to get caught in a situation where I feel I have to read something. I don't always like our book club choices-it happens with all of us from time to time. In fact, I so very much didn't care for this months choice that I never read the book. I went to our meeting, ate the food, chatted anyway because often our discussions veer off into other topics that are tangentially related to the book, and had a great time. I only abstained from our rating of the book (we like to keep track of what we have read and what we all thought about it.) The flip side is that there have been books that I never, ever, not in a million years would have chosen to read on my own and ended up loving. One thing I really like about doing the book club thing is that it totally takes me outside of my reading comfort zone and forces me to expand my horizons a bit. Even so, I will still not finish a book or skip it altogether if I don't want to read it. The rest of my book club pretty much does the same thing.
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Post by peasapie on Apr 14, 2016 13:55:42 GMT
I have online friends I met on Goodreads who enjoy reading the same genres as I do. In real life, my reading pals and my husband read different genres. However, we still enjoy telling each other about the books we read.
I also have a group of friends who enjoy sewing and crafting. Most I met first online but now get together in person.
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Post by scrappyesq on Apr 14, 2016 14:01:20 GMT
I have friends who read, but we don't talk books that often. This is me too. I'm not sure why it is, I guess to some degree people see reading a solitary activity. they read alone and then they finish it and move on. They don't feel the need to talk about it more because it's been read and it's 'over'. I know my friends read, but unless I actually ask "what are you reading?" the topic hardly ever comes up. Then their discussion is limited to "I enjoyed it" or "I didn't like it". I really like talking about the books and what worked and what didn't and what specifically people liked...but I'm in the minority I think. Even on Goodreads sometimes a discussion on a book will start and someone will shut it down with "we all like different things" (I hate that line!) While it's true, that doesn't mean we can't talk about what we like and don't like and why. When there has been a good discussion I like that in some cases other people have made me look at something differently or helped me to understand something better. I also think many people take book opinions too personally. If someone hates a book I loved...I'm all for talking about that more and finding out why and giving my thoughts...but I don't fell slighted or offended that they didn't like the same book. However I have encountered that people get all bent out of shape because you didn't like the same book. I've been mulling over joining a book club, but then I get put off because there's often posts here about people's book clubs where they admit they don't talk about the books much and just drink wine and talk about other things. That would drive me nuts if 90% of the conversation at a book club wasn't about books!
That's the thing...I have no problem talking about books and sharing opinions good or bad, especially since I dabble in a bunch of different genres, even crappy romance (side eye at you AussieMeg LOL!!). Opinions don't matter to me as much as just talking about books in general or a specific book in particular. I just like knowing that there are likeminded people out there who want to talk literary stuff.
Its funny, I look at scrapping and my other crafty pursuits as more solitary than I do books. I read a book, and I'm done with it but hearing what someone else thought of the book gives me a different perspective that I really like to have.
I was so traumatized after watching firecrotch I needed to reach out for some sanity from other readers.
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Post by debmast on Apr 14, 2016 14:03:27 GMT
I have several friends who are readers - we actually have "book club" (I put in quotes because a couple of the gals in it don't really read LOL). We all met through soccer - all have a daughter the same age who played. Some girls no longer play, but the moms have remained friends.
We meet officially about once every 6 weeks at a restaurant for drinks, dinner and discussion. We discuss the book and just catch up on life. There are a couple that are bigger readers like myself so we usually discuss other books we have read too.
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Post by nicole2112 on Apr 14, 2016 14:21:25 GMT
My in-person friends read on occasion but nothing like what I read which is anywhere between 4-8 books a month typically.
I belong to an online bookclub and we email daily about what we are reading and then we all read the same book each month and talk about it.
I love it and I get my booktalk that way! (If anyone ise interested in hearing more about the bookclub, lmk and I'll send you a link!)
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Post by lisacharlotte on Apr 14, 2016 14:56:33 GMT
I read a lot less in the last 10 years than I used to. I've been reading since I was 4-5. I like a lot of different genres, nonfiction history, I'm a fan of classics I read in school. Somehow IRL when book discussions come up I always end up talking to people who make judgements on "good" and "bad" books. Nothing stops a book conversation faster than telling someone their taste in books is crappy (sorry AussieMeg)! Not a great fan of modern lit. It always seems so bleak.
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Post by lynnek on Apr 14, 2016 15:11:56 GMT
I have two friends that read as much as I do. And we have similar taste. I met both through my kid's sports - one is a "dance mom" with me and the other is a baseball mom. We talk about books a lot and it is so fun to chat about what we are reading.
Ironically, the ladies in my book club as a whole really aren't into reading that much. LOL! There is one other lady in it that I talk books with but in general it is a pretty lose book club. We chat about the book for a limited amount of time then the conversation drifts. I do enjoy the book club though because there is a wide age range (2 in their 30's, me in my 40's, 1 in her 50's , 2 in their 60's, and one just turned 70) so opinions can really be different and interesting.
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Post by scrappyesq on Apr 14, 2016 16:37:20 GMT
I have two friends that read as much as I do. And we have similar taste. I met both through my kid's sports - one is a "dance mom" with me and the other is a baseball mom. We talk about books a lot and it is so fun to chat about what we are reading. Ironically, the ladies in my book club as a whole really aren't into reading that much. LOL! There is one other lady in it that I talk books with but in general it is a pretty lose book club. We chat about the book for a limited amount of time then the conversation drifts. I do enjoy the book club though because there is a wide age range (2 in their 30's, me in my 40's, 1 in her 50's , 2 in their 60's, and one just turned 70) so opinions can really be different and interesting.
In my romance book club there is a pretty big age range. Most of the women are younger than me in their twenties and thirties. I think its only me and one other woman in their forties. Its really interesting to here the youngsters (LOL) talk about things that we look at so differently because we came of age during different generations.
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Post by gottapeanow on Apr 14, 2016 17:39:58 GMT
anxiousmom, Thanks for the suggestion. It's more that I am super busy as a self-employed person. I never know what my work schedule will be. So it's more about the commitment to a book club and packing something else into an already full schedule. Lisa
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Post by Deleted on Apr 14, 2016 18:56:18 GMT
I dont have many friends period and I guess that is because it is hard to find someone that has the same interest. Reading being the biggest. My friends would rather party and drink all night and that is just not what I am in to. It's ok. I like being alone more and more. I dont have to impress myself!
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Post by ntsf on Apr 14, 2016 19:06:47 GMT
let's just say it was over a cultural fit..they wanted to "keep the gender balance" in the group (I had been there three years)..basically too opinionated... I read every book every month.. most of the other members did not. I also suggested many of the books we did read.. but not every one was a hit. I didn't fit into the wealthy know it all, done it all group. my friend had been in the group over 10 yrs and had kept the records.. kept it on track.. and she was disgusted with how I was treated..I was sent an email disinviting me..the excuse was that I never hosted the group in my house.. and the gender balance was not even and I didn't live in the same area as they all did. since then, the group has fallen apart..one member died, one member moved, one member is dying...one is developing early onset dementia. I live more a middle class life..without the multimillion dollar home or lifestyle...also I was not properly vetted when I joined..so "who let me in".. it was all a big excuse.
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Post by disneyer on Apr 14, 2016 20:14:05 GMT
I have lots of book reading friends but we do NOT like the same type of books. I only have a few non reading friends. I look all over the internet to get book ideas.
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Post by smokeynspike on Apr 14, 2016 21:37:43 GMT
My BFF is a big reader like me. One of our favorite things to do is hit Barnes and Noble together. We share a book addiction, for sure.
Melissa
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Post by BlueDiamond on Apr 14, 2016 23:33:53 GMT
I don't. I'd really like to join a book club, as it would prompt me to read more! I go in spurts when it comes to reading, and lately I've been just reading collections of short stories. I find that much easier to pick up and put down than it would a full length novel.
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Post by AussieMeg on Apr 15, 2016 0:41:46 GMT
I dabble in a bunch of different genres, even crappy romance (side eye at you AussieMeg LOL!!). Nothing stops a book conversation faster than telling someone their taste in books is crappy (sorry AussieMeg)! I feel bad now for my comment. And the funny thing is, I feel a bit self-conscious talking about what books I’ve been reading on the weekly reading threads here, because the other girls seem to read much heavier and intellectual books than what I do. My books are mainly crime fiction and thrillers – Michael Connelly, David Baldacci, Jeffery Deaver, James Patterson, Ian Rankin and my new favorite, Angela Marsons. And I get my chick lit fix from Marian Keyes and the occasional Cathy Kelly book.
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Post by refugeepea on Apr 15, 2016 1:44:55 GMT
I feel bad now for my comment. And the funny thing is, I feel a bit self-conscious talking about what books I’ve been reading on the weekly reading threads here, because the other girls seem to read much heavier and intellectual books than what I do. My books are mainly crime fiction and thrillers – Michael Connelly, David Baldacci, Jeffery Deaver, James Patterson, Ian Rankin and my new favorite, Angela Marsons. And I get my chick lit fix from Marian Keyes and the occasional Cathy Kelly book. You should join in! I try to, but as stated earlier in the thread I take my sweet time reading. So, I randomly participate. Hell, I'm reading Harry Potter. That was so 10 or more years ago.
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Post by zookeeper on Apr 15, 2016 2:54:07 GMT
I have one friend who reads quite a bit but we don't live close enough to talk regularly about books. I have a couple of FB friends that are also readers and we recommend books to each other over FB. However, I would love to be a part of a book club with 5-7 women and I am certain that I don't know that many women who read like I do. They either don't have the time or the desire.
I cannot imagine my life without books. I love coming to the "What are you reading" threads on this board and I have had several excellent book recommendations from the peas here.
I just wish I had some friends to get together for book discussion. Or at least not get the oddball look when I ask somebody what kind of books they like to read.
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Post by pjaye on Apr 15, 2016 3:24:33 GMT
I feel a bit self-conscious talking about what books I’ve been reading on the weekly reading threads here, because the other girls seem to read much heavier and intellectual books than what I do. See this is what I meant when I posted earlier, that if I read a different sort of book to someone, then even without me saying anything, other people assume I am putting down their book choices. For example right now I am listening to Macbeth. Why? Because I read it several times at school and it was my main book for a year and I did my final exam essay on it, so it's a book I know quite well. Last year I read "Not My father's Son" by Alan Cumming and I loved his voice. Then I went looking for other books narrated by him and found there was a new version of Macbeth written as a novel and narrated by Cumming, and it was on sale...so I bought it. So if you ask me what I'm reading and I say "Macbeth" that does not I'm thinking "ooh look at me I read Shakespeare and you're just reading Marian Keyes so I'm so much smarter than you" It's just what I am reading and there's reasons behind my choice, so ask me about it and I'll tell you, and then you'll probably tell me about some of the books you read in high school and what you liked or didn't like. Then I'll ask you about your book and you'll tell me why you like that genre/author etc, and we'll keep talking about books....that's how the conversation *should* go. However I do find that as a person who does like to read what others perceive to be "heavier/intellectual books" it means other people make assumptions that their choices aren't up to par and so they shut down the book conversation totally. I may dislike specific books or specific genres or I may think something is badly written or is too simplistic, but that's the *book* I don't think the same things (necessarily) apply to the person who reads them.
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Post by scrappyesq on Apr 15, 2016 13:04:33 GMT
I dabble in a bunch of different genres, even crappy romance (side eye at you AussieMeg LOL!!). Nothing stops a book conversation faster than telling someone their taste in books is crappy (sorry AussieMeg)! I feel bad now for my comment. And the funny thing is, I feel a bit self-conscious talking about what books I’ve been reading on the weekly reading threads here, because the other girls seem to read much heavier and intellectual books than what I do. My books are mainly crime fiction and thrillers – Michael Connelly, David Baldacci, Jeffery Deaver, James Patterson, Ian Rankin and my new favorite, Angela Marsons. And I get my chick lit fix from Marian Keyes and the occasional Cathy Kelly book.
Don't feel bad!!! I get made fun of all the time, despite the fact that I can be reading Anna Karenina with one hand and The Greek Billionaire's Virgin Bride with the other.
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Post by scrappyesq on Apr 15, 2016 13:29:18 GMT
I feel bad now for my comment. And the funny thing is, I feel a bit self-conscious talking about what books I’ve been reading on the weekly reading threads here, because the other girls seem to read much heavier and intellectual books than what I do. My books are mainly crime fiction and thrillers – Michael Connelly, David Baldacci, Jeffery Deaver, James Patterson, Ian Rankin and my new favorite, Angela Marsons. And I get my chick lit fix from Marian Keyes and the occasional Cathy Kelly book. You should join in! I try to, but as stated earlier in the thread I take my sweet time reading. So, I randomly participate. Hell, I'm reading Harry Potter. That was so 10 or more years ago. I read the entire HP series last year, 6 or 7 years after the last book. I'm one of those people that hates hyped up books but the series was SOOOOO good I wish I was one of those people who waited on line at Barnes and Noble for the latest book.
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