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Post by jeremysgirl on Apr 18, 2016 21:54:45 GMT
On Friday, my DD got asked to the prom. On Saturday, her friend picked her up to go dress shopping. What I did not know is that the girls went to a local church that gives away donated prom dresses. My DD found a dress she loved, she sent me a picture and I asked how much it cost. And she said it was free. I asked her to ask someone if the church was collecting donations but no one was there collecting donations either that she could find. But this is a nice dress, dry cleaned and everything. So I would like to do something nice, like give them some kind of donation. At the very least, we can have the dress drycleaned after prom and donate it back to the church. Would you give the church a donation and if so, what do you think would be reasonable? I don't have much money, but I could have bought my DD a prom dress. She didn't even ask me.
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Post by quiltz on Apr 18, 2016 21:59:01 GMT
I would accept this dress and return it back to the church, dry cleaned with a thank you note.
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Post by myshelly on Apr 18, 2016 22:00:11 GMT
I would dry clean the dress after the prom and donate it back to the church.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 18, 2016 22:01:15 GMT
I would.
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Post by papersilly on Apr 18, 2016 22:03:01 GMT
I would make a donation to the church for sure. if you could have afforded to buy the dress but she decided to do this anyway, I would still "buy" the dress through a donation.
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Post by hop2 on Apr 18, 2016 22:03:08 GMT
I would give if I could afford it. Heck finding the 'perfect' dress is a difficult thing and is valuable ( to me ) on its own.
I could afford $50 so I would and I would also clean and donate the dress back.
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Post by kelly8875 on Apr 18, 2016 22:03:53 GMT
I would just donate it back after prom. One of our local radio stations puts on "gown town" every year, collecting nearly 1,000 dresses and has a free event for girls. They collect, clean, and give them away. Many people donate them back for the next year.
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Post by bosoxbeth on Apr 18, 2016 22:14:02 GMT
I would most definitely make a donation in this case. It's a wonderful gesture of thanks.
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Post by gottapeanow on Apr 18, 2016 22:20:57 GMT
I would donate the dress back and make some kind of token donation, even if it's not that large. In my area, you could likely buy a prom dress at a thrift store for $20 or $30, so I would give that amount.
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Post by johnnysmom on Apr 18, 2016 22:22:49 GMT
I'm sure this is going to come out all wrong but for me it would depend on what type of dress event this was. Was it something that was really meant for kids who can't afford a dress, which it sounds like isn't your daughter (since you said you could afford to buy her a dress)? Or was it something meant for anyone and just a way to recycle dresses?
If it was the 2nd, I'd probably just find a way to pay it forward by re-donating the dress or whatever. If it was the first I'd make a donation so they can help those in need in a different way.
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Post by freecharlie on Apr 18, 2016 22:54:45 GMT
Check to see if the church was actually the organizer or just the place they had it at. Often the prom dress recycle will set up shop in different areas.
By all mean, send a donation, but know what you are donating too
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Post by jenjie on Apr 18, 2016 22:56:51 GMT
You might be surprised. There are outreach events that my church holds and they never expect or accept money for them. (We only ever invite outsiders for a "fundraiser" if the money is going to someone other than the church. Such as the benefit that they held for my family and the yearly car wash/yard sale we hold to raise money for an outside need such as supplying police vests or playground equipment in town)
But if you were to make a donation with a nice thank you note, or even just the note I don't think it would be inappropriate.
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Post by Eddie-n-Harley on Apr 18, 2016 23:41:02 GMT
Let me ask this: what would you like to help fund at the church?
I ask only because if you straight up give cash, I don't know if they can/would earmark it for the program or if it might go to, say, new hymnals or the Sunday morning coffee fund. Of course, if you don't care how they use the money, then cash remains an option.
But if you want to support the program, I'd clean and donate the dress back. If they accept things like jewelry or handbags, I might go pick up a pretty necklace or bag that matches to donate with the dress with the cash that I would have otherwise wanted to donate.
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Post by NoWomanNoCry on Apr 19, 2016 1:23:42 GMT
I'd probably donate money. Maybe $75 since it's a good cause and now you don't have the headache of having to shop for a dress with a teenager.
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Post by GiantsFan on Apr 19, 2016 1:34:47 GMT
I would give a monetary donation to the church, even it's it's $20.
If you think your daughter will never wear the dress again, the also donate it back so some else can wear it in the future.
And, what a great thing the church is doing.
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Post by eastcoastpea on Apr 19, 2016 1:38:19 GMT
You could find out who organized it and ask them how you could express your thanks in a way that would benefit the program.
Hooray for finding a dress. I love the idea of a dress being used by more than one person.
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Post by Peamac on Apr 19, 2016 9:33:48 GMT
Let me ask this: what would you like to help fund at the church? I ask only because if you straight up give cash, I don't know if they can/would earmark it for the program or if it might go to, say, new hymnals or the Sunday morning coffee fund. Of course, if you don't care how they use the money, then cash remains an option. But if you want to support the program, I'd clean and donate the dress back. If they accept things like jewelry or handbags, I might go pick up a pretty necklace or bag that matches to donate with the dress with the cash that I would have otherwise wanted to donate. If you earmark the cash donation to go toward a specific church program, they have to use it that way. I'd send $30 to $50, a thank you note, and the dry cleaned dress back after the prom. |
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