J u l e e
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Post by J u l e e on Jul 31, 2014 18:01:46 GMT
I left for college at 17 and never came home for summers. I always lived in apartments so where I lived was mine, not a dorm that you had to leave for holidays, etc. I was financially independent as soon as I left, because my parents didn't have the money to help with any college or living expenses. I worked three jobs during college and split apartments with lots of friends to share expenses until my senior year when I lived alone in an efficiency.
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theshyone
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Post by theshyone on Jul 31, 2014 18:09:42 GMT
I left home 3 days after my seventeenth birthday. I had to support myself by waitressing. I finished grade 11 that year by correspondence. Enrolled in a different school the next year. Graduated on the honor roll at the time I would have. I put myself through college and a degree. Best decision I ever made was walking out that door.
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Post by alibama on Jul 31, 2014 19:02:28 GMT
I left home at 17 I would say it was mistake but I did end up with my beautiful daughter two years later.
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Post by meowgal on Jul 31, 2014 19:07:53 GMT
18 to go away to college. Moved back in with them for a few months in my late 30's after returning from living overseas and waiting for my then-fiance to get his move to the USA in order. Then moved back in with my Mum when I was 41 after my Dad died and she needed help. My brother moved in 4 years ago after a nasty divorce. Mum died last year and brother died a few months ago, so I'm on my own again at 54.
I think that as we get older, moving back home to care for aging parents isn't QUITE the same as living with them due to the high expenses of living alone.
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maurchclt
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Post by maurchclt on Jul 31, 2014 19:08:20 GMT
Left to go to college at 19, lived at home and went to a community college before that, married a week after I graduated, so I left and never came back.
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Post by littlemama on Jul 31, 2014 19:11:40 GMT
When I got married at 25.
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akathy
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Post by akathy on Jul 31, 2014 19:14:26 GMT
I left home when I got married at 19.
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azredhead
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Post by azredhead on Jul 31, 2014 19:15:19 GMT
17 then 19 never went back
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Post by blueeyedpups on Jul 31, 2014 20:05:37 GMT
I was 17 when I moved out.
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Post by bdawnb on Jul 31, 2014 20:22:24 GMT
I moved into an apartment when I was 20. My very conservative mother was beside herself because she thought everyone would think we had had a fight or that I just wanted to be out from under her eagle I to run wild. Neither was true; I was just ready to be out of the two bedroom, one bathroom house with four females.
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MaryMary
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Post by MaryMary on Jul 31, 2014 20:54:13 GMT
17
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Post by polz on Jul 31, 2014 20:56:14 GMT
I was 16. I'll cry if DD does the same (she is 14). 16 seems so young to me.
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Post by mama2three on Jul 31, 2014 20:57:19 GMT
18 to go to college. Never even considered moving back home after that or even visited longer than a week at a time. Had a lot of small shared rentals and temporary living situations over the years depending on what I could afford but I was glad to be out on my own. I don't know many people my age who lived at home into their late 20s. They either left to go to college or got married; either way they moved out by 18-20.
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Post by vicloo on Jul 31, 2014 21:04:09 GMT
I moved out when I was 17 and still in high school. Life at home was very unhealthy and I think my Mom felt I would be better off on my own than with her and my step-father. I was so very naive. Don't have any idea how I managed it.
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Post by Lexica on Jul 31, 2014 21:10:52 GMT
I moved out at 21 to get married. We lived in an apartment for a couple of years and were saving money to buy our first home. This was during the days when there were more buyers than homes available and they began releasing homes for sale in lottery fashion. Each new offering was thousands of dollars more than the previous offering and we couldn't possible save up fast enough even though we both worked full time jobs. After not having our name drawn two or three drawings in a row, and being out priced for our first choice neighborhood, were invited to move back in to my parent's house to try to save enough to stay in the game with the rising cost of the homes.
They did not charge us any rent so that all we had went into the housing fund. My father offered my DH a job at a much higher pay. That kept us in the running with hopes of buying a home. I also started a small catering business, making lunches to order for the employees at my father's business. I had been packing my father's lunches and everyone was asking him where he got it. He talked to me about selling some lunches to his employees, so I started up a small side business to do that. That money also went into the housing fund to keep up as close to the rising numbers as possible.
We were finally chosen in a lottery and by that time, had to buy a house in the cheapest neighborhood. Not what we wanted, but at least it was a home in the planned community of Mission Viejo. Shortly after we purchased our lot, my sister was able to win the opportunity to purchase a home in the neighborhood we really wanted. After watching all this going on, my parents decided to sell their home in Downey and move to Orange County to be near their two daughters. They listed their home and it sold the first week. They put their things into storage and moved into the new home my DH and I just bought. I was happy to be able to return the opportunity that they had given to us. They lived with us until their new home was built. We lived separately for many many years.
Fast forward multiple years and after my father died at 90 years old, my mom came to live with me. I was divorced and living alone in a too-big-for-me home. (Actually the house we purchased after selling the lottery home) She still lives with me for the majority of the year and spends a few months with both sisters as well. Although during her stay with each sister, she invariably ends up back with me for a few weeks due to the plans of either sister. Mom is with me right now because my younger sister went camping for 2 weeks and mom didn't want to go. She goes to my older sister next and has already told me she is coming home for 2 weeks of her time there due to a vacation that sister is taking. I love being the stable place where she knows she can always come home to. So, I guess I'm still living with my mother at 60 years old!
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Post by epeanymous on Jul 31, 2014 21:13:50 GMT
I left for college at 18. I spent my summers away as well, went to grad school, got married, etc. So I would say 18.
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Post by AussieMeg on Aug 1, 2014 4:05:29 GMT
It seems that so many people on the board here moved out when they went to college, which I didn't consider when I posted this thread. It seems very different compared to my experience in Australie. When I finished high school (in 1985) only one of my close friends went to Uni. The rest of us went out to get jobs. A Uni degree really wasn't a very big thing here back then. You could still get a good job without a degree. These days it's far more important to have a Uni degree. But most kids go to Uni in the same state where they live, usually in the same city. That's why a lot of Australian kids live at home while they are going to Uni. I only know one person who had to live in a dorm while attending Uni, and that's because she attended Uni in a regional town rather than here in Melbourne.
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Post by totravel on Aug 1, 2014 6:16:05 GMT
I left home when I got married at age 23.
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Post by anniefb on Aug 1, 2014 6:52:40 GMT
24 for me. After I finished law school and was starting work.
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Post by anniefb on Aug 1, 2014 6:53:56 GMT
It seems that so many people on the board here moved out when they went to college, which I didn't consider when I posted this thread. It seems very different compared to my experience in Australie. When I finished high school (in 1985) only one of my close friends went to Uni. The rest of us went out to get jobs. A Uni degree really wasn't a very big thing here back then. You could still get a good job without a degree. These days it's far more important to have a Uni degree. But most kids go to Uni in the same state where they live, usually in the same city. That's why a lot of Australian kids live at home while they are going to Uni. I only know one person who had to live in a dorm while attending Uni, and that's because she attended Uni in a regional town rather than here in Melbourne. Same in NZ. I lived at home while going to Uni.
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luvnlifelady
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Post by luvnlifelady on Aug 1, 2014 8:28:04 GMT
I was 28. Went straight from my parents' home to marriage. In hindsight, I should've moved out first and had roommates. I didn't do the dorm thing like DH did and I think it taught him a great deal about how to get along with people. He's much more easy-going and laidback than I am and easy to get along with.
Right now, the plan is for 17 yo DD to go to the junior college locally and stay at home, then transfer. She is one of those kids who I think would really benefit from the dorm or at least roommate experience before marriage so I hope that happens for her.
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tduby1
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Post by tduby1 on Aug 1, 2014 11:16:36 GMT
For me it was a few months after I turned 19. I'd been at Uni and decided to drop out. My parents told me I'd have to get a job and pay rent...which I was OK with...but then they still wanted to to behave like a child and report in, tell them where I was etc. We had a huge argument one weekend when I told my parents where I was going AND I told them I was staying the night...but they still got mad at me for not coming home. I figured if I was paying paying rent to them but not getting any of the privileges of being an adult that I may as well pay rent to someone else and do what I wanted. I moved out with my high school boyfriend's sister 2 weeks later. Never lived at home again. Bought my own apartment when I was 26 and have owned ever since. I was 19 and my story was almost identical- right down to the age, dropping out of college, having to get a job and pat rent, except my sister and I moved out together and got our own apartment (with my baby niece). Same reason, though. Except, I came home after "curfew" (which was 10 and I got home at 12) as my final stand and my mom had locked me out but my sister let me in. After all the yelling ended, we decided to move out, so we did. Our brothers helped us move and my parents acted like nothing was happening. Thy were in denial. When we invited them to see our apartment my mom snapped, "I would never set foot in that house of horrors!" Except I heard "house of whores"- because the two are pronounced nearly identical when said quickly, here in MI. and was heartbroken. (I always clear enunciate the word horrors as a result). Some weeks later, I finally mentioned to my dad what I thought she had said because they couldn't figure out why I wasn't speaking to her. He got to the bottom of it then things settled down, for a few years. Thats when I got my own place independent of my sister, who now had two kids. I gave her 6 months notice but then SHE was in denial. Moving day came and she had no place to go. She (and my parents) figured I would just cave and take them with them me. I didn't. My parents ended up buying her a trailer that same day out of desperation. As devastated as they were when she left with the first baby, they really weren't all that interested in having her back home anymore. They learned to enjoy their peaceful home devoid of her crazy boyfriend and her. She was a lot of drama back then, lol.
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chasetsun
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Post by chasetsun on Aug 1, 2014 11:29:13 GMT
17. Left for college and never went back.
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Post by camanddanismom on Aug 1, 2014 11:52:56 GMT
I went to college at 17. After graduation, I moved home to find a job and then stayed there a couple of years until I could afford to live on my own.
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Post by mari on Aug 1, 2014 14:54:13 GMT
I left at 18 for college. I returned after graduation (at 23) and my parents urged me to save money instead of renting an apartment so I stayed at home until I moved to a new city for work/grad school at age 25.
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caro
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Post by caro on Aug 1, 2014 14:55:12 GMT
18 and college dorm. But I did move home after the death of my first DH and was pregnant. I stayed until after the birth of my baby then moved into an apartment to start over. Wasn't 't easy but I did it.
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Post by gotranch on Aug 1, 2014 18:35:23 GMT
Another one with a late fall birthday. I moved out when I was 17. I went to a vo-tech for a year, worked for 4 years as a teacher aide, then went to college for 3 years. I started teaching when I was 26. I was 4th oldest of a family of 11 siblings, so I was ready to be on my own and loved the peace and quiet! This reminded me of something that I was not aware of at the time. While I was enjoying the peace and quiet and freedom of having my own space, I did not realize that my little brothers and sisters (the youngest was about 4) cried every night for a month when I moved because they missed me so much. We had bedrooms upstairs in an old farmhouse (think the Waltons) and I would read or tell stories to them every night before bedtime. I didn't find out until about 10 years later and I felt so bad - poor little things. I was just moving on and enjoying myself it never occurred to me that they would miss me!
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freebird
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Post by freebird on Aug 1, 2014 18:49:53 GMT
18. I was ready to run. I basically ran away from home and married the first boy (man) interested in me. My parents have always favored my younger sister from the moment she was born and I became their babysitter, 2nd mamma. I felt very unloved and like a maid. I had to go.
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Post by sisterbdsq on Aug 1, 2014 19:25:00 GMT
At 19 I moved for good. I had been in and out for 2 years at that point. I had my own apartment. I didn't wait until I could afford a mortgage, nor would I have asked my parents to pay my way.
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Post by mdoc on Aug 1, 2014 19:49:16 GMT
I'm a female American of Irish/German descent, and I left home permanently when I was 23. Prior to that, I was away at college, then law school, for most of the year but still lived at home for several weeks during the summer.
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