perumbula
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Post by perumbula on Jun 17, 2016 1:49:05 GMT
So something awful happened at my neighbors' house. There are police cars and first responders all over out there. But no ambulance.
And even though my heart is breaking for them, the fact that I don't know what happened is making me wild. I'm surreptitiously peeking out my window every 10 minutes and my brain is racing trying to figure things out. I'm also annoyed with myself for even being that curious about it. It's obviously something very bad, as in I think the husband may have died. But my inner Mrs. Kravitz can't let it go.
I did have enough tact to not go over and ask. That's something right?
Please tell me I'm not the only one who does this.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 17, 2016 1:54:27 GMT
Oh heck no. In my neighborhood, everyone who is awake/home/alive will come over to see what's going on and within 15 minutes, everyone who is asleep or gone will have gotten a phone call or text.
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valleyview
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Post by valleyview on Jun 17, 2016 1:54:31 GMT
I think most of us would be curious about that, and it's unsettling to have police in the neighborhood.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 17, 2016 2:01:52 GMT
No, you're not alone! Of course you want to find out what's going on. The police are there, for heaven's sake. I'd be doing the same thing.
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Post by gritzi on Jun 17, 2016 2:02:41 GMT
At our previous home we were very close to most of our neighbors. One day I saw a multitude of police and rescue next door. We were acquainted, but not what I would define as close. Several of us went out to ask if we could help with the child, because he/she had just arrived from school. The rescuers could give us no details, but assured us that someone would be there soon for the child. The next time 911 was called it was evident the parent had passed because soon after the coroner arrived. We all supported the spouse and assured that we were available to whatever was needed.
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Post by bc2ca on Jun 17, 2016 2:08:28 GMT
You are definitely not alone  . One neighbor had Sundowners and called the police regularly, so it wasn't unusual to have police and/or EMS respond. I hope your neighbor is OK. |
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Peal
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Post by Peal on Jun 17, 2016 2:10:10 GMT
We had a neighbor who fostered teens. There was always drama at their house. One night one of the kids went away in an ambulance, their front door was to the side of our bedroom window, so we knew a lot of who came and went. When we got up in the morning there were detectives and CSI vans and CPS, the kids had been separated from the adults and every one was being interviewed in cars. They were there all day. We were all curious. She came and told us later. After that she stopped fostering teens and took in young adults. The drama factor shot way up with that. It was like an emergency vehicle revolving door. We stopped being curious.
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moodyblue
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Post by moodyblue on Jun 17, 2016 2:11:30 GMT
I think it's normal. Yeah, it's curiosity but it's also caring too and wanting to help if you can.
Our neighborhood is the same way and we all want to know what's up if the police are around or an ambulance comes.
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Post by Chips on Jun 17, 2016 2:15:11 GMT
In my neighborhood people check in, make sure everything is ok and see if anything is needed. If you went over I don't think it would be nosy but more an act of caring and looking out for each other.
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perumbula
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Post by perumbula on Jun 17, 2016 2:37:29 GMT
I did go over right after the first police car showed up. The kids were all outside crying by themselves. I knew them from my time working in the schools (not close to my neighbors) and I asked them if they were ok and if I could help. I didn't ask them what happened at that time. their mother arrived just a couple of minutes later, so they weren't alone long. Friends of the mom showed up quickly too, so luckily they had support quickly.
I"m pretty sure it was the coroner's van in the driveway a few minutes ago.
It's times like this when I feel extra guilty for not being a good neighbor. If we had some kind of relationship, I could have offered more without them feeling weird about it.
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Post by refugeepea on Jun 17, 2016 2:40:35 GMT
Now I'm being Mrs. Kravitz! So is it an older man whose adult kids found him at home?
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Post by 950nancy on Jun 17, 2016 2:43:58 GMT
Rental next to us had a drug dealer. They guy was really nice. The owner of the house had been told by numerous neighbors that the steady stream of friends and relatives that came by for 5-10 minutes at a time were buying drugs. He didn't believe it. Cause, you know, family always comes to the house by crawling on their bellies to get under the garage door that is open 18 inches all day and most nights. One night while my husband and I were gone, a swat team came in and did their thing. All of the neighbors came out after the dude was taken away. He had trashed the house completely growing the Mary Jane and other assorted activities. My boys felt like they were up close and personal on a Cops episode.
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Peamac
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Post by Peamac on Jun 17, 2016 3:01:49 GMT
I'm still wondering why a helicopter landed near our house late one night last year! Nothing showed up on the police blotter, and I don't know those neighbors well enough to ask.
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Post by scorpeao on Jun 17, 2016 3:04:41 GMT
Nope, not alone. I do it all the time. I am refraining from getting a police scanner because that would be crazy, right?
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Post by dewryce on Jun 17, 2016 3:16:05 GMT
I came in here for the Lenny photos. No idea who other Mrs. Kravitz is, assuming famous nosy neighbor.
I think it is natural to be curious. No time like the present to become the neighbor you want to be. If it was a coronor's van I imagine things are about to be crazy for them, it sounds lime the father passed. Perhaps when y'all are mowing your yard you could get their front yard for them. Or take their trash barrel back up to the house. You are in a great position in that when it seems help from outside is dying down, you can be aware and perhaps drop by with something (food, tissues, their mail) and introduce yourself and offer some specific help? I'm trying to remember things from previous loss threads.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 17, 2016 3:16:29 GMT
The poor family.  |
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Post by janeliz on Jun 17, 2016 3:17:16 GMT
You're not alone. We haven't had any police activity happening, knock on wood, but when I'm standing at my kitchen sink window I often watch my next door neighbors. "Oh look---John and his wife came to visit...aw, and they brought the grandkids...".
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perumbula
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Post by perumbula on Jun 17, 2016 3:19:56 GMT
Now I'm being Mrs. Kravitz! So is it an older man whose adult kids found him at home? oh gosh no. It's worse. The oldest is 15 and the youngest is five. He's a step dad in his thirties. He and my neighbor have been together a couple of years. |
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Post by mom on Jun 17, 2016 3:25:08 GMT
Now I'm being Mrs. Kravitz! So is it an older man whose adult kids found him at home? oh gosh no. It's worse. The oldest is 15 and the youngest is five. He's a step dad in his thirties. He and my neighbor have been together a couple of years. Oh wow sad! SaveSave |
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Post by grammanisi on Jun 17, 2016 3:37:34 GMT
My husband and I would both be outside right now, along with most of the neighborhood!
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Post by femalebusiness on Jun 17, 2016 3:46:43 GMT
I don't want to seem nosy...so I always send my husband.  The last time that happened a neighbor hanged himself in the backyard. |
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Post by workingclassdog on Jun 17, 2016 3:50:36 GMT
Oh heck no... lucky my neighbor is Mrs. Kravitz so I get all my information from her. So it keeps me out of the loop but in the loop.. LOL..
Sorry about your neighbor though...
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Post by marimoose on Jun 17, 2016 3:54:14 GMT
Rental next to us had a drug dealer. They guy was really nice. The owner of the house had been told by numerous neighbors that the steady stream of friends and relatives that came by for 5-10 minutes at a time were buying drugs. He didn't believe it. Cause, you know, family always comes to the house by crawling on their bellies to get under the garage door that is open 18 inches all day and most nights. One night while my husband and I were gone, a swat team came in and did their thing. All of the neighbors came out after the dude was taken away. He had trashed the house completely growing the Mary Jane and other assorted activities. My boys felt like they were up close and personal on a Cops episode. We had a similar situation with drug dealers next door but no swat team. The landlords finally wised up and moved them out. I will say that at times it was entertaining to watch the constant flow of people entering and leaving in rapid succession. Those were my Mrs. Kravitz moments. |
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Post by workingclassdog on Jun 17, 2016 3:55:23 GMT
I came in here for the Lenny photos. No idea who other Mrs. Kravitz is, assuming famous nosy neighbor. I think it is natural to be curious. No time like the present to become the neighbor you want to be. If it was a coronor's van I imagine things are about to be crazy for them, it sounds lime the father passed. Perhaps when y'all are mowing your yard you could get their front yard for them. Or take their trash barrel back up to the house. You are in a great position in that when it seems help from outside is dying down, you can be aware and perhaps drop by with something (food, tissues, their mail) and introduce yourself and offer some specific help? I'm trying to remember things from previous loss threads. Mrs. Kravitz was the nosy neighbor in the TV show Bewitched in the 1960s. So it's common to say "being Mrs. Kravitz" if you are about 35 and older.  She would always be in the window watching Samantha (the witch) making things appear and disappear.. she would yell for her husband (in a real high annoying voice) and of course he never saw anything different and thought she was the one that was nuts. |
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Post by dewryce on Jun 17, 2016 4:02:09 GMT
I came in here for the Lenny photos. No idea who other Mrs. Kravitz is, assuming famous nosy neighbor. I think it is natural to be curious. No time like the present to become the neighbor you want to be. If it was a coronor's van I imagine things are about to be crazy for them, it sounds lime the father passed. Perhaps when y'all are mowing your yard you could get their front yard for them. Or take their trash barrel back up to the house. You are in a great position in that when it seems help from outside is dying down, you can be aware and perhaps drop by with something (food, tissues, their mail) and introduce yourself and offer some specific help? I'm trying to remember things from previous loss threads. Mrs. Kravitz was the nosy neighbor in the TV show Bewitched in the 1960s. So it's common to say "being Mrs. Kravitz" if you are about 35 and older. She would always be in the window watching Samantha (the witch) making things appear and disappear.. she would yell for her husband (in a real high annoying voice) and of course he never saw anything different and thought she was the one that was nuts. Oh, thanks! As much as I would love the cause of not knowing being due to my young age, sadly that is not the case. I'm 43 and actually watched Bewitched, but I have a horrible memory and don't remember the character. Still ll would have preferred Lenny photos |
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Post by mlynn on Jun 17, 2016 4:09:41 GMT
I came in here for the Lenny photos. No idea who other Mrs. Kravitz is, assuming famous nosy neighbor. Gladys Kravitz was the busybody neighbor on Bewitched. |
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Post by lisacharlotte on Jun 17, 2016 4:51:58 GMT
Nope, not alone. I do it all the time. I am refraining from getting a police scanner because that would be crazy, right? I use a scanner app on my phone. 5-0 Radio. |
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Post by garcia5050 on Jun 17, 2016 5:04:14 GMT
Nope, not alone. I do it all the time. I am refraining from getting a police scanner because that would be crazy, right? I use a scanner app on my phone. 5-0 Radio. This is not something I wanted to know! Now I'm going to be that person! |
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Post by Nink on Jun 17, 2016 5:38:59 GMT
Anytime something happens in our 'hood I send DH down the street to talk to Mr. Garcia. That man knows all the happenings. DH and I joke if we ever got divorced, mr. Garcia would probably know before us.
I can find things out, with none of the leg work.
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Post by anniebygaslight on Jun 17, 2016 5:53:46 GMT
Where I live, there would be a crowd outside the house.
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. One neighbor had Sundowners and called the police regularly, so it wasn't unusual to have police and/or EMS respond. I hope your neighbor is OK.
