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Post by smalltowngirlie on Jun 20, 2016 18:27:46 GMT
This is just a vent.
We are up north this week and in-laws are staying with us for less than 48 hours. We made meal plans and I stressed to only bring up what could/would be used, I do not want leftovers. MIL brought up way more than needed and has said we can just keep whatever is leftover several times.
Last night FIL said something about leaving the extra chips and MIL said "they do not want leftovers". OK what about the extra watermelon, cantaloupe, pea pods, asparagus, water, cookies that she said we could keep. She brought this up knowing there would be extra to leave.
We are going to have so much food leftover.
ETA thanks for all the support. I know this is not a huge problem, but more a PIA. She did leave much of her food behind. I will adjust our meals and use up what is open and take home what is still closed. I have no problem with them bringing lots of food, just take home what you bring.
Also, the cookies were Pecan Sandies, I don't like that kind.
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Post by Zee on Jun 20, 2016 18:37:30 GMT
You win best #FWP of the day
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Post by femalebusiness on Jun 20, 2016 18:38:10 GMT
Toss it and have no guilt.
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Post by kernriver on Jun 20, 2016 18:40:43 GMT
You win best #FWP of the day Definition please? I think I understand and agree with this but would like clarification.
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Post by kernriver on Jun 20, 2016 18:42:50 GMT
This is just a vent. We are up north this week and in-laws are staying with us for less than 48 hours. We made meal plans and I stressed to only bring up what could/would be used, I do not want leftovers. MIL brought up way more than needed and has said we can just keep whatever is leftover several times. Last night FIL said something about leaving the extra chips and MIL said "they do not want leftovers". OK what about the extra watermelon, cantaloupe, pea pods, asparagus, water, cookies that she said we could keep. She brought this up knowing there would be extra to leave. We are going to have so much food leftover. Why wouldn't you just eat the stuff? And why on god's green earth would leftover cookies be a problem? They're cookies!! And water??? How can bottled water (I assume its bottled water) be classified as leftovers?
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Post by smalltowngirlie on Jun 20, 2016 18:51:30 GMT
None of us need extra cookies, we brought enough of our own junk food. We will throw most away and haul home the rest. It means we will be dealing with it rather than her. Definitely a First World Problem.
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Post by Zee on Jun 20, 2016 18:53:45 GMT
You win best #FWP of the day Definition please? I think I understand and agree with this but would like clarification. First World Problem this OP is actually the very definition of a FWP.
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Post by kernriver on Jun 20, 2016 18:57:37 GMT
Definition please? I think I understand and agree with this but would like clarification. First World Problem this OP is actually the very definition of a FWP. Oh shoot! I thought it meant " Fuck Wit Problem".
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Post by Zee on Jun 20, 2016 18:58:50 GMT
First World Problem this OP is actually the very definition of a FWP. Oh shoot! I thought it meant " Fuck Wit Problem". Oh my! I'm kind of mean, but I'm not THAT mean over a vent! LOL
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Post by blue tulip on Jun 20, 2016 19:00:21 GMT
ha, so she must like chips then, if THOSE are what she doesn't want to leave?
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Post by gmcwife1 on Jun 20, 2016 19:05:47 GMT
Darn those guests bringing food to help contribute. I can't believe the nerve of them
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Post by cindyupnorth on Jun 20, 2016 19:10:55 GMT
Oh shoot! I thought it meant " Fuck Wit Problem HA!!!! I love it. And definitely borders on that, and can be used often on here.!! LOL!!
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Post by mellowyellow on Jun 20, 2016 19:13:12 GMT
This is just a vent. We are up north this week and in-laws are staying with us for less than 48 hours. We made meal plans and I stressed to only bring up what could/would be used, I do not want leftovers. MIL brought up way more than needed and has said we can just keep whatever is leftover several times. Last night FIL said something about leaving the extra chips and MIL said "they do not want leftovers". OK what about the extra watermelon, cantaloupe, pea pods, asparagus, water, cookies that she said we could keep. She brought this up knowing there would be extra to leave. We are going to have so much food leftover. I'll validate you! I hate to waste food so I would have been irritated because what you listed probably would have gone bad before we could get to it especially since you already made plans for meals.
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Post by freebird on Jun 20, 2016 19:13:49 GMT
Leftovers at my house? I wouldn't sweat it really, but I kinda get what the OP is saying. Having to drag a bunch of food home from vacation is a PITA. I say you just toss it and move on. Except for stuff like bottled water, that seems really wasteful.
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Post by giatocj on Jun 20, 2016 19:14:56 GMT
Darn those guests bringing food to help contribute. I can't believe the nerve of them I was kind of thinking the same thing...damn those helpers!!
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Post by christinec68 on Jun 20, 2016 19:17:18 GMT
I hear ya. If they knew they wouldn't eat the food, they should have respected your wishes and not bring so much. Is there a reason they can't take it back home with them?
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Post by freecharlie on Jun 20, 2016 19:21:26 GMT
I first read it as they brought the stuff to your house, but after reading your second post, it sounds like you are all away from home, is that correct?
We totally do that to my SIL. we buy stuff to eat at the condo and then she ends up taking the leftovers home since she drives and we fly. I never thought it was a burden for her.
If you don't want it, throw it away in front of them.
But also see their point in bringing the food. Maybe a recipe or meal plan called for green onions, I can't just buy one, so they buy the bundle and there are leftovers.
I want strawberries and one carton isn't quite enough, but two gives leftovers.
Maybe have one day at the end when no prep cam occur until all the leftovers are eaten or used or thrown away
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Post by smalltowngirlie on Jun 20, 2016 19:31:11 GMT
Yes we are at a cabin so either we throw it all away or haul it back home and deal with it there.
We did discuss a food plan so she knew what I had planned. I said that whatever they bring up they should plan on bringing back home.
She did this last year also except we were leaving at the same time. She kept putting her stuff in our cooler saying we could have it. DH said he thought we brought more food home last than we brought up.
I am on my phone and not sure how to quote, but whoever said they do this to SIL unless she made it clear she does not want leftovers, which I did, then don't worry about it.
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Post by caangel on Jun 20, 2016 19:38:36 GMT
We always plan the last day or two to have leftovers for each meal when we are at the cabin for a week. We still end up with leftovers but not quiet as many. But I get it.
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Post by paigepea on Jun 20, 2016 19:48:25 GMT
I think you should vent here and take a deep breath and smile at ILs. They only had good intentions even if it isn't what you wanted. But vent away here - my ILs don't always listen to me either so I get the annoyance.
For what it's worth, the leftovers don't sound bad. I thought you were talking about some questionable meals.
Paige.
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Post by valincal on Jun 20, 2016 19:52:31 GMT
First World Problem this OP is actually the very definition of a FWP. Oh shoot! I thought it meant " Fuck Wit Problem". Okay that really made me laugh!
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Post by bc2ca on Jun 20, 2016 19:55:08 GMT
I hate being wasteful with food, so completely validate your frustration at having to deal with someone else's leftovers, especially when you tried to avoid the situation. The fact that she didn't saddle you with the chips was kind & thoughtful (my tongue is firmly in my cheek ).
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Post by JustTricia on Jun 20, 2016 20:02:31 GMT
Cut Watermelon and cantaloupe, pea pods, and asparagus would need a cooler to transport. Maybe the OP doesn't have the room to transport it home, so yes, it becomes an inconvenience especially if the OP asked them not to leave it.
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Post by littlemama on Jun 20, 2016 20:10:38 GMT
I can see both sides. Stuff that requires refrigeration is going to be harder to transport home. I'd rather keep the chips and cookies and send any produce in excess of what we could finish home with them. I'm sure they were just trying to be helpful, but ended up inconveniencing you.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Jun 20, 2016 20:28:42 GMT
"Up North" does that mean at a vacation place? Like a cabin or similar? Maybe a neighbor would really like to have those sorts of leftovers. Seriously. Examples of leftovers I don't want: some sort of mystery casserole that I managed to graciously pick at through dinner...and then again the next day at lunch. But fresh produce, water, chips or even most cookies would not fit in that category.DH and I are cabin people too, so I completely get it. Been there, done that more times than I could count. People mean well but they don't have a clue. The problem with what I've bolded is that in the case of fresh produce is that it typically requires refrigeration especially in a hot car and if you're traveling any distance to get back home that means having space in the cooler for it. Also depending on what it is, it could get very banged up on the way home too (such as ripe peaches, berries, bananas or other fragile produce wouldn't make it back in good shape, cut up melon is a PITA if you don't have containers, etc.). Extra water takes up space in the vehicle that may not exist depending on what else (clothes, gear, etc.) has to be brought back home. And unless it's YOUR cabin, you may not know the neighbors to give them the extras, and if it's a vacation rental those people will be in the same boat you are. But you can leave the extra cookies with me any day of the week. I'll make room for those right up front!
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Post by papersilly on Jun 20, 2016 20:34:34 GMT
You win best #FWP of the day I opened this thread when it was first posted and I had to move on quickly because i could not equate the words "vent" with "too much food". it was classic "first world problem" if I ever saw one. thank goodness someone else said it.
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Post by **GypsyGirl** on Jun 20, 2016 20:46:28 GMT
Pull all the leftovers out as well as a trash bin. Then one by one ask them if they plan to take it home. If they answer No, toss it in the trash right then and there. They will either stop you or let you carry on, but I guarantee they will get the message.
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Post by flute4peace on Jun 20, 2016 20:59:44 GMT
I see the o/p's issue and can validate it. My extended family regularly vacations at a cabin (owned by a friend) about 6 hrs away. It is a cabin rule that no food be left in there after staying.
When we go we all carefully coordinate who is going to bring what - for example, we don't need each of 4 families to bring ketchup - and then you take home any leftovers of what you brought.
One year my ILs joined us for a few days. They ignored the "food plan" and brought a ton of stuff, including many duplicates of what the others of us were supposed to be bringing, and quite a few things that we don't even eat. When they left, they "donated" it all to the rest of us. So we were stuck with a bunch of extra food, much of which we wouldn't/couldn't eat, 6 hrs away from home and not nearly enough extra cooler space.
Sure it's a FWP, but definitely a frustrating one, especially if it happens repeatedly.
Extra cookies, on the other hand.....
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Post by Country Ham on Jun 20, 2016 21:00:39 GMT
I know I personally am not good at planning exactly what food is needed for a certain number of people. If I was in charge of the burgers for example I would probably make 2 patties per person just in case someone wants more then one. How would I ration watermelon? I bring a watermelon to every cookout I go to. Sometimes I bring 1/2 a melon home, other times people are upset cause it all got eaten too fast. I always err on the side of having too much then not enough.
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Post by flute4peace on Jun 20, 2016 21:08:18 GMT
I know I personally am not good at planning exactly what food is needed for a certain number of people. If I was in charge of the burgers for example I would probably make 2 patties per person just in case someone wants more then one. How would I ration watermelon? I bring a watermelon to every cookout I go to. Sometimes I bring 1/2 a melon home, other times people are upset cause it all got eaten too fast. I always err on the side of having too much then not enough. I'm terrible at that, as well. I don't think bringing extra is a problem if you're willing to take home your leftovers.
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