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Post by lovemybabes on Jun 28, 2014 14:09:09 GMT
Okay, I voted never. I am from the South, in the sticks, and I just think a phone call is better than a text. With that said, if someone texted me that I wouldn't be offended at all, I was just raised to write a note or call.  |
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Post by shevy on Jun 28, 2014 14:18:45 GMT
For me, any acknowledgement of a gift is great. I don't care if it's just a verbal thanks when it's given, a text/email or a mailed card. I'm not giving a gift to get a formal mailed card. I'm giving a gift to the person with no strings attached.
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Post by fruitysuet on Jun 28, 2014 14:26:42 GMT
Hmm I would call but then perhaps it's a generational thing? I would be just as happy to receive a text - any acknowledgement is good.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 28, 2014 14:42:26 GMT
I voted for 4.
I always do handwritten thank yous to my parents' generation. It matters A LOT to them. And I always make my son do handwritten thank yous to everyone, regardless of generation.
But with my friends and same-generation relatives, I often send text or email thank yous. These are people I've known for many years and I know for a fact don't care about the method of delivery of a thank you. There are a few who value handwritten notes, so that's what I send them.
Basically, I thank people the way they prefer to be thanked.
Eta: if I don't know their preference, I default to handwritten notes.
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Post by Eddie-n-Harley on Jun 28, 2014 14:43:18 GMT
I think etiquette technically demands a thank you note in all gift situations. But depending on the relationship I have with the person to whom I just gave a gift, and why I gave a gift, I would relax my expectations.
For example: the cousin whose graduation party I didn't attend, but to whom I sent a card and money? That warrants a written thank you note.
When I send something to my sister, for any reason? Call or text will be fine, mostly so I know she got it. She'll thank me in person next time I see her, though.
That cookie I picked up at the farmer's market for a coworker because it's her favorite and it was the last one? A verbal thank you when I drop it off is fine, and a handwritten note is overkill. Because it was a COOKIE and it cost me a dollar.
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Post by Sam on Jun 28, 2014 14:45:20 GMT
In the situation above it was okay.
What 'situation above'? I can't find it!! 
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Post by akathy on Jun 28, 2014 14:46:29 GMT
For me, any acknowledgement of a gift is great. I don't care if it's just a verbal thanks when it's given, a text/email or a mailed card. I'm not giving a gift to get a formal mailed card. I'm giving a gift to the person with no strings attached. |
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Post by styxgirl on Jun 28, 2014 14:50:26 GMT
I like written thank you notes.
But I agree that any acknowledgment of thanks is a good thing.
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Post by pjaye on Jun 28, 2014 14:51:19 GMT
I voted 4 as well - it depends on the people involved.
If you know someone who thinks text messages are tacky, then you shouldn't send them one.
However in general I think it is perfectly OK, we have all sorts of ways to communicate know, and it's easier and faster than ever, seems ridiculous to me to not move with the times and to keep insisting on doing things the same way we did 20 years ago.
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Post by just PEAchy on Jun 28, 2014 15:02:37 GMT
I think it is fine. I would actually prefer a text over a phone call, I hate talking on the phone. As far as written notes, I only really expect it for wedding gifts. Any other time I get one, it's a pleasant surprise. Personally, I do tend to write more myself, but I don't expect it from others.
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Post by annabella on Jun 28, 2014 15:08:13 GMT
Never.
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Post by paget on Jun 28, 2014 15:10:11 GMT
Okay, I voted never. I am from the South, in the sticks, and I just think a phone call is better than a text. With that said, if someone texted me that I wouldn't be offended at all, I was just raised to write a note or call. But you were also raised without the ability to text! Argh. The smilies are too small on my phone. Pretend there is a winky smiley here. Do we still have a winky smily??? |
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Post by paget on Jun 28, 2014 15:12:08 GMT
I think it is fine. I would actually prefer a text over a phone call, I hate talking on the phone. As far as written notes, I only really expect it for wedding gifts. Any other time I get one, it's a pleasant surprise. Personally, I do tend to write more myself, but I don't expect it from others. Same. I pay attention to my audience. For almost everyone in my life who gifts me a text is appropriate or even preferred by them. Exceptions are MIL and dh's grandma. |
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Post by kimnyy on Jun 28, 2014 15:14:25 GMT
I think it depends on what the thank you is for...if it's a gift, for a gift you gave etc no not ok, but if it's hey thanks for picking my son up from baseball or thanks for the reminder I'm ok with it. Something simple it's ok by me.
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Post by freecharlie on Jun 28, 2014 15:16:43 GMT
I wouldn't mind a text. In fact, I like text because it is a quick acknowledgement without taking time out of my day by answering a phone call.
I agree with the above
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Post by anniebygaslight on Jun 28, 2014 15:23:22 GMT
I can't see anything wrong with a 'thank you' text.
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Post by back to *pea*ality on Jun 28, 2014 15:31:48 GMT
If someone cared enough, took the time and gave me a gift it would be my pleasure to sit down and write a heartfelt thank you note. Even for a cookie, why not take the time to tell someone that you love them, or appreciate them or value their friendship.A phone call works too. I don't think text messages connect in the same way but I suppose it is better than no acknowledgement.
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Post by gmcwife1 on Jun 28, 2014 15:48:56 GMT
I'm not picky about how I'm thanked, so I don't care if it's verbal, texted or mailed.
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Post by epeanymous on Jun 28, 2014 15:54:07 GMT
I generally think a text or really any thank-you is fine. I do send physical thank-you notes to people who I know are fussy about that kind of thing, but most thank-yous I get are emailed or texted, and I think that is a-ok, maybe preferable to having paper I will have to recycle.
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Post by momstime on Jun 28, 2014 15:54:27 GMT
I'm in the I don't care how I'm thanked camp, but having said that, I still write out my thank yous because I realize that other people have expectations on their giving.
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Post by ExpatBackHome on Jun 28, 2014 15:56:22 GMT
No, I think either write a note or call.
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Post by rodeomom on Jun 28, 2014 15:57:49 GMT
I think etiquette technically demands a thank you note in all gift situations. But depending on the relationship I have with the person to whom I just gave a gift, and why I gave a gift, I would relax my expectations. For example: the cousin whose graduation party I didn't attend, but to whom I sent a card and money? That warrants a written thank you note. When I send something to my sister, for any reason? Call or text will be fine, mostly so I know she got it. She'll thank me in person next time I see her, though. That cookie I picked up at the farmer's market for a coworker because it's her favorite and it was the last one? A verbal thank you when I drop it off is fine, and a handwritten note is overkill. Because it was a COOKIE and it cost me a dollar. OK I changed my vote to 4... I first voted never! But then I agree with this ^ |
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Post by Mary_K on Jun 28, 2014 15:57:59 GMT
I'm in the never camp.
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Post by miominmio on Jun 28, 2014 16:00:39 GMT
Basically, I thank people the way they prefer to be thanked. Me too, and if I don't know, I'll phone, not text. |
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Post by Deleted on Jun 28, 2014 16:00:56 GMT
I would be perfectly happy receiving a text message thank you for a gift like that.
I don't think saying "thank you" is more valuable depending on the medium in which it arrives.
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Post by pastlifepea on Jun 28, 2014 16:01:55 GMT
Usually I prefer a thank you note and I do write them myself. I think it is becoming sort of a dying nicety though. When we were kids and got money gifts at Christmas from far off relatives, we always had to write them thank you notes and we did! I've always seen a thank you note not only as a courtesy, but a way of letting the gift giver know that their gift had actually arrived.
In the case of the flowers, I think that the text was alright between the two people involved. For older people who don't really text or e-mail, I think a thank you note would have been appropriate.
For the record though, all of the high school graduates we have sent checks to this year have all sent hand-written thank you notes which were much appreciated.
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Post by leannec on Jun 28, 2014 16:04:52 GMT
In the flower situation I wouldn't have a problem with a text at all ...
Now, for a wedding or shower gift I expect a hand written thank you card ... it's just a bigger deal if that makes any sense ...
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Post by peano on Jun 28, 2014 16:20:48 GMT
Well, obviously I prefer a note handwritten in fountain pen on heavy stock engraved stationery but given the current horrific state of etiquette, a text is better than nothing.
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Post by rumplesnat on Jun 28, 2014 16:53:32 GMT
In this case, I think it would be okay. I would have included a photo of the flowers received along with the text.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 28, 2014 17:52:15 GMT
Speaking as a giver, I think a thank you text is better than no thank you at all.
That said, I usually call or send a note.
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