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Post by leftturnonly on Nov 24, 2016 10:32:35 GMT
A letter is definitely being discussed. This would have to go through the Facilitator program. I can't just send it on my own. Then someone would have to read it to him. My homework assigned by my therapist this week is to write the first draft. This is necessary no matter how it works out, as I want to nail down exactly what I want to say and how I want to say it. It's not as easy as I thought it might be, as I have lots of different thoughts. Both of forgiveness, but also not minimizing what happened. My therapist seemed at first to lean toward the letter route, but the more we talk and I explain my feelings, she is understanding my motives. She will be the one reporting to the facilitator program as to whether she thinks this will further my progress and emotional healing. I appreciate all the comments very much. Happy Thanksgiving! What a precious little bundle to be thankful for. I understand and appreciate why you want to see him. It's wonderful that you are working with people who are on your side and are there to protect you. How well you can be prepared, though? He's in wretched health now with prognosis to be in even worse shape if you are ever allowed to visit. AND.... he may think you are entirely to blame. Even if he reaches the point of assuming responsibility, your last image of him will be heart-breaking. {{{Hugs}}} Be grateful for this time delay. You'll need every bit of it to help you prepare to face that moment, if it ever comes. If that face-to-face moment does not come, it does not come. That's OK. You are taking extra ordinary efforts to get through every Herculean step of this process and maybe that will be more than enough for you to feel satisfied that you have done your very best.
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Post by AussieMeg on Nov 24, 2016 11:00:10 GMT
Congratulations on your new grandson, he is just adorable! Maybe you could post a new thread about your gorgeous grandson so the Peas get to enjoy him. I nearly didn't open this thread again. I'm glad I did now!
As for the situation with your ex-DH, I'm glad that you're working with a therapist who would have your best interests at heart. Nobody is really going to understand your reasons for wanting to do what you want to do. You seem very genuine about why you want to do it so I wish you luck.
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Post by anonrefugee on Nov 24, 2016 12:02:21 GMT
Congratulations! He is a cutie!
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Post by hosschick on Nov 24, 2016 14:07:55 GMT
What a precious little bundle of joy he is! Just darling! I wish you peace regarding the ex, in whatever form it reaches you.
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Post by hosschick on Nov 24, 2016 14:08:13 GMT
What a precious little bundle of joy he is! Just darling! I wish you peace regarding the ex, in whatever form it reaches you.
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Post by hosschick on Nov 24, 2016 14:09:15 GMT
What a precious little bundle of joy he is! Just darling! I wish you peace regarding the ex, in whatever form it reaches you.
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