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Post by farmdpea on Jan 4, 2017 12:58:08 GMT
Now what? Seriously...do we want to having a wedding ceremony or elope? I haven't made my mind up yet. If you have strong opinions for either option, please share. Just be nice  I debated not sharing, because of a couple of bad apples. But, even though I don't post too often, I think a lot of many of you ladies and I wanted to share my good news!  |
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Post by anxiousmom on Jan 4, 2017 13:00:34 GMT
Congratulations!!  (I'd vote for the run off and marry option-but that would only be because I have already done the big church thing and if I were to do it again it would be on a beach some where...) |
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Post by lisae on Jan 4, 2017 13:02:11 GMT
Congratulations! What type of wedding you have is up to you and your fiance. I know someone who recently married in Las Vegas as she and her husband were to be there anyway for his business. It was perfect for them. If you are even contemplating eloping, I'd think you would want a low fuss, small wedding. Weddings can get out of hand in a hurry but if you and your fiance decide on what you want and stick to it you'll have a beautiful day with family and friends.
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Post by compeateropeator on Jan 4, 2017 13:04:49 GMT
Now what? Seriously...do we want to having a wedding ceremony or elope? I haven't made my mind up yet. If you have strong opinions for either option, please share. Just be nice I debated not sharing, because of a couple of bad apples. But, even though I don't post too often, I think a lot of many of you ladies and I wanted to share my good news! Congratulations!!! i would do whatever you think will bring YOU more pleasure. If planning a wedding seems stressful and overwhelming definitely elope. If deep down you think you will regret not having a wedding go for it and have one- whether it be small, big, simple, or elaborate. Maybe a destination wedding? |
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Post by farmdpea on Jan 4, 2017 13:07:55 GMT
Congratulations!!! i would do whatever you think will bring YOU more pleasure. If planning a wedding seems stressful and overwhelming definitely elope. If deep down you think you will regret not having a wedding go for it and have one- whether it be small, big, simple, or elaborate. Maybe a destination wedding? I'm feeling both things right now!  |
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Post by Kerri W on Jan 4, 2017 13:08:18 GMT
Congratulations!!
I am not a be the center of big hoopla kind of person but celebrating with family was important to me. We had a smaller, mostly casual outdoor wedding with a great reception to celebrate. It was perfect for us. I hope whatever you choose is as stress free as possible.
ETA: because stress free was important to me, I hired a lot of stuff done for both mine and my DDs weddings. I was able to find reasonable rates and didn't blow the budget. I think DDs wedding planner was around $1000? And she literally took care of everything right down to having a boxed meal waiting in the car for them at the end of the night because she knew they wouldn't have had time to eat well all day long. Her contribution was invaluable. Never underestimate delegating things!
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Post by Zee on Jan 4, 2017 13:12:16 GMT
Eloping is great! And then you can have a nice low-key reception when you get back. That's how I did it, very little stress.
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Post by Nink on Jan 4, 2017 13:15:50 GMT
Congrats! I had the big wedding and if I had it to do all over again I wish I'd have just gone to Vegas or something. The stress of planning a big wedding and the money involved become absurd, even though we had an inexpensive wedding by many standards.
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Post by farmdpea on Jan 4, 2017 13:18:52 GMT
Eloping is great! And then you can have a nice low-key reception when you get back. That's how I did it, very little stress. I'm seriously considering this option.  |
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Post by anonrefugee on Jan 4, 2017 13:23:00 GMT
Congratulations!
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Post by Linda on Jan 4, 2017 13:23:14 GMT
Best wishes to you and your fiance!
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Post by Delta Dawn on Jan 4, 2017 13:29:13 GMT
This is Pea news! Congratulations we are all happy for you!
Do you have family that want you to have a wedding? Eloping is fun and you get a trip out of it if you so desire. A beautiful wedding is nice, too. It doesn't have to be big to be beautiful.
If getting married was important to my future fiance I would consider a wedding but really eloping is what I would want to do.
Congratulations!!!!
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Post by jenjie on Jan 4, 2017 13:30:59 GMT
Congratulations how exciting! I understand why you might not want to post pics but would you mind sharing the story? Who asked who? Where were you? Public or private? Who did you tell first?
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Post by joelise on Jan 4, 2017 13:32:17 GMT
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Post by micheley on Jan 4, 2017 13:32:31 GMT
Congratulations!!!
I'd probably opt for a wedding wherever I wanted to honeymoon. Whatever you end up deciding to do, I hope you have an awesome day!
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Post by destined2bmom on Jan 4, 2017 13:33:01 GMT
Congratulations on your engagement and upcoming wedding! 🍾 Whatever you decide for your wedding; just remember to enjoy it! It's about you and your fiancé!
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Post by librarylady on Jan 4, 2017 13:33:36 GMT
Congratulations to both of you.
First marriage? If so, I say at least have parents/siblings of both there for the ceremony.
Invite all who really care to the reception/party.
But, do what gives you and the groom joy.
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Post by Patter on Jan 4, 2017 13:34:21 GMT
First, huge congratulations! Second, since you asked, I will share what we did. We had the same debate. We both decided that we did not like the big production but I also knew I could not elope and not have my parents there. So, we did not tell anyone except the 9 people we invited. I did not order invitations only wedding announcements. We got married in a tiny chapel with the 9 most important people there, and then we had a small reception at my aunt and uncles house with all of us afterwards. I mailed the wedding announcements the day before the wedding so some received it on the wedding day; some the day after. Almost 28 years later (in March), it was still the BEST thing we ever did. We would not do it differently. I hope you find what will be best for the two of you! Blessings,
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Post by TankTop on Jan 4, 2017 13:44:22 GMT
Congratulations!!!!!
Elope!
But, do it to a place with a sister property. Invite close friends and family to join you at the sister property. They can stay there while you stay at the other. Their free meals, etc will cross over and you can see each other when you want or have private time.
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Post by scrappert on Jan 4, 2017 13:49:11 GMT
Congratulations!!
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Post by farmdpea on Jan 4, 2017 13:49:51 GMT
Congratulations how exciting! I understand why you might not want to post pics but would you mind sharing the story? Who asked who? Where were you? Public or private? Who did you tell first? Oh, but there is no good story to tell! We are "older" (37 & 44), so we had discussed getting married several times before. He wanted to propose at Christmas, but really wanted my input on the ring. He also knew EVERYONE expected him to ask then, so was a little put off by that. We had to exchange a Christmas gift which involved a trip to the city. We decided last minute to go Sunday morning. While we were getting ready he said "call me crazy, but I think we should look at rings". So, look at rings we did. We had no intention of purchasing that day, but I fell in love with the second setting I put on my finger. We left to look at other stores and make sure it was THE ring...I loved it more on the second trip. So, no bending knees and no asking my father. He asked if I wanted either of those and I declined. I told my closest friends (one of whom set us up) while the ring was being sized. I told them to stand by for an announcement  I showed my parents and grandmother as soon as we got home. His poor mom only got a phone call, but she was thrilled. I heard her through the phone from the next room. Everyone else found out the good old fashioned way...Facebook!  |
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Post by Delta Dawn on Jan 4, 2017 13:54:54 GMT
Congratulations how exciting! I understand why you might not want to post pics but would you mind sharing the story? Who asked who? Where were you? Public or private? Who did you tell first? Oh, but there is no good story to tell! We are "older" (37 & 44), so we had discussed getting married several times before. He wanted to propose at Christmas, but really wanted my input on the ring. He also knew EVERYONE expected him to ask then, so was a little put off by that. We had to exchange a Christmas gift which involved a trip to the city. We decided last minute to go Sunday morning. While we were getting ready he said "call me crazy, but I think we should look at rings". So, look at rings we did. We had no intention of purchasing that day, but I fell in love with the second setting I put on my finger. We left to look at other stores and make sure it was THE ring...I loved it more on the second trip. So, no bending knees and no asking my father. He asked if I wanted either of those and I declined. I told my closest friends (one of whom set us up) while the ring was being sized. I told them to stand by for an announcement I showed my parents and grandmother as soon as we got home. His poor mom only got a phone call, but she was thrilled. I heard her through the phone from the next room. Everyone else found out the good old fashioned way...Facebook! Your Granny is still alive? You might need to have a wedding then. I am just saying.  |
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Post by piebaker on Jan 4, 2017 14:01:32 GMT
Congratulations and Best Wishes.
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Post by leftturnonly on Jan 4, 2017 14:03:06 GMT
I had a wedding ceremony because I was a young woman living a long way from my family. It was a great chance for the two families to meet and get to know each other. Plus, I had a church wedding, which was important to me. If anything like that remotely applies to you, than you may be happiest with a traditional wedding. If the church part doesn't mean anything to you, but you want family to be there and they can come, than you may be happiest with a wedding of some kind - traditional or not. If you are a bit older, or have been married before, or your family and/or friends are far away and/or may not come, or there is likely to be a lot of drama by people who would come to your wedding, than you may be happiest setting all of that aside and eloping. CONGRATULATIONS!  |
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Post by Anita on Jan 4, 2017 14:04:28 GMT
Congratulations! I always vote for eloping, but I'm weird that way.  |
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Post by lesley on Jan 4, 2017 14:06:40 GMT
Congratulations, it's always nice to hear good news!
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Post by janeinbama on Jan 4, 2017 14:07:53 GMT
Congrats!!! You do what you guys want to do!! Look at your budget and then explore options says Mom of 2 DDs who all opted for church weddings while being given the cash option as well. Weddingbee.com is a great source from actual brides. PSS Aubie can come to your reception:)
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Post by MorningPerson on Jan 4, 2017 14:08:22 GMT
Congratulation! Have fun planning your wedding, whatever direction that takes you!
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Post by Lexica on Jan 4, 2017 14:16:25 GMT
Congratulations! Do we get to see the ring? ....And she literally took care of everything right down to having a boxed meal waiting in the car for them at the end of the night because she knew they wouldn't have had time to eat well all day long. Her contribution was invaluable. Never underestimate delegating things! I wish someone had done that for us. I never got to eat at my reception and was starving to the point of being light headed. I was so nervous and excited before the wedding that I hadn't had anything to eat all day. If I were to ever do it again, I would hire someone to do the worrying for me. It sounds like you got a gem! |
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Post by leannec on Jan 4, 2017 14:16:26 GMT
Congratulations  We got married in Las Vegas with 10 guests and then had an "at home reception" for friends and family when we came back ... it was perfect |
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I showed my parents and grandmother as soon as we got home. His poor mom only got a phone call, but she was thrilled. I heard her through the phone from the next room. Everyone else found out the good old fashioned way...Facebook! 
