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Post by twoboyzmom on Feb 12, 2017 14:53:16 GMT
Will try and keep short... Had a friend for a good 2-3 years. Met thru a mutual...we lead different lives, she's single, all about her job and riding horses....I'm married, active teens, etc...but nonetheless, we were friends, did alot, etc.... Well this past early summer we kind of drifted...I really didn't think there was a "reason"...reached out a few times, but then thought "im always the one reaching". So we went months and didn't talk. Never heard from her when big things occured....surgeries, dad in ICU, etc...(when most friends would just say, how are you?) Anyway...2 weeks ago I get an invite to her 31 party...I hesitated replying...finally broke down and texted her..oh sorry I was distant, etc...hope to see you, been to long! And that was it. About 10% of me wanted to go...rest of me feels like just someone else to hopefully buy something from her party (which I can't do even if I went)
Not sure if I'm asking a question, or just venting!
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Post by trollie on Feb 12, 2017 14:56:36 GMT
eh... I seriously hate those types of parties. If YOU want to go and think it will be fun, then go. If not, feel not guilt whatsoever about not going.
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Post by myshelly on Feb 12, 2017 14:58:28 GMT
Nope.
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Post by twoboyzmom on Feb 12, 2017 14:59:53 GMT
eh... I seriously hate those types of parties. If YOU want to go and think it will be fun, then go. If not, feel not guilt whatsoever about not going. It's not even about the type of party or if it will be fun..and like I said, can't buy anyway...just almost feel like after all this time, just an invite to add to sales? I'm starting to think I'm thinking about it too hard, and if we don't stay friends, then that's that....
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Post by mom on Feb 12, 2017 15:00:05 GMT
Don't over think this. If you want to go, go, If not, then don't.
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Post by gar on Feb 12, 2017 15:00:57 GMT
I don't think so, no.
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Post by compeateropeator on Feb 12, 2017 15:01:36 GMT
Sorry really no answers for you, but I think you should only go if you really wanted to and not feel guilty about it. I did want to say though that I think she was in a tough place where if she didn't invite you would you be a little hurt that a "friend" was having a party and didn't invite you? If she didn't, wouldn't you assume she really didn't consider you as a friend? But since she has you are now questioning that she is only doing it for a gift grab, I guess I think that she wasn't going to win no matter which way she went. ETA - forget my response I totally misread this and thought it was her 31st birthday party. Don't go!
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Post by RosieKat on Feb 12, 2017 15:01:40 GMT
Yeah, sounds like an invitation to help boost her sales. Go if you want to, but don't feel obligated in the slightest.
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Post by winogirl on Feb 12, 2017 15:02:35 GMT
I wouldn't go. Sounds more like she's looking for a sell than a reconnection.
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Post by twoboyzmom on Feb 12, 2017 15:04:53 GMT
Thanks....I think I'm reading too much into it...and I do miss her...but feel like we could reconnect on another level, this isn't it...
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Post by quinlove on Feb 12, 2017 15:06:15 GMT
Don't over think this. If you want to go, go, If not, then don't. This was exactly what I was going to say.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 12, 2017 15:07:30 GMT
I wouldn't go. I hate getting invitations from people I only hear from when they want something out of me. I detest direct sales party invitations even more.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 12, 2017 15:09:20 GMT
I'm pretty certain you're washing your hair that night.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 12, 2017 15:24:00 GMT
agree that I hate when I only hear from certain "friends" when they are hosting a direct sales party. So NO, I wouldn't go because I know I will be guilted into buying something I cannot afford!
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Post by hop2 on Feb 12, 2017 15:24:34 GMT
I'm pretty certain you promised us you'd be here entertaining us that night. You wouldn't want to let's us refupeas down right?
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Post by CarolinaGirl71 on Feb 12, 2017 15:25:03 GMT
I hate those type of parties, I would not go.
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Post by myboysnme on Feb 12, 2017 15:27:19 GMT
She is not rekindling your dead friendship. She is trying to get free 31 by getting enough sales from all of her contacts.
I say no to all of those parties so I would definitely not be going to this. I would text her back and say, "Sorry I can't make it. Let's get together sometime."
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Post by lisacharlotte on Feb 12, 2017 15:31:09 GMT
A 31 party is not the place to reconnect. I would decline, issue one last invite to get together and then move on if it doesn't happen.
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Post by summer on Feb 12, 2017 15:31:37 GMT
I wouldn't go, but I loathe home sales parties. I especially wouldn't go knowing I wasn't going to buy anything. It sounds as though she just wants your business, not your friendship. If you want her as a friend, suggest getting together for coffee or lunch and see how she responds.
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Post by auntkelly on Feb 12, 2017 15:34:25 GMT
I do not consider an invite to attend a direct sales party to be a social invite. It's an invitation for me to come and spend money.
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Post by padresfan619 on Feb 12, 2017 15:38:06 GMT
When you said 31 party I thought it was her birthday party and thought it would be the perfect place to reconnect, when I realized it was a pyramid scheme party I instantly changed my mind. No, I wouldn't go and I would be hesitant of any other invitations to get together because it would probably turn into a sales pitch.
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Post by GiantsFan on Feb 12, 2017 15:38:13 GMT
I would not go. This is not a social invitation.
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Post by Belle on Feb 12, 2017 15:44:33 GMT
Thanks....I think I'm reading too much into it...and I do miss her...but feel like we could reconnect on another level, this isn't it... You hit the nail on the head! If you want to catch up with her and possibly renew your friendship, a MLM party probably isn't going to do that. Sounds like you do wan t to spend sometime with her, so why not invite her out, just the two of you, for coffee or lunch?
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Post by MZF on Feb 12, 2017 16:00:56 GMT
At first I thought you meant her 31st birthday party. I'd go to that. But not to a sales party.
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Post by canadianscrappergirl on Feb 12, 2017 16:01:07 GMT
Uh no I wouldn't go nor would I give it as much thought as you are in your reply to her invite lol.
If she wants to reconnect and you do too go out for a cup of coffee/drink or lunch.
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Post by ihaveonly1l on Feb 12, 2017 16:07:24 GMT
If I really wanted to rekindle the relationship, I would respond with a "can't be there at that time but would you want to meet for lunch ______" be specific on the date and time for lunch. Don't just say, "Let's get together for lunch soon." I've found that vague response never actually gets it done.
If I didn't want to rekindle the relationship, I would just respond with a "sorry...can't be there. Good luck with your party"
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Post by NoWomanNoCry on Feb 12, 2017 16:12:49 GMT
I wouldn't.
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Post by annabella on Feb 12, 2017 16:18:02 GMT
I think she invited everyone she knows, I wouldn't assume this is an olive branch of her reaching out to you. At the party she will be mingling with so many people you will get 5 minutes of her time.
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Post by Suziee2 on Feb 12, 2017 16:22:00 GMT
No, I wouldn't go. I've given up a few friendships where too much neediness, maintenance, energy and brainpower was involved. More important people and things in my life.
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Post by dulcemama on Feb 12, 2017 16:23:05 GMT
If I really wanted to rekindle the relationship, I would respond with a "can't be there at that time but would you want to meet for lunch ______" be specific on the date and time for lunch. Don't just say, "Let's get together for lunch soon." I've found that vague response never actually gets it done.
If I didn't want to rekindle the relationship, I would just respond with a "sorry...can't be there. Good luck with your party"
This. Doing it this way would also help you figure out where she's at with the relation ship, depending on her response.
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