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Post by paperaddict on Mar 20, 2017 20:32:06 GMT
Our first IVF 1 has been unsuccessful. I am 42 years old and no reproductive medical conditions. Because both fiance and I are healthy, we had high hopes. I am feeling very sad and negative right now. I want to shout out "this is NOT how my life was to turn out!!!" I would love to hear IVF success stories after failed IVF attempt. Encouraging words would be greatly appreciated
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Post by Linda on Mar 20, 2017 20:33:09 GMT
((((Hugs))) and prayers. I'm so sorry
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Post by Deleted on Mar 20, 2017 20:36:47 GMT
I'm so sorry for your loss.
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Post by donna on Mar 20, 2017 20:37:11 GMT
I am so sorry. My niece was conceived via IVF. I am not sure how many attempts were needed.
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Post by annabella on Mar 20, 2017 20:42:08 GMT
I'm sorry. I saw on the news that most first trys are unsuccessful and this doctor has this new technology to track the exact time is best for each patient to do IVF.
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Post by ktdoesntscrap on Mar 20, 2017 20:53:44 GMT
I was lucky.. First time failed, then I had a cyst removed. Second time was a success!! SHe is now 14!! Third time doctor was confident would be a success, and it didn't work. Last time.. no viable eggs.  I was a few months shy of 40 with DD. pM me if you have any questions. Good luck |
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Post by valincal on Mar 20, 2017 20:55:41 GMT
So sorry. Big hugs.
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Post by seaexplore on Mar 20, 2017 20:56:01 GMT
Big hugs. I was 42 and we were facing IVF if meds alone didn't do it. Thankfully they did. Don't give up!  |
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Post by Scrapper100 on Mar 20, 2017 21:01:39 GMT
I was 35 but did 10 rounds of artificial insemination before getting pregnant. He is now 13. It's really hard and so disappointing but in the end it was worth it. I know many people that have been successful at 40-42 I just don't know all the details to pass on. Good luck and hope the next round is the lucky one.
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Post by rickmer on Mar 20, 2017 21:03:47 GMT
my SIL was 42 and got pregnant on her second round of IVF. cutie patootie is now 3 years old and will be starting kindergarten in sept. that fact that there are no medical conditions hopefully will bode well for your next attempt. fingers crossed for you. |
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Post by eleezybeth on Mar 20, 2017 21:10:38 GMT
We fought secondary infertility. Our first round of IVF was successful but ended in miscarriage. The loss on top of the failure was nearly too much to bear. They pumped me full of drugs to try again and 2 babies later, I have 3 kiddos. It is not an easy journey. I wish I had some magic wand to make it better but I don't. Allow yourself to grieve the loss of possibility, be gentle and honest with yourself. I don't know if you'll get to try again but this one will be valuable as you go through it again.
When baby #2 was delivered it was c-section. I went one way, baby and DH went another for a bath and whatever else happened. I was back in my room way before them. I couldn't figure out the TV so I thought I'm going to listen to some music. Hit shuffle and "Don't Stop Believing" started to play. As if on cue, the nurse hits the door and in walks DH and baby- like it was our fight song. I still am a slobbering mess when I hear that song. Someday when she plays it at her wedding and dances with her daddy, I'll pray the mascara is strong enough.
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Post by flanz on Mar 20, 2017 21:18:19 GMT
that must be so hard. sending you love and hugs, and good wishes for success if you decide to try again.
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Post by shevy on Mar 20, 2017 21:20:09 GMT
I'm so sorry. I have no words for you, other than I hope you and your partner find peace in this journey.
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Post by inkedup on Mar 20, 2017 21:25:41 GMT
Big hugs to you. I'm sorry this round wasn't successful.
One of my friends has a beautiful daughter from her 3rd round of IVF. I think it took only one round for each of her subsequent pregnancies. (She has 3 children.)
Hoping you are able to share your success story someday soon. Until then, be gentle with yourself. I'm so sorry for what you're going through. IVF is hard on your body, your heart, your marriage and your bank account.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 20, 2017 21:29:30 GMT
I'm sorry. It's heartbreaking when it doesn't work out. No experience myself but a very good friend had two attempt...the second one worked with the beautiful Belle ( Isabelle). So don't give up hope.
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Post by scrapmaven on Mar 20, 2017 21:42:46 GMT
I'm sorry that this didn't work the first time. That doesn't mean you have a no. It just means you have a not this time.
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Post by The Birdhouse Lady on Mar 20, 2017 21:49:52 GMT
I am sorry that it didn't work out the first time, don't give up though. Keep trying until you just cant do it anymore.
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Post by seikashaven on Mar 20, 2017 21:58:15 GMT
Infertility is so hard. I had almost 10 years of putting my body through hell and feeling like I was a broken woman.
Both my babies were conceived through IUIs and we had many many failures before we got pregnant with them and carried to term. I've had every set back you can imagine. In the end, I was able to have children. But infertility challenged my health, my finances and my relationships in significant ways. I wouldn't wish it on anyone.
You are a strong woman even if you don't believe it right now. Feel your feelings. Grieve this loss. And when you're ready, I hope you find peace in either trying again or choosing a different path.
You are not alone.
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Post by bc2ca on Mar 20, 2017 22:04:27 GMT
{{{hugs}}} I'm so sorry this round didn't work for you.
I do know two women who were eventually successful in conceiving. One had a child at age 41 and then again at 43 and the other had twins at age 46.
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Post by iamkristinl16 on Mar 20, 2017 22:07:33 GMT
I have a cousin who had at least one failed IVF before getting pregnant with her twins. She then had some more failed attempts but later got pregnant on her own with her youngest. She credits that to changing her eating habits (she has PCOS and started to get her period after switching to whole30/paleo).
A friend is pregnant with twins now after several IUI's and conceived on second round of IVF.
Good luck!
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Post by 5peanutsnana on Mar 20, 2017 22:09:13 GMT
So sorry. My nephew and niece are expecting twin girls next month after 4 years of trying to conceive. They had gone through numerous procedures, including in vitro with no luck. They then switched Drs. and the experience was totally different. All Drs. and clinics are not equal. She has a terrific network of young women who she had become very good friends with during her journey. (Two of them are also expecting twins about the same time.)
Have you heard of Baby Quest Foundation? They were chosen out of many applicants and the procedure was paid for. They had depleted their savings and are so grateful to be selected. They live in Ohio and had the procedure in Columbus but Baby Quest is out of CA.
If you are at all interested this is the website. http://babyquestfoundation.org
Don't give up. I wish you all the best.
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Post by mrssmith on Mar 20, 2017 22:10:37 GMT
Sorry to hear that. I had IVF at 36 that was successful (after clomid, IUIs etc). My issue was PCOS.
For baby #2, I had a lot of eggs retrieved, but no fertilized embryos by day 3! I think one egg fertilized by day 5 and was transferred and not successful. Second round there were 2 fertilized but we were told there were "egg and sperm quality" issues that they'd let us know about if we were unsuccessful. We were successful, so I never found out what those issues were... DS is now 6. Gave birth when I was 40.
It sucks that it's so expensive and there are no guarantees. FWIW, I was also doing acupuncture to boost fertility. My acu actually new I was PG two days after transfer.
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Post by melissa on Mar 20, 2017 22:11:33 GMT
Delivered someone recently who was 42, pregnant by IVF.
I live in an area where there are many first times moms over 40, many thanks to IVF.
And, back in the days when dinosaurs roamed the planet and I was a resident and did a rotation at an IVF clinic, the magic number was 3. Most women who were going to get pregnant via IVF did so within 3 cycles.
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Post by garcia5050 on Mar 20, 2017 22:16:24 GMT
I had no idea that 1st round fails were that common. But now that I think about it . . . 3 of my 4 friends who went through IVF had a first round fail. 1 was first round successful, 2 were second round successful. the third was a third round.
Best wishes on your next round!
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Post by indyrocks on Mar 20, 2017 22:17:03 GMT
I know a girl who finally got pregnant on her 18th cycle. I don't know how she had the perseverance to keep trying. Money wasn't an issue for them luckily. Her daughter is about 9 months old and so adorable.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 20, 2017 22:18:50 GMT
Sending you hugs and prayers.
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Post by eastcoastpea on Mar 20, 2017 22:22:37 GMT
I'm sorry to hear that your first attempt didn't work. Sending hugs and hopes that your second try works.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Mar 20, 2017 22:29:48 GMT
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Post by jayfab on Mar 20, 2017 22:30:06 GMT
I'm so sorry.
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Post by scrapngranny on Mar 20, 2017 22:45:50 GMT
Sorry it wasn't successful. Lots of best wishes and crossed fingers for round 2!
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