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Post by monklady123 on Apr 15, 2017 17:53:46 GMT
For what it's worth, I've attended one funeral at a Presbyterian church and it was very laid back. I couldn't get over all the women that were wearing pants because LDS funerals are formal. From what I have read on 2 peas, this is more the norm now. It was a lovely service. Also, the last 30 years of my grandparents life they stopped attending LDS services and went to a Presbyterian church. The pastor was one of the speakers at each of their funerals in an LDS church. That's not true for all religions. If a funeral is held in an LDS church, the main focus of the funeral is preaching the gospel of Jesus Christ. It's in the bishops handbook printed by the church. It is required for the bishop of that church to make remarks at the end of the service. Some don't say much, others will go on and on. It does not matter what the deceased believed. Sometimes the funerals are held there as a matter of convenience because it's near the cemetery of where they will be buried. There's plenty of remembrance of the person in between. Depending on the bishop, some musical numbers may not be approved. It is their right because it's their building, but for that reason I hope my family respects my wishes to not have a funeral. There really are no other choices to have a traditional funeral because of the large size of my family and the lack of other denominations. I hate the thought that the last words said will be about something I no loner believe. Yes. I went to a Catholic funeral recently and it was so sad to me. There wasn't a mention of the deceased at all. It was just the regular catholic service scheduled for that day and the woman's body just happened to be over to the side. No one spoke about her. No one shared memories of her. No one even said her name. It made me so sad. This isn't true for all Catholic funerals though... I think "most" in fact. I've been to a fair number of Catholic funerals, in addition to my MIL's and FIL's. It was a Catholic mass with the usual mass structure, but it was still all about the deceased. At both MIL's and FIL's I did a reading (I'm not Catholic) and my bil's wife did one (and she's not even Christian). In his homily the priest spoke about the one who had died. And there was no body. That part was done during the visitation hours at the funeral home. That was an open casket viewing which some people find creepy. I personally -- my own opinion -- find it a bit odd to see the person all made up and looking lovely but unnatural, especially if it's someone I've known as a patient in the hospital. But if the family finds comfort in that then that's what they should have.
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Post by Darcy Collins on Apr 15, 2017 18:02:44 GMT
For what it's worth, I've attended one funeral at a Presbyterian church and it was very laid back. I couldn't get over all the women that were wearing pants because LDS funerals are formal. From what I have read on 2 peas, this is more the norm now. It was a lovely service. Also, the last 30 years of my grandparents life they stopped attending LDS services and went to a Presbyterian church. The pastor was one of the speakers at each of their funerals in an LDS church. That's not true for all religions. If a funeral is held in an LDS church, the main focus of the funeral is preaching the gospel of Jesus Christ. It's in the bishops handbook printed by the church. It is required for the bishop of that church to make remarks at the end of the service. Some don't say much, others will go on and on. It does not matter what the deceased believed. Sometimes the funerals are held there as a matter of convenience because it's near the cemetery of where they will be buried. There's plenty of remembrance of the person in between. Depending on the bishop, some musical numbers may not be approved. It is their right because it's their building, but for that reason I hope my family respects my wishes to not have a funeral. There really are no other choices to have a traditional funeral because of the large size of my family and the lack of other denominations. I hate the thought that the last words said will be about something I no loner believe. Yes. I went to a Catholic funeral recently and it was so sad to me. There wasn't a mention of the deceased at all. It was just the regular catholic service scheduled for that day and the woman's body just happened to be over to the side. No one spoke about her. No one shared memories of her. No one even said her name. It made me so sad. I'm not going to go into the ins and outs of a Funeral Liturgy in the Catholic Church - it's really not a regular service. I will say, the Vigil - usually during the visitation is the part of the Catholic funeral rites where the eulogy is typically conducted and where the family/friends share remembrances if they are having a full mass funeral. I'll also say that many, many Catholics have funerals where they do not have a mass and the eulogy and family/friend reflection is done during the service.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Apr 15, 2017 18:12:55 GMT
Yes. I went to a Catholic funeral recently and it was so sad to me. There wasn't a mention of the deceased at all. It was just the regular catholic service scheduled for that day and the woman's body just happened to be over to the side. No one spoke about her. No one shared memories of her. No one even said her name. It made me so sad. I'm not going to go into the ins and outs of a Funeral Liturgy in the Catholic Church - it's really not a regular service. I will say, the Vigil - usually during the visitation is the part of the Catholic funeral rites where the eulogy is typically conducted and where the family/friends share remembrances if they are having a full mass funeral. I'll also say that many, many Catholics have funerals where they do not have a mass and the eulogy and family/friend reflection is done during the service. My mom was about as Catholic as you can possibly imagine. When she died we were able to choose the readings and music she would have liked, the priest knew her because she volunteered for years at the church so he spoke about her personally and any of us kids who wanted to get up and say something during her service did (which was most of us). Her service was very much about who she was as a person, as a mother/grandmother and as a member of her church.
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Post by just PEAchy on Apr 15, 2017 21:51:56 GMT
I'm not going to go into the ins and outs of a Funeral Liturgy in the Catholic Church - it's really not a regular service. I will say, the Vigil - usually during the visitation is the part of the Catholic funeral rites where the eulogy is typically conducted and where the family/friends share remembrances if they are having a full mass funeral. I'll also say that many, many Catholics have funerals where they do not have a mass and the eulogy and family/friend reflection is done during the service. My mom was about as Catholic as you can possibly imagine. When she died we were able to choose the readings and music she would have liked, the priest knew her because she volunteered for years at the church so he spoke about her personally and any of us kids who wanted to get up and say something during her service did (which was most of us). Her service was very much about who she was as a person, as a mother/grandmother and as a member of her church. That is so nice, it's what I expected at my dad's funeral. I wish that was how it had been for my dad. However, his funeral Mass was much like Myshelly described. The priest knew my dad for over 30 years and had been a guest in his home. Dad volunteered for many years, as well. My dad died during Lent and the priest's sermon was very much about the passion, death & resurrection of Jesus. He went into great detail about those events, almost making into a history lesson, complete with how those times were and that "the Jews killed him" I was shocked and appalled about the Jews comment, especially with my Jewish sister in law sitting in front of me I was just very upset over the whole thing, haven't been back to church since then (3 years ago). My siblings pretty much felt the same way. When my mom passes, I know she'll want a Catholic funeral, but we will try to make things more personal with a frank discussion with the priest (it'll be a different one, they went to different churches.)
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