psiluvu
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Post by psiluvu on Apr 29, 2017 1:28:15 GMT
IMO - none of those relationships are close enough to get a gift from me. That being said the peas have taught me that graduations are a MUCH bigger deal in the U.S. than they are here so I am probably no help.
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Post by nlwilkins on Apr 29, 2017 1:32:39 GMT
For me they might rate a card, but not money. Grad gifts are kind of hit or miss in my family circles. Sometimes we don't even know when someone is graduating. If I don't get an announcement or a grad photo, for sure no gift. Mainly because if they are not wanting me to know or to brag, then they are not expecting anything and I am not knowing about it.
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Post by littlemama on Apr 29, 2017 1:33:41 GMT
#1 - nothing. You don't know the grad and aren't friends with his parent. And don't attend the party.
#2 - if you are attending the party, $25, as it is a friend. If not, nothing.
#3 - in my neck of the woods, no one does a party or expects anything for college graduation.
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Post by Really Red on Apr 29, 2017 1:35:51 GMT
My girls graduated in 2015 and my son will graduate in 2019 and I have been to so many graduation parties. $25 is the norm for people that you have a passing acquaintance with. But I agree with others, not one of those people I would feel I had to give gifts.
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Post by paget on Apr 29, 2017 1:37:48 GMT
IMO - none of those relationships are close enough to get a gift from me. That being said the peas have taught me that graduations are a MUCH bigger deal in the U.S. than they are here so I am probably no help. Same- although I am in the US! I would only gift family or basically family like bff's kids. |
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Post by ellen on Apr 29, 2017 1:38:08 GMT
I'd go $20 on the first two.
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Post by littlemama on Apr 29, 2017 1:42:29 GMT
IMO - none of those relationships are close enough to get a gift from me. That being said the peas have taught me that graduations are a MUCH bigger deal in the U.S. than they are here so I am probably no help. In some ways, yes. We tend to have big parties, but the gift thing is different. Kids don't give gifts to other kids. If you don't attend the party, there is no expectation of a gift. Gifts are nominal- $25 in general is kind of the base. If you are close to the grad, you might give more. Most people who attend give a small gift, but some don't. Anything goes and there are no hard feelings. |
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Post by Eddie-n-Harley on Apr 29, 2017 1:42:51 GMT
In my family, the rates are $25/HS, $50/College, $100/Advanced degree. But those are gifts from family, to family. For your HS grads, I might do like a $10 gift card to somewhere (or $10 in a card) if I felt compelled to gift. (If there were some neat gift for male HS grads under $20, I might go that route, too, but as I don't know what's in with the 18-year-old boy crowd, I can't offer a suggestion.) Former employee-- I think that's a little harder. The fact you are acknowledging her at all suggests to me that maybe you guys are still friends? If so, then I think $50, if within your means, is appropriate. Or more if you wanted to. If you're good acquaintances but you wouldn't really mark this but for some invite or announcement, then I think $25 would be fine, or a gift card. But, you know, this is all really subjective, so disregard me as you see fit.  |
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Post by crazy4scraps on Apr 29, 2017 1:46:03 GMT
Assuming I get an announcement/invite to a HS grad party, a good friend's kid, $20-25. A family member would get $25-50 depending on how broke I was. Coworker or former employee, maybe a card because I wouldn't go to the party.
Most people around here don't send out announcements for college graduation. Immediate family would go out to dinner or something but the only ones maybe giving a gift would be the parents or grandparents. When DH graduated college and when his sister did, we all went out to a nice dinner with his parents and that was about it.
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Post by kristi on Apr 29, 2017 1:47:39 GMT
$25-$30
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Post by scraphollie27 on Apr 29, 2017 2:08:20 GMT
IMO - none of those relationships are close enough to get a gift from me. That being said the peas have taught me that graduations are a MUCH bigger deal in the U.S. than they are here so I am probably no help. I'm thinking the same thing. I would never consider giving in any of these relationships. Family and very close friends (like family) are really the only gifting commitments we recognize. |
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Post by mrscraftyadams on Apr 29, 2017 2:16:29 GMT
Question! What's the going rate for high school graduation and college grads? I have 3 grads... 1. A coworkers son (that I've never met) in high school 2. A friend and former coworker's son in high school 3. A former employee is graduating college I should have given more context here... I am the boss at work and can afford to give whatever is appropriate. I don't want to be cheap, but don't want to overspend either. IDK if that makes sense. 1. I do feel like this is just a way to get money. I am close with the coworker, but find it a bit odd to be sent an invite. I'm thinking $25 2. This friend was an employee of mine and we are still close. I'm thinking $50 3. I was catching up with this friend and he told me he was graduating. I asked for his address to mail him a card. i'm thinking $100. SaveSaveSaveSaveSaveSave |
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Post by Eddie-n-Harley on Apr 29, 2017 2:58:56 GMT
Question! What's the going rate for high school graduation and college grads? I have 3 grads... 1. A coworkers son (that I've never met) in high school 2. A friend and former coworker's son in high school 3. A former employee is graduating college I should have given more context here... I am the boss at work and can afford to give whatever is appropriate. I don't want to be cheap, but don't want to overspend either. IDK if that makes sense. 1. I do feel like this is just a way to get money. I am close with the coworker, but find it a bit odd to be sent an invite. I'm thinking $25 2. This friend was an employee of mine and we are still close. I'm thinking $50 3. I was catching up with this friend and he told me he was graduating. I asked for his address to mail him a card. i'm thinking $100. SaveSaveSaveSaveSaveSaveI don't think any of that is cheaping out. I would, however, stop and think about how many other coworkers' kids and former coworkers' kids you will likely have to gift to in the future. People talk, so if kid #1 here gets $25 this year, every other kid #1 might be expecting that from here on out, kwim? If they're going to be few and far between, then I wouldn't worry about it. (By contrast, in my family, there was at least SOMEONE who was graduating every year for a decade.) |
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Post by refugeepea on Apr 29, 2017 5:09:24 GMT
IMO - none of those relationships are close enough to get a gift from me. That being said the peas have taught me that graduations are a MUCH bigger deal in the U.S. than they are here so I am probably no help. Believe me, it is dependent on where you live for sure. There are no high school grad parties where I live. Generally, the only money grads get are from parents and grandparents. Sometimes aunts and uncles. I come from a huge family and in the next 2 years, I think I counted *11 nieces and nephews graduating. I don't do anything. If I felt like giving them something it would be a congratulations card and possibly a gift card would be included. |
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Post by malibou on Apr 29, 2017 6:14:30 GMT
I always do a check in an amount to match the year. This year graduates will get $20.17.
I think what you proposed, the $25, $50 and $100, is perfect.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 29, 2017 10:17:30 GMT
Question! What's the going rate for high school graduation and college grads? I have 3 grads... 1. A coworkers son (that I've never met) in high school 2. A friend and former coworker's son in high school 3. A former employee is graduating college I should have given more context here... I am the boss at work and can afford to give whatever is appropriate. I don't want to be cheap, but don't want to overspend either. IDK if that makes sense. 1. I do feel like this is just a way to get money. I am close with the coworker, but find it a bit odd to be sent an invite. I'm thinking $25 2. This friend was an employee of mine and we are still close. I'm thinking $50 3. I was catching up with this friend and he told me he was graduating. I asked for his address to mail him a card. i'm thinking $100. SaveSaveSaveSaveSaveSaveAll these amounts are more than generous. Hope you get nice thank you cards! |
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Post by mikklynn on Apr 29, 2017 11:50:11 GMT
#1 - nothing. You don't know the grad and aren't friends with his parent. And don't attend the party. #2 - if you are attending the party, $25, as it is a friend. If not, nothing. #3 - in my neck of the woods, no one does a party or expects anything for college graduation.  A close friend's child I give $50. My nieces and nephews got $100. |
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Post by peabay on Apr 29, 2017 11:53:25 GMT
I'm assuming you've been invited and are attending parties for these people and gifts would not break your bank.
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Post by Really Red on Apr 29, 2017 13:08:29 GMT
Question! What's the going rate for high school graduation and college grads? I have 3 grads... 1. A coworkers son (that I've never met) in high school 2. A friend and former coworker's son in high school 3. A former employee is graduating college I should have given more context here... I am the boss at work and can afford to give whatever is appropriate. I don't want to be cheap, but don't want to overspend either. IDK if that makes sense. 1. I do feel like this is just a way to get money. I am close with the coworker, but find it a bit odd to be sent an invite. I'm thinking $25 2. This friend was an employee of mine and we are still close. I'm thinking $50 3. I was catching up with this friend and he told me he was graduating. I asked for his address to mail him a card. i'm thinking $100. SaveSaveSaveSaveSaveSaveOMG @mrscrafyadams ! NO! Unless you are the boss at a super small place, do NOT give to co-workers' kids. PLEASE. It sets a precedence and that's not a good thing. If you are the only boss and planning to do this for everyone, then that is different. $25 is largely sufficient unless you live in a rich city. |
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Post by mcscrapper on Apr 29, 2017 13:21:40 GMT
Question! What's the going rate for high school graduation and college grads? I have 3 grads... 1. A coworkers son (that I've never met) in high school 2. A friend and former coworker's son in high school 3. A former employee is graduating college 1. Nothing but a card. 2. Depends on how close I am with this friend. If it is someone I talk too and see every week, text, etc. then I would spend 25-40 probably. It is is my BFF and I've known this kid and changed his diapers, he'd get something in the $50-75 range. If it is someone I just know but don't really talk to much, he gets a card too. I might put a $10 iTunes or other gift card in there but I wouldn't kill myself over it. 3. Nothing but a card. A lot of my gift buying depends on my relationship with the grad and family. When my step-son graduated a few years ago from college we sent the announcements, etc but he never expected gifts from anyone we really sent these to. SaveSave |
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Post by scrappinmama on Apr 29, 2017 13:45:27 GMT
Those aren't close enough relationships to get a gift from me. If I'm giving gifts to nieces/nephews, it's in the $50-100 range.
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Post by JustKim on Apr 29, 2017 14:50:44 GMT
I always do a check in an amount to match the year. This year graduates will get $20.17. This is what I do for those that I know and are not a family member that I am close to. I have had many say it was a great idea and have use it. I borrowed the idea from someone a few years ago, probably a pea |
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