Ingrid's son -update in OP 8/30, gofundme added

Please read update immediately under this link. I requested permission from ingrid to share the gofundme link. I know several have been asking how we can help.

www.gofundme.com/u985t-love-for-lennox

8/30 hello friends I'm taking a break from both Facebook and peas but I heard from ingrid today. She says "I can't even to begin to express how grateful I am for the love, support and prayers from everyone."

From Ingrid:

"Lennox's surgical wound is almost healed, but we haven't seen any improvement in cognitive function since we came home from the hospital. People are so wonderful and they always ask about Lennox and I so badly want to give them a positive update, but nothing ever changes and I never know quite what to say to anyone. He's seeing so many specialists and he's booked solid for months with appointments for different types of rehabilitation, so we just keep praying for improvement. We also pray for the strength to accept that these issues may never be resolved so that we can stay positive and supportive while Lennox learns to adapt."

Hi Jenjie, I hope you're well. I'm so sorry for not responding sooner. Right after I chimed in on the Mother's Day thread, Lennox took a turn for the worse and the rest of his time in the hospital was pretty intense. After we were able to bring him home, I think the shock wore off and depression may have set in. I've been struggling ever since to reach out or get in touch with people. I just feel like I'm in a fog all of the time.

Lennox's surgical wound is almost healed, but we haven't seen any improvement in cognitive function since we came home from the hospital. People are so wonderful and they always ask about Lennox and I so badly want to give them a positive update, but nothing ever changes and I never know quite what to say to anyone. He's seeing so many specialists and he's booked solid for months with appointments for different types of rehabilitation, so we just keep praying for improvement. We also pray for the strength to accept that these issues may never be resolved so that we can stay positive and supportive while Lennox learns to adapt.

I just want to let you know how much it means to me... I've read through the whole [post] several times. I can't even to begin to express how grateful I am for the love, support and prayers from everyone.

The drunk driver's trial is winding down, and we're all but certain he'll be found not guilty. The public defender had his confessions thrown out and the jury will never know how many DUIs he's had. I'm actually outside of the courtroom right now. I don't have any friends or family here in San Diego, and my husband can't be here in court. He's just too angry. So I've been watching the trial for six days now by myself while the defendant's family members filter in and out of the courtroom all day. There are at least ten people in there right now.

I was starting to feel sorry for myself and thinking about how awful it will be to hear the jury's verdict by myself while his family is smiling and happy, but your message and the thread you created popped into my head. I keep reminding myself that I'm never truly alone throughout any of this, and the thought of all the support and kind words that I've received from you, the Peas, and other people who are pulling for us gives me the strength I need to get through this frustrating time.

I'm sorry this isn't very polished and a bit rambly. If you have a chance, please let everyone know how grateful I am. I'll try to post an update when I'm feeling more articulate and clear. I just wanted to at least let you know how much I appreciated hearing from you.

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ingrid I hope you don't mind I'm moving this here. We all care.

On the Mother's Day thread, Ingrid said "My son has been in the hospital with a head injury for the last week, which he received when a drunk driver slammed into our car last weekend. I've been here at the hospital since the accident...


He's fighting very hard to heal. He wound up with a few strains of bacteria in his skull and we're hoping his brief bouts of vision loss and his impaired cognitive functions are just temporary. It's sad to see how quickly he gets fatigued, but he still has the sweet personality that everyone who meets him falls in love with. He's trying so hard to be brave.

I don't think I've processed anything yet. I alternate between feeling grateful, furious, and numb throughout the day. We came very close to losing him, so I'm incredibly grateful he's still alive and for the outpouring of support that's come from all over the country. I'm angry that this happened, and furious when I think about how the guy who hit us took off immediately, leaving us alone on a dark road with an unresponsive six-year-old.

I mostly feel very tired. I'm tired of the daily throw down with insurance companies and hospitals/doctors. The person who hit us is not a citizen (he's actually been deported 15 times, which I never even imagined could be a thing) and he's uninsured, so this is all uncharted territory for us.

Thank you all for your kind words and prayers for our family. And thank you for letting me vent a little. This is the first time I've typed any of this out since the accident (I've been avoiding social media) and it helps for some reason. This is really the only place I felt comfortable saying anything. Thank you again <3"

I'm so sorry friend. Praying that God will strengthen your little guy and give you endurance for these upcoming days. How can we help?