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Post by auntkelly on Aug 25, 2017 20:26:45 GMT
Congrats on the new granddaughter!
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Post by laureljean on Aug 26, 2017 14:13:28 GMT
Thanks for the congrats, everyone. She is a beautiful little girl and we are just totally in love with her!
I appreciate all of the advice and I now feel validated in sticking to my guns about wanting to wait awhile. The pressure is incredible right now, but I think it is wisest to wait and see. The kids are doing fine right now, and DD's inlaws are close by them, so I think for now, I am staying put and just keeping in touch.
Thanks again-- it is such a gift to have a supportive community to bounce things off.
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Post by birukitty on Aug 27, 2017 1:20:26 GMT
I will chip in with my story just to give you another point of reference. When my DS was born he was the only grandchild on both sides of the family in 1989 (still is to this day). In that hospital room he had 4 grandparents waiting to pass him around. Very early on the arrangement was made that he would spend a weekend with one pair of grandparents, another weekend with the other set and two weekends at home. We lived in Arlington, Va. at the time. One set lived 1 hour from us and another set lived an hour from us in a different direction. I loved the arrangement because it gave me a break and also because I grew up not really knowing my grandmothers that well (they both lived too far away from me, one in Germany, one in Georgia). I wanted DS to grow up having a wonderful relationship with his grandparents and he did.
When DS was 4 I divorced my ex and I moved to Annapolis, MD. Very soon afterwards my parents also moved to Annapolis and get this-even into the same apartment house! I lived on the second floor, they lived on the 5th floor. I adore my parents. We get along great and I have to say it was nice having them so close especially after the divorce. After about 2 years I met the greatest guy in the world and we married. We bought a house in Annapolis and my parents end up buying one too. 22 years later we all still live in our same houses. I live about 15 minutes away from my parents. DS is all grown up, but I have to say I love living this close to my parents. We do have boundaries. We call before we go to each other's houses. Two weeks can go by before we see or talk on the phone as we all have busy lives.]
Living in the same town doesn't mean you have to be smothering each other! I personally think it would be wonderful for you to live where your DD lives especially now that your beautiful little granddaughter has just been born and you also have a sweet little grandson. Your DH wants to go and your DD wants you to move too. What about trying it on a trial basis by renting out your home (with a reputable company so that you know your home won't be rented by someone who will destroy it) and you rent a house in the town your DD lives in. That will give you a chance to try it out and see how you like it without making any permanent changes (like selling your home). I also thinking being there from the beginning and not missing your granddaughter's babyhood (which you can't get back) would be incredible for you and your DH. There is such special bonding that happens during those early years.
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Post by finally~a~mama on Aug 27, 2017 2:45:00 GMT
Congrats on the new grandbaby! I think a "wait & see" approach might me best right now. There is a lot to consider. Do you like the area they live in? Is there somewhere half way between your daughter & son that would be nice to live? Do either of your children have thoughts of leaving the area? Financial -- is your current house paid off & will you need a mortgage for a new home? How often do you see DD & SIL now? How often would they like to see you (and you them) if you were living closer to one another? Has SIL expressed that HE would like for you to live closer?
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Post by papercrafteradvocate on Aug 27, 2017 7:08:06 GMT
Stay put for now, offer help as you can/see fit.
Nothing's stopping you from going there for long weekends to give them breaks, visit or help!
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Post by leftturnonly on Aug 27, 2017 8:07:57 GMT
Congratulations on your new little bundle of special joy!
Wait and see. And while you're waiting, it wouldn't hurt to look at homes near your daughter. Sometimes, checking out an area like that helps you realize just how interested you are in moving there.
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