PrettyInPeank
Pearl Clutcher
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Post by PrettyInPeank on Aug 30, 2017 17:23:37 GMT
I feel terrible for the kids still at home that their parents can't get their act together. I don't know what to do about that. They're all living in the upstairs of their house. The kitchen is unusable and they have one bathroom to share. It's chaos and pretty soon it will be moldy chaos. This probably isn't going to be a popular response, but having been a mandated reporter for 24 years, I believe the kindest thing you can do for those kids is file a report with child protective services. That family needs professional help, and they most likely aren't going to accept it willingly. Not as she desribes it, it's not CPS territory. Yet... I don't know if CPS can do anything right now? It's only a lot of stuff that happens to be wet right now. Everyone has wet stuff right now. The difference is in a month or so, everyone else's house will be cleaned up, and this house will be in worse condition, not better. I vote wait until there's an actual health risk, not an assumption of one.
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May 19, 2024 21:40:18 GMT
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Post by Deleted on Aug 30, 2017 17:34:52 GMT
Since hoarding is mental illness, there is very little you can do until it is a crisis and the uncleaned hoard starts to be hazardous. Hopefully between insurance and local officials there will be inspections going on. I would recommend you do what are willing, knowing they won't "listen" on how non-hoarders would deal with it. If you can provide respite for their DD, that may be very beneficial since it shouldn't be on her to try to get them to clean up and could very well become a hazard in short order. And I don't mean this to be offensive, but lining up storage for hoarders is like giving alcohol to an alcoholic. Hopefully it can just be temporary for them, but along those lines, keep boundaries on what you are willing to do. Hoarders will manipulate people and situations in just about any way to protect the hoard. Very sad and very true. Doesn't sound like they are to the worst degrees of hoarders, so maybe they will use common sense and get some things cleaned out. So sorry for what you are dealing with in your area
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Post by mrssmith on Aug 30, 2017 18:49:27 GMT
That's very sad. I think all you can do is have the daughter stay with you if she needs to. I honestly wouldn't help with any more "cleanup." I think it's a lost cause. I think you can only impress upon them that the went stuff is going to be moldy, contaminated, and dangerous to the health of everyone still living there.
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Post by anniefb on Aug 30, 2017 18:55:14 GMT
I agree there's nothing you can do to help with the hoarding issues - they're not going to listen. Having the daughter to stay sounds like a great solution and leave the parents to it. Hoarding is a disorder and they need professional help.
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Post by Merge on Aug 30, 2017 19:45:17 GMT
This probably isn't going to be a popular response, but having been a mandated reporter for 24 years, I believe the kindest thing you can do for those kids is file a report with child protective services. That family needs professional help, and they most likely aren't going to accept it willingly. Not as she desribes it, it's not CPS territory. Yet... I don't know if CPS can do anything right now? It's only a lot of stuff that happens to be wet right now. Everyone has wet stuff right now. The difference is in a month or so, everyone else's house will be cleaned up, and this house will be in worse condition, not better. I vote wait until there's an actual health risk, not an assumption of one. This is my feeling as well. We just had a flood, so having wet stuff in your house is not a CPS issue. Down the road ... I don't know. I am a mandated reporter also. When I went at noon to deliver sandwiches for lunch, they had made some progress and had a group of guys coming in from their church to help haul out the couches, beds, etc. That's very positive as yesterday they wouldn't take the couches out. I'm hopeful that it actually happens.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 30, 2017 19:48:30 GMT
Having the daughter to stay and out of that environment is probably the only thing you can do at the moment.
Flood water damage is probably the worse carrier of bacteria, raw sewage, insects, debris and even industrial chemicals. If the parents want to keep all their junk that has been contaminated there's not a lot you can do unless you're going to have a very blunt come to jesus talk with them, but at least the daughter is not exposed to it at the moment while she's with you. There's a reason why so much stuff can't be salvaged after a flood, it's impossible to sanitize a lot of things. Flood water is not just ordinary rain water, it's highly contaminated water and a danger to health.
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